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Hi Nairalanders.

I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......

Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....

Pls ignore my grammatical errors...

Here is the story......

I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..

We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..

It was way back 2014..

We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.

She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.

Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.

Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.

Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.

About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..

So we starting dating.

So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).

This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.

HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..

So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....

Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?

Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..

I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....

And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......

All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....

Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks

@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls

I suspect he could bbe sleeping wwith the wifes sister try to investigate

She wants you out of that house the truth is that's why she came over in the first place. I won't be surprised if your friend is privy to what is happening be careful

Go and learn a trade auto mechanic electrician phone rrepair etc
Even as an apprentice yyou will make more than 20k monthly
Most artisans aare looking ffor helping hhands depending oon where you are

Must you have a website to sale on the net?

ignitewatch:
Check if you've a national library of Nigeria office in PH.

Yes

Please my neighbours how can I get an ISBN number in Port Harcourt

STOP EATING AND SELLING OOF BEEF YOU ARE EMPOWERING THEM. WHEN WE STOP EATING AND SELLING BEEF THEIR presence IN OUR ENVIRONMENT WILL REDUCE

eedimo:
Which way Naija

If I blasphem your prophet ...how does that hurt you?
Can't your god fight for his prophet?

Religion is killing this Country slowly.
Religious intolerance only in a shithole.

That sshow how powerless the said god is since mere humans can fight ffor him. No matter what you say about Jesus no Christian will answer you because tthey know their God can fight for himself

How can herdsmen attack cease when we are giving them guns to kill us stop eating beef and anything beef and we incapacitate them financially iimagine the whole West not eating bbeef for a month. We have chicken fish turkey goat rabbit which are healthier, let's develop tthem and eat

capniesa@gmail.com

[quote author=BedLam post=86835898]Haha. You’re bringing up creationist arguments. Why don’t you cite reputable scientific journals?
From the first link, he argues that mutation is not evolution.
Without thinking too far, a knowledgeable person would know that mutation that stays on course is what’s know as evolution.
And if you’re daft, I will call you out!

The fact that you think “they are trying to make us believe these things” is nauseating and someone like you is no way different than buratai who said “our borders can only be secured by god”. Do you now see why I get really pushed when people like you come online to denounce facts? Because such thinking only adds to our retrogression which catalyzed Buhari’s ascension! [/quote
Mutation lleads to deformed species wwho die of within a very short ttime

2metrelaurie:
U sound like a very dumb individual

Who told u humans havent evolved to be immune to certain diseases?

Read up what happend to Native south Americans when they met Europeans

Read about the Andaman islands people

It is a faceless fforum so you can insult ppeople your not qualified tto be their sstudent. Read what iis written bby others, can't yyou write one? Are you not living oon earth that yyou quote oothers who publish what tthey think, when will you start thinking ffor yourself aand stop being aa follower when wwill you lead and stop being controlled bby the thought oof others

After killing them where are their bones? Let me school you goat and sheep are different they don't have a meeting point, pure parallel lines because a sheep cannot impregnate a goat and vice versa they are of different kind so is all the tthings that God created. Goat is a goat and can never become sheep till the end of time

2metrelaurie:
a gradual change in the characteristics of a population of animals or plants over successive generations:

The question is... Do you understand evolution

Humans themselve are proof of evolution

The phenotypical differences of these humans is as a result of thousands of years of evolution to adapt to the various environments their Ancestor lived

The question is are they all not still human beings? Having ability to fertilize each other; how can an ape live its kind and become human? IMPOSSIBLE GOD created every thing according to its kind so humans looking different because of their different climates is not evolution. Why has man refused to evolve to the level of being immune to all the Sicknesses and diseases plaguing us? Why look for bullet proof vest instead of evolving to overcome bullets. Science is a lie and the biggest deceit of humans. The head of science is Lucifer and he is succeeding in deceive gullible people

2metrelaurie:
Evolution is a gradual change in the characteristics of a population of animals or plants over successive generations

Have yyou ever seen an intermediate creature in the pprocess? Don't bbe deceived GOD created every tthing according to its kind there is no intermediary. Why has evolution sstopped?

A wolf and a dog which iis stronger? How can a wolf want to change to a dog? Science iis the biggest llie in the universe; am not surprised becos their head is the father of all lies

The only thing a man has in a marriage is the wife if your wife could open herself for another man to see her body, she is not yours remember what Joseph told pontiphers wife

Since the wedding nite have you not had sex with him? You said can't perform could mean he's not doing it well, or do you mean he does not have erection atall?

If her parents are alive tell them the truth and watch their reactions. Don't be on the begging side that could mean your guilty.

Story please that advise is from the pit of hell. There is nothing like that. You can live for 100years without sex better for you

They can be forgiven if they return back the money its called restitution but can they. Because you can't ask for forgiveness when your still in possession of what you stole

My dear I feel your pains the first thing I will advise you to do hand over yourself to God. You see Gods laws are for our good. If we follow it, all these pains will not exist. I can assure you if you follow God wholeheartedly He will give you your' loving husband without hassle. Secondly if possible go to higher institution it will increase the respect you get from men. Love you

Lust and nothing else, your just dreaming of having her its called masturbation after you'll realize yourself. Choose between Sampson and Joseph. You will regret it, the devil wants to have you and you've consented already. Choose life

NwaAmaikpe:




Nancy Pelosi needs to save our America from being decimated.

Trump is bragging about war but just like Winston Churchill said, "when Warsaw saw war, it was Warsaw no more".
War does no one any good and no one is ever assured of victory.
Even a giant risks having his scrotum pulled off if he decides to battle a dwarf.

Iran is called Iran because anyone whose matter they 'mean' runs away and if they survive it, tell others; "I ran".

They have now come for Trump considering the bounty on his head, he will only be able to look back and say "I ran".
Jesus was betrayed by his own disciple for much less than what is being offered.

No one in the world can guarantee the safety of a person when a fatwa is declared on them, so the earlier he calls a truce or starts running the better for him.

Please be sensible Iran cannot withstand tiny is real not to talk of USA their only hope is Russia. But is only hope

Sinistami:
Think for your sake... Most of you aren't even Christians because of faith, no it's fear. The main weapon of religion. Ask your self this what's the need for hell if your God so loves you. Why can't God kill the devil if his so powerful. You know why? Because every movie, Cartoon, Anime, story, needs a nemesis for it to remain interesting to the fans. Quote me anywhere.

God cannot kill the devil immediately because what the devil deed was to challenge Gods sovereignty. The devil told man that the laws God gave to man was false, that man can live happily without God. Angels were watching, if God had killed Satan immediately there would be no prove of Satan's challenge that is why God has allowed man to prove Satan right or wrong, and we are witnesses to it that Satan was wrong man cannot live without Gods influence; sickness, diseases and death, hardship etc. Imagine a world where only the righteous live; would there be any need for padlock, guns or even house protector

Sinistami:
Fly out... You don't know me so don't judge, I don't believe anything I see flaws in and your bible and other religions are one of them. Your God is not proven to exist, well only in your minds. Even if the Pope, Britain comes down to confess that they used Christianity to brainwash us and loot our resources you lot would still say it's a trick by the devil, I told you that Zoarostarianism is one of the religions copied by Christianity and you're still here arguing nonsense. If your God wanted us not to sin he should have not created sin in the first place. All religions are fake and created by men to control the populace.

Science and history is almost destroying you; yes the FOOL says in his heart there is no God but I bet you Mr science and history with little Brain you cannot prove that God does not exist. That is my single challenge to you. You want to eat your cake and have it sorry

Sinistami:
Mr Man read on the religion of the mesopatamians, then come back.... Haba.. The internet is there search it don't be scared. Searched Zoroastarianism.. Hope I got the spelling right... It's been long I read on that.

I can see you have no answer to this one that means your not Mr wise after all. You are one of those who believe every letter written on the net but totally blinded by the ones telling you the truth. You are afraid of following the Bible because you cannot keep to its clearly written instructions of staying away from sin. You want to live in sin and enjoy Gods benefits sorry

Sinistami:
Jesu Kristi... Guy you're deluded... He's telling you the bible and Christianity are mere eventions cut out from far older religions and you're here arguing that "Are you seeing the Bible from the time of Christ or from Adam? " Stupidity at it's finest.... So because the bible has Adam and eve it's the oldest right?

Listen to yourself the Bible was cut out from older religion can you please Mr wise tell me the religion that has Genesis account in it?

Sinistami:
If eternal death means Hell then do you know the concept of hell was made up by the Romans to control the growing roman populace at that time. Do you know Jesus Christ shares the same story with several other deities like Buddha, Horus etc which are even more older than the christian religion it self. In fact there's no proof of Christ ever dying. Most and all the experiences that Christians claim comes from God are experienced by people from other religions too. Ask your Muslim brothers.

Hell is not a place of eternal punishment it is the grave. The word hell was misinterpreted in some Bible translations. There is no place of eternal punishment for man. Sinners will be destroyed not tormented forever our God cannot even imagine that not to talk of carry it out Romans 6:23 John3:16

tstx:
But there are so many contradictions in the Bible... Are you saying as good christains.. One needs to turn a blind eye?

Do you even know that the Bible was influenced by other religions? Religions that are way older than Christianity..?

5 Ways The Bible Was Influenced By Other Religions

So we shouldn't ask questions about that too?

There is no single religion older than Christianity. Are you seeing the Bible from the time of Christ or from Adam? The Bible is from Adam and right there in the garden of Eden God told the devil that a woman's seed will bruise his head which is Jesus Christ. I have one question for you where does dreams come from

FROM THE BBC

Next to Iran's Supreme Leader, Qasem Soleimani was arguably the most powerful figure in the Islamic republic.

As head of its military abroad known as the Quds Force, Soleimani was the mastermind behind the country's activities across in the Middle East, and its real foreign minister when it came to matters of war and peace.

He was widely considered an architect of Syrian President Bashar al-Assad's war against rebels in Syria, the rise of pro-Iranian paramilitaries in Iraq, the fight against the Islamic State group, and many battles beyond.

Charismatic and often elusive, the silver-haired commander was revered by some, loathed by others, and a source of myths and social media memes.He had emerged in recent years from a lifetime in the shadows directing covert operations to achieve fame and popularity in Iran, becoming the subject of documentaries, news reports and even pop songs.

As far back as 2013, former CIA officer John Maguire told The New Yorker that Soleimani was "the single most powerful operative in the Middle East".

When his end came, it was violent and sudden. On 3 January the Pentagon announced that it had carried out a successful operation to kill him, at the direction of US President Donald The assassination followed a sharp escalation between the US, Iran and Iran-backed groups in Iraq following the death of a US military contractor in a missile attack on a US base in Iraq - for which the US held Iran responsible.

The US responded with an air strike on the Iran-backed militia Kataib Hezbollah. Militia supporters then attacked the US embassy in Baghdad.

Tensions between the US and Iran had been rising since the US pulled out of a nuclear deal between Iran and world powers to curb Iran's nuclear programme and prevent it from developing nuclear weapons. The US has also reimposed sanctions on Iran, sending its economy into freefall.

Rise of militias
Soleimani is believed to have come from a poor background and to have had very little formal education. But he had risen through the Revolutionary Guards - Iran's elite and most powerful force - and was reportedly close to Iran's Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khomeini.

After becoming commander of the Quds Force in 1998, Soleimani attempted to extend Iran's influence in the Middle East by carrying out covert operations, providing arms to allies and developing networks of militias loyal to Iran.

Over the course of his career he is believed to have aided Shia Muslim and Kurdish groups in Iraq fighting against former dictator Saddam Hussein as well as other groups in the region including the Shia militant group Hezbollah in Lebanon and Islamist organisation Hamas in the Palestinian territories.

After the US invaded Iraq in 2003 he began directing militant groups to carry out attacks against US troops and bases, killing hundreds.

He is also widely credited with finding a strategy for Bashar al-Assad to respond to the armed uprising against him that began in 2011. Iranian assistance along with Russian air support helped turn the tide against rebel forces and in the Syrian government's favour, allowing it to recapture key cities and towns.

Soleimani himself was sometimes pictured at funerals of Iranians killed in Syria and Iraq, where Iran had deployed thousands of combatants and military advisers.

He also travelled frequently across the region, regularly shuttling between Lebanon, Syria and Iraq, where Iranian influence has steadily grown. When he was killed he was travelling in a two-car convoy away from Baghdad airport with others including Kataib Hezbollah leader Abu Mahdi al-Muhandis, who was also killed.April 2019, US Secretary of State Mike Pompeo designated Iran's Revolutionary Guards and Quds Force as foreign terrorist organisations.

The Trump administration has said the Quds Force provided funding, training, weapons and equipment to US-designated terrorist groups in the Middle East - including Hezbollah movement and the Palestinian Islamic Jihad group based in Gaza.

In a statement, the Pentagon said Soleimani had been "actively developing plans to attack American diplomats and service members in Iraq and throughout the region".

"General Soleimani and his Quds Force were responsible for the deaths of hundreds of American and coalition service members and the wounding of thousands more," it added