₦airaland Forum

emmaodet:
This obsessive need to be employed is one of the relics of colonialism. In the past, most Nigerians used to be tradesmen, and employment is actually freelancing, that guaranteed workers freedom and the right to negotiate equally. For example, calling Mr. Alabi to come to clear your farm and pay him off, or the drummer to play at your event. Especially with the Igbos, you can see it through their names. Nnaji means ''father of yam'', Nwosu means the child of a herbalist'', and so forth. From the surname, one can tell the economical pattern of the family. -
You are right. Even me, my surname which i used for my moniker ''ode'' means a hunter. My grandfather was a hunter and farmer. Ogun means God of Iron, so ogunsola/ogunwande etc are from the Ogun's family. Oba is king, Ade is crown so anybody bearing Obasanjo/Adebanjo etc is from the royal family and has opportunity of becoming king.
Names were identities then not now that everyone is forming posh and foreign with Kelvins, Jessicas were you start struggling to identify the country they came from not to talk of region or tribe.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of schooling is if it can't really open the student's eyes, and their mind and make them think and see the realities right in front of them. School now is becoming a joke - It has become the breeding ground for prostitution, cultism etc instead of a place of enlightment and innovation.

If you pick random students in either uni or high school, you will observe that most of their parents are blue-collar workers. They didn't go to school, but they have trade and will train their kids through it and still even feed the graduate while he is busy waiting for a job. How can you explain that? An illiterate bankrolling a so-called literate - smiles. A woman close to me who buy and sell locust beans in bulk from north used the business to build her house, train her 3 kids through university but the children are out now working in a hotel in my place for 30k per month. When i questioned her why the kids can not follow her foot step and trade, she said they claim not to be interested. Can you imagine not interested in what trained them? We lack continuity in Africa.
Our parents and grandparents always die with their trades, knowledge and experiences. My grandfather who was a cocoa farmer with many plantations died last year and i can categorically tell you that he was richer than all his 7 graduate/employed children. What a shame for being educated.
There are so many LEGALLY rich illiterates in Nigeria than educated folks and that is shameful.

1. To be sincere, Nigerian graduates are paper tigers. We all want to earn 1million+ income but we've not asked ourselves what skills we have? What value are we bringing to a company that will make them scratch their tooth and nails just to pay that sum of money as a salary?

2. Though the academic system now operating in the world is skewing to the left, and the wrong side, not tending to make students and individuals become familiar with skills and knowledge necessary for real-world application and survival. The system just paints something that looks good but lacks vitality and can neither improve the individual nor society.

3. Why do many graduates fall head over heels for this vacuous academic system? In yesteryear the few people who pursued academics were successful, and they were successful because the system was capable of accommodating their intellectual ability and curiosity. That's why it was rewarding.

4. But the people stampeding the gates of universities and colleges around the world today lack curiosity and the intelligence necessary to illuminate the paths they seek. What they are all pursuing is the final result - high income, forgetting that high income is the resultant effect of skills, knowledge, intelligence, and deep curiosity.

5. The people that succeed in academics, not those with first-class degrees are those who had that intelligence and curiosity before alleviating it with academics. That's why it's only a few professionals of many "professionals" that can make waves in their various fields. It is these sets of professionals that give value to an academic degree and results that equal their fame and high income; and which stimulates the masses to pursue academics while they are being oblivious to the necessary work involved in achieving a good result.

6. Tunde is ashamed of his handwork because his friend, Yusuf has a university degree. He abandons his handwork he is well equipped with the right knowledge for a university that he is incapable of performing up to average. At the end of the day, he struggles with his academics till he graduates, and when he enters the labor market he becomes frustrated and hopeless.

7. Many do see academics as an escape route from the harsh reality of life, and an easy way to a good income and that's why they become more frustrated when they don't have a job or when they face the harsh reality of office politics.

8. Where do most of them land when they don't get their aspired dream job? They land on the apprenticeship they refuse to follow from the beginning which they were more built and suited for.

9. Since everyone is in rush for money, it is better to start chasing it from the beginning rather than look for an easy escape mode through academics that they are not built for, coupled with the fact that academics has been eroded with many of its values. And this is only possible by engaging in profitable skills and scalable trades.

Thanks.

CAPSLOCKED, Nerostealth01, Lordcassy et al., I know you all are fine. Well done.

YoobaNesan:
Thanks Man.
Your ink won't go dry.

What about the house?

Martinez39s:
Adedipupo is making great strides in being the foremost high priest of simping.

With full chest and native attire.

Someoneschild2:
I'm sorry I couldn't meet your expectations,sir. My spaceship had a little breakdown when I stopped over in Jupiter on my way to Mars. I came down to earth to seek a worthy intergalactic mechanic.

You know how these spacecrafts used to dig deep into somebody's pocket. But we will smile soon

I have sent it. And for others you can go to Zlibrary.org to download most books. And please do make some little donations.

Thanks.

Someoneschild2:
After checking my capacity,I'm sure i can wash plate.
If you deliver it and I refuse to follow you to your house to wash plate,hold my shirt and drag me to your house.

I no fit run,i swear

Please, don't kill my dream, I'm aiming for the moon, so that I can at least land on a star. And that's why I'm demanding for a half plot in Lekki.

"Why alpha males and redpillers broke like this". Jeez!

Send a DM

Someoneschild2:
I'll see what I can do

What can you do?

Talk well, let me order it for you. Delivery fee on me. Lol

Someoneschild2:
I have searched without success. If anyone could do me a kindness by giving me a link to download the book Sex and culture by J.D Unwin, I'd appreciate it.

Better still, If you have a copy, please send me an email.

Thank you!

Half plot for Lekki, and I will send it asap.

Deal or no deal?

Winks.

Kologirl:
Please let's be respectful, remember everybody must not have the same opinion as you. Remember that people's opinions are formed as a result of their, childhood experience, environment and life experiences.
So be respectful.

1. Having different opinions has never been the issue. Differences in opinions is a result of, culture, background, social circle, knowledge, status, environment etc which merged together, and of which nobody is protesting against.

The issue is that in the midst of light and truth - verified on a meta scale by facts, patterns and observations, there are people who still uphold to their false cherished beliefs.

If your opinion is personal quite alright. But if you bring it to the public domain, don't expect it not to be challenged. If it is not reasonable, and backed by facts, even if it is appraised by the multitudes it is still fake, false, and lies!

Kologirl:
Honestly I don't know what some Nigerian woman are enjoying in their marriages, now if I'm being honest, have seen some beautiful marriages. But I'm here to talk about the so called alpha males on. nairaland.

2. For the record: it is better to stay unmarried than married!

However, if women never saw any benefit in marriage, they won't have been interested in it. Churches comprises the largest centres that contains the human population worldwide. If you call out for who wants to get married and blessed with the fruit of the womb, women always round up with the highest number.

Why do women seek marriage? Because it is an easy access to get what they desire rather than work through drudgery to get it. What do they desires: provision, protection and quality genes.
Even the women that claim total independence still have men as their spinal cords.

Kologirl:
First of all my definition of marriage is simple.
the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners. The partners have to promise to love, each other, stay together in good and bad days.

3. If this was the case, there wouldn't have been any "gender war" but it seems you lack facts. Again for the record: 80% of divorce are initiated by women. It is men that still endeavors to make the relationship work when it is standing on the cliff end.

Nigeria has the highest number of paternity fraud worldwide.

I'm not in support of infidelity, but if you tend to compare having a sidechick with paternity fraud/cheating on the man, thinking that the genders are equal in nature and in their mating game, wait till the man reacts. Women has never been more jealous and dangerous than men when it comes to their mates and the mating game.

It is left for you to select your partner wisely, one that is accountable enough to hold on to their vows.

Kologirl:
Now if u ask a nairaland Nigerian man what he was in a wife, you will think he's describing a slave. They want a wife they can control, dominate. A woman without an opinion and a housemaid.

In 2022 most women have jobs, some women wake up around 4 sometimes 5, prepare food and bath the children, by 7 food is ready, she sweeps the house and arranges the house. By 8 she takes the children to school and goes to work. Let's say she closes by 6. She rushes to the market, by 7 she is home and done with all her errands. She starts preparing food, bath the children, forces them to do their homework work , ask them to bath and she baths the little baby. By 8 food is ready, everyone eats, she decides to rest for a minute. By 9 she is already tired but has to wash your clothes and the kids clothes, she washes the plates. By 10pm she is done with all the house chores but her office work is still there, she forces herself to do the work. By 11 she is tired and goes to bed
Now this is just an example on what some women go through in day.[/b]

4. The question should be: why do women marry?

If not for the poor economic nature of the economy, women takes care of the home and the children in exchange for a man's commitment - provision and protection. It has never been in women's nature to toil the ground as men, and until the decline of the economy, men has never found it a problem to cater for the family.

Even as bad as it is, with unfavourable family law in the global north and poor economy growth and development in the global south, men still get married and provide the needs for the home to a larger extent.

Most homes today have maids/helpers and home appliances to make work easier. You don't need to exaggerates in order to buttress your points.

According to forbes report, 1 in 3 women choose to be stay at home mum. Recently there is a slight decline of women in the corporate world (probably, running to only fans).

Kologirl:
Now where is the husband, with a sidechick telling her how his wife doesn't have time for sex, how her body is now shapeless.

5. No.

Their husbands are working their bútts in the office receiving insults from their superior in order to meet up with their duties - to protect and provide for his family.

Their husbands are the ones been conscripted by the government to go fight wars and restore peace.

Their husbands and men are in the prisonyards because they committed crime as a result of them trying to please their women and family.

Their husbands are parading from slums to slums just to enable their wives and kids go to bed with a meal in their stomach.

Their husbands are in the streets begging friends, family, enemies and strangers just to ensure that they meet up with their duties.

If women are acting same way as their husbands, it is not because she truly desires it or he wants it for her, it is because the economy is poor and more so, as a team they must work together.

Even though leaders and followers cooperates, both are distinct, men are the former while women are the later respectively.

Kologirl:
No appreciation, no love, nothing. Sometimes the house rent is even being paid by the woman, have worked in an agent office, I Know what am taking about. A woman that will do anything to keep her family including sacrificing her happiness and time. Now you rarely see the so called alpha men praising their wives but it's to come to nairaland. To call caring men simps and to advice themselves on how they are demi gods and should be treated as one.

6. Both of them may be guilty of not reciprocating appreciations which is unfair.

However, if appreciation is the case here, women would not have been the highest bidders of divorce, because at least she should have considered what both of them have built for long.

Kologirl:
Aome men you dare not say "honey, please I'm on my period, on your way back from work please go to the market" omo all hell will break loose, he will come to nairaland to his fellow idiots to complain how is wife wants to control him. You dare not say" honey please help go to mama praise and buy pepper, I want to bath our child" he will tell his friends that you now have balls.
Like what type of marriage is that sef. marriage Is supposed to be filled with love and understanding, not a master - slave relationship.

7. Same way he doesn't dare to say:

A. "Dear wife, you will be one to provide for the household this year".

B. "Dear wife, you will be the one to protect me and the kids for 6 months".

C. "Dear wife, you'll be the one to take my position when the government assign me to go fight a war".

He dare not say these because he already makes himself a parody of masculinity. His wife will forever feel disgusted by such statements.

But you willingly say it because you lack an understanding of the roles wives and husbands, play. It is not a master and slave relationship as you have said, because if it was, husbands will not share same bed with their wives daily, however, it is a leader and follower relationship.

Kologirl:
Honestly this is why a lot of women now leave their marriages, and the same men will come to nairaland to complain on how women are now too independent and not like our mothers.

In Nairaland if a woman is too independent- don't marry her.
She is too dependent - don't marry her

Like what do you guys want, I honestly pity the men that are taking their advise because in the real world no woman born from 1997 down will tolerate a man with all these ideologies.

marriages in the real world is more understanding, the country is hard so a lot of couples now share responsibility. like my neighbor now he's the one that bathes and take the children to school, his wife is a trader so by 5 she is already on the road. when she comes back she cooks and they all arrange the house including the man and their elder child because in the morning they are all too busy to even sweep the house. now that's marriage. now this man has a job but his job is a 9-5.

honestly don't let nairaland fool you, some people are very happy with their marriages.
the country is hard so a lot of men are being supported by their wives and the men do appreciate and show love to them in public.

honestly I pity any woman that will marry all these so called nairaland alpha males.

Refer to 4 above.

Kologirl:
Their own is to come to nairaland to insult and body shame women, while they are poor and miserable.

8. You all need to awaken yourself from the authority bias: judging truth from a person's socio-economic status. Learn to separate a message from the messenger. A messenger needs to live his words, but you'll miss the whole point once you neglect the words and attack the messenger. It is truth and verifiable facts that matter regardless of who's saying it.

Funny enough, most of you are Christians that have a solid belief in a man called Christ Jesus who had neither hole nor nest to call a house but promised you riches and mansions and eternal blessings if you believe in him. The joke is written on you all.

Have a nice day.

Oshokhai69:
Guy, you are not sharp. That girl dey finds person wey go give am birthday goodies. She has used the same trick for almost all the mugu boys for that una church. She goes cash out on her birthday and then blocks you. Na then your eyes go clear

1. That's why it is called a mating game. If the woman fails to play her part well - to get resources from/reproduce with the man, she will lose; if the man fails to have sex/reproduce with the woman he loses.

2. It is the people that don't understand the mating game and are ignorant of male and female nature that does skew towards either misandry or misogyny. Even those that refuse to play the game - blackpillers, are still part of the game and will be affected directly or indirectly depending on the outcome of the game.

3. Machote is aware of the game and from all indications he is playing well except otherwise.

4. This mating game like other games involves baiting your opponent. In the sexual mating game, an aware man doesn't attack immediately or run into defense at first sight of his opponent. You first try to get a glimpse of your opponent.

5. She already said that she is coming to his house to spend the birthday; a woman will not leave for a man's house without having sex in mind. Except the man is in the friend zone. What Machote needs to do is to make his bait more attractive. Remember: it is a game. How?

For example:

She: I'm coming to your house to celebrate my birthday.

Him: That's nice. Don't worry, I will prepare a good food for you.

Her: Do you even know how to cook?

Him: I trust my special ingredient: love potion, you simply can't resist my food.

Her: please, don't come and poison/harm me.

Him: Ok don't worry, both of us will prepare the meal together. But I like them girls preparing my food in pants and bra so that the food can be delicious.

Her: Hmmm.

Him: Don't worry you'll be fine. An experience you'll never forget.

Her: Ok o.

Him: Just keep me updated.

Her: Ok o.

(A woman has come to my house and it was an unripe plantain and oil sauce both of us ate).

6. No game is void of cost(s). No matter how high the green light, you'll lose when dealing with women. No matter how little the time you spend with women, it is a time that you would have used for something more productive; the food both of you will share would have lasted you twice or more; the little money you spent would have been used to buy something for yourself; you lose more electricity when you put on your AC, Tv sets, ceiling fan, etc. Even if you are offering only a cold glass of water, it is water that you would have used twice.

7. It boils down to how you can use your bait so well that you are not exploited. Ditto for her: her potent weapon is her sexuality, she must be smart when dealing with you else her sexuality is being exploited.

8. Maintain frame doesn't indicate that you must alter yourself into a rocky structure. Your frame is a detector that helps tells you who a person is and how you should relate with the person.

9. You must be flexible and adaptable. Being rigid makes your moves predictable; being nice makes you susceptible.

10. Women don't love bad boys because bad boys are rigid, stoic, and rocky. Women are attracted to these characters in men, however, it is the capacity of bad boys to act emotionally towards women that makes women flock around them.

In women's minds: "for a rigid man to act this emotional, I think I can help him"...she has been lured into his snare. That's players and bad boys for you.

11. Not only that, acting rigid or nice makes them hide their secrets away from you. If you are rigid they think you are a judge and will condemn them. While if you are nice, they act nice too just to take your mind away from any dark secret.

12. You are then left to act like the wings of a butterfly in motion: open and close - You are neither surprised nor judgemental when she gives you a glimpse of her dark secrets, and you are not nice enough to allow her to manipulate you at will.

13. Immediate defense or attack makes you lose the game. Women don't do this and that's why they can successfully lead men into the friend zone. They use their sexuality as bait to manipulate men.

Reverse the game and use bait too and you'll get women hooked.

14. Once women detect that you understand the game and can't easily manipulate you, they either gaslight or shame you or leave. You don't need to be bothered, you played the game successfully. Cheers brother.

DAY 266, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Have fun with women.

YoobaNesan:
I'd like to get a compilation of your dailies, even if it comes at a cost.

I will always keep you updated.

"Sha the costs na 1 house for Banana Island o".

Thank you. I appreciate.

1. The educational system operating in the world today is for political gains. The government is building many universities and creating many courses of study not because they want to help the masses but to create a system that can accommodate everyone, including the poor just to siphon their money.

2. That's why after graduation students are void of any knowledge or skills that are applicable in reality.

3. School ought to be the place to gain the "4 years, 5 years, 6 years experience" employers and organizations of labor ask for, however, those years are wasted learning almost nothing about their respective work fields.

These employers or organizations still train their employees for 6months or more to make them acclimatized to the workplace. So, if it takes employers to train hands for the job for about 6 months - 2 years, why do they waste their undergraduate years studying what's not necessary?

4. Some will "say school is not supposed to provide you a job, think out of the box". As true as that statement may sound, it simply shows how the educational system is so porous that one can't even come up easily with an innovative, scientific, or economic idea in a short time after leaving the university to help create a source of livelihood for themselves.

5. The essence of University education is to provide what's necessary and can be effectively used in the world. The curriculum of most courses of study is vapid, except for STEM fields, however, which still involves maneuvering your way around it.

6. The shock always comes after graduation, especially for those in the third world and developing nations. The reality sets in and like the eureka moment: you just discovered that you wasted fruitful years exchanging time for what's not profitable. In developed nations, the shock is easily absorbed and the poor curriculum of academics oblivious to the masses because the economy is prospering.

7. The system is rigged, the best is to sit down and maneuver ways to play the game too to your advantage.

8. You play the game too by learning skills that are valuable, long-term, and proficient.

It is not easy learning a new thing after you have dedicated fruitful years to learning illusions, it is painful and stressful, coupled with the uncertainties of life. But this is what playing the game involves - going back to the base, the square one, with good strategy and movement towards the goal.

9. This may seem like ridiculous advice: if you are jobless, don't look for a job, learn a valuable skill.

But how can one sustain till learning a skill? Except you don't have anyone to sustain you at all as you are learning a skill, then look for a job, but you must create a time to learn that skill because that's your only means of ascendancy except you are no longer ambitious and lose touch with your goal.

10. There is 50% free information online to kick-start you, you must put in the work and dedicate time, and you'll have a higher chance of success. Even success can't be guaranteed.

Thanks.

Hedgefunds:
CaveAdullam ur unlimited word of wisdom is superb... Always looking forward to ur post..aside inflation issue am good, how about u ? Hope ur fine as well... Was expecting you would tell us about the work-related issue but since nothing yet guess all is well.

Happy Sunday fam.

One rule in my workplace which is sung in almost every meeting is this: don't disobey a supervisor else, it may cost you your job.

On that day my supervisor forcefully wanted me to do a job after the closing hours which she ought to do herself. I refuse to do the job, she was surprised because I'm not supposed to disobey her. Had it been she was calm and not arrogant, I would have considered her, but at that moment she was at the top of her voice, insisting I must do the job. After her vituperations, she left.

She took the issue to the manager and even before I stepped in the law was rang once more. She had to bring past issues to pad her complaints, and even those past issues were done out of humanity on my side, however, collided with the firm's ethics. The firing started, gaslighting, but I stood my ground. After all the kerfuffles, the manager told me to leave his office. No good listening to my side of the story and how reasonable it was. She used her emotions well...

Anyway, I'm still there. Nobody is indispensable in any workplace, but a firm, organization, corporation, institution, or company will find it hard to cut you off if you have intertwined yourself in the business; cutting you off will be a great loss at least for a temporary and important time. I'm planning my exit though.

As per inflation, anybody surviving on his blood and sweat in this current dispensation deserves honor and award because reality is reality and reality is tough - survival of the strongest.

That's it, uncle. Thanks.

Happy Sunday. Winks.

The fans who use religion as a coping mechanism and weak leverage to traverse their predicament will fall prey to this scam.

Religion is necessary for a population, but it becomes a problem when religious adherents can't decipher the allegories of religion and religious texts, extrapolating its inherent lessons for their wellbeing and overall development.

What is true is true under the rain or sun. The effectiveness of prayer shouldn't be based on faith ditto the effectiveness of hot water on your skin. If it seems your prayers got answered, it is because you worked for what you prayed for, coincidence or luck is rare.

Until prayer immediately raises the dead, heals the sick, makes the handicapped whole, makes the maimed whole, just as recorded in the Bible, then, it is mere gibberish and a waste of time.

Get to work dear fans.

Even if there is a God, I think he has done his job and is not probably ready to help humans..."he is resting". Lol.

Au revoir.

Calibrator is seriously using his calibrating machine on different pants this BBnaija season. "You na offline room mate". Lol.

Heartofcity12, you are good I know.

Nerostealth01, you are fine I know.

Ninejawon, oga at the top, you are fine I know.

TRP1, where are thou?

Sozinn, where are thou? The Lord findeth.

Sajmark, where are thou?

Herbsworks? Ha!

Hedgefunds, hope you are good?

Emotionss, you are good.

" Lemme gan rant elsewhere".

The law is only applicable to the weak and poor.

Those in charge of the law, those that are powerful and rich are above the law. However, this is not to explain away their trespasses but to show the reality of how the world operates.

If you can't defend yourself against the law or fight lawmakers or become their allies and friends, please with all due respect, don't break the law.

Thanks.

Littlerabbit:
You got a high sense of humour man
We happen to live in the same hood though not far my my caban
Thanks for your input

That's why I said "...do any/all of the following...

No excuse littlerabbit. If you are not interested lock up.

Thanks.

pansophist:
Sweet. a round of applause for mr Cave

Thank you, big uncle. You lead I follow.

"Na you still win am las las".

SavageBoy:
Number 6 hit differently. CaveAdullam, you deserve a standing ovation

Thanks you for your kind words. I do appreciate it. I promise to improve and do better.

Pukkalolo:
Sorry, I had to quote the whole stuff. You wrote well. Too much sense is flowing through this write-up.

Thank you for your kind words. I do appreciate it. I promise to improve and do better.

1. Don't live above your means.

2. Don't live to please anybody.

3. Work your way up.

4. Life is difficult, don't make it complicated for yourself by jeopardizing it.

5. Avoid places of danger.

6. Don't allow ego to rob off what you would have gained for a shorter time.

7. Everything has an effect, to avoid negative effects, avoid those that create them.

8. Life is complex, but most things we want in it is less and simple.

9. Look for the valuable things in life and pursue them. Because they are the most important. Refer to 8 above.

10. Give yourself time, be consistent, and pursue truth, knowledge, integrity, and light and you will have higher chances of success in life.

Thanks.

Littlerabbit:
Hello house
What does it mean when this new chick told me during a conversation to attend her church on Sunday
Is she tryna test me or something

Stop acting like a littlerabbit.

If she insists do any/all of the following:

1. Ask her for transport fare to and fro.

2. Ask her for a church offering.

3. Ask her to give you food that you can't listen to a sermon on empty stomach.

4. Ask her if she's willing to come to pick you up and bring you back home that Sunday, as you don't want to miss your way.

5. Tell her that your heart is too dark and if she's able to redeem you you will become a staunch member of her church. She will become entangled in the spell she wants to break.

Doing these will make her start investing in you, and from there you work your way up.

Thanks.