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Romance › Re: 99% Of Members In Nairaland Are Male by CaveAdullam: 8:42pm On Sep 08, 2022

etrange:
A good deal of NL members are men, that's very obvious. However, there are more ladies than you think. They just don't comment on threads due to the intense misogyny going on here. The guys are always on every thread abusing and sexualizing women. To some of these guys, it's fun; to others, it's way to make themselves feel better about thier own underachieving life; while the rest just want to belong. You see threads where men commit all sorts of crimes, and we all gather to criticize the men in question (though we sometimes foolishly make it about thier tribes or religion). However, when a lady is the culprit, it becomes a gender thing for the guys. You'd read "fear women", "Nigerian women are wicked", "Nigerian girls are useless", "olosho", etc. Even on threads where women are doing great, you'd still read "this one punna go sweet o", "her husband dey enjoy o", and other expressions that objectify them and undermine thier achievements. These comments are made by people who complain thier tribes are being marginalized or that the white man is a racist. Yet they boldly make these misogynistic statements without identifying them as discriminatory.

It has become so normal that while mods are fighting tribalism, nobody really cares about the sexism. Words have power. It's easy to speak someone into depression/anxiety or low self esteem. It's easy to spoil someone's day with words. These words can make someone give up because regardless of what they do, the outcome is the same. I mean, if I were a lady, I'd stay away from such a demoralizing platform. So some of these ladies decided to leave the platform for the guys. Some are still here but hardly comment. Others have removed the gender identifier or even identify as male. I mean, look at it, the other day, someone created a thread asking why we have many women on the BBN thread. He called them jobless. The person forgot that the rest of NL including the dirty sexuality section are filled with men. It's becoming increasingly difficult for the ladies here. It's as if we're going back to those days where women had to use thier husbands' names or even fake male names to advance thier achievements like Margaret Keane, Trotula of Salerno, Jocelyn Bell Burnell, Lise Meitner and numerous others.

1.I came here because of this comment.

I want you to read at bolded text severally again.

Then my question: How do you criticize men? In what words and languages?

You agreed that both sexes suffer criticisms but you still went ahead and curated it as a gender "misogynistic" problem. So, where is the misandry if men are also criticized?

2. Let me shock you, IT IS WOMEN THAT SLUT SHAME WOMEN THAN MEN. That's scientific information with good data.

3. There are gender differences when it comes to social media usage. Women are more active than men on Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest, and Facebook. But we don't see men screaming "misandry" all day long. Respect human nature and gender differences.

Overall, women are the most active social media users. Look beyond Nairaland man/woman.

4. Women recede into their shells or come under male monikers because from an evolutionary perspective women are conflict avoidant, the weaker sex, and less muscular. Ostracism exposes them to the tough world, hence, they avoid trouble. So, it is better to keep silent and maintain a herd mentality. That's why war isn't instigated by women concomitantly they don't fight a war. Also, are fewer victims of murder. The homicide rate for men is >70% instigated by men.

5. Women are more interested in making new friends and interacting and bonding emotionally with people. That's why they are more active in social media apps that reveal status and appearances. Men care about information and data, are disagreeable, risk-taking, hence, they are more active than women on Twitter, Reddit, and our dear Nairaland.

6. Of course, there is a need for improvement in social media usage so that individuals can benefit from each other. However, that will not be the case because low-IQ individuals are luxurious and most times extroverts. So expect the craziness.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 7:25pm On Sep 07, 2022*

Alhabaze:
Nice!

What stood out for me was the fact that you said texting kills communicate & sexual vibes.

What's your thought on sexting? By this, I mean sex chatting a girl.

Do you think it's possible to elicit the sexual tension via sexting which hitherto would have been impossible via normal texting?

Harddon touched on this during his early days & how he had escapades with them lady folks via texting alone. In fact, to him, it's for newbies who are still learning the ropes.

Thanks.

You are not the only one sexting her, there are truckloads of men in queue doing that. The worst-case scenario for you is that some of your competitors are using money to game her.

Sexting is not canceled out here, but it should be used to build upon what has already be established.

Physical contact, then sexual play is how you get it right and faster with women. At that moment you and her are the only ones in the race, with no other competitors.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 7:09pm On Sep 07, 2022

Calm down man. I already expounded this in the post you quoted.

Vicboy1:
There is a different between shit test and not being interested. Before going into relationship watch if the girl is interested. And mind me even your wife will shit test u from time to time. Shit test never come to end,

"Yeah, that's true. Shit tests are to verify for hypergamy so that she will not make a mistake".

Vicboy1:
And what happens is that a lot of guys do fail the shit test thereby appearing needy. If a girl is not interested don't assume she is interested but playing hard to get.

"You don't force rapport with women, if the vibe is not coming from both ends, leave her alone and take a U-turn. It is scarcity mentality and the chase for validation that makes men remain in the friend zone - "I know she's testing me and will soon change her mind and love me for who I am". That's nonsense".

Vicboy1:
the only way to stop shit test is by manipulating her back

Since the shit test is to validate for hypergamy, shit tests cannot stop because women are constantly watching to see if the man they once submitted to is still the same man they are in a relationship with. This can result in divorce even after many years of relationship when the man isn't the same and has depleted in his frame.

However, shit tests can be reduced if she is committed to the relationship.

"Manipulating her back" will not stop her shit tests, well it may reduce them but there are other possible methods to counter shit tests:

1. Maintain frame. Your frame bounces back every color and shape of the shit test. Once she knows what you stand for she will not bother shit testing further even after some trials because your answer will always be either No or Yes.

2. Reverse her shit tests.

For example:

Her: I need 5k for small chops.

You: As I'm here, if I have 2k I will be among the world's happiest men.

3. Ensure genuine desire. If she is the one that chooses you, she limits her shit tests.

4. She's invested in the relationship as a result of genuine desire. Refer to 3 above.

5. Raise your standard, and become a more high-value man. Once she senses that you are flying far above her she will want to shit test less because you now have access to other women. This is a matrix:

A. She may shit tests you to bring you back to your former state to deal with you as previously.

B. She may limit shit tests to make you lower your guard and manipulate you.

You must be vigilant to decipher wheats from tares.

6. Ignore her by maintaining silence or walking away from her.

PS: shit test can be consciously or unconsciously/overt or covert.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 5:11pm On Sep 07, 2022

Vicboy1:
But note that it is always in a girl's nature to shit test you

Yeah, that's true. Shit tests are to verify for hypergamy so that she will not make a mistake.

However, modern women are too vacuous for me to bother about their shit tests and busybodies. I got more important things to do with my life and time is not on my side. After all, there are other women, so why should I bother?

You don't force rapport with women, if the vibe is not coming from both ends, leave her alone and take a U-turn. It is scarcity mentality and the chase for validation that makes men remain in the friend zone - "I know she's testing me and will soon change her mind and love me for who I am". That's nonsense.

You may not have the women you want as a man, but if you keep to your standard and do not allow these " teenage adults" to discomfort you, with time, you will start dealing with women who will value you and your time and will think twice before shit testing you.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 3:47pm On Sep 07, 2022

[quote author=pillager post=116404841][/quote]1. Texting kills communication and sexual vibes especially when both of you just met recently. The reason is that she is in sync with other guys via texting as she's with you.

2. She can't focus on you because other guys in sync are distracting her. We are only looking at one medium of communication here, let's say phone texting, and we still have myriads of social media apps that she uses to communicate with other guys simultaneously.

3. Even if she has a rapport with you from the onset, validation from other males will reduce her attraction towards you because they are all in an invisible competition with you: to prove that they are better than you and the ones worthy to claim her.

4. If women have this bloated ego and high sense of grandiosity borne out of their solipsism, it is because many men at a time are ready to worship them or even act as a doormat just to win their hearts.

5. Calls are good as it makes her focus her attention on you when you are communicating with her. At that moment of calling, you pause other men from getting in contact with her. But in the end, other men will still call her and erase every impression you have made on her.

6. I collected a girl's number in July, called after a day, had normal laughs and jokes and chit chat and planned for a date. Texted her once but she didn't respond. Called her about a week later, normal chit chats and I ended everything there because she's not interested in me. She said she had a boyfriend and don't want to cheat on him. And she's a 'good' Christian girl too.

And I on the other hand have better things to do than convincing a woman with my human time and airtime, so I let her go.

The rapport when we met was cool but texting and calling couldn't pull the result.

7. So, when a woman isn't into you or was before and later declined, it is not your fault except you know within you that you were the one that fvcked up big time. Rather than bother yourself about why a woman rejects you focus on other women (abundance mentality) or just focus on your life and other better adventures.

8. This now brings us down to genuine desire, she has already preselected you and at the end of the day, after other men have paid obeisance to her, she will pay obeisance to you on your bed. Genuine desire has already filtered you from the pool of other men and makes your job easy with her.

9. Texting and chatting normally reduce sexual tension except if you are straightforward with it as both of you communicate. But it is just like trying to use a hammer to kill a fly.

10. If after your first meeting you establish physical contact with her, and both of you are not distant from each other, you can easily create that sexual vibe.

It is, for this reason, women especially married women should not be allowed to work in men's spaces because any man in that space that creates that sexual vibe in her, will fvck her. Women are emotional, once you create positive emotion via physical contact she will soon succumb except otherwise.

Texting and calling kill sexual vibes. Except you are good-looking and chad though. Or, flexes wealth and status.

DAY 250, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Create physical and emotional bonding when dealing with women.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Is It A Crime To Be Honest In This Country ? by CaveAdullam: 2:53pm On Sep 07, 2022

Jeromejnr:
I have to say, you write and communicate well.

Thank you for your kind words. I do appreciate it. And I promise to improve and do better.

Thanks.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Is It A Crime To Be Honest In This Country ? by CaveAdullam: 2:50pm On Sep 07, 2022

franchasofficia:
When I read some things about Nigerians and how they treat their employees, I just find it hard to believe because I am also an employer of people.

Without being boastful, I pay my least earned staff 35k a month and she is an SSCE holder who just enrolled for a part time Bsc program.

Because of her school, I gave her Saturday off and permission to close early on Fridays and not to report to work any day she is having exam or serious assignment in school.

Her job is in fact more or less like resting in the office and reading for her academics.

I can swear with my life, none of my staff wish to ever leave.

Honestly I still wonder how people feel maltreating others, especially those below you financially, economically and otherwise.

I do all these things as appreciation to God for making me a successful employer in midst of Nigeria's misery, not because i am perfect.

So don't generalize about all entrepreneurs and business owners, there are still some of us that have conscience and fear of God, I am one of them

1. Of course, every rule has an exception, but the exceptions always prove the rule.

When a thing is common, it is better to generalize especially when it follows an observable and empirical approach. If you focus on the exceptions, you will always miss the details that will draw you to the truth and will make it difficult to correct the bigger problem.

2. As with everything, the majority always wins the vote and they decide how things will be run and operated.

Nigeria is considered a Black nation worldwide and beyond because the majority of her population is dark in complexion. Even Africa is still considered a Black continent despite countries like Egypt, Algeria, and Morocco that are similar to Asians facially.

Now coming out to say Nigeria should not be generalized as a black nation because some tribes have a lineage of fair-complexioned individuals and some people are albino reeks of ignorance...hope you now see how your arguments sound.

3. Your staffs are happy with you because as an outlier employer that you claimed to be:

1. You uphold business ethics and principles.

2. You still judge and handle affairs from a human perspective and not just business.

3. Your staffs lack any option when it comes to a better job. So, it is better they love their current job and their boss even if they are tired.

4. They are paying you lip service, bootlicking you because they don't want to lose their jobs. This is normal politics in any office environment: pay lip service to your superiors.

5. Do you say none of your staff ever wish to leave? Are you ready to take this bet?

The bet goes like this: call 2-3 of your trusted staff and tell them that you have recommended them to a company that is willing to pay 4 times their current salary with a free tourist visa vacation every 6 months and other monthly allowances. And that they are to resume in the next month after finishing the other part of the interview, a light interview.

Come back and tell us your result.

Stay good man. Have a nice day.

Thanks.

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Family › Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by CaveAdullam: 12:10am On Sep 07, 2022

You are not a militant as you claim as per your moniker.

What that woman needs is a man that can call and maintain order and discipline.

You perform the duties of a leader but you don't lead. Counterintuitive right? If your woman doesn't respect your order your children will follow suit.

You have done all that needs to be done as a man and breadwinner except there are other things you didn't mention.

Leaders don't beg or try to reason with their followers, they are followers for a reason, a wife for a reason that looks up to her husband for guidance and order.

It will be difficult to restore and maintain order because she will shit test you and work you out of your frame. However, if you can maintain your authority and power, your family will take good shape.

Thanks.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Is It A Crime To Be Honest In This Country ? by CaveAdullam: 11:21pm On Sep 06, 2022*

1. That's the common behavior of private institutions, they use and sap the freshness out of your life because you work under their organization. They feel or think ownership over your life. No matter how much you work for them, it is never appreciated.

2. You will feel bad after one week of resigning. You will go broke, depressed, and helpless. Chances of getting a job above the minimum wage in Nigeria, are as difficult as a camel's head wanting to pass the eye of a needle.

3. But the question is: how long can you be patient with them as you sacrifice your mental health and physical well-being for people who neither appreciate your presence nor value you? The fear of becoming lonely and jobless looms, but is it enough to sacrifice yourself on the altar of hell?

4. The only time you should even consider staying is when your salary can compensate for office politics, silent feuds, and work stress. But if your life is not protected at all corners and constantly subjected to a wild atmosphere, why do you think your salary can suffice?

5. The best way to protect your reputation and that of your mum is to resign. Further pinching on your affairs and character will affect your mum in the long run, and may end up relieving both of you of your work. Your mum is the one acclimatized to that toxic environment, so let her remain. Perhaps, she has learned to counter them and still appreciates her salary. Else, it is better for mother and son device means to opt-out of such a perilous atmosphere.

6. The economy of this nation is bad, and for that reason people just flow with the tides, doing jobs they don't love a bit.

7. You need to fasten up with good plans as you prepare your way out. Assume the company is going to fold up in a week, what will you do? Crack your brain with this question and others stated above and within a short time you will come up with other better plans.

Stay safe. It shall be well.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 9:44pm On Sep 05, 2022

Pukkalolo:
Never, ever, waste your time on a woman who has nothing to offer.

1. Truth be spoken, women have nothing to offer save children. Like every other thing that brings a man pleasure, women are so. But men don't build their worth on pleasure, pleasure is a time away from work. As a man can't constantly engage in pleasures, so he can't be with women. Like pleasure, his dealings with women must be short else he becomes nonchalant.

2. Women become enjoyable when they are of sound character, assiduous, calm, peaceful, intelligent, and suggestive not poke-nosing, assisting, and comforting their man as they tarry in the journey to their destination. Not that she's offering something tangible here, but because of her demeanor, in addition to the shining light, the journey gets smoother, hope waxes stronger and the light dims brighter. On this note, "he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from God". This is comparable to using the right tool for the right job, you will certainly find the treasures you seek.

3. A wife is comparable to "a good thing" because, at that level, she has surpassed other women, she is now in the collection of the 'things' that bring a man joy and comfort. Not because she is a married woman per se, but because she embodies the qualities of a good thing. Meaning that any woman can become a good thing' whether married or not. However, it is submission to a (high value) man which is a quid pro quo for his commitment that elicits this hidden nature of hers. Marriage/commitment becomes an approval and insignia of that nature and character.

4. Disorderliness in relationships is a result of a lack of compatibility: it is either the bad one is unable to fit in or the good one can't control the bad one or both are bad. In any of these scenarios, both can hardly cohabit, there is always friction and a clash of ego and edges. On the male's side it is either because he is low value or doesn't know how to lead, and for the woman, she is aloof from the qualities that make a wife or woman a 'good thing'.

The male and female species have come this far, men want women while women need men. As a good thing, and as a guardian respectively.

Thanks.

DAY 249, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Positive masculinity. Positive femininity.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 9:09pm On Sep 05, 2022

You can fight it, but can't defeat it.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 8:19pm On Sep 05, 2022

DAY 248, REDPILL 2022

A proof that you are becoming a better man is that you don't chase women to seek women's validation.

You flow with the tides - dealing with women as time presents them and facing your productive work as they ebb.

Authority: Maintain frame.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 9:02pm On Sep 04, 2022

DAY 247, REDPILL 2022

CaveAdullam:
1. If you look at life from a realistic point of view it 'doesn't worth living.'

When you are young, you clamor for Independence; when you are old, you are nostalgic about those younger years when you play freely with a cheerful heart and no burden on what you will eat or wear because your parents will take care of that.

2. You don't have, you struggle tooth and nail to have; you now have, you want more or feel depressed because you now understand that one day you will die, and all that you have worked for will be inherited by someone who doesn't know the amount of time, pain, sweat and blood you shed just to achieve your glory; worst case, scenario, it may even be that it is your enemy that will inherit your resources after your death. Sad.

3. Only the living are subjected to these vicissitudes of life: light today, darkness tomorrow; one comfort, two pains.
Those who never exist are never bothered about life's experiences and the dead has escaped life's loop.

4. So, what then is the essence of life? Why not hasten into a mass suicide and be free forever?

5. The humans that have caused much damage on earth are still the humans that make life enjoyable. If you are extremely pessimistic, all you will see is agony and pain. Pessimism will further drive you into nihilism. Optimism also has its dark side: you neglect reality for wishful thinking and hope. No balance on both sides equals depression.

6. Being philanthropic albeit the ever-changing templates of life is how you enjoy it as your ephemeral life declines. The beauty of nature is enough to bless the eyes and soul: beautiful animals, beautiful mountains, beautiful sky, beautiful waters, beautiful plants, etc. enhance your life and will propel you to extrapolate these beauties into your soul and environment.

A good illustration: Birds gave an idea about airplanes, and the beast of burden (camel, bull, donkey) gave an idea about fast-moving cars.

Holding a beautiful child, and beholding a beautiful human also blesses the soul. Once you begin to appreciate the beauty you see that 'life is worth living.' Because you appreciate beauty, you no longer feel pained as you approach death, because you are now at a stage where your soul has elevated above material goods. Philanthropy becomes a norm: you want to always put smiles on grimaced faces. If such character and behavior ripples, everyone becomes one - welcome to paradise. Howbeit, something similar to paradise can be attained, and not paradise itself because humans are a melange of good, bad, and ugly.

7. Every circumstance in life either makes or mars you, it is left for you to paddle these circumstances to suit you. There are always factors beyond your control, and many times, there is nothing you can do about it.

However, you must develop a keen sense of leverage, flexibility, and adaptability as the situation demands. Life doesn't go as planned, you change as the wind changes. Never be caught unaware.

8. There is always conflict at the bottom: the struggle to get to the top. And at the top: the struggle not to fall to the bottom. So, you see, nobody has it all in life. Same conflicts, different struggles.

9. Don't expect a woman to take you seriously for a relationship when you are at the bottom. The same way you will not lust over an ugly woman is the same way a woman will never lust over a poor/average man. So, the poor and ugly can only mate either by enhancing status and beauty respectively or both or learn the art of manipulation - pick up artistry and prostitution(hook up culture and gold-digging).

10. Men are valued for their status while women are valued for their beauty and existence. It takes only the wise and transcendent man to look beyond status and beauty before he can appreciate people, albeit, they are the outliers among humans.

11. Your background, environment, and connections may not be favorable but you must try your possible best to paddle the boat. If don't paddle, you will sink.

There's no one method to succeeding in life except you understand your situation, learn, be flexible and adapt.

Bonus:
12. Be smart and intelligent: this will grant you access to quality people.

13. Learn sales and marketing.

14. Learn a skill and sell it.

Thanks.

Authority: Be strong.

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Family › Re: Is Life Truly Worth A Living? by CaveAdullam: 7:20am On Sep 04, 2022*

1. If you look at life from a realistic point of view it 'doesn't worth living.'

When you are young, you clamor for Independence; when you are old, you are nostalgic about those younger years when you play freely with a cheerful heart and no burden on what you will eat or wear because your parents will take care of that.

2. You don't have, you struggle tooth and nail to have; you now have, you want more or feel depressed because you now understand that one day you will die, and all that you have worked for will be inherited by someone who doesn't know the amount of time, pain, sweat and blood you shed just to achieve your glory; worst case, scenario, it may even be that it is your enemy that will inherit your resources after your death. Sad.

3. Only the living are subjected to these vicissitudes of life: light today, darkness tomorrow; one comfort, two pains.
Those who never exist are never bothered about life's experiences and the dead has escaped life's loop.

4. So, what then is the essence of life? Why not hasten into a mass suicide and be free forever?

5. The humans that have caused much damage on earth are still the humans that make life enjoyable. If you are extremely pessimistic, all you will see is agony and pain. Pessimism will further drive you into nihilism. Optimism also has its dark side: you neglect reality for wishful thinking and hope. No balance on both sides equals depression.

6. Being philanthropic albeit the ever-changing templates of life is how you enjoy it as your ephemeral life declines. The beauty of nature is enough to bless the eyes and soul: beautiful animals, beautiful mountains, beautiful sky, beautiful waters, beautiful plants, etc. enhance your life and will propel you to extrapolate these beauties into your soul and environment.

A good illustration: Birds gave an idea about airplanes, and the beast of burden (camel, bull, donkey) gave an idea about fast-moving cars.

Holding a beautiful child, and beholding a beautiful human also blesses the soul. Once you begin to appreciate the beauty you see that 'life is worth living.' Because you appreciate beauty, you no longer feel pained as you approach death, because you are now at a stage where your soul has elevated above material goods. Philanthropy becomes a norm: you want to always put smiles on grimaced faces. If such character and behavior ripples, everyone becomes one - welcome to paradise. Howbeit, something similar to paradise can be attained, and not paradise itself because humans are a melange of good, bad, and ugly.

7. Every circumstance in life either makes or mars you, it is left for you to paddle these circumstances to suit you. There are always factors beyond your control, and many times, there is nothing you can do about it.

However, you must develop a keen sense of leverage, flexibility, and adaptability as the situation demands. Life doesn't go as planned, you change as the wind changes. Never be caught unaware.

8. There is always conflict at the bottom: the struggle to get to the top. And at the top: the struggle not to fall to the bottom. So, you see, nobody has it all in life. Same conflicts, different struggles.

9. Don't expect a woman to take you seriously for a relationship when you are at the bottom. The same way you will not lust over an ugly woman is the same way a woman will never lust over a poor/average man. So, the poor and ugly can only mate either by enhancing status and beauty respectively or both or learn the art of manipulation - pick up artistry and prostitution(hook up culture and gold-digging).

10. Men are valued for their status while women are valued for their beauty and existence. It takes only the wise and transcendent man to look beyond status and beauty before he can appreciate people, albeit, they are the outliers among humans.

11. Your background, environment, and connections may not be favorable but you must try your possible best to paddle the boat. If don't paddle, you will sink.

There's no one method to succeeding in life except you understand your situation, learn, be flexible and adapt.

Bonus:
12. Be smart and intelligent: this will grant you access to quality people.

13. Learn sales and marketing.

14. Learn a skill and sell it.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 9:05pm On Sep 03, 2022

DAY 246, REDPILL 2022

CaveAdullam:
If you don't care about her, you wouldn't have bothered creating this thread. Behind every line of the words you wrote, there are still underlying feelings for her. Even if you delete her number and block her on all social media accounts you may end up still dovetailing with her. That's if you don't even have her number stored in your memory.

The only way you can overcome something that bothers or threatens you is to hate it. If you do not express hate, you will continue to romance with it even from afar.

Since she doesn't bother nor benefit you in any way, just continue with your productivity, and with time she will bounce out of your memory. Relate and interact with new people. Engage in more meaningful activities. Notwithstanding, block her on all social media accounts and delete her from your contacts.

Thanks.

Authority: Focus.

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Politics › Re: Ogunlesi Reacts To "Jigawa Sharing N193 Billion To Pregnant, Lactating Women" by CaveAdullam: 4:50am On Sep 03, 2022

Pregnant and lactating women can have 193 billion naira while maternity homes, clinics, and hospitals can remain like 1700BC thatch-roof houses.

Bunch of corrúpt dúmb politicians.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 7:22pm On Sep 02, 2022

Osborne69:
Good evening brothers..
I know this is not a pharmaceutical thread, and I don't mean to derail the thread, however, I feel someone here must have been through what this situation of mine, and of course so many people with similar issues may be on this thread but refuse to talk about it, as it looks shameful, I noticed that I have erectile dysfunction, and I have tried everything I could, visited different hospitals (urologists), bought different expensive drugs, yet no improvement/changes, please anyone who knows what else to do should please help me with a response, all the teachings here still end on being able to lead(the most important part which is to be able to fucck), I'm lagging behind in this aspect, I have to kill the shame to talk about it..
Thanks in advance

Less anxiety, more confidence, less stress, rest, sleep, gym, and diet.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 7:18pm On Sep 02, 2022

heartofcity12:
Crazy . Each with his own

From an evolutionary consideration, Stephon is right, because pvssy ----> Reproduction ---->Children ----> genetic pool.

So, as far as nature, biology, and genetic pool are concerned, it is good for a man to have a fair share of pvssy. But what we do most times when it comes to sex is just recreation and pleasure.

James is also right: don't put pvssy on a pedestal or see it as something you should die for. Focus on good activities and you will do well even without pvssy.
But most times, guys use this line as a coverup to mask their inefficiency with women. They are suffering from oneitis, they think they are not better because few women rejected them. Or, they should just face their goals squarely absent women. Meanwhile, an abundance mindset is key for women.

In summary: Stephon is promoting game. James is promoting maintaining frame.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 6:49pm On Sep 02, 2022

Someoneschild2:
Whoever told them to play the time game with men really fvcked women over.

"Serial date, you can't stay with one man for long" Translation; loyalty is overrated,waste your time spending your "pair bonding batteries"

"You don't need to care about what anyone says"
Translation; You can be a loud mouth and a vulgar piece of trash.

"Your body,your choice"
Translation; Fvck whoever gets that pvssy wet,b!tch...YOLO

"Na fat you fat,you no kill person"
Translation; You shouldn't mind being an obese, unhealthy human being prone to different health issues so he can spend his time and resources in hospitals rather than building his legacy.

"If a man can do it,you can too"
Translation; Always challenge his authority, you are just as equal to him.

"Enjoy your youth and live your best life"
Translation; make sure you get damaged in your prime when you still have all the leverage

"Chase the cheque"
Translation; Sacrifice your femininity and motherhood(your most valuable assets) on the altar of power.

What did I miss out?

Tell me which man worth his weight in gold will settle for these kind of women? If y'all do, I know i won't

If you don't save your daughters, they will be our playthings. We'll rather win than let them screw us over.

For them to think we have only these women in this society as our options is crazy thinking. Man can always go elsewhere to find a feminine woman. How many high value men from anywhere in the planet will settle for a woman who is past her prime, with all those trashy attributes?

My own na to siddon dey watch sha because Lord knows I'm going the "di caprio" way

"Only virgin men should seek virgin women".

Translation: "I'm a damaged h0e".

DAY 245, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Avoid h0es.

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Romance › Re: How Do I Make Her Know That I Dont Care About Her Anymore? by CaveAdullam: 6:19pm On Sep 02, 2022*

If you don't care about her, you wouldn't have bothered creating this thread. Behind every line of the words you wrote, there are still underlying feelings for her. Even if you delete her number and block her on all social media accounts you may end up still dovetailing with her. That's if you don't even have her number stored in your memory.

The only way you can overcome something that bothers or threatens you is to hate it. If you do not express hate, you will continue to romance with it even from afar.

Since she doesn't bother nor benefit you in any way, just continue with your productivity, and with time she will bounce out of your memory. Relate and interact with new people. Engage in more meaningful activities. Notwithstanding, block her on all social media accounts and delete her from your contacts.

Thanks.

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Programming › Re: Wordpress Wahala Please Help by CaveAdullam: 6:12pm On Sep 02, 2022

airsaylongcome:
This, is what Nairaland should be about. Helping out each other for minor tasks like this. Major tasks can be monetized

qtguru is a very good person. I don't know him personally but I have relied on him referring someone for a WP job. And he is not a greedy person. He readily recommends upcommers for gigs. And I don't take his recommendations lightly. And even though he doesn't know me personally he has also highly recommended me. There was someone on his slack channel that messaged him about a role I had shared on his slack. He gave his unbiased opinion about me and today, that person is at interview stage after three exams. I'm hoping that one day I will come out from "hiding" as anonymous and me and him can link up in real life. Happy to hear that your WP "wàhálà" has been resolved following the advise they gave. We rise by lifting others

You my prof, tensazangetsu20, Hannania, DrLevi, and Qtguru are men made in heaven. Is it the free flow of information? The encouragement? The enlightenment? You men are good.

May you all reap good in life always.

Thanks.

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Education › Re: Nigerian Slay Queen Arrives Her Graduation In Expensive Convoy, Wows Colleagues by CaveAdullam: 9:40am On Sep 02, 2022

BRATISLAVA:
Don't mind the commenters on this thread. Their angry, poor little minds don't go in this direction. All they know is that she must be a prostitute. As if politicians and directors don't have daughters in Nigeria.

1. Even if her father and family line are politicians, it reeks of low intelligence to flex wealth. It is good to have good looks and own all the luxuries your money can buy but as with all things in life, balance is required; the people and environment you are dealing with matter a lot.

2. Nigeria is an underdeveloped country that breeds corrupt and rapacious politicians. A politician's daughter that flexes her father's (stolen) wealth in the face of the peasant's children that voted him into power is stupidity. She is just breeding a seething cauldron of hate, envy, and jealousy in the minds and hearts of these children and their parents.

3. Not that it same security allocated to her as her father, and she is in a different environment from her father. Her father is always in the midst of people like him, unlike her that who is found with the peasants considering the length of her course of study. So, why flex and intimidate?

It is just like boasting about a glass of water in a desert when you know it will not go around. You are simply calling for danger.

4. On the other hand, you can see the children of peasants applauding and hailing her because they are lost in a culture that puts artificial beauty first, praises worldliness and flashiness, and only promotes materialism. If not they would have seen that their destinies had been shortchanged.

Everything in that video exudes a poor mentality.

Thanks.

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Education › Re: Nigerian Slay Queen Arrives Her Graduation In Expensive Convoy, Wows Colleagues by CaveAdullam: 8:38am On Sep 02, 2022

Fernandeswagger:
Words on marble!

A million thanks, I feel like I just read a classic. We need more lightbearers like you in Nigeria. With minds such as yours, there's a glimmer of hope for Nigeria.

Thank you for your kind words. I do appreciate it. Promise to improve and do better.

Evil can only be conquered if we remove the stool it stands upon, take hold of the tools it used for ruling, pursue good and look beyond ourselves.

Thanks.

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Education › Re: Nigerian Slay Queen Arrives Her Graduation In Expensive Convoy, Wows Colleagues by CaveAdullam: 7:20am On Sep 02, 2022*

Fernandeswagger:
Wow. I couldn't have said it better. So much truths in your write up. Unfortunately Nigeria of today doesn't reward honesty and hardwork any more. It's all about blings and flashy things regardless of how it's gotten, all about man know man. It's really unfortunate.

1. Everybody cares about results without necessary consideration of the process that's involved and the unintended consequences. I can easily trace this back to motivational talks which harangue listeners to focus more on results because nobody cares about their secret and hard work. "You are not known until we see your result" is a major component of motivational tongues. Not that the statement is wrong, but motivational leaders have either failed to properly explain that life occurs in unpredicted phases or they did, but the listeners didn't understand.

2. The game of numbers is a vital component of life, the higher the number the higher the result. The majority wins the vote. A higher number of customers brings more profits. A higher score brings higher grades. Similarly, a higher number of dumb people occupying a geographical terrain brings a higher level of underdevelopment.

3. No matter how much truth is enunciated, it will never find a landing place, but remain floating in the air. Because until the numbers appreciate it, it will not land. The only way it can land with fewer adherents is if the adherents become 'truth extremists' - not in the way ideologues or religious people perform their ideologies, but the way patriots, nationalists, and freedom fighters do.

4. Truth and light can never be hidden for long, they will find a place and a time to express and shine respectively. But the continuous adjourning of truth and light when it is needed in an immediate time like this will make us linger in falsehood, lies, and darkness. This will remain the case until a generation of truth seekers defers the status quo, look beyond comfort and materialism, and have the existence of future generations at heart.

5. The children of the (dark) world will always take the center stage if their hands are always on the tools that ought to be used by the children of light. Misplaced priority right?

6. Not only in Nigeria, the celebration of flashiness, luxury, debauchery and hedonism is global, the internet has the statistics. The display of madnéss in the global North is borne out of comfort while in the global South it is borne out of suffering and underdevelopment; same result, different approaches.

7. Regardless of the number, it is better to die poor on the right side, howbeit, it is sacrosanct one leverage on the benefits of being on the right side to live a good and reputable life, than die comfortably on the wrong side. Because in the end, truth, honesty, and, integrity will always prevail no matter the delay or denial.

Thanks.

Cc. MemoriesAndMe, Philipmaxwell, Antyxx et al.,

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Education › Re: Nigerian Slay Queen Arrives Her Graduation In Expensive Convoy, Wows Colleagues by CaveAdullam: 9:44pm On Sep 01, 2022*

1. Celebration of materialism, entertainment, and theatre are potent signs of a declining or failed society.

2. These young people will never celebrate the young man striving to survive on the street, they will look down on the young girl hawking her merchandise to make ends meet. Because their lives are not flashy, they don't exude a perfume of luxury and greed. But one thing you can't take from these men and women is the wisdom and strength birthed out of their life's struggles and experiences.

3. Younger minds of today have been bastardized by every show of flashiness, there lies their dopamine hit. They are myopic, lazy, complacent, and vapid because they don't value what's not glamouring like gold. Their rights have been taken away from them via entertainment, but they will accuse, rush and attack you when you bring this to their notice.

4. Their role models are fraudsters, prostitutes, sociopaths, the corrupt, weak, arrogant, and neurotic. These are their golden calves, their gods, and their oracle.

5. Flexing wealth is always a sign of low IQ except it is a result of official duties. The dumb and low in intelligence flex wealth because it veneers their feebleness and drawbacks because they lack what's true: wisdom, character, integrity, competence, kindness, modesty, brave, assertiveness, confidence, and courage. These qualities are not flashy and will not be glorified by the generations of dumb fellows.

6. Flexing wealth is one thing, but having the capacity to protect your life after the flexing is the most vital because you have awakened sleeping demons and devils that reside in manipulations, greed, envy, and jealousy. A case of penny wise pounds foolish.

7. Will I say, unfortunately? Ironically, a society that needs growth, truth, and freedom is the same society that will jettison and throw immaterial transcendental virtues under the bus when it comes to beautiful looks, flashy cars, designer clothes, fanciful gadgets, shining jewelry, and polished shoes. A weak generation indeed!

Sigh.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 5:15pm On Sep 01, 2022

Light999333:
Okay I'm in Lagos, so the closest is Ogun. I'd ask, would you give me an estimate of the pay for the one in Ogun state?

34k after tax has been deducted. It is 35k on paper.

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Health › Re: Tim Godfrey Healed Of Paralysis After Scientists Told Him His Bones Are Old by CaveAdullam: 5:13pm On Sep 01, 2022*

His God didn't reveal the condition of his illness, it took a perfected MRI machine to do so. He even went home after "some treatments".

Had it been this was revealed to him by his God and same healing, it would have made sense a bit.

Religious people don't understand religion a bit, and I'm convinced about this fact.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 4:50pm On Sep 01, 2022

Light999333:
I will do anything, just to keep myself busy. If it stains my hands, it's okay. For me to bring my personal issue online for everyone to see (including the trolls, who will use this to mock me at some point on this thread), it signifies I'm desperate for something. It was not even easy bringing this here. I'm still appealing to brothers here, if anyone has anything that could keep me occupied and pay me for my efforts, I'd be happy to do the job. Even if it's online or some physical location. If I can't get help here, it's still cool.

The only available ones I know of are teaching jobs, locations: Edo, Abia, and Ogun. If you can do the job, I will send you the location if you are ready. September is here already, school is about to resume.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 3:16pm On Sep 01, 2022

Light999333:
A brother needs help now. I need help with a job. This year, I've visited the American embassy twice - one in Lagos, and one in Abuja- but I was denied the visa these 2 times. So, I'm putting this out here for brothers to see, incase anyone has any decent job for me to do. I got admitted into the master's program for Industrial Engineering at South Dakota school of Mines and Technology, in the U.S. but I couldn't get the visa to go study. I have a mechanical engineering degree, but I can do any decent job, at least to raise money to apply to other promising schools. I really need someone to assist me NOT with money, but with an opportunity to find something to do. Attached is a copy of the denial letter I was given at the American embassy in lagos.

There are no good "collar" jobs around bro. Yes, there are decent jobs, but you must dirty your fingers.

I can't advise anyone to come into the corporate(office) world except online when I'm making plans to exit; because it is taking a negative turn on my mental and physical health.

If you are ready to close your eyes to shame and ridicule for a temporary time, you will break through.

Not saying office work is bad, but if the payment can compensate for the stress, please don't hesitate to resume duty the following morning. Otherwise, better start carrying your cross now to cavalry, than carry it forever in an office.

I heard one guy got a favored sponsorship on Twitter, almost the same issue as you. Money was raised for his study in the USA in a matter of hours. You can also try that method bro.

You will succeed.

Thanks.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 2:53pm On Sep 01, 2022

DAY 244, REDPILL 2022

As a man, aim for competence and integrity. It may not fetch you money, but with such a standard, you prove to be an insurmountable force.

Live this standard; judge by this standard.

Once you prove to be different, you can easily see people and devise possible ways how to deal with them.

Id!ots abound, but you must endeavor to separate them from the sheep.

Authority: Avoid contamination.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 2:39pm On Sep 01, 2022

CaveAdullam:
If his account was suspended that's fine.

Right here and now, I'm on the verge of losing my job because of a woman.

Simps and women will ruin you.

More details coming later.

Duty as usual. Both supervisor(woman) and manager(man) are just pretending nothing happened. Perhaps they must have considered my points and found it beyond rebuttals; I really expressed my anger and emotions yesterday(plus the Nigeria economy). I can be anything in this life, but I don't tolerate nonsense.

They didn't invite me today, me that have prepared better speech - me that's first a "talkative and parrot". Lol.

I know they are cooking something underneath, much hateful pressure on my job and other useless activities; I will definitely damn the consequences.

Going back to square one has never been a new thing..."street pikin like me".

PS: This is the movie,the prequel is yet on the way.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 3:06pm On Aug 31, 2022

BigCee0:
Just seeing this now. Can someone confirm what happened.

CaveAdullam
Ubunja
Alhabaze etc

If his account was suspended that's fine.

Right here and now, I'm on the verge of losing my job because of a woman.

Simps and women will ruin you.

More details coming later.

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