₦airaland Forum

pryme:
even if your are trying to pass a good point, generalising men will only make you smart by half.

I will generalize if I like, come and beat me na

johnmartus:
Your state will enter problem...what is wrong with you Ademusiwa.

It's not musiwa, its tpia

Haba mustack or what is your name, why didn't you start your own thread to beg? Now people have abandoned the original owner of this thread to focus on you the hijacker.

This is what will happen all over Nigeria if this stay at home order lasts more than two weeks

mutaalim:
All this contraceptive has side effects

Regards

I know you are a Muslim that's why you have been dropping 'regards' all over this thread to encourage people to breed like ants.

Please Nigerians should use their common sense. Have only the number of children you can cater for, don't bring innocent children to this world to suffer lack and starvation and poor education and neglect.

PrimadonnaO:
Honestly. I just decided arguing with him was pointless because he has chosen to twist facts. Is it not the same universities we went to? When I was in uni, I had access to students' record files back then. The number of persons who would be graduating at 22 were just 30%. Someone here is setting standards that at 26, a woman should be earning significantly such that she can split bills 50/50 with her husband.

If we say that a man must have a house and car and at least 20m before getting married, they'll start crying foul. LOL
Lots of men these days are really just weak and delusional, and they don't realise what it's doing to the home.
You want to claim rights to your wife's body
Have her keep a sparkling house
Cook you all the intercontinental and African dishes
Go through a most herculean task of childbearing God-knows-how-many-times!
These same men that run away from the house when their little kids are crying and running around the house uncontrollably. LOL. They'll leave the wife to do the nurturing and controlling alone.

Yet, they want her splitting bills 50/50. Shamelessness.

When I keep saying men are generally selfish creatures they will say I hate men or I am a bitter feminist
Women are already severely disadvantaged in Nigerian marriages and the only thing they have rights to claim is the financial contribution of their husbands. Men in Nigeria are not expected to or obligated to do anything else in marriage except provide. Even faithfulness is overlooked for them, now they want to complain about their one single task in marriage

truthsayer009:
Before 26 you should have been working If you graduated early, at 26 you should have a decent income & not Alawee kind of income.
26 + 3 years work experience makes you 29. If you don't have a decent income at within this period then what are you doing with your life?

The term evening newspaper didn't start today, that isn't an excuse for anyone to use as a leverage. Remember It is expected that Men also go through the same phase & become financially stable around their late 20s & early 30s else they are not desirable by any woman.

Do you want to marry a Man in his 30s who is poor??

Problem with many men is that when they don't have valid points to make in an argument they start twisting logic and acting ignorant.
Is it in this same Nigeria with ASUU strikes and skyrocketing unemployment rates that a 29yr old has already graduated from university and has a decent salary higher than 30k?

Lol

Let's keep lying to ourselves because we want to win arguments. Infact all 29yr olds should have their own houses and cars and private jets sef if not what have they been doing with their lives

RisenPhoenix:
Why would a househelp have access to the kids? The two areas a househelp should never touch are the food and the kids... ok and za oza room as well.

In Nigeria househelps cover kids too.
Why are you talking as if you don't know?

vickydevoka:
My sister y mama leave me with my neighbor wat de beat me n yet I no die. Wat will be will be

But there are stories of other unfortunate kids that got beaten to death and the ones that were raped or kidnapped. See?

vickydevoka:
Simple employ a house help na

Not that simple

The type of love and attention a biological mother shows her children most often is far better than anything a househelp can provide.
Secondly with the way the world has gone corrupt you are endangering your kids by exposing them to helps.
Some of these helps beat the children in madams a absense or even sexually abuse them and teach them all sorts of nonsense.

If father and mother join hands to raise children there will be no need for helps.

Nooil:
I am telling you. That's why there are so many divorces cases. Women are not down for that shit.

Independent women will not even settle for that. That's why the slightest mistake from the man, they are calling for divorce.

Why women bore the extravagance of men in the past is that the latter compensated by being the breadwinner. That made women respect and revere them.

Take that away, what is left? To be answering Mrs and I'm married? Iffa hear!

Of course every sensible woman would like to have their source of income, but definitely not to come and do equal contribution. Because that will only make the testosterone in them increase and they'll start exhibiting male tendencies. Then the same men that wanted it that way will run away. Lol!

Do you know that this bit of common sense you typed is too hard for them to understand.
Confused and selfish people

Jman06:
You stated it in your initial post that Nigerian ladies don't like men who expect them to make financial contributions in their households. I have also noticed that even on this forum and I know that in your heart of hearts, you too would not want your man to ask for financial support from you.

I stated that many women don't want it because many men are self centered and selfish. Did I say women shouldn't contrubute?
Why bringing up how we shouldn't educate women and whatever thing you typed there?

Nooil:
Is it only cook and clean? How many of them make their wives cum during sex? The woman will bear that dissatisfaction o, still bear the pains of pregnancy o, still, contribute 50 50. I reject it.

Do you mind the selfish he goats?
Many of the men supporting op are only want a system where they share breadwinning 50/50.

Anything chores or childcare they are not ready. Some are even planning to cheat on their wives in future and expect her to just bear and stay with them.
While also answering their surnames and bearing kids that answer their surname and belong to their town/village/state


The same women feeding them and providing for them ooo

Jman06:
If Nigerian women would not want a man who expects them to contribute financially and are okay with the traditional setting whereby the man wins all the bread for the family, then I don't think there's any need wasting resources on training the Nigerian girl child in schools especially universities. It doesn't make any iota of sense to train a girl in the university only for her to end up as a housewife in a man's kitchen!

Ps--- Personally, I even prefer the traditional setting but she has to be completely under my control going by your reasoning above.

What are you typing?
Nobody said women shouldn't contribute but men should not be selfish entitled bastards that want women to share Male traditional roles but refuse to cook and clean and relinquish some authority to her.

Personally I am all for female emancipation and women having jobs/not depending on some guy totally but topics like this are not for the average Nigerian man who believes he should be taken as a demi god by his wife.
You can't have a wife paying rent and buying food to feed her husband and and paying other bills and then her husband wants to exercise TOTAL control over her and the household in spite of her financial and domestic contributions.

That's why Nigerian women avoid men who want them to contribute financially.
Another thing is, after marriage the same man expecting his wife to split bills will expect her to be primarily responsible for housechores and be completely submissive and obedient to him. It doesnt work that way. If a woman starts feeding you or paying your bills you no longer have complete authority over her.
And it becomes imperative that you as the husband also take up housechores like cooking and cleaning and child care.

An average egotistical Nigerian man will not want to do all this.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. And you believed this story?.

The story is possible, I have seen a couple of men real life that while not as promiscuous as Ops hubby, they have absolutely no interest in making their marriages work.
Won't provide
Won't do housework
Just want to be useless because they married a hardworking woman. It's not far fetched.

Olunmercy56:
Dear Lord, please help me choose for the bone of my bone husband, I must not make any silly mistakes I'm just tired of these marriage crisis stories

Honestly
Imagine the nonsense women are putting up with.
Op
If you don't leave him you just have to prepare to keep treating STDs and then settle for a life of bitterness and resentment then in his old age he will retire from his prostitutes and expect you to welcome him back with open arms like a good wife.

Marriage can be so scary.......

Divorce him before he gives you HIV

Wht exactly is making you stay with him?
He doesn't provide or spend time with the family
He isn't faithful
He is putting your life at risk


Why are you delaying your seperation?

freethinker01:
Cliché insults you say?
I don't do clichés and stereotypes, that's just a meticulous observation from your write up, nothing personal.

Ok but I don't care about your meticulous observations so next time save it.
Bye

Alfather:
those smoi smoi boys wey dey shine your congo nor speak english reach me. Iol those smoi smoi boys wey dey shine your congo nor speak english reach me. Iol

Whatever bruh

freethinker01:
For the op to have posted this, these are the few things I observed.
1. The op is not getting younger
2. The op has lost count the number of guys she's had sex with
3. The op is trying to console herself with this inane and inconsequential write up
Last last, Una go dey all right.

Hahaha

Really?
You forgot to add Op is a bitter evening newspaper feminist.
Your list of cliche insults is not complete yet.

Alfather:
if only you are summissive and agree, we dont give a shit about you labses. Go ask feministicqueen, she will tell you.

Ok sir

But I dunno what labses means sha

Look at them arguing fervently that men are supposed to provide.
If tomorrow a woman starts a topic to say men must provide they will get angry and start shouting what are you bringing to the table?
Mtshew

As for the topic everyone should take time out to visit and car for loved ones whether you are the so called provider or not, even if it's only during weekends. Some men don't even bother to show face at sick beds, only making foolish long distance calls or looking for how to chase side chicks because the wife is finally sick and cannot stop them.

Alfather:
so how those the shit disprove the fact that you were made out of a man?

Oga stop disturbing me abeg

Fisher007:
You have replied like a true female, which is emotional and not rationale. Then you start insulting with shaming language. I made my points without insulting or calling women names or hoe . But I guess you were expecting such irrelevant arguments. You can't discuss or dialogue without emotions.

I don't blame you. Reasoning and having a logical discussion is not part of your nature. It is my fault for trying to reason with you.

Have a great day inferior being.

Hahaha
Your last statement also shows that men are emotional irrational creatures because you can't converse without insults

Fisher007:
I agree with your first sentence. And this prove to me marriage is still a scam. Cause if most women marry based on societal pressure, they end up marrying the wrong man.

I agree also with the second sentence men are no longer the sole provider. Which also means women marry or date men based on provision before. Which still proves a woman love for a man is provisional , transactional and conditional.

Now the last sentence of legacy is true too. But you forget one thing. Once a woman agrees to be the vessel ( çause women are most times one form of vessel or the other ) and after childbirth, she looses form which won't give her the normal attention and validation she gets.

Now let me tell you why women are not the prize. It is inbuilt in a woman to always want more. Women who earn still always want a man who earn more to give and provide for them.

Women always need protection. If you doubt me go jogging or take a stroll in your area at old time men easily do. You will be surprise at what might happen. This apply anywhere in the world.

Women will always age out fast before men. Get a man at age 35 and a lady at age 35 you will clearly see the difference.

Women are emotional thinkers , you need logical and rational thinkers to think ahead.

Single mother also is one the things that teach most ladies that they are not the prize. I won't advice you to try that cause you would regret it.

Women naturally are self-centred. You can earn a million and your husband earns the same. You will still want to take his share and add to yours. Which most men agree because they are natural provider.

Men and women are not equal in any term, we have unique features which is particular and advantageous to each gender . But Women always fight to be equal with men . Why ? Because you still see men as the prize. If not you will careless.

Physically and mentally men are still the prize. You can't lift what a man can lift. Both even in sport, career wise, thinking and well-being wise . Men are still the prize.

Women always need a man, no matter independent and financially stable they are. Because women are generally needy for one thing or the other.

The only way I can accept a woman as the prize is if she can prove to be independent and better in all areas mentioned above. Which if she tries, it will be to her own detriment on a long-term. She will have to end up childless, alone, and feeding cats. Even if she does IVF she will still needs a man's sperm. Lol

But if you have a logical or rational point to prove you as a woman is the prize. I am gladly interested. We learn everyday and I am open for dialogue.

So much drivel, maybe one day I will have time to respond in detail to these jokes but for now no.

Imagine the nonsense, men are superior because they can lift heavy things?
Women are inferior because they 'age faster'?
Women need protection because so they are inferior?
Laughable

Does the fact that men carry out more damage and criminal activities not point you to the fact that you lot are actually a destructive and harmful component in the grand scheme of things? The fact that men are prone to be more bloodthirsty and sadistic not reduce them to level of harmful diseases and germs that cause death and destruction and should be avoided and wary of? How is that anything to be proud of? How is that superiority?
Women don't need protection from men, men need to stop being criminals and killers and rapists that's if it's even possible for them to do that. They should try and elevate themselves past the level of bloodthirsty animals and stop being robbers and rapists and scammers and kidnappers.

Let an epidemic or earthquake or global flood break out it will be more crucial for women to survive for the human race to continue, more men can die and humanity will not go extinct. Even your XY chromosome is an incomplete variation of female XX, the only functional part of your XY chromosome is the X, the Y part that makes you a man is just useless.

Stop wasting my time with your foolish arguments this morning because you want to talk to a female online. Go outside and talk to real girls.

Fisher007:
Hmm generally in a rational and logical thinking, men are the prize.

It is just most men don't know and ladies are good at making themselves feel like the prize.
Men are the prize because they have everything on their side.

Sincerely analyse it what makes you think women are the prize?

Societal pressure is mostly what makes women get married
Men are no longer sole bread winners so women have money to survive without men in their lives
You men are the ones that need to prolong your heritage and carry on your family name so you need marriage and children

Alfather:
CHoccolaTE said all naija men has no senses, was her father not inclusive? It was the man who cause her birth by fvcking her mum, yet she have no fear of man. The sperm that cause her birth would have being traped by a condom, then she would have being non existing. Men her giver of life, if not for any thing she should at least respect that fact.
she grow up to be a feminist. Tell her the truth if you care, she need to change

Lol, see long story
Attention seeker go and buy brighter grammar and learn English, I no dey insult you its friendly advice.

ubunja:
then you have nothing to worry about. Enjoy your life.

I sure will

Bobbyfreshh:
Hahaha a pained biatch spotted

Am not the one responsible for your many frustrations in life, direct your crap elsewhere.

ubunja:
then don't get offended wherever you go.

You too, don't get offended when you get quoted

ubunja:
leave them. Instead of teaching each other game and tactics that can actually help other women they're busy with things the average guy doesn't even consider when choosing a wife. Leave them. The Miseducations will annihilate them.

All these boys that never leave their houses sef... .

Outside nairaland none of the so called red pillers can declare his oyibo red pill beliefs in a typical Nigerian setting. Shame go too catch am.