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indigene:
Silly attitude, just to condemn your beloved country.
Have you heard about a letter that took over 80 years to reach it destination in US?
Do mail delivery service work in most American inner drug, crime ridden cities?
In the UK a letter was posted in Nov 19, 1919 and it arrived it destination in 2008 that is 89 years
Talk is cheap in Nigeria

Do not mind them. nipost is not as bad as people think

oz4real83:
in sane societies, govt-owned institutions compete side by side with private ones. This gives you freedom of choice. It also helps to reduce cost because if the cost of the private businesses and services are too expensive, people will go to govt-owned ones which are normally cheaper. We can't kill public institutions all because private ones that you mentioned are around.

very correct. for poor people

most of victims of sexual harassment are dump, just audio or written evidence will be enough. if a girl sent a text to a lecturer and complained to him that he wanted to have sex with her because of marks. that sms became an evidence because Mr lecturer might just ignore sms or not denying the accusation. what about vagina swab after sex. vaginal swabs in absolute alcohol will preserve the DNA of Mr lecturer.
All of us have responsibility to stop sexual harassment in our environment. Biological,written,audio or video evidence can be kept for years. In US,some victims reported abuse that occurred in the distant past and claimed million of dollars as damage.
in criminology, criminals always leave a trace . It is not left for victims to look for the trace.

Pettyprincess:
Thanks i know!!!
Most girls that are victims of sex trafficking are usually deceived by Nigerians promising to get them job in Europe
If i dont trust him nd he doesn't t trust me our relationship would never exist!!
He knows my mum dad nd sister,he is even friends on facebook with my sister nd do talk about Nigerian culture with my sister nd why i dnt wear Yoruba native wear
He even plans on visiting here soon!
So he's not a human trafficker or whatsoever.

Inexperienced

Contrasting the ways of the inexperienced with those of the prudent, Solomon says: “Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word, but the shrewd one considers his steps.” ( Proverbs 14:15 ) The shrewd one is not gullible. Rather than believing everything he hears or letting others do his thinking for him, he considers his steps wisely. Gathering all available facts, he acts with knowledge.

Hoephase:
I doubt if you will read this but if you here are my note:

1. Don't be with someone out of pity. Cut the naija guy loose. It seems difficult but it is the best thing to do.

2. You have every right to be with anyone whether Polish or not. That is your decision.

3. Some people left you harsh comments, as harsh as some of them are they contain information you should take seriously.

4. I live in Western Europe and I can tell you what some people are trying to point out happen here more often than you could imagine. Just few days ago a Bulgarian lady was rescued from trafficking.

5. Like someone pointed out early, make sure you are in contact with his relative on Facebook at least not just his friends.

6. Before you leave for Europe make sure he visits Nigeria first at least with a family member that you have known before hand.

7. Him coming to Nigeria means he gets a visa and biometric passport. At least that will put up his record on an international database. Should anything happen at least your folks will know where to start and whom exactly they are looking for.

8. I repeat do not let him sweet talk you into coming over without him showing in Nigeria first. These guys ( I am not saying your guy is one of them) are sweet talker and they are good at what they do.

9. All the best and I pray it all work well for you.

I hope op is reading this.
tell non-nigerian guy to come to Nigeria for marriage registry. after marriage,get your visa and other travelling documents complete. Let your mum have photocopies of his country passport. human trafficking and organ trade are big business.
I wish you the best.

themonk:
He is fvcking someone else, small girl like you.

Every man is not asshole

faithfull18:
The kind of comments on this thread just shows how perverted the minds of people are.

Many of them are sexual predators. By their comments,you shall know them.

GisterBlogger:
Gist from Gistmore
http://gistmore.com/we-move-from-village-to-village-to-rape-teen-gang-rapists

Ecclesiastes 8:11
When the sentence for a crime is not quickly carried out, people's hearts are filled with schemes to do wrong.

New Living Translation
When a crime is not punished quickly, people feel it is safe to do wrong.

English Standard Version
Because the sentence against an evil deed is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.


Do three things for them
1. Register them as sex offenders
2. Sentence them to jail
3. Castrate them

Ecclesiastes 8:11
New International Version
When the sentence for a crime is not quickly carried out, people's hearts are filled with schemes to do wrong.

New Living Translation
When a crime is not punished quickly, people feel it is safe to do wrong.

English Standard Version
Because the sentence against an evil deed is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.

The rule is that if you pay for meter, it must installed within 45 or 60 days after which you are at liberty to use electricity without bill. Paste photocopy of evidence of payment in the wall. If they want to disconnect you, write petition to NERC and copy them.

baby124:
Lmao. So you will put his victims in their torturers hands again, traumatize them to prove a point? So you can idtentify the students who pointed fingers at you and, your fellow losers (lecturers) in the university can frustrate their lives abi! Wow. That is not how investigative journalism is done anywhere in the world.

At least there is proof that his victims did not lie! So the investigation worked perfectly. You can’t catch a fly that is not obsessed with sweet things . A thief will always be a thief.

Gbam.EOD. case closed

How to Protect Your Children
FEW of us want to dwell on the subject of sexual abuse of children. Parents shudder at the very thought of it! Such abuse, however, is a frightening and unpleasant reality in today’s world, and its effects on children can be devastating. Is the matter worth considering? Well, what would you be willing to give for the sake of your child’s safety? Learning about the unpleasant realities of abuse is surely a small price to pay. Such knowledge can really make a difference.

Do not let the plague of abuse rob you of your courage. At the very least, you have power that your child does not have​—strengths that it will take years, even decades, for your child to gain. The passing years have brought you a fund of knowledge, experience, and wisdom. The key is to enhance those strengths and put them to use in protecting your child. We will discuss three basic steps that every parent can take. They are as follows: (1) Become your child’s first line of defense against abuse, (2) give your child some needed background education, and (3) equip your child with some basic protective tools.

Are You the First Line of Defense?
The primary responsibility for protecting children against abuse belongs to parents, not to children. So educating parents comes before educating children. If you are a parent, there are a few things you need to know about child abuse. You need to know who abuse children and how they go about it. Parents often think of molesters as strangers who lurk in the shadows, seeking ways to kidnap and rape children. Such monsters certainly do exist. The news media bring them to our attention very often. However, they are relatively rare. In about 90 percent of the cases of sexual abuse of a child, the perpetrator is someone the child already knows and trusts.

Naturally, you do not want to believe that an affable neighbor, teacher, health-care worker, coach, or relative could lust after your child. In truth, most people are not like that. There is no need to become suspicious of everybody around you. Still, you can protect your child by learning how the typical abuser operates.​—See the box on page 6.

Knowing such tactics can make you, the parent, better prepared to act as the first line of defense. For instance, if someone who appears more interested in children than in adults singles out your child for special attention and gifts or offers free babysitting or private excursions with your child, what will you do? Decide that the person must be a molester? No. Do not be quick to jump to conclusions. Such behavior may be quite innocent. Nonetheless, it can put you on the alert. The Bible says: “Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word, but the shrewd one considers his steps.”​—Proverbs 14:15.

Remember, any offer that sounds too good to be true may be just that. Carefully screen anyone who volunteers to spend time alone with your child. Let such an individual know that you are likely to check on your child at any time. Melissa and Brad, young parents of three boys, are cautious about leaving a child alone with an adult. When one son had music lessons at home, Melissa told the instructor: “I’ll be in and out of the room while you’re here.” Such vigilance may sound extreme, but these parents would rather be safe than sorry.

Be actively involved in your child’s activities, friendships, and schoolwork. Learn all the details about any planned excursion. One mental-health professional who spent 33 years working with cases of sexual abuse notes that he has seen countless cases that could have been prevented by simple vigilance on the parents’ part. He quotes one convicted molester as saying: “Parents literally give us their children. . . . They sure made it easy for me.” Remember, most molesters prefer easy targets. Parents who are actively involved in their children’s lives make their children difficult targets.

Another way to act as your child’s first line of defense is to be a good listener. Children will rarely disclose abuse directly; they are too ashamed and worried about the reaction. So listen carefully, even for subtle clues. * If your child says something that concerns you, calmly use questions to draw him out. * If he says that he does not want a certain babysitter to come back, ask why. If he says that an adult plays funny games with him, ask him: “What kind of game? What does he do?” If he complains that someone tickled him, ask him, “Where did he tickle you?” Do not be quick to dismiss a child’s answers. Abusers tell a child that no one will believe him; all too often, that is true. And if a child has been abused, being believed and supported by a parent is a big step toward recovery.

Be your child’s first line of defense
Give Your Child Background Education
One reference work on the subject of child abuse quotes a convicted molester as saying: “Give me a kid who knows nothing about sex, and you’ve given me my next victim.” Those chilling words are a useful reminder to parents. Children who are ignorant about sex are much easier for molesters to fool. The Bible says that knowledge and wisdom can deliver us “from the man speaking perverse things.” (Proverbs 2:10-12) Is that not what you want for your child? Then, as your second basic step in protecting him, do not hold back from teaching him about this important subject.

How, though, do you go about it? More than a few parents find the subject of sex a bit awkward to discuss with children. Your child may find the subject even more awkward, and he is not likely to bring it up with you. So take the initiative. Melissa says: “We started early, with naming the body parts. We used real words, not baby words, to show them that there is nothing funny or shameful about any part of their body.” Instruction about abuse follows naturally. Many parents simply tell their children that the parts of their body that a bathing suit covers are private and special.

Says Heather, mentioned in the preceding article: “Scott and I told our son that his penis is private, personal, and not a toy. It’s not for anyone to play with​—not for Mommy, not for Daddy, not even for a doctor. When we take him to the doctor, I explain that he’s only going to make sure everything is OK, and that’s why he may touch there.” Both parents take part in these little talks from time to time, and they assure the child that he can always come to them and tell them if anyone touches him in a way that’s wrong or makes him feel uncomfortable. Experts in child care and abuse prevention recommend that all parents have similar talks with their children.

Many have found the book Learn From the Great Teacher * to be a real help in teaching this subject. Chapter 32, “How Jesus Was Protected,” has a direct yet comforting message for children on the dangers of abuse and the importance of staying safe. “The book has given us a perfect way to reinforce what we have told our children personally,” says Melissa.

In today’s world children need to know that there are some people who want to touch children or get children to touch them in ways that are wrong. These warnings need not fill children with fear or make them distrust all adults. “It’s just a safety message,” says Heather. “And it’s one message among many others, most of them having nothing to do with abuse. It hasn’t made my son fearful at all.”

Your child’s education should include a balanced view of obedience. Teaching a child to obey is an important and difficult lesson. (Colossians 3:20) However, such lessons can go too far. If a child is taught that he must always obey any adult, regardless of the circumstances, he is vulnerable to abuse. Molesters are quick to notice when children are overly compliant. Wise parents teach their children that obedience is relative. For Christians, that is not as complicated as it may sound. It simply means saying to them: “If anybody tells you to do something that Jehovah God says is wrong, you don’t have to do it. Even Mommy or Daddy should never tell you to do something that Jehovah says is wrong. And you can always tell either Mommy or Daddy if someone tries to get you to do something wrong.”

Finally, let your child know that no one should ask him to keep a secret from you. Tell him that if anyone asks him to keep any kind of secret from you, he should always come and let you know. No matter what he is told​—even if scary threats are made or he has done something wrong himself—​it is always OK to come to Mommy or Daddy and tell them all about it. Such instruction need not scare your child. You can reassure him that most people would never do such things​—touch him where they shouldn’t, ask him to disobey God, or ask him to keep a secret. Like a planned escape route in case of fire, these are just-in-case messages and will probably never be needed.

Give your child background education
Equip Your Child With Some Basic Protective Tools
The third step we will discuss is to give your child some simple actions to take in case someone tries to take advantage of him when you are not there. One method that is often recommended is like a game. Parents ask “What if . . . ?” and the child answers. You might say, “What if we were at the store together and we got separated? How would you find me?” The child’s answer may not be exactly what you would hope for, but you can guide him along with further questions, such as “Can you think of anything you could do that would be safer?”

You can use similar questions to ask a child what the safest response would be if someone tried to touch him in a wrong way. If the child is easily alarmed by such questions, you might try telling a story about another child. For example: “A little girl is with a relative she likes, but then he tries to touch her where he shouldn’t. What do you think she should do to stay safe?”

Equip your child with basic protective tools
What should you teach your child to do in situations like the one above? Notes one author: “A firm ‘No!’ or ‘Don’t do that!’ or ‘Leave me alone!’ does wonders to frighten the seductive offender into retreat and into rethinking his or her choice of victim.” Help your child act out brief scenarios so that he feels confident to refuse loudly, get away quickly, and report to you whatever has happened. A child who seems to understand the training thoroughly may easily forget it within a few weeks or months. So repeat this training regularly.

All the child’s direct caregivers, including the males​—whether father, stepfather, or other male relatives—​should be part of these discussions. Why? Because all involved in such teaching are, in effect, promising the child that they will never commit such acts of abuse. Sadly, much sexual abuse occurs right within the confines of the family. The following article will discuss how you can make your family a safe haven in an abusive world.

SEXUAL ABUSE​—A GLOBAL PROBLEM
In 2006 the secretary-general of the United Nations transmitted to the UN General Assembly a world report on violence against children that had been compiled by an independent expert for the UN. During a recent year, according to the report, an estimated 150 million girls and 73 million boys under 18 years of age experienced “forced sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual violence.” Those numbers are staggering, but the report notes: “This is certainly an underestimate.” A review of studies from 21 countries suggested that in some places as many as 36 percent of women and 29 percent of men had been subjected to some form of sexual victimization in childhood. The majority of the perpetrators were relatives!

A PATTERN OF SEDUCTION
An abuser is likely to be too clever to use force on his victims. Rather, he may prefer to seduce children gradually. He begins by selecting a target, often a child who seems vulnerable and trusting, thus relatively easy to control. Next, he singles out that child for special attention. He may also try to win the trust of the child’s parents. Molesters are often expert at pretending to be sincerely interested in the child and the family.

In time, the molester will begin grooming the child for abuse. He gradually becomes more physical with the child through innocent-looking displays of affection, playful wrestling, and tickling. He may give generous gifts and begin to separate the child from friends, siblings, and parents, in order to spend time alone with the child. At some point he may ask the child to keep some minor secret from the parents​—perhaps a gift or plans for some future excursion. Such tactics set the stage for seduction. When the abuser has won the child’s trust and that of the parents, he is ready to make his move.

Again, he is likely to be subtle about it rather than violent or forceful. He may exploit the child’s natural curiosity about sex, offering to act as a “teacher,” or he may suggest that they play a “special game” together that only they will know about. He may try exposing the child to pornography in order to make such behavior seem normal.

If he succeeds in molesting the child, he is now eager to ensure that the child does not tell anyone about it. He may use a variety of tactics, including threats, blackmail, and blame, or perhaps a combination of these. For example, he may say: “It’s your fault. You didn’t tell me to stop.” He may add: “If you tell your parents, they’ll call the police and send me to jail forever.” Or he may say: “It’s our secret. If you tell, no one will believe you. If your parents ever do find out, I will hurt them.” There is no end to the devious and malicious tactics such individuals will try.

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g200710/protect-your-children/

grandstar:
Too many seaports. I doubt there's a market for these ports. Apart of this port, there are at least 4 others within a 300 miles radius.

I'm beginning to doubt the maths unless the country achieves growth rates averaging 9% annually over the next 10 years.

Beside lagos port,other seaports are primarily for exportation and importation of oil

Assuming he is a lecturer or pastor or imam or boss, he will be using his position to rape women and some stupid mofos will be blaming girls for dressing indecently or not serious academically. Serious country has database for sex offenders and they may find it difficult to get certain jobs.

Duggedised12:
if a prostitute decides to sell her body its consensual but threatening or cajoling under any guise to have sex is against the law.

I am not surprised that there are people out there supporting this. Una nor get shame, pastor for that matter.

just to tell sexual predators are everywhere. please, all young girls should protect themselves

cocolacec:
The men are more promiscous than the women.
The women are a reflection of what men in the society turn them to be.
From Primary school to University level ,many girls have become oloshos due to sexual harrassement they endure for many years,

Yes, society and men in particular create olosho. I feel for some of them

solmusdesigns:
Lead City Uni Ibadan

nice !!!!
It rarely happens in private universities.

freelansa:
Civil Liberties Organization (CLO) has urged President Buhari and the National Assembly to abolish the Big Brother Naija reality TV show.

According to the organization, the reality TV show has no benefit in the transformation and talent discovery in Nigeria.

A statement issued by the chairman of the Anambra state chapter, Vincent Ezekwueme, also called on religious leaders and moralist to speak against the evils in the society.

CLO stated that their call is quite timely towards the protection of national interest, morality and the future of Nigerian youths.

Ezekwueme said, “The show has painful, shameful, negative and devastating impact on our youths, culture and society. Wealth without wisdom is one of the worst blunders of the world.

“The Minister for Information and Culture should constitute men of impeccable integrity to unravel if the show is in tandem with culture, traditions and believe of Nigeria in order to restore morality, core value system and good orientation.”

The Big Brother Naija reality TV show ended on Sunday, 6th of October with Mercy emerging winner.

She went home with the prize money of N60million, an SUV and tickets to travel abroad.

https://wotzup.ng/buhari-urged-to-abolish-big-brother-naija-reality-tv-show/

Cc lalasticlala

They can continue the show on four grounds
1. No sexual contents
2. Organizers of the show shoud set aside #100M as awards to three best students in waec in each state of federation
3. Organizers of the show shoud set aside #100M as awards to three best students in each university in the country.
4. Organizers of the show shoud set aside #300M as health trust fund.

baby124:
Don’t mind him, brain drain indeed. That is how one professor went abroad and did the same thing. Only to be charged to court and he’s on the run from the US. A lion cannot become a sheep in a new environment. It’s even better if the brain is drained so they can go to a country where they will be jailed and raped in prison for at least 10yrs.

In abroad,there is system to protect victims of sexual harassment. sexual predators think twice and if someone is convicted, his name will enter online database for sex offenders. some pay million of dollars to settle victims to avoid jail term. victims are not protected in Nigeria,that is why it is rampant.

solmusdesigns:




Do lecturers fail ladies unpurpose to sleep with them, or ladies fail due to unseriousness and go to the lecturers to beg for marks and upgrades..

Because the Univesity i attended, should you feel cheated out of some marks, you can call for your scripts and have it remarked by someone else in your Department.. amd should the Lecturer be guilty of marking you down, he is getting fired or suspended


..

which did you attend? that will be great if it us done in all tertiary institutions. In most institutions, lecturers are demi-gods. some call fail half of class to get at a girl. we should join hand to protect serious students from victimization while unserious ones can be advised to withdraw.

panpan:
Sexual harassment laws should be inclusive of every workplace, not just tertiary institutions.

A sexual relationship between a lecturer and his/her student should be viewed as professional misconduct, and should be handled by the school authorities.

A five-year jail term for sexual harassment is too harsh. Sexual harassment is not as severe as rape. A prison sentence of six months, with an option of fine, is appropriate.



This part should not be included at all. Criminal investigations are the job of the police and the Ministry of Justice (state and federal). Those who work in these institutions do not have jail term threats for not acting within a week after a complaint has been lodged.

Imagine if there are five hundred sexual harassment complaints within a space of five days; and the chief executive of the institution must act on each and every complaint or face jail term! What if some complaints do not get to the vice chancellor's desk within a week?

The bill, if passed as it is stated, will only encourage brain drain.

let them pass it. Let it encourages brain and even blood drain

tfash96:
ok o Mr Law of nature.. Hope u have seen a woman who gave birth to 16 @ once.. Man proposes God disposes

through assisted reproductive technology. scientists study law of nature to produce machines

if there is any evident of threat to her life, some countries will grant her asylum and automatic citizenship.

freelansa:
Controversial journalist, Kemi Olunloyo has stated that Kiki Mordi, the reporter behind the sex for grades documentary, is full of arrogance.

According to Kemi Olunloyo who tweeted in reaction to news of death threats on Kiki Mordi, the identity of the reporter should have been protected.

Advising her to leave the country to save her life, Kemi Olunloyo shared on Twitter:

https://mobile.twitter.com/HNNAfrica/status/1181702960725860353

https://wotzup.ng/kiki-mordi-sex-for-grades-reporter-is-arrogant-kemi-olunloyo/

I am surprised. is this aunty menu? she tried

Hope ASUU members will be included

historica:
Her own experience, she gave lecturers sex but did not receive any mark. As a result she ended up dropping out, that's why she is currently bitter.

deluded

tfash96:
What if God wants to prove it to u and ur sex scanner that He's still unpredictable God and u give birth to twin girls

God does not do crazy thing. There are laws of nature that God has put in place. Even God will not break his law

I would advice female students who are likely to be victims of sexual harassment to get a body spy camera or mini-audio recorder. It is cheap in aliexpress from #5k upward.
If a lecturer is trying to harass you, bluntly tell him NO and send him a text message to complain bitterly about abuse or write him a letter and keep a copy of the letter. Send the letter as registered mail. You can even call the lecturer and have conversation recorded.
If a lecturer deliberately failed you in a course and he demands for sex or money for grades,follow the process above. Also,you may have to inform some members of university community whom you trust, respected religion leaders,parents and trusted guardians. if you have some evidence , write security department and copy Dean,SA.
If you actually fail a course,please study hard.

WARNING; Female students should avoid unnecessary visits to lecturers' offices. Do not solicit for help from male lecturers. Dress decently.

RexTramadol1:
Just look at Education and Health

allocations for education and health are not even up to allocation for water. this is one of the reasons why health and education sectors are collapsing.

it could be initiation to cultism that went wrong

YorubaNinja:
But it's OK for ladies to mess with guys?

Do not mess with girls or ladies.

Benwems:
ASUU is one of the most corrupt unions in Nigeria. Only ignorant people support them when they go on strike.

ASUU is dead. Last ASUU president I respected much is Dr Dipo Fashina aka Jingo