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pansophist:
Honestly I've tried so much for a long time to determine where that mentality comes from. I think about it alot. How lots of women operate from a position of perfection, that showing up with body is contribution and valuable,

My conclusion is that its a feature of weakness, or as the bible put it, a weaker vessel. You know, empty can makes the loudest noise.

Because to be fair, I've seen few women that are hardworking and strife to bring value to the table, that think in terms of contributing not just suffocating others. It's an energy thing. All women have the ability be strong, but most choose to be weak instead and be a burden to others.

A woman that have achieved literally nothing except bad behaviours, entitlements and false sense of worth would feel she is a catch, and a hardworking man that have build himself up front to scratch is not good enough for her.

CaveAdullam:
1. The way he's a fugitive to his fraud victims is the same way his girlfriend is a fugitive to him. Now, he understands the feelings that come with being a victim of a scam and other fraudulent activities. Thief catch thief. Lol.

Ok, that's for that.

2. Say no to crime in whatever shape, style, and color. But be ruthless in the attainment of genuine goals and ambitions.

3. Women have men they love. No matter what you do for them they will remain loyal to that man. Rich or poor, it doesn't matter.

4. You cannot buy a woman's love with money. Showing her money from the onset is like exposing your wounds to dogs. They will lick and parasitize on you till they fill their stomach.

5. If you are a rich man, weigh every word of your sexual partner twice, thrice, several times. Same with other people.

They don't love you. What they love is your money.

6. Don't be blinded by love. Romance is an adventure for men, but many men have fallen there without being able to rise because they were not wise and proactive in their dealings with women.

7. Your woman should not know the secret of your business. Don't allow romance to make you become an open book and easily predictable. Refer to 6 above.

8. Once a woman starts pressurizing you, you must take time to know the underlying factor responsible for it. Most times, it is a way of manipulation.

9. When people hasten you to do something, they probably have something to gain. And they will abandon you if the results backfire. Thread with caution.

9. Avoid every form of a long-distance sexual relationship. The cost always outweighs the reason or benefit behind it.

10. You don't monitor or spy on women. That's a fool's job.

Once you suspect any ulterior motive caution her. If it persists, disown her. Time spent acting as an undercover should be channeled into other productive areas of life. With women, guts and intuitions take the lead. Then, follow with reason.

11. If she allows other men in her DM and space when in a relationship, it means you are still an option. This should make you never take her seriously. Just fun and cruise.

Women can only be loyal to one man. If she's not, she's for the street. Refer to the 3 above.

12. Don't take women at face value. Before you commit to her, you must examine her thoroughly.

You will know a woman's true color when you are poor than when you are rich. In the presence of abundance, manipulators are attentive and pretentious.

Who stands by you when you are poor? Who wants to exchange value for value with you? This is a litmus test to determine the quality of people you should take as acquaintances.

13. If she's not consistent with her behavior dump her. Except she's ascending.

14. Don't spend on women that have not submitted to you. (Marriage is the seal).

15. Men and women can't be friends. But if she insists, never spend. Only reciprocate kind gestures.

16. Don't believe every word women say. Judge their character and words. Refer to 5 above.

17. Better to help men than women. Ungrateful people abound, but in the scenario that anyone will help you when you're in a tough challenge, the probability that it will be a man is higher. Women don't associate with losers. (Even the poor man she's loyal to provides her emotional feelings and things other men can't).

18. If you want to help a woman, help her father, brother, nephew, boyfriend, fiance, husband, or son. These people will help her. But you have helped them to better their lives and they can now help their women.

19. Don't fall for romance because it will ruin you as a man. Guard your edges in your dealings with women. Refer to 6 above.

20. Say no to fraud. Say no to crime. Truth, logic, wisdom, and integrity no matter how ignored or bastardized are the only savior that can help us as individuals and as a society. Money is material and can never erase their importance.

Thanks.

airsaylongcome:
I don't want to address the other points because I'm not ready to engage in a long-drawn battle. Apart from on this thread, can you provide references for where I made the bolded quote (putting it in quotes suggest you are quoting my words verbatim)

airsaylongcome:
The military doesn't lower standards for women. They set different standards because the male and the female bodies are different in size. Put medicine on the table. Or engineering. Are female surgeons less competent than their male counterparts? Do female surgeons get tested differently from their male colleagues?

tayewomi:
thank you boss!!i knew better now..And all other bosses tnks and be blessed.

tayewomi:
imagine asking someone to gift you money, and they immediately send u their acct number. I'm done with this type of being ��

emmaodet:
Authority: Self-Respect

Pukkalolo:
What you said make some sense at least on a rational point of view...but then recently after I went through my cousin's social media and saw the battalion men in her DM telling her to "COME TO MY HOUSE" in their own different words, then suddenly what you said doesn't seem to make sense anymore.....

(Note: My cousin's is very beautiful and she's 22 years: she's in her prime. Hundreds of guys are wooing her steadily and trying to invite her to their place. )

Yes, you're right in the sense that a guy has to test a girl to confirm female sexual attraction/genuine desire; at least the purpose is that so he won't waste his time, but the problem is the ''COME TO MY HOUSE'' part that you talked about.

Here's why:.

Most times guys think they have dating problems; but what they really have is "Self-Respect" problem. Their lack of self-respect is only reflecting in their dating lifes.

Pukkalolo:
Back in the days, when I was struggling with girls, I always wondered why. But then I eventually realize that the reason why it was so was because I was trying to get pussy instead of trying to build self-respect. When I stopped being pussy focused and start being RESPECT focused, that was when women started responding to me differently and started giving me the treatment I want.

A guy who is pussy focused is all about being liked and trying to get her to come to his place and give him sex.

Pukkalolo:
The truth is, if you develope a high self-respect... instead of telling a girl to come to your house, you'd actually be more careful about the kind of girl you invite your house. You'd no longer be impressed with just physical appearance anymore.... Instead of being concerned about getting sex, as a high self respect guy, you'll more concerned about not dealing with the wrong girl; you don't want a girl who's higly deceitful, gold diggers, drama queens, mannerless, bitchy, STD infected or any other has any other negative traits.

Pukkalolo:
I see many guys say "women have nothing to offer and the only thing they can offer is sex"

But that's a lie.

If you're pussy focused, then it will seem like sex is the only thing women can offer because sex is what you're focused on trying to get.

I think women have more to offer apart from sex." Women can be very nice, nurturing and supportive, if you give them the opportunity to.

The first nice job I had it was a lady i dated back then that connected me to it. I've got ladies who bring food stuff for me and cooked for me. I've got ladies who has help promote my biz on their social media for free and many more...

If I was pussy focused and all about trying to get her to come to my house and give me sex, I might not enjoy those benefits. These ladies respect me that's why they do things for me.

Pukkalolo:
If you've read any popular dating advice book for women, you noticed that most of the advice is often centered around playing hard to get and making it difficult for men to have access to their pussy.

One of the two best-selling dating advice books for women are "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and "The Power Of Pus*y" by Katty King. In this books, women are told that most men are desperate, thirsty and Hot for sex and men are all about "come to my crib". And so these books advice women to use their pussy to gain control over men and they should always not give up the pussy easily, and more importantly they should pretend they don’t like men that they’re actually interested in.


So, telling guys to tell a girl to ''COME TO MY HOUSE'' is almost miserable because hundreds guys are already telling her that, and it also re-establish the fact that most men are desperate, thirsty for sex and men are just about "come to my crib."

The sad thing about this generation of young men is that they are the horniest and most desperate for sex. Men in the past generations were not really like this. The reason is not far-fetched.

The men of the past decades were naturally strong and alpha because life force them to be so... Their women naturally respect them.
Most of these men were farmers, hunters, cattle keepers and soldiers. The average young man of those days don't even have the time to be telling girls to "come to my house" because he's busy hunting antelopes and lions or he's at the war front defending his country and trying to conquer territories..

But this generation of men are weak and feel sex-starved because we are not experiencing the harsh nature of the olden days...so we've got lots of time to idle away begging girls for sex.

I always tell guys to careless about getting sex. The reasons some guys are finding difficult to get sex is because they are trying to get sex... Sounds ironic, but that's the truth.

You should careless about getting sex and care more about getting RESPECT.

When most guys are wooing a girl, they are more concerned about trying to make her like him, trying to get her to "COME TO HIS HOUSE" and trying to get sex. There's nothing necessary wrong with that, but the problem is getting sex shouldn't even be the goal. The goal should be achieving SELF-RESPECT, and getting sex should only be a side effect of that.

Remember, this generation of men is the horniest, weakest and least respected by women. One reason for that is because this generation of men are more concern about getting sex and getting female acceptance..

This is why unlike most guys, when interacting with a woman I'm less concerned about getting sex and being liked her. Instead I'm more concerned about getting RESPECT...

The sad thing is, most young beautiful ladies often view men has Hot, weak and desperate for sex, so when interacting with a her for the first time, she's kinda seeing you that way. This is you should always seek every opportunity to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT.

Pukkalolo:
99% of the time, the woman gives you the oppurtunity to so you when she starts acting bitchy, rude or difficult... When you're more concerned about being liked and getting sex, you’d probably end up just accepting her bitchy, rude or difficult behavior, by ignoring it or laughing it off. And as a result, you won't get the girl despite all your efforts with her, and you'll be wondering what you're doing wrong.

A woman often provides an abundance of opportunities to for you to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT.
For example, let say you try to initiate a conversation with an attractive lady, and you say “hi” to her, but she just looked back at you from head disdainfully and say "please can I help you?".

If you're like most guys(pussy focused), you would try to make a joke of her bitchy, rude or difficult behavior; or pretend it didn’t happen, and try to say something that would calm the her down and make her cheerful. By doing that, you're only giving her more power and re-confirming the fact that men are Hot, weak and desperate.

Never forget that when an attractive lady start misbehaving, she's clearly aware of it. She knows exactly what she's doing. She's curious to see how you respond to that situation.

In that situation, if you're RESPECT focused, you'll see that as opportunity to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT. You respond by calmly and confidently calling her attention to her rude and difficult behavior: "That was rude...I believe you are better than this!”

You are indirectly telling her that you deserve to be treated right.

You'd get either of these outcomes:
1.) She gets more bitchy, rude and difficult, and then you respond by walking away from her immediately.
Or
2.) She softened immediately... and talk to you in a more respectful and polite manner.

The outcome itself doesn't really matter, what matters is that you've changed the entire dynamic of how she view you. She would never view you as a dude that is Hot, weak and desperate for sex.

The average guy is pussy focused and lack respect for himself--- that's why he's in the other room begging a girl that he should put "just the tip inside"

You can never see a guy who's RESPECT FOCUSED begging a girl for sex or relationship.

RESPECT should always come first. Sex or relationship can come later if they want to. You should never be part of an interaction where you're not being treated with respect.

As a guy, It doesn't matter whether you get sex or not. What matter is that you never accept being DISRESPECTED.

Stay blessed.

DonEvarest:
very true. Just saw a facebook post in a group which enjoined the members who are single and searching to post their pictures with their names, country, and age attached for probable finding of a partner. Omo, wetin burst my bubbles is that majority of those that posted their pictures seeking for "a real man who'd take" them for who they are and love them and their kids are ladies above 26 years, divorced with kids, single mums and the likes. Funny enough their standards never go below loving, caring, fat account for their sought out partners. The Redpill never lies about female nature indeed. They'd always seek provisioning from Kings (men) and some folks would rather make you believe that men ain't the price. Haha

emmaodet:
Bro, even being chosen won't save a man, it will only make the relationship easy for him.
Let's take a moment and roll back......We men have always being the one choosing our women. They dress up and walk in the street, we see a lady we like out of many and approach her which means a pre-selection has been done by us.
Does it make the lady immune to our approaching another woman? No
We go to the mall, see another lady that falls within our range and approach again. School, church, events just name it.
A lady may like you and give you greenlight today and next week meets Jide who just came back from abroad...handsome, good looking, etc and next month meets James at an event who falls within her pre-selection too.
To me, a woman giving you greenlight or selecting you is just for the moment, it may change next week or next month, or next year
Just enjoy a relationship and don't take it too seriously is my motto

Zeekaycn:
Is it that people don't know how to live freely, peacefully and happily in Nigeria? Yes I agree that there are so many challenges in Nigeria but I tell you for free, Nigeria is the most free country in the world. You can become anything you want.

Zeekaycn:
I don't understand how someone with over N10million will spend all that money searching for green pastures, to me you are already on a fresh green pasture.

Zeekaycn:
This is a total scam, you spend so much money educationing yourself to work for people (Whites) who don't even have your level of education.

The huge money you spend educating yourself goes to their purse, you graduate and work to better their economy.

I think Africa is really sponsoring the well being of the Western world. Back home we use all our savings to buy gadgets, expensive cars and phones. Cars that we don't even have roads to drive them. They keep releasing new version of phones, imagine people using expensive phone for a show off. Don't we think our monies are still going back to where these luxuries are imported from?

Celebrities keep upgrading their garages without employable investment. If I talk they will say what concerns you. If you know the amount of money going out from Nigeria alone for importation of phones you will cry. Yes phones are useful but using phone that worth 500k or above while you are earning below 150k is waste, subscription not even included.

Zeekaycn:
We keep blaming government for making life difficult but when we manage to raise the money we can't invest. We have empty land everywhere, no farming, and foodstuffs are getting scarce now, but someone will prefer to raise like 5 million to go and do care job abroad.

I'm tired of the black man mentality

Kipaji:
Men should focus on work, legacy, nature, and God; not on relationship and sex.
It's important and very useful to get a deep understanding of relationship and sex. But this should not be our main focus on life. As men, we have to aspire to something higher.
Men, If you have any love left for this world, please calibrate your focus and get back to work.
Why? Because as pansophist likes to say, men create the world and women integrate into it. Civilization going South as degeneracy, idiocy, perversion, and immorality are becoming mainstream is a reflection of the men we have in society.

Now, you are going to ask me what about women? Aren't women also part of society? Shouldn't they actively contribute to the rebuilding of society too? Especially given the "equality" propaganda they feed our ears with? Personally, I believe that, for the most part, women just adapt to men in society. If women behave a certain way, it's because men (their fathers, their husbands, patriarchs ...) allow it. Women (for the most part) don't care, they just want to have fun and satisfy their personal interests.

If 70% of men become laser focused on important things, control (or at least canalise) their lust, maintain their masculine frame and simply don't tolerate (and support BS and depravity) from women and society, I just give it a few years, if not a few months before most women behave as desired.

But instead, men of today are contradictory. If most men simply decided to not give any of their precious attention and focus to hoes, there would be much less of them going around.
They say they don't want thots but they are lusting on their whatsapp status and instagram posts, watching Xvids and Prnhub, entertaining these women, making and watching countless of videos about them everyday.
They say women are disrespectful, but forget that nobody can disrespect you if you don't allow it and cut it short and respect yourself. They say women dressing scantily is bad, but they are giving their attention and energy to scantily dressed women.
They say women are materialistic, but they simp their money away to women.
They say women are not submissive, but they don't build themselves into someone worthy of submission and still allow non-submissive women in their life.
They say you can't make a hoe a wife, but they are still marrying thots.
I can go on and on but you get it.

Men, how important your attention and energy are can't be stressed enough. If women choose to become whatever we find undesirable (public hoes, disrespectful, feminists, unsubmissive, ...), we can choose to not allow these women in our reality by not wasting our precious time, attention, and energy on them.

Artiiclebeast:
Even if you go on to grant each State in the present day Nigeria the autonomy to be an individual country in their own right, the very same things plaguing us today on the Federal level will still be ever-present.

The issue of what tribe is superior within a state won't be a thing of the past.

The issue of a dominant tribe within a state perpetually holding on to power and ruling over the state's minority tribe or religion won't be a thing of the past.

There are so many issues to solve with this Nigeria and it needs to begin right from our selves.

Until we begin to put the love of our Country and States way above our penchant and bias for tribal, religious, and ethnic affiliations, including respect for one another's views and opinions no matter how much it doesn't tally with ours, we'll continue to go in circles with no end in sight.

We are too selfish, self-centred, tribalistic, hate-filled, and lack trust/respect for one another.

We despise and hate ourselves so much that even when we pretend to come together to fight for a common cause we often do so to use and dump the minorities among us. We are often times insincere and manipulative in our ways.

We have a lot of value re-orientation and self-evaluation to do.