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Politics › Re: Have You Ever Been Embarrassed Abroad ( Share Your Experience) by Cavenchy(m): 11:36am On Apr 15, 2016

barbiesparkz2:
I don't know how long ago your case was, but nowadays you are not allowed to carry drinks on board, especially for international flights.

Sometimes, the racism we experience is first established in our minds.

I understand that, the law was that way even then, but the issue wasn't that she didn't permit it on board the aircraft. The fact is that she knew there was another sealed one in the bag but she was ready to let that get on board. So it wasn't really a matter of her following the law now. She didn't like the idea of a black man with a half empty bottle. Even so she could have easily stated the law rather than ask a passenger to consume it in front of her, it shows her suspicion was beyond the law. It's called Racial Profiling.

And might I add, not all liquids are not permitted, some airports have a transparent bag and you are asked to place all liquids in it.

Updated: You were still racially profiled, even if it ended with a smile.

Politics › Re: Have You Ever Been Embarrassed Abroad ( Share Your Experience) by Cavenchy(m): 11:07am On Apr 15, 2016*

Frankfurt, worst airport ever as far as racial profiling is concerned, like the guy above posted. Some many years ago, this rude old lady scanned and picked up my carry-on luggage, saw a half empty bottle of juice and requested me to finish it at the checkpoint or have it taken away. I simply told her, "I think you've missed the second unopened bottle in the bag as well, you can have both". She acted like she couldn't understand English properly and kept insisting on the half empty one she was holding. I knew she was skeptical about the one that was half empty because I was black, but at the same time she wanted me to keep the second bottle of juice in the bag (which was the same brand anyway) because that one was sealed. At this point, I had enough of her bickering, so I reached for the bag and pulled out the second one, gave it to her and told her have a nice day (Guten Tag in German). She took them and released the bag to me. But the look on her face was epic, lol. I have been to several airports and I know sometimes they let you pass with drink bottles, but this lady tried to act out the law simply because she thought being black means a harmless juice could become a weapon (juice I had bought in an airport on a connecting flight, I might add). Even though she didn't want to take the second sealed one, I let her have both of them and truly observe the whole of the law so she sees for herself what she really was. And her facial expression afterwards made me smile the rest of my journey.
Apart from that, everything else so far has been peachy cheesy

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Romance › Re: What This White Man Thinks About Black Women (PIC) True? by Cavenchy(m): 8:43am On Apr 15, 2016*

Business › Re: VIDEO: Everyone Muse See This, Should You Hide Your Ideas? by Cavenchy(m): 6:18am On Apr 15, 2016

My thoughts exactly, this is a problem in the black community all over the world and by extension Nigerians, from an early age, most other races make 'making wealth' a subject of discussion at dinner tables and among friends, our people do not talk about making wealth, they rather talk about what one can buy than how to make it. Give the average black man 1 million dollars the first thing he buys is a Big house and a Flashy Big Car, then expensive jewelry, only after he has done these that he begins to think about investing, but sooner or later the things he bought gulp the rest of his capital in maintenance. The black man's selfish spending habits are off the roof, they barely save or invest anything, where would they build a financial culture for their children to learn from? Our future generations need to be saved from this travesty hindering the capacity of the black man to compete favourably with other races.

There is a video by Dr. Umar Johnson that explains this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w2eCpdEZ0A

Now back to the topic, I thought the problem of hoarding ideas only existed with Black people in Europe and the states, but I later realised its even worse in Nigeria. Your ideas would die with you if you keep them hidden, someone said the Graveyard is the richest place on earth because there lies inventions that never saw the light of day: ideas that were never put to use. All because they are afraid someone else will steal their ideas, they never discuss with you. I contend that Nigeria and Africa has some of the greatest graveyards because a third of the ingenuity of our people were never put to use. The white man takes your people to his land, harnesses your ideas and puts them to use, because left to the black man, he would not tell anyone his ideas if he can not carry them out himself. And because he is not ready to put it to use, he dies with it and the country and continent suffers for lack of it. Now its easy for me to create my own thread or my own video put these my opinions and ideas in it and monetise it the way the guy in the video (posted by the Op) did, but I also know I have my own vocations and I cant monetize every single idea I get, so why not share it and let people learn? the average black man would think about these things I've posted and wait till he sets up a channel of his own and make his own monetised video before displaying his ideas, he would think the OP will steal his ideas if he posts them here. That is counter-productive and this has kept Africans down for too long.

Politics › Re: I Feel Your Pains And I Will Not Disappoint You, Buhari Tells Nigerians by Cavenchy(m): 10:59am On Apr 09, 2016

BUHARI WAS REPRESENTED BY HIS MINISTER FOR INFORMATION

Family › Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Cavenchy(m): 7:03am On Apr 04, 2016*

On a second look at the topic, I think the OP believes her husband has just shown his true colour. And is no longer ashamed to admit he married her for her beauty, the smile he gave when he said those words to her is quite suspicious, considering the fact that he mentioned to her that he was at her mercy then when he didn't want to lose her but now no longer feels the need to keep her happy all the time and could care less what she says or feels. One starts to wonder, is the age difference that much that he suddenly can not even see reason in communicating with his wife? or is he just the kind that feels he is too big to laugh? This might be the case of those local traditionally-inclined men, who believe a wife's purpose is just to warm the bed, cook and give birth to kids, they wont even share their day or business plans with the woman as they believe as long as she doesn't go hungry she has no right to complain. OP I really hope this isn't the kind of man you married? The kind that knows they don't deserve you but because you are materialistic they happily use their money to charm you while courting, smiling and jovial the whole time, knowing they would open your eyes when you eventually place the ring on your finger and say I do. I have seen a man from a popular Nigerian pre-wedding day video interview, say that all that matters to him is for her to say I do, and that he knows his wife is more interested in the honeymoon location, the young pretty wife was there and acknowledged she cant wait to travel to this exotic place, do all the shopping and what not, but he kept saying all that matters is the I do, and with the smirk on his face you could tell he probably would switch his behaviour after that happens. Now while we don't know what happened in their marriage afterwards, I think it's something a wise woman would notice in his behaviour even before marriage, this seems to be common in marriages with long age gaps too and I hope OP isn't a victim of such. However, the things you agreed to do in your previous post would still go a long way in fixing your marriage as it might change how your husband sees you from the 'ceremonial wife' to the 'co-operative helpmeet'. I have written this so other young single ladies on this thread could learn and possibly review their decisions thoroughly before they sign that register. That old ready-made manfriend(won't say bf) smiling all the time and ever ready to part with his cash, might actually be a monk (like someone here said) who is only interested in having a pretty wife to procreate with cos he is already old and under a lot of pressure from society to stop acting irresponsibly in the name of being single.

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Family › Re: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by Cavenchy(m): 1:31am On Apr 04, 2016*

Tekevwe,

@X240 may indeed be very right in terms of the possible feelings behind your husband's moody disposition. While it might not be exactly the case, OP listen to this user, he probably has the best scenario here and maybe you could start to see it from a whole new perspective.

I myself took quite some time trying to understand why the husband could have suddenly locked himself up in a shell if he wasn't this way before now. But it's increasingly obvious he is in a very tight situation. Different men have different ways and levels of handling stress. Some turn into demons in the house, some withdraw and a lot of others in between e.g drunk, cheating, fasting from your food etc.

The Ideal man should be able to maturely control his emotions when it comes to his better half, but we need to understand your husband isn't perfect, he might be trying to control his emotions in an unconventional manner you aren't used to. Now, he may be acting this way because the ship is sinking, he is confused and doesn't know what to do about the office rent issue, and when he sees you and mentions it, he is hoping you would be resourceful and industrious in your thinking by helping to chip in a few words or two either to encourage or suggest a way out, but like most very young women, you may be oblivious to the issues and just only interested in him playing around expecting him to ignore the issue at hand. On the other hand, ignoring the issue would not resolve the problem and he feels it's useless talking to you about it if all you would do is change the subject to talk about something else that is more fun, so he withdraws to himself to think and now only has to depend on himself to think it through alone. Additionally like X240 said, it might be as a result of the fact that you might have contributed to his extravagant expenses and now he is left to go through the aftermath of funding the necessary alone, he might silently be blaming you for this, and it even gets worse if you the wife does not seem to want to understand that the economy of the family (Like oil price) has changed and still remain vocal about your financial expectation(like APC/PDP followers).

In my opinion, it is totally wrong for a man to take out his frustrations on his wife, He is supposed to be the head of the home and is responsible for every event and decision the family takes no matter the outcome, however, I do understand human beings aren't perfect and the scenario above can happen if the man can not control his emotions, but its rare for someone at his age to still have this sort of inclination, therefore I will suggest the OP should try as much as possible to focus more on resolving the issues that led to his mood rather than complain to him about it. If you can make intelligent suggestions, please do, if nothing else - If he is prayerful, encourage him to go to God in prayer cos nothing is impossible for God, go on your knees and pray too, if he sees you praying about the financial issues threatening the family he is more likely to come out of his shell, cos he would see he didn't marry a ceremonial wife. He probably doesn't need you to do anything physically, but he would likely be withdrawn if you act nonchalant and expect him to be all smiles when he is almost finished in life.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Company Is Recruiting by Cavenchy(m): 10:04pm On Apr 03, 2016

Agubushmenyo:
Yea Bro... Thanks for your part well played! God bless you!!

You welcome. God's grace.

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Company Is Recruiting by Cavenchy(m): 9:29pm On Apr 03, 2016

Agubushmenyo:
My Company... Ikeja .....

I see you finally made your choice on location (the bolded). Congrats, I hope everything is well with you.

Romance › Re: What If Your Beau Did This To You? (photo) by Cavenchy(m): 5:34pm On Apr 02, 2016*

Lol... no comments

Politics › Re: We’ll Deliver 10,000 MW Target - Fashola by Cavenchy(m): 5:25pm On Apr 02, 2016

winkmart:
The Minister of Power, Works and Housing, Mr. Babatunde Fashola, has given an assurance that the 10,000 megawatts of electricity in three years promised by President Muhammadu Buhari earlier in the month will be actualised.
He added that the energy crisis facing the country would soon be a thing of the past, saying one of the country’s power plants located at Gbarain in Bayelsa State, which was close to completion, was fired the previous night for pre-commissioning tests.

Speaking at the resolution of a three-year dispute between Enugu Electricity Distribution Company and Aba Power Limited, which had stalled the completion of a 141MW power project for the area, the minister said the resolution and the recovery of four turbines that were down would ensure that the power challenge facing the country could be overcome.
A statement by the Special Adviser to the Minister on Communications, Hakeem Bello, on Friday quoted the Minister as saying apart from showing that distribution companies could work together, the development would also be of great benefit to traders in the area and boost ‘Made in Nigeria’ goods, which the area is known for.

He said, “We had some outages on our turbines in Jebba but l am happy to inform you that three of the four have been put back into operation and that there is again stability in the system. The power coming into the country is not enough and how do you share what is not enough, it is not possible, so what we need to do is generate more power.

“The 200 megawatts coming from Aba is very important and it is good news for the market.
“The first turbine is
on and is being synchronised and that is what we are saying and with incremental power we will achieve the target set by Mr. President in his speech last week.”
While thanking former Head of State, Gen. Abdusalami Abubakar, Vice President Yemi Osinbajo, Mr. Adetokunbo Kayode, Prof. Bart Nnaji, among others, for the roles they played in making the resolution possible, the minister said time had come for everyone to work together for the betterment of the power sector.

http://www.punchng.com/well-deliver-10000-mw-target-fashola-says/

Jebba has 6 turbine units not 4.

Romance › Re: Help! I Feel Like A 21st Century Witch by Cavenchy(m): 5:37pm On Mar 29, 2016*

Lord have mercy. Wizard of Oz

Christianity Etc › Re: People Of Bariga Celebrating Good Friday In Style by Cavenchy(m): 5:06am On Mar 26, 2016*

This is serious

Culture › Re: 5 Things You Only Remember Doing If You Were Raised In Nigeria by Cavenchy(m): 3:32am On Mar 26, 2016*

Did 1 and 3, except in 3, they weren't doves but Egrets.

Romance › Re: Girls Is This True? [boys Please Stay Away From This Thread Till Tomorrow] by Cavenchy(m): 2:53am On Mar 26, 2016*

Lol what if the dude has both?

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Romance › Re: (pics)i Uploaded These But Was Told I Look Like The Late Michael Jackson. by Cavenchy(m): 12:22am On Mar 24, 2016

LuveU2:
No they are right!

Lol, If they are right then I look like Denzel Washington! cool

Romance › Re: (pics)i Uploaded These But Was Told I Look Like The Late Michael Jackson. by Cavenchy(m): 12:17am On Mar 24, 2016

LuveU2:
Okay.Am not worried about looking "better of" just wanted to know if they were right that i look like him here.

In that case, I'll say they were wrong

Romance › Re: (pics)i Uploaded These But Was Told I Look Like The Late Michael Jackson. by Cavenchy(m): 12:08am On Mar 24, 2016

LuveU2:
No i didnt Thats how it is

You know he had the white plastic surgery thingy that made his nose look like Freddy Krugger's. You are better off the way you are wink

, unless you mean Michael when he was still black.

Romance › Re: (pics)i Uploaded These But Was Told I Look Like The Late Michael Jackson. by Cavenchy(m): 11:55pm On Mar 23, 2016

Nah, I don't think you look like MJ, maybe if you played with the nose a lil bit cheesy

Romance › Re: Whats Your Favourite Outfit On A Guy/girl by Cavenchy(m): 9:02pm On Mar 23, 2016

Natural hair and a nice flowing gown.. I totally dig that graceful look if they can pull it off successfully wink

Romance › Re: How I Got Duped With My Money,time,and Makeup!!! by Cavenchy(m): 1:46pm On Mar 15, 2016*

I was gonna say a few things but after reading the story properly, I'm sorry but from the write up the lady sounds pretty secondary schoolish... I'd say she's probably under 18. So guys don't blame her, she is still a student in this category. Not that there is anything wrong with being young but no mature lady describes things the way she did, or assumes a guy's worth from a mere picture or talk of car and ikoyi. Real women know real men when they encounter one. As for OP, concentrate on your studies and focus on being the kind of woman real men want, since its rich guys you're looking for. Until then stop dreaming that big boys would leave the effortlessly real and classy girls out there to come after your borrowed personality. Both of you faked personalities so its fair and square, don't play us the victim card.

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Family › Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Cavenchy(m): 12:38am On Mar 15, 2016*

Nlaand:
Hello parents and friends,

I used another user name.....I have a 14 yr old only sis who is getting out of hand.

Alas, mom just saw it in her diary today where she stated that she hates her parents because they refused her and for some silly reasons which bores down to correcting her. She also mentioned that she has a boyfriend but she doesnt like the boy because he refused to give her money.

To cut the long story short, pls how do I manage this situation because I dont want this to cause a burden to my mom. My dad must not even hear. I just had to appease her that it is normal for teenagers to think that way and all and she shouldnt create a big deal over it. I advised that she should have a heart to heart talk with my sis. I will be going home this weekend, pls how do I get my sister to realise that we love her and we care about her alot, how do I explain to her that shes just been disciplined and nothing more... oro yi su mi..

pls your matured contributions goes along way...thank you sirs and mas

I have a few contributions to make in an advisory capacity. Let's Analyse.

1. Home Alone like Kelvin and Lonely like Akon.
Your sister is the only one at home with your parents, she would feel lonely. Now, if you are conversant with young people, you would realise that they are constantly yearning to have friendships of any kind. Often the kinds that most adults might even consider unhealthy or unnecessary, therefore you can't stop her from having friends. Observing her environment, you'll notice its almost like she has no one her age to play with at home. Most elder siblings make the mistake of forgetting their younger ones when they leave home (maybe apart from occasional homecoming visits) this forces the young one to feel very lonely (worse if she is a 'lastborn' who is still very young when the much older siblings leave them home alone.

2. Youthful Exhuberance (Juvenile tendencies) .
She is still young and bustling with dreams and enthusiasm about the world and how she feels as a brand new teen. I mean, she's probably thinking, what could she possibly discuss with mum and dad who are from an entirely different generation, how would they understand Wizkid and 'whatever her mates listen to now' and that girls with painted nails are in vogue?

3. Peer Pressure
Puberty is not only happening to her but her friends and peers as well, she is beginning to hear exciting stories from them especially about the male folk and the crazy little things her female friends do when no one is watching. She's thinking, why should she not be allowed to be independent like Toju or Mariam or Chichi? They all have boyfriends and they brag about their boyfriend buying them ipad and how they went to camp to catch fun, they even post their luv pics on instagram, and she has become a laughing stock among her friends because she isn't in 'Vogue'.

From the above, do you see the big picture in her head and why she sees y'all as enemies of progress?

Now to the solution:
A Sweet Distraction: She needs new friends, good ones this time. You need to fill up that vacuum and if possible advice your brother to team up with you to revive your sisters faith in the bond you share as family that should be stronger than the friends she meets out there.
Fuel her need for excitement with carefully thought out activities she would always look forward to, which promote healthy fun and moral upliftment. Your creativity would play a major role in this category depending on the situations in her location and availability as well. I would suggest enrolling her to learn something like ballet or ice skating (find a suitable alternative in your area, perhaps sports - tennis, playing a musical instrument extra school/class .. be her coach if you will). Trust me, this is a healthy distraction from the norm which she is more likely to welcome. I noticed African kids never have enough healthy fun when they are becoming adults and it can lead to dependency on other terrible vices like smoking, crime, immorality. Create more opportunities for her to enjoy quality time with her siblings, she would have something to brag about to her friends or better she would spend less time with those bad friends of hers and be proud of the family she never knew she had. Who needs a boyfriend anyway when her siblings take her out more than he ever can? Got it? Plus, she would most likely meet more responsible people her age while engaging in healthy extra-curricular activities that responsible parents send their kids to.

I need not repeat the need for you to advise her as many have suggested here already and you also said you have done so yourself, but when you bring yourself closer to her through the above, she is more likely to put your advice into practice than when you just stand arms-akimbo on your waist and legs spread apart in a power stance to issue commands from a distance.

Bottom Line: If you want young people to take your advice, you have to make conscious efforts to understand why they feel that way and try to provide healthy substitutes for the problem rather than trying to magically make them ignore the underlying problems that make them react the way they do, they may not even understand why, but as an adult you have a clearer birds eye view.

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Romance › Re: Ladies Can You Date A Guy Shorter Than You by Cavenchy(m): 2:51pm On Mar 14, 2016*

Funny thread. Hope we are safe? #teamtallmen

Celebrities › Re: See Who Appeared To Me In A Dream - PIC by Cavenchy(m): 4:49am On Mar 10, 2016

Lol what a dream

Romance › Re: Types Of Husband Ladies Choose Yours. by Cavenchy(m): 4:04am On Mar 10, 2016*

Don't forget this one:
THE DIE HARD FOOTBALL FAN HUSBAND
That guy that buys the season ticket at Old Trafford and his mood changes like a girl changes clothes.. only in this case his control switch is flicked by Manchester United FC's performance. Infact, he is #9 when ever they have a game, he becomes #2 when they lose, and suddenly changes to #10 when they win.

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Politics › Re: 2015 Election: Top 10 Indications APC Wasn't Ready To Rule Nigeria by Cavenchy(m): 3:58pm On Mar 07, 2016*

Rather than concentrate on blame game, my following points are a collection of failures of Nigerian leaders after over half a century and the way forward, governance isn't supposed to be difficult. Let's analyse!

1: Unsteady Power (We speak of diversification but it is easier achieved with uninterrupted electrical power which should fuel industrialisation, reduce cost of production and attract local and foreign investment. Even education, research and health facilities would improve drastically, not forgetting technological transformation to improve security using street cctvs and technological Intel for security agencies. Let's be honest, which serious production/manufacturing company invests in a country that costs more to run a business using generators?)

2: No database to account for Nigerian citizenry (Many people in the rural areas don't have passports or ID cards, how can you know who is a citizen and who is not? How can you plan for demographics you don't have? A database will check crime, reduce corruption a hundred fold and also checkmate illegals coming to Nigeria and not returning to their countries afterwards)

3: Porous Borders (Nigerian population seems to be increasing but not everybody in Nigeria is Nigerian, the borders need to be tightened, many Africans run to Nigeria, compete for our resources and never go back, they are not deported after they overstay. Many learn pidgin and one local language. And as long as they are black, you assume they are Nigerians)

4: Ineffective human rights awareness and sensitisation. (It's appalling a police/military officer would slap someone or beat them up and the victim doesn't even know this is wrong or where to report the case to get justice.

5: Non diversification of the economy (the congestion in Lagos, Abuja and other major cities is as a result of neglect in other regions of the country. Government should ensure every region has a booming industry that is of exportable quality: revive the textile, steel industry and create more: not just agriculture but food processing centres for the agricultural produce as well, tourist cities, a Nigerian Las Vegas if you will, a state of the art Sports City, Gaint shopping mall cities, a movie creator's haven city - yeah Nollywood needs a city, pending availability of electricity then massive industrialisation like plane manufacturing plants, space development cities Nigerian NASA, Mobile Phone and Computer Manufacturing Towns like Silicon Valley, all of these should be well connected with public subsidised rail systems funded by tax paid by these businesses. It shouldn't take anyone more than a day to get to any part of the country and also return, that is the only way investments can flourish and intercity trade would improve, boosting the economy. We have enough population in labour to make all of these a reality).

Any government who can solve these 5 mysteries would put Nigeria at par with world powers, many of the countries that can't achieve these things don't have the population(labour)

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Romance › Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:51pm On Mar 07, 2016*

deyemia:
Her mum got inheritance from her grandmum,

I wasn't asking how her mum got rich, was saying how come it's only the mum that is classified as rich and not addressed by the daughter as a collective family wealth shared between her and her husband? Are they separated? Cos I assure you if it was her dad that met the huge inheritance, she would say her family was rich not just dad. And the fact that the inheritance came from grand mum and not even granddad should tell you something(yep I'll let you work this out). Now these are not questions I expect you to answer here, but to get you thinking.

Romance › Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:38pm On Mar 07, 2016*

deyemia:
Thanks so much for taking your time to add this contribution, I really appreciate it.

I have a good job and I have a roof over my head and I pay all my bills by myself and even some few others that are not mine. We were matched because we both needed something we didn't have, a partner.

We are just getting to know each other and for all reasons, I am sure this is not the best way to go about avoiding gold diggers. I have never asked her for anything matter of fact, I find it difficult to ask people for favors because I feel dejected when I get a "No" for a request.

I'm just trying to meet a wife to go on a journey with for life, I never asked her about her family wealth background until she told me.

If I were a gold digger like you alluded to, I won't share this post.

Just being honest!

I appreciate the fact you come across as a genuine man looking to settle, you may need to do some investigations to protect yourself as well, because you barely know her either. I'm glad you are asking important questions. This Is another one you may need to find out, Why is her mum rich and not her family (dad inclusive?). How was her dad as a father growing up? Was he lazy? Was he a wife beater? Or a drunk? What about her mum? Did her mum explain things to her or did she just rub the fact that her dad wasn't doing too well in his face?
Any of the above could be where she got her fears from. Best wishes.

Romance › Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:07pm On Mar 07, 2016*

OP I have read your post and saw your concern believe me I was with you up until after I read some comments thrown at you and saw your replies, then went back and re-read your post. I think this might be a case of a scared fiancée but I sure hope I'm wrong. Let's analyse.

The lady has seen gold digging tendencies in you and is trying to protect herself.

The lady thinks you are lazy and are the type to always seek help not wanting to take up responsibility.

You said it yourself that her mum Is rich, why you chose to focus on that point is oblivious to me but that might show you probably have an eye on her family's wealth, you never mentioned in your post that you also have a rich family or that you are well to do yet. She would read all these signs in the way you behave around her. For example: you treat her like an egg and are overtly careful about things you say not to hurt her and apologetic at the slightest sense of anger even when it's clear she's the one acting up. You probably always have a habit of asking after her mum (cos she is the rich one) and probably hardly ever ask after her dad.

This is the problem with matchmaking, she is getting to know if she wants to accept you while you already feel she is yours, newsflash: you have not done your prime responsibility as a man and that is " to make her fall in love", if indeed you do love her yourself. You can't fake genuine love, she would know if it's her or her (or mum's) money you want to marry,

Your resilience to take advice here to leave her, shows that you see a lot of benefit in your future relationship besides her character which is most likely a monetary one.

She knows a lot of men are gold diggers these days and she barely knows you enough to not judge you as one of them.

She has not yet fallen in love with you, when she does all these above will fly out the window. Worse, it's hard for you to earn her love when she hasn't seen how she's earned yours. Gold digger men are always easy to spot. They love before she even opens her mouth or has proven any quality character, all they do is shamelessly ask her for cash cos they are broke all the time! If it acts and quacks like a duck it probably is.

Finally, she might be protecting herself from a lazy man. If you aren't a lazy man, work hard to prove your worth, no woman can say those words to a man she is madly in love with and knows is hardworking and successful.

Bottom line: you might not be compatible at the moment, try again later.

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Politics › Re: Buhari And The Curious Case Of The Young Generation By Femi Pedro by Cavenchy(m): 1:46am On Mar 07, 2016

Very enlightening and inspiring read. Thanks for posting op.

Education › Re: Ajah Excel-Anayo Runs For World Leadership Position (photos) by Cavenchy(m): 4:17am On Mar 06, 2016

Good to see youths stepping up. I'm waiting to see a student party for FG Presidential election someday in this country.

Car Talk › Re: What Is The Purpose Of The Vehicle Insurance Fees Imposed By The Government? by Cavenchy(m): 11:38am On Mar 04, 2016*

Keep asking until your fund seeking government finds this thread and makes it compulsory for every car owner in your Nigeria to pay for full comprehensive insurance before your car can be allowed on her roads. In most countries comprehensive insurance cover is compulsory and costs even more than some cars themselves. Other countries have a compulsory 3rd party insurance and Nigeria is one of such. The officers extorting money from you at the offices have seen that Nigerians love shortcuts. If you want genuine insurance cover go and get it from an insurance company directly, no one would actually force you to buy the fake. The people patronising them don't want to get proper insurance. So don't come here to ask questions when you got a fake insurance cover to evade the authorities.

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