₦airaland Forum

Babysho:
Lol men are angry about women on here and you thought you, a woman, could get a favour from a raging man that's crediting people for saying the truth about women's wicked ways. I kid you not, you're not getting anything.

rosalieene:
am telling you!
always playing the victims game!
when in reality, they deal with women badly than women dealing with them.

Taking this NL guys serious is at your own peril.

Raalsalghul:
Once there is an opportunity to attack men, we will find you there. Just look at your last sentence knowing that folks like me would attack you. You are so bitter my dear. So so so bitter. Shioor Whoever did this to you, may God forgive the person.

tayooluwole:
Face front madam

tayooluwole:
Dindinrin... Mumu... Oponu

generationz:
seriously are you saying this?
op is complaining about bills you are still saying women should pay someone to do the domestic work

why don't you men just plan your lives well when single , instead of using all your singlehood in chasing girls without any kind of structure in place and no savings or investments before marriage

what the op and her husband going through is using the resources that would have been used to raise one child to raise four. Very typical in many African homes

After putting the kids through hell they will expect the kids to be their Messiah and take them out of poverty
and the cycle continues.

Acidosis:
I don't even consider myself as equal with other men (we don't have the same size of d**k). The equality argument is bullcrap, we were all created in different and peculiar ways. However for a home, a team, or organisation to remain successful, there has to be leader and that's the role a married man is expected to play (according to my belief).
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Lmao I don't need to challenge anybody. I only called you out because of the hate message you preach against men. Marriage is not by force, and even if everybody desire marriage, we all won't get married.

The woman you choose as a role model on this forum is happily married, dear. Visit the food section and check out the fantastic delicacies she prepares for herself and her husband. After cooking sumptuous meals and posting on food section, she comes to the family section to lure naive people into the female dominance bullcrap. Be wise.

Eketem:
Please note that I blame men for this situation too, if they did more at home househelps won't be over used.

You don't have to be rude to make your point though.

eyinjuege:
We will wait for you to have children, then we can talk of pigsty or not.
There's no house with children that can ever be spick and span. You have to constantly be on the move to clean up after them, otherwise You will see real pigsty.
The care of the kids include cleaning up after them, you can sweep more than 10 times a day cleaning up their mess. If there were no kids involved, there's not much housework to do. You dont need to vacuum daily, what of washing dirty clothes in a day?, ironing their mountain of clothes alone n ko?

Eketem:
No lie here. Most women have live in house helps who work almost 24 hours. No defined work hours no good pay.

yettymuse:
How inhumane of you lots to want submission and still want to share from your woman's money. A typical nigerian man has upgraded his menu list of HEADMANSHIP with a sweet sauce of Bill sharing.. Una doh!

You better pick a struggle! You want to be the head, share bills, subdue and still cheat on your woman.

Anyway I pity those ones that are desperate for marriage sha.

Eketem:
The funny part of this debate is that Nigerian women will always shout on how cooking, taking care of children cleaning and sweeping are very difficult jobs until it is time to get a househelp then they will get an underaged small girl to do these same roles and even when they get an adult they will pay below minimum wage for the same roles they say they should be worshiped for.

crackhaus:
Which of these is a lot harder to do:
Doing chores, or settling bills?

JoannaSedley:
Of course...it is the sole responsibility of the man to provide for his family especially in this part of world so do not even think of chickening out.
Deal with it while I deal with house chores and taking care of the kids.

If you are looking for trouble find another thread for that.

Elder0001:
So sad how you claim to be a feminist but still share patriarchal traits.

Why must he challenge a fellow man ?? Same way women bring up "you're not ashamed of yourself,you're arguing with a woman" bullshît when they don't have any sensible thing to say.

Acidosis:
Seems you're really going through a lot at the moment. How about a PM to discuss these issues?

crackhaus:
I'll be honest, the answer to your question is a NO. Marriage in its present soiled state makes no sense anymore only for one reason - everything that can be gained and gotten within this institution can be gained and gotten comfortably outside of it without the hassles of standing before a judge or cleric.

The real issue here remains that we Nigerians are among the "fakest" group of people on earth. We are great at projecting what isn't while existing on the opposite - there are only a handful of Nigerian women ready to be with a man long-term, birth his kids, and basically act like an unofficial wife without actually being a wife.
Despite this, young Nigerian girls are everywhere on the web trying to prove they don't need marriage

KevinDein:
I agree with the females on this thread. They (whoever is in charge of this sad, evil world) should just scrap that thing called marriage. I actually don't know who it benefits.

2018, marriage is obsolete. Let's all move on.

Acidosis:
Chai! Alot of bitter women (aka Cococandy/ Seawhawk recruits) don invade this section.

Acidosis:
Your fellow sisters indeed. These your fellow sisters were probably lying with their respective DHs especially in this very cold weather while you're here groaning in bitterness and frustration over matter wey no concern you. How many of the fellow sisters have come to you to seek guidance about divorce proceedings? You think they will leave their DHs to join you in your bitter campaign against men?

You are not as smart as you tink. How can you be a widow, a divorcee, or a widower if you're never married? Sh!t happens and people die, it doesn't take away the memory of a father or a mother figure.

You're campaigning against marriage yet talking about widow and bullsh!t. May be you don't know the difference between a widow and a hoe: a widow can hold a family and do so comfortably because she upholds the family structure. A hoe on the other hand is more likely to raise a bastard. Bastards no dey get father talk more of uncle or cousin. Have you ever seen a product of hoesism talking about cousins, nieces, etc.?

Don't allow your sons and daughters lay curses on you when they start comparing themselves with their colleagues in schools. Uphold the family values and stop spreading hate messages against the family structure. All over the world today, even Presidents are expected to present a first lady before assuming the sensitive position because that is the only thing that matters. Charity begins from home.

If you married a cheat, then that's your personal business and not the problem for men in general. How can you fail in a business and start blaming other entrepreneurs in your industry?

crackhaus:
You might not be capable of stuff like this, but you can't know what others are capable of.

Acidosis:
I hope CHoccolaTE and her "co-sisters" can learn a thing from this. After wasting so many years dating and courting useless playboys, they retire online to tell us why we should boycott marriage. Aunty CHoccolaTE, your bad and bitter experience is not enough to conceptualize marriage, okay? Learn from your experience and move on.

@CHoccolaTE,
Aunty, have you ever heard the quote "family is everything"? What's the foundation of family? baby mama or hoe-ism?

Go and ponder on the above question and come back with a sensible response.

crackhaus:
Lol, you honestly don't know what you don't know.

I have my own personal story with a pregnant recently married lady (heavily pregnant no less, with potruding belly) and I didn't even have anything to offer her then as a first year university student.
I just told her I was going to my flat to get a condom, that's how I disappeared.

You can't make this shiit up, guys just know how to keep it coded when it comes to married women.

Acidosis:
You can't be married and hate marriage this much, and you can't be single and claim to know so much about marriage.

Your inability to state your actual stance shows you have only one mission here - deceive innocent people. Your lifestyle is a better message than the make believe and image you portray via writing.

The only sets of people permitted to share your kind of post are those who have sworn never to get married. You can't be in your husband's house and be posting nonsense about marriage. BTW, that a marriage failed doesn't mean marriage is bad. People fail exams, and it doesn't reduce the value of education. If your marriage fails, then check yourself; if you fail an exam, check yourself again.

MrNipplesLover:
hmmm, nice points.
oil dey ur pussy

Acidosis:
Are you married?

If "No" would you like to get married someday?

ImaIma1:
It is those women who are made to feel like their husbands did them a favour by marrying them and they have to do everything to "keep" him. That is the problem.

Plus as you pointed out, the general idea is that women are the ones who make the home. So...apologize even when he is wrong for peace to reign...turn a blind eye when he cheats and still open your legs for him not considering the possibility of STDs...still for peace to reign.

How does this in any way make a woman benefit more?

dominique:
I don't know who this Vilar is, whoever she is, she has a right to her opinion.

Saying that women are more advantaged in marriages in Nigeria is laughable and incredulous. While growing up, an average Nigerian female is being raised to conduct herself in ways that will be acceptable in her "husband's house. Are boys raised same way? Has any boy ever been told to act or not to act in a certain way because of his future wife? If this is not a sign that one party is going into marriages to please the other, I don't know what is.
A distressed woman will come online to post that her husband has been cheating on her. What kind of replies will you see? Keep praying, cook his favourite meals, satisfy him sexually etc. Let a man come and post same, will you see same replies? Send her back to her father's house will be the common anthem.
She gets beaten up by her husband, then she's at fault, she was not submissive enough, she must have used her sharp tongue to provoke him etc
One came to post that her husband raped a minor and his family is begging her not to expose him. Of course she was advised to keep shut and keep praying for the paedophile because a wise woman keeps her marriage no matter what.
So many bullshit a lot of Nigerian women has to stomach in the name of keeping a marriage yet you say they gain more?

ImaIma1:
Not anymore.

Women are burdened with a lot of responsibility in marriage while the guy just sits back and controls.

She is expected to do the chores, take care of the children and still contribute financially(sometimes even more) but the guy still wants that authority...control...submission...final say. And you say women benefit more?

Many women are just staying for one reason or the other. If they had their way, they would leave with their children instead of adding a big baby to their burden especially one that is not of any tangible or visible assistance to her and the family.