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JOHNFBOSCO:
wow, that was really uncalled for ...as if she was not fucking other guys when she was younger....am still wondering why some women pour water, pepper or any other substance on their daughters, boyfriend... only in Africa

How are you so sure? Do you think every young girl fornicates? Do you understand her fear? What if the guy looks like a cultist or g-boy?

Some parents are not smart. If I am the mother, I will ask the boyfriend to his parents for payment of introduction and fix date for marriage. If both are not ready for marriage in presence of parents, EOD.

Liverpool ,sorry

Emmahunk:
CHANGE? You Will Be Shocked At What I Saw In This Govt. Office. (photos)

In a Country where it's extremely difficult to find any public office that actually works, I hardly expected much but my experience at Warri Passport Office left me stunned.

I have decided to share this because we as citizens owe it as a duty to bring to public knowledge the ills in our public institutions. In same vein, posterity will hold us accountable if we do not commend those that at least tried to make a difference. Having been away from the Country for close to a decade, I have decided to come back home a little earlier and uppermost in my agenda was the renewal of my Nigerian passport. At Lagos ,my siblings had advised that I handle the renewal when I got into my good old town of Warri as the town now boasts of a Passport Office. I actually agreed to this with mixed feelings knowing what the hustle and bustle of anything Warri used to be like. Few days after I arrived Warri, I left for the passport office not knowing what to expect in the company of my two siblings.

My first shock came when at the main gate of the Delta State Government House Annex, manned by different security agencies, a young Immigration officer almost magically appeared beside the passenger door of my car and politely asked; " sir, how may we help you?" For the first few seconds, I was pleasantly surprised and wondered if this was happening in the same Nigeria we have been reading so much filth about.

On realising that I had come to renew my expired passport, this same man politely directed us where to park the car and proceeded with us in tow to where he called the 'servicom' desk. By this time, I had taken a quick assessment of the environment and besides a sign on the wall that reads, "welcome to Warri Passport Office" , there was nothing to tell me I was in a Passport office. I mean, no crowd, no hustling and bustling that is synonymous with your average passport office. At this point, I have become very apprehensive. My mind kept screaming, scam!

Anyway, now at the servicom desk, I met about two people already filling out forms and I joined them while wondering where everyone else was if truly I was in the right place. Few minutes later, one of the officers at the desk ushered us into a fully air conditioned semi hall where over fifty people were comfortably seated watching a news channel on a wide LCD television. Again, I wondered but this time at the serenity and orderliness of the crowd. Something definitely is not right, I reasoned. Then, just as we were settling down, a voice came through the speakers installed somewhere: " Attention please , Numbers.....to....,please move to room 3 to collect your passports". I was still wondering if truly this was Nigeria when another voice called out this time a set of names directing them to two different rooms conspicuously marked SCREENING AND APPROVALS. The orderliness was so amazing that for a moment, I realised that this Country can work again. By now, my inquisitive mind was asking so many questions and as if in answer to one of these numerous questions, a young lady in well fitted uniform emerged from the room marked 'screening and walked briskly into the room marked 'approval'. She emerged from the room in less than two minutes and in very clear voice called out about ten names of people that she asked to follow her for capturing.

I was stunned and took a quick glance at my wrist watch as people left the room in batches creating room for new entrants like myself. My watch revealed that I had spent about forty two minutes when I heard my name over the speakers. I quickly entered the room that I was directed to and met about four busy officers again in an air conditioned room. The interview was brisk, thorough BUT professional.

In all it took an hour and 52 minutes from the time I sat down at the servicom desk to submit my application before my number was announced to go to room 3 for collection of my passport.

Albeit this sounds too good to be true, I must confess that till this moment of writing, I am still wondering how a public office in Nigeria can be so organised , comfortable , courteous and efficient.

Definitely, all hope is not lost in this Country, trust me.

how do you pay ? official price?

Soldiers have not started yet. very soon soldiers will face civilians, including,police officers,paramilitary officers, politicians and businessmen with aim to rob,kill,kidnap for ransom, etc since they can plot coup again.soldiers are angry. they are suffering.they are confused. Other uniformed men of the same grade level are living large through corruption and bribery and you are here complaining. SARS guys, g-boys, academicians,politicians etc are involving in corrupt practices and they are getting away with it. soldiers die in active services,nobody cares about wives and children left behind. police would extort them, transporters,artisans ,hospital workers do not care about. we are in deep shit because soldiers 're coming . show them love. respect them. Do not argue with them. Do not correct them. beg them. be remorseful. be mumu.
signed .

Saintp:
You are right and that Is the issue I'm trying to highlight. The people in the "low class " do not know that they may be better than the so called "high class".
But because they feel inferior already, they always exhibit aggressiveness to those "high class" out of frustration even when it is not necessary.
Like the keke guy I witnessed some time ago, there was no need for the keke guy to go to the extent he went to tongue lash the SUV guy even when he the keke driver is the one at fault and he knows it.

that is true. okada riders are even worse

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

1. Discuss with your husband
2. Cook 'ewa' like mama basira type or buy it before he returns from work. Do not let him ask for it. You may be a good cook but you might not good in cooking beans. If your husband graduated from OAU and he was used to 'ewa' in awo hall,you are in for a long thing.

Saintp:
All these low class people can have bad mouth eeeh. A keke napep driver for instance will insult someone driving an SUV and calling it scrap just because they SUV guy did not allow him go in front of him in a traffic situation. They just look for any little opportunity to pour their frustration on people better than them.

What makes suv owner better than keke driver? Suv owner may be childless and suffering from a terminal illness while make owner is happily married with kid. We should all learn to treat others with respect.

spiceadole:
SS is not a deformity.
It is as a result of stupidity and ignorance of the parents

The woman is an ignorant PhD holder.

SmallmebigGod:
Kindly share which part of the HIPAA was breached here. The woman is also a staff of the hospital, and this was just an information she saw in the line of her duty. She didn't share it outside the hospital. May be disrespect and insult to client but breach of privacy I will need to see which rule was broken.

Thank you.

SmallmebigGod:
Kindly share which part of the HIPAA was breached here. The woman is also a staff of the hospital, and this was just an information she saw in the line of her duty. She didn't share it outside the hospital. May be disrespect and insult to client but breach of privacy I will need to see which rule was broken.

Than you.

Nobody is sacking anybody. She did nothing wrong. SS is not an hidden illness especially in children. How can she be bragging about her UK PhD certificate?Nonsense. People feel health workers are immune to insults as if they would allow others to insult them in their respective offices without insulting back.

I love history. Nice one

sagytariustm:
That's the truth bro. Ask momma.

it is not true. Queen Victoria of England popularized you use of white gown for wedding. it has nothing to do with virginity. it is British culture . evidence of virginity in our culture is blood-tainted white handkerchief that husband will show his in-law following day.

sagytariustm:

White gowns mean you got married as a virgin; while non-white means you got married disvirgined.

By the way I'm looking for a wife material, 100yards. if you are, kindly slide in.

it is not true.

Unlimitk:
Ipob tout
Take this ogbomoso

why are you showing LAUTECH TEACHING HOSPITAL,Ogbomoso?

Adekamkpe23:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2019/8/out-of-the-21-drug-peddlers-on-death-roll-in-indonesia-20-are-from-anambra-abike-dabiri-erewa.html

confirmed. Abike is tribalistic.Smh for her status

GistReport:
A 14-year-old Senior Secondary School 1 of Kess College, in the Ekredjebor area of Ughelli headquarters of Ughelli North Local Government Area of Delta State, on Wednesday, committed suicide over a failed relationship with her boyfriend.

Correspondent reliably gathered that deceased simply identified as Favour, was home alone when she carried out the act and was said to have left a suicide note at the scene of the incident stating reasons for her action.

Her lifeless body was discovered by one of her friends who had visited her to assist her (friend) in making her hair.

Giving details of the incident, a source in the area disclosed that the victim, who is an only child of her parents, had hung herself on a ceiling fan in their residential apartment.

The source who spoke on condition of anonymity, said: “It was one of her friends that raised an alarm when she saw her dangling body hanging on a ceiling fan.

“When people came into the house, they also saw a note she had written stating that she decided to take her life owing to a failed relationship with another male student from the same school she attends.”

Though several efforts to speak with the Delta State Police Public Relations Officer, DSP Onome Onovwakpoyeya was fruitless as at press time, a police source at the Ughelli ‘B’ Division police station confirmed the incident when contacted.

See more here; http://gistmore.com/14-yr-old-commit-suicide-in-ughelli-over-failed-relationship-with-boyfriend

what if she was murdered. Every death should be investigated by professionals.

Chinekepikin:
These are fully grown men with pubic hair, someone boyfriend and future husband dancing to NairaMarley's soapy wearing only pant.

The guys were dancing and twerking to the controversial NairaMarley song soapy.

Nigerians have taking to social media to blast them, See reaction below,

shoopsyadas
I never knew a video could have an odour.

vicky_gold
See what I told my sister about men that wear pink underwear ����

tufab
The amount of body odor in this video.. ���

mc_ichie
Lekwa amu everywhere

Watch The Video https://www.thenaijafame.com.ng/2019/08/nigerian-men-dances-to-nairamarley.html?m=1

No hope for this country, I swear.

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

Why Don’t Girls Like Me?
I’m really impressing her. I’ve told her all about myself​—the things I own, the places I’ve been, the people I know. She must be dying to date me!
I wish the ground would open and swallow me up! Can’t he take a hint? How can I end this conversation without being rude?
YOU’RE old enough to date. You’d like to find someone who is attractive and who shares your religious beliefs. ( 1 Corinthians 7:39 ) In the past, though, each time you tried to start a relationship, you felt as though you crashed and burned.
If you’d like to get to know a girl better, what factors do you need to consider? And what Bible principles would you do well to remember?
What to Do First
Before you decide to pursue a particular girl, there are some basic skills you need to master, and these will help you to be friends with
anyone. Consider the following.
▪ Cultivate good manners. The Bible says that “love is not ill-mannered.” ( 1 Corinthians 13:5 ,
Today’s English Version ) Good manners show that you respect others and that you’re developing a mature, Christlike personality. However, good manners aren’t like a suit you wear to impress others but take off when you get home. Ask yourself, ‘Do I display good manners when dealing with my family members?’ If not, then it will seem forced when you do so while interacting with others outside your home. Remember, to find out the type of person you really are, a discerning girl will look at the way you treat members of your family.​—
Ephesians 6:1, 2.
What girls say: “I definitely find it attractive if a boy displays good manners both in small things, like opening the door for me, and larger things, like being kind and considerate not only to me but also to my family.”​— Tina, 20 .*
“I am put off when I’ve just met someone but he asks questions that are too personal, such as ‘Are you dating?’ and ‘What are your goals?’ It’s rude and makes me squirm!”​— Kathy, 19.
▪ Maintain your personal hygiene. Good hygiene shows respect not only for others but also for yourself. ( Matthew 7:12 ) If you respect yourself, others are more likely to respect you. On the other hand, if you let your hygiene slide, you’ll sabotage your efforts to impress a girl.
What girls say: “One boy who was interested in me had really bad breath. I just couldn’t get past that.”​—Kelly, 24.
▪ Cultivate conversation skills. The basis of a lasting relationship is good communication. This involves discussing not only your interests but also the interests of your friend.​—Philippians 2:3, 4 .
What girls say: “I’m impressed when a boy can converse with me naturally, when he can remember things I told him and can ask questions that keep the conversation moving.”​— Christine, 20.
“I think that boys are attracted to what they see, but girls are more attracted to what they hear.”​— Laura, 22.
“Gifts are great. But if a boy can hold a good conversation, if he can comfort and encourage you with his words . . . Wow! That’s attractive.”​— Amy, 21.
“I would definitely want to get to know someone better if he had a sense of humor but could also talk about more serious things without sounding fake.”​— Kelly, 24.
Applying the above suggestions will help you to enjoy good friendships. However, once you feel that you are ready to start a serious relationship with a particular girl, what should you do?
The Next Step
▪ Take the initiative. If you think a friend whom you admire might make a good marriage mate, let her know you are interested in her. Be clear and forthright in declaring your feelings. Yes, it can be nerve-racking. You fear rejection. But your being willing to take the initiative is a sign that you have grown up.
What girls say: “I can’t read minds. So if someone wanted to get to know me better, he would have to be honest and straightforward and just tell me.”​— Nina, 23.
“It could be an awkward transition if you’ve been friends for a while. But I’d respect someone if he simply said that he would like to get to know me as more than just a friend.”​—
Helen, 25.
▪ Respect the girl’s decision. What if your friend says that she doesn’t want a more serious relationship with you? Dignify her by believing that she knows her own heart and that her no means no. It betrays a lack of maturity if you make a pest of yourself. Really, if you ignore a girl’s explicit rejection of your attention​—even becoming provoked by her rebuff—​are you really thinking of her interests or your own?​— 1 Corinthians 13:11 .
What girls say: “It irritates me when I say a definite no to a boy but he keeps on trying.”​—
Colleen, 20.
“I explained to one boy that I wasn’t interested in him, but he kept pressuring me for my phone number. I wanted to be nice. After all, it probably wasn’t easy for him to work up the nerve to express his feelings. But eventually I had to be very firm with him.”​— Sarah, 23.
What Not to Do
Some young men feel that they have little trouble getting girls to like them. They may even compete with their peers to show who can grab the attention of the most girls. However, such competition is cruel and will earn you a bad reputation. ( Proverbs 20:11 ) You can avoid that outcome if you do the following.
▪ Don’t flirt. A flirt uses flattering speech and provocative body language. He has no intention of pursuing an honorable romantic relationship. Such actions and attitudes ignore the Bible’s counsel to treat “younger women as sisters with all chasteness.” ( 1 Timothy 5:2 ) Flirts make poor friends and worse marriage mates. Discerning girls know that.
What girls say: “I think it’s very unattractive when someone flatters you but you know that he has said the same things to your friend just last month.”​— Helen, 25.
“This cute boy once started flirting with me, talking mainly about himself. When another girl joined our group, he did the same with her. Then a third girl joined our group, and he used the same lines on her. It was ugly!”​— Tina, 20.
▪ Don’t toy with a girl’s feelings. Don’t expect that friendship with a member of the opposite sex will operate according to the same rules as friendship with a member of the same sex. Why? Consider: If you remarked that a male friend looked good in his new suit or you regularly talked to that friend and confided in him, it is unlikely that he would think that you are romantically attracted to him. But if you compliment a girl on her appearance or you regularly talk to her and confide in her, she may well think that you have a romantic interest in her.
What girls say: “I just don’t think boys understand that they can’t treat girls the same way that they treat their male friends.”​— Sheryl, 26.
“A boy will get my phone number, and then I get a text message from him. So, . . . what does that mean? Sometimes you can have a text-messaging relationship and get emotionally attached, but how much can you say in a text message?”​— Mallory, 19.
“I don’t think a boy realizes how quickly a girl can become emotionally involved, especially if he is caring and easy to talk to. It’s not that she’s desperate. I just think that most girls want to fall in love and that they always have an eye out for ‘Mr. Right.’”​— Alison, 25.
Be Realistic
It’s unrealistic, even egotistical, to think that all
girls will like you. But some will if you remember this: How you look on the outside is less important than what you are on the inside. It’s hardly surprising that the Bible emphasizes the need to cultivate “the new personality.”​—
Ephesians 4:24 .
Kate, 21, sums up the matter this way: “Boys think that to attract girls they have to dress a certain way or have a certain look. While this is true to some degree, I think that many girls are more attracted to positive personality traits.”*


https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102009170

davillian:
At 5years ?
I'm not sure it's 7pm....
Think well
5 years at worst you de nursery or at worst primary 1
Wetting u want de find out side till 7pm.
After school we come home play d play
By 4pm everybody is inside watching TV
And no more going out.

chairman,read well. When I was in primary school, we must be indoor latest 7pm. That was more than 20 years ago. imagine 5yr old in very unsafe world, probably in nursery who went out to buy biscuit by 7pm.

Mustsucceed:
The level of irresponsibility on parts of parents is worrisome .even if the shop is directly in front of the gate no child has business outside ... Used kids at 8/9 pm outside ! Even us as adults aren't safe

yes. most crime happens at night. because of that coupled with training I received as a child, night outing is NO for me

armadeo:
Latest 7pm ke. Your parents tried. The first time I saw the moon standing outside was in boarding house. Before then its through the window of my room.

These days when I am going home late and I see small kids outside by 10pm or 11 dancing in front of a barbers shop or those beer joints I just wonder at what the world is turning to

hmm. most parents are just careless

5 yr old buying biscuit 7pm.when I was in primary school, we must be indoor latest 7pm.

Revolution usually occurs spontaneously. I have never heard of planned revolution. I cannot work.
well, if you are thinking of committing suicide, police can help you.

house help.-Not in my kingdom. gate man-no way. security man-never. I trust nobody. criminals everywhere

ajilegend:
This cannot be completely correct because we have cars that ply such road from other states and does their renewal from other states. So will you say they don't have their papers complete because they renewed in other state they reside?

I am wondering too

dre11:
https://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2019/08/01/7-year-old-boy-has-526-teeth-in-the-jaw-first-in-the-world/

teratoma

manitoba:
I thought it should go to Kwara State Government and not FGN.

exactly my thought. Each state should have its its anticorruption/financial crime agency with a view to recover looted funds to state treasury.

I have maintained that community services should replace fines. Fine of #20k for an offence is too outrageous. Fine for an offence should not be more than #1 plus or minus community services. If offender is poor,community service. Things are hard.