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ubunja:
spirits are real bro, and so is magic and witchcraft. We live in a supernatural world. And supernatural things happen. I don't think guy is a fake.

ubunja:
they say you never know a woman until in divorce court. I'll never understand why women become vengeful monsters during divorce like did we not spend 10, or 20 years caring for each other and being each other's best friend? Smh

Pukkalolo:
Hypergamy is what it is. I won't deny that. Hypergamy rules in certain situations. But when it comes to just sex with no commitment, hypergamy isn't really.....(ok, wait...before I complete that statement, let me say something)


Like I said hypergamy rules in certain situation. For example, when it comes to seeking a long-term relationship, the average woman will naturally always want to seek for the man with more resources---higher value and higher status than her.

Apart from women, every one wants to roll with someone with higher value and status than them. Having wealth is great because it also demonstrate other positive attractive traits.

I've found that the more broke a woman is, the more important money is to her. The more she tend to go after men with more financial resources. Most women who are gold-diggers (or are in to hookups) grew up in poverty.

That is why, If long-term relationship is your goal, using money or material things to attract a woman is very a dangerous move.

Women who grow up with money or are financially ok usually don’t freak about a man's wealth that much. If you've rolled with ladies from rich homes, you'd understand what I'm talking about.

Cave, you are a smart and redpill aware guy, I believe you already know that women who only care about your money are usually women who aren’t going to make you happy in the long-run. They are in relationship with your money, not you. Marrying that kind woman is like sitting on a time-bomb. When shit explode, it isn't going to be funny.

Like i said, I won't write off hypergamy completely because women value success in a man to a certain extent. All things being equal, money is gonna increase your chances with women.

But...here's my primary point:

One of my biggest redpill aware moment was when I realized that women are ready to cheat on their rich husband/boyfriend with a guy with less money when opportunity arises. Women are highly deceitful when it comes to this aspect. I won't go into much detail about this because I'm not the kind of guy that "cast" people. I'm a decrete guy. I respect people's privacy. . But In a nutshell, my eyes have seen things.


I know you you already know that many women don't really go into long-term relationship for sex. It's men that mostly go into relationship for sex. Many women go into relationship for just financial support. Women can get as much sex outside the context of relationship.

As I was saying...when it comes to just sex with no commitment or strings attached, well, hypergamy isn't really the case many at times. Women may prefer to enter a long-term relationship(e.g marriage) with someone who's richer than her. But when it comes to just fucking and just having sexual fun, women will Bleep you as long she's horn*y and get wet for you, it doesn't matter if you have higher status or not.

Many women in "committed" relationships are willing to cheat if she comes across a significantly hotter guy, it doesn't matter if these guy is broke. Women do alot behind the scene.

tosaino95:
Can You Teach Me Along With Them.

Adeja:
@Ubunja, Ubunja, @Caveadullam, Caveadullam, and others who have been doing wonders on this thread, I thank you .

There's something bothering my mind that I want y'all to help me with. I don't wish to put my details out here but I'm someone who's scared of commitment coming from the fact that I'm someone women would naturally gravitate towards because of the life they feel I can offer them. More reasons I tried to keep my profile low when I was in search of a traditional woman to marry. It happen that I found one (through referral). Very beautiful, feminine, young and high value too. She's also a virgin. Never been touched by anyone before

But here's the catch. ; I've grown attached to her within the little time I know her. She doesn't know who I was when she decided to give me a Chance to talk to her (I had to hide all of myself). Fine. But one thing is I understand the more I gravitate towards her, the more I'll likely chase her away.

Well, I'd need to ask, @ Ubunja, how do you make a virgin woman grow attachment for u and start gravitating towards u all over

Note: we can't have sex because of religion issues and. All that

Thank

Pukkalolo:
...If you actually want to get more female sexual opportunities thrown at you, first of all, you have to believe that woman actually love sex...

The society and media have fooled men into believing that men are the hornier gender. But that's a big lie...

Pukkalolo:
God bless you for writing this...You just said what's typically on my mind.

Getting girls and sex is originally simple; Or how else do you explain how there are billions of people in the world. Peope didn't come from the moon: People sex each other behind close doors to produce people.

Most men are struggling to get sex. And our today's society contribute greatly to this.

They make something as easy as getting sex very complicated. The society create unrealistic yardstick for guys to get ordinary sex, and these yardstick is almost quite impossible to live up to.

Society says you must first become a high value, high status, inspirational, badass and successful motherfu*ker before you can get girls and sex.

The movies is a huge contributor to this. The movies is one of the biggest factors that have messed up men's sex life. In most movies, there's always a good guy, a beautiful girl and the bad guy. The bad guy is there to terrorize the people and the beautiful girl.

As anticipated, the good guy goes to fight the bad guy disturbing the peace of the people. The beautiful girl is probably held hostage by the bad guy. The good guy goes ahead to rescue her. The good guy eventually rescue the people, and the land is safe again. At the end of the movie, the beautiful girl rewards the good guy with a kiss. And that's the end of the movie.

Almost all movies have their story line similar to this in one way or the other. Now, isn't that ridiculous.

These movies plants a seed in a boy's head that he's not really worthy of the companionship and affection of a beautiful girl unless he’s does something epical, mind blowing and legendary.

And when the boy sees that he can never be Superman or Spider Man, which means he can never do something mind-blowing and legendary in order to win the affection of a beautiful girl, he’ll try to achieve this by making attempts to impress her with his designers, champagne, Rolex watch or fancy car OR he act like a well-mannered nice guy and showers her with financial and materialistic gifts so she’ll think good things about him.

I get sexual opportunities being thrown at me by ladies because I understand that attraction and getting sex is primitively simple---but the society and media complicate things for guys by saying you must cure cancer, build space ship and become a man of greatness that a stadium full of people are dying to touch before you can finally get the girl.

But that's total bullshit.

Anyways, my point is, you don't necessarily have to become the next Elon, Amazon, Mark, Gate /Mandela, before you can get common sex.

Zabiboy:
You said alot of things i'd love to touch on. Most would eventually come up in future discussions and then we can talk about them..
But the quoted above caught my attention .
If the "relationship" you mean is dating and all those stuff, then I have nothing to say cos I don't do "relationships".
But if the "relationship" means any kind of dealings with women, then For me it's not even an investment not to talk of "highest".

I also think the term "investment" is relative especially when it involves human-to-human dealings and not Business.

Blackavast:
Thank you bro. I'm ready

KennethIbe59:
Boss I am ready
I will pay you for your time

Blackavast:
That's why I ignored his advice. If you have any please share. I just want to improve my communication skills. That's all

Light999333:
https://www.nairaland.com/7298517/eedris-abdulkareem-thanks-wife-yetunde

I need me some redpill explanation for this. The general consensus is that women are selfish and look after themselves first. Why would the wife donate her kidney to her husband? What could have made her perform this great act of sacrifice?

Generally, when shit hits the man, the woman walks out of his life. But this one donated her kidney. Maybe not all women are the same after all? Nawalts.?

Zabiboy:
This is exactly what i was saying yesterday.
Since the news was on SM, means the guy either had fame or money and so you cant be 100% sure it's "Genuine desire".
It could be a calculated risk or behind the scenes negotiations. If a background check is done on the girl's family before marriage, it could become more clearer..

I mean, females can literally tell you they want a tall, big, built etc etc guy and then invest their money or make sacrifices for a short ugly celebrity/ someone with fame/money, not because of "Genuine desire" but a calculated risk, payback for previous deeds or anticipation for future rewards.

I'm not saying Genuine desire doesn't work, but as a guy, if you are doing well, just like fake freinds you'll get loads of fake genuine desire. Getting them to invest puts you one foot ahead, but doesn't erase the fact that some have calculated the risk-to-reward ratio.

CaveAdullam:
DAY 213, REDPILL 2022

How To Gain Respect.

1. Know that humans are guilty of the halo effect: the tendency to judge people by their looks or physical appearance. That humans judge books by their covers.

2. Appeal to the halo effect. How?

3. People respect other people that have higher status than them. Boost your status.

But I don't have designers and luxuries.

Fine. The locals you have, neatly prepare and use them. You will regularly come across those at the middle or bottom of the hierarchy daily. Once you heighten your status you become equal to or higher than them.

What if I don't have any?

Madmen have recognition. Build recognition with what you have.

4. By all means reciprocate values even though it is small from your end. Givers will see you as a partner rather than as a beggar. By all means, don't beg. Rather, offer value regardless of the little size.

Endeavor to eat bread you work for with your hands.

5. Appreciate people for the help they render. Even though it is removing a speck of dust from your collar, thank them "loudly". It shows that you value them. In return, they will value and respect you and will help you in difficult moments.

To be continued.

Authority: Become a man of respect.

ubunja:
I actually know one or two guys with multiple babymamas and I don't see them self-destructing... Even the bums with multiple babymamas are not exactly self-destructing, they're what they've always been: bums. Don't mistake Africa for America.

The few guys I know with babymamas are not even suffering,, on the contrary they're the guys who always have someone to call when they need the most and have women who'll drop anything to come to their aid in their hour of need. But let me tell you I know good upstanding gentlemen living their life by the book who don't even have anyone who'll sacrifice for them when they need it the most.
And there's only so much even a true friend can do for you before he cut you off as a liability and face his own problems. How many friends will consistently visit you by your hospital bed till you recover? How many friends will consistently visit you in jail till you get out? Not very many.
You can talk about your own family,, but truth is a lot of guys are not maintaining good family relations and there's plenty of grudges and sibling rivalry between them and their brothers and sisters, and few can count on their blood in their hour of need. I've seen that shít play out and seen the baby mama come through harder for a man than his own family and friends.
If you think I'm talking trash, Here's a sobering fact that a lot of guys will not want to admit: Your sister, your blood sister, will be more loyal and do more for her baby's father (married or not) than she'll ever be or do for you. Am I lying?

Now am I promoting immorality and irresponsible behavior? Maybe. But I'm thinking in terms of self-preservation. I wouldn't want to be a 90-year-old man who has no one checking upon him just cause I never had any kids cause I didn't want to overpopulate the world or I didn't want to have kids out of wedlock. Let me tell you, At a certain age it won't matter how you got your children, what will matter will be DO YOU HAVE ANY CHILDREN AT ALL?
A lot of us have uncles etc who have good relationships with their children who they got under suspect circumstances, and at that stage, no one is talking about where that kid came from but that the kid is here and they're a blessing.

We can talk about getting married but we know the divorce rate. And honestly speaking if we as the red pill discourage marriage then the more a man needs to have children with different women cause tomorrow is not promised and all the money in the world won't matter in your old age as much as having your kids (regardless how you got them) be around you.
It may seem like I'm talking a lot of bullshit, but men don't have a lot of people to count on. And it will be irresponsible of us to let men go into the future without Plan B, especially since we're talking down on marriage.

I don't know man, but that's the way I see it. It would be nice to hear what other guys think though.

Reminderz:
guy...

liveyourlife007:
I guess everybody finally woke up after a long sleep
The society used to be categorized according to the number of academic awards in your library,
Your Level of education, the number of degrees that you have. And to be sincere this set of people have contributed little or nothing to the society.

liveyourlife007:
All they do is talk , without any definite cause of action. regretfully, there was nothing like financial education

liveyourlife007:
Welcome to a society, where words means nothing, infact words don't solve anything.

liveyourlife007:
The important thing is what can you do, how can you impact the society with your financial resources.

liveyourlife007:
Those ranting prostitution is now rampant. The trade is simple, use what you have to get what you want, and I believe that's what any reasonable person will do. But so many are too dumb to realise it. Maybe due to culture, family background, societal doctrines, and Religion.

liveyourlife007:
The last point is the worst. I can write an entire book on how religion has contributed to poverty in Africa, especially in Nigeria.

CaveAdullam:
1. It is an evolutionary instinct. The egg is expensive and sperm is cheap. Recent data still have it that men engage in dangerous affairs just to secure mates. Muscular strength and risky adventures are peculiar to the male gender because they want to secure territories that correlate with having more mates.

2. Men have a slightly lower life expectancy than women. Sperm is produced in millions for a reason. This is the reason why men go extreme in attaining status so that they can take advantage of an expensive ovum because it doesn't wait for any man and will soon expire - menopause.

3. Remember: what every species cares for is survival and reproduction in the genetic pool. If you can't survive today, you will not be around in the next 100 years via your pedigree. Men are simps for a reason.

4. Evolutionary instinct which took millions of years to be ingrained inside the feminine psyche cannot be obliterated within a short window period. It will take millions of years again to undergo another rewiring. Take note: evolution by natural selection is slow, gradual, and only takes place when a species is threatened. If women are comfortable in this contemporary age, that instinct remains.

5. There are a lot of changes in our society today, and we do expect humans to accustom to those changes while neglecting our biological makeup. If we don't study the effects of genes on behaviors we will continue to murmur and push blames. It is not all about genetic code and make up, but it is the king at the top of the ladder. Environmental influences cannot be left behind. Both are allies.

6. What we see in our contemporary age makes the feminine nature expresses itself unrelenting.

A. Woke culture has emasculated men. And women are not after these men but masculine men.

B. Marriage laws and customs cater the feminine propaganda. Women always get what they want from the government/family law.

C. In the global south, Africa to be precise, where poverty reigns and rules, women don't go for men lower than them or even at the same level as them. She doesn't because of her maternal instinct: the egg is expensive. Selling it at a cheap price will be a pain on her nerves when she discovers along the way that there are other higher bidders. This is the economics of sex. And it is while women always filter men in search of the highest bidder, however, her fertility and eggs are at risk.

D. Based on this economics of sex, men don't mind going to the extreme to secure eggs because they know that they too are at a disadvantage if they don't spread their million sperms.

E. Here lies the concept of feminine entitlement mentality, feminine hubris, and belligerence. Since both the highest and lowest bidder of eggs wants children and sex, they don't care for self-development. Same behavior of marketers when they discover that their products are in high demand in the market. Women are good business men.

7. Social media is another tool in the hands of these beautiful creatures called women. They now have leeway to scout for higher bidders on different geographical terrain within the comfort of their bedrooms.

There are 80% men at the bottom, and women will never consider them but gravitate towards the 20% of men at the top of the hierarchy. This sexual market deregulation is a result of the inequality in the economy.

If you find women around this 80% men, it is because they haven't found any higher bidder opportunity despite the economic instability. A woman always wants something higher and better than her.

8. What about the withdrawal of marriage right from traditional laws and religion to the state. These which have acted as a benchmark to checkmate women have been vitiated.

Feminine nature is amoral, but if the bulwark of morality and tradition is stripped away from her in addition to the porous economic and political, and social terrain, they cannot be expected to play calm and reasonable.

9. Women who choose to stay and build with a man from the bottom have already projected into the future and know that their man is prospective. However, at risk of her fertility which will culminate in a successful adventure if her man succeeds.

These women are outliers, they stake their odds on the national kerfuffles that prevail. These are the women who have strong patriarchy surrounding them and have developed themselves in feminity, character, modesty, kindness, humility, and respect.

These women may lose in the reproductive game (nobody can predict the future) but they will win based on personality and character - these are the kind of women men want to deal with. Unlike her inconsiderate counterpart that couldn't place a hold on her hypergamous instinct, she will lose both ends.

10. If men don't value their commitment these narcissistic women will never self-develop. These women will always win anytime or day.

11. If the economic inequality doesn't reduce to a minimum, creating a chance for men to utilize their potential, be creative, powerful, and become successful, women will be contemptuous of 80% of men. Men will simp. And women will never self-develop and still win.

Thanks.