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Elder0001:
Women gain a lot from marriage - physically and financially,something you can't deny.
In as much as women now contribute financially and otherwise in marriage even the blind and dumb knows that women still gain more from marriage.


For the other part ,women need marriage more than men do ,you and I know this unless you're only trying to deceive yourself.


I won't reply you yet. When you're done with what you're doing ,you can complete your post on why you think women don't gain more than men in marriage.

YOU YOURSELF, ELDER,
HOW EXACTLY DO WOMEN GAIN MORE FROM MARRIAGE?
Stop quoting me to write nonsense, if you have a counter opinion then state it and explain it, all you did was disagree with the post without explaining yourself,
explain how exactly women gain more from marriage, don't make me annoyed this morning.

Why did I even enter this thread? I told myself I would henceforth avoid threads started by mentally ret@rded people.

Elder0001:
Women need marriage more than men need marriage.

Women gain more from marriage.

Keep lying to yourself.
What exactly do women gain?
Men gain a wife that bears children that carry his family name.
In misogynistic societies like Nigeria he has basically gotten himself a slave that must submit and obey him. His word is law whether wife likes it or not.
He can cheat and marriage continues.
All he needs to do is go to work and come back, and provide any little he can, society expects women to also provide and do 80% of all that holds a marriage.
Do you know how many women gave up their dreams to get married and bear kids because society expects them to be married at a certain age?

Stop making silly comments because you want me to prolong your thread with replies.

Marriage is a scam to take advantage of women. I have been saying this on Nairaland for years, see this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/1265450/why-men-think-womens-lives#15355649

How can society expect women to be breadwinners like their husbands and at the same time be subjected to the husband's authority and and obey him and even bear his name as if her father that raised her his own name is useless. Big scam.
If a woman starts taking care of her husband financially then they are now equal partners but Nigerian men will never agree.
They want a housemaid and baby machine and ATM
They want a woman that will ignore their cheating and pray for them
Some sef don't lift hand to do housework at all but would go berserk if their wives decide to leave job of breadwinning to them.

Let marriage go obsolete, it's better for oppressed women.
If only men can stop shaming spinsters that are old and unmarried maybe more people will be more comfortable with the idea that marriage isn't a do or die affair

newscool:
sweet mother of....bleep bleep ......classy cutie pie, classy!! that's really neat.

thanksss

you dint tell me am fine....

abi I no fine?

newscool:
girl you are feisty... easy tiger...please let me see ur real face please

OK, But I had to do my hair and paint my face just to snap a nice picture for you.
Here you go,

Where are the two idiots that gave birth to this baby?

togodbetheglory:
Thanks. I really appreciate. I need the french guru to help with the second question
Question 2. Complete the sentences with the verbs- estre, habiter, s'appeler

Elle.........Julie. Elle.........collegienne. Elle..............a Darako.
Bonjour! Comment tu...............................?
Abou, je ...............senegalais, et toi? - Moi, c'.........Yao.
Il.................professeur?
Non, lui, c'................un medecin. Il ......................... belge, mais il............

Your immediate response shall be appreciated.
Thanks and God bless

I am not a french guru but I will do my best for the few I know, just because of your kid. I love kids.
Next time please put these questions up earlier and in different threads so many people can see it and contribute.


Question 2. Complete the sentences with the verbs- estre, habiter, s'appeler

Elle s'appelle Julie. Elle est collegienne. Elles habite a Darako.
Bonjour! Comment tu t'appelle?
Abou, je suis senegalais, et toi? - Moi, c'est Yao.
Il es professeur?
Non, lui, c'est un medecin. Il habite belge, mais il............


I changed the verb form to suit the pronouns because that's how french works

benabbey:
Within the limit of my means.

ok because women in general whether holy or unholy don't like sex with men who don't treat them very well.

benabbey:
It is not about beauty though I am far taller than her and fit it is hyper spirituality. 70 days is on going

Ok


Are you caring and affectionate to her?

benabbey:
For everybody that contributed to this discussion thanks so much, I think I am done carrying this cross, of abstentions in marriage.

I tried relocation to another state in the south west ondo state specifically and only visit my family one weekend in a month to reduce my sexual demand but alas madam is not ready to give it just for weekend if I managed to get once I should thank my star.

I think I am done with monogamy.

I think your wife is not attracted to you. Do you treat her kindly? Do you talk to her with affection, are you a caring husband overall?

I am sorry about your predicament but I have a very good idea what the issue is.
She isn't attracted to you sexually.

Are you a handsome guy, taller or shorter than her?

Its okay sha, I wish you the best.

newscool:
What?? did I hurt ur feelings, now you are throwing stones, pls I was being objective. without throwing shades at u... by the way I own a recording studio, and I have a side job the pays 150,000 monthly.. no I won't push trucks.

Shebi when u dey talk ur own e dey sweet u?
I decide to pay u back your own coin you are now telling me about ur recording job.
My fren gerrarahia

KillaBeauty:
my sister they're just foolish. they can open their putrid mouth to request for girls with monster yansh plus a million other specs but me that I have only one requirement for a potential bae, they're frothing like rabid dogs. broke boiz and their anger issues sha

Don't worry, find a nice rich guy to spoil you and make your life easy.
These broke frustrated people will not even appreciate you if you stay with them when they are poor.
Just see their nonsense mentality in this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/4613502/opinion-it-wrong-reward-lady

newscool:
predictable!!! a typical Nigerian girl. How old are you now? we'll wait to see how long the candle last through the wind. hope it does not get to the point when u pull this out ur ass "MAN NA MAN"

Hope your wretchedness and poverty will not get to the point where you pull this out ur ass, "TRUCKPUSHER NA JOB"

KillaBeauty:
I want an old money guy god pls answer my call, it doesn't have to be a young man, I can be second wife. broke boiz will never near me IjN aMEN! I bind and cast every spirit of comfortable, just-doing-okay man. I need old money, not even new money. Anyone that has less than $30 million in their account should not dare approach me or thunder will decimate you

Amen, don't mind these broke boys quoting you to insult you, if any billionaire girl comes to propose marriage to them they will not think twice before accepting but they want women to settle for poor men and set low standards for themselves.

newscool:
with due respect to all the educated ignorant ladies yaping about not being able to marry a guy who's "NOT AS EDUCATED AS THEY ARE" as I prepare to put a pin through ur self imagined crystal bubbles go into your study pick up all ur certificates from kindergarten to PhD take it to a bank nearby ask for the market value. your quest is similar to the search for the Pandora box. "SMART MOUTHS" carry that attitude around and watch your BIOLOGICAL CLOCK TICK BACKWARDS..... DRAW SWORDS @CHoccolaT.E, @pr.eshyG. @Se.taje @darkchoc.olate, @rukkydel.ta

I will carry any mentality I like and my biological clock will remain perfectly fine.

Why is our post paining you? Are you uneducated?
I don't know why Nairaland men get angry when women say they have standards for the men they want to marry. You people want women to say they want poor miserable uneducated husbands or what?
You yourself do you not high standard for the woman you want to marry in future?

Leave us alone with your bad belle, let us live our lives and make our choices in peace. Mind your business.

ImaIma1:
Point of correction, it is not a girl thing. Do you know how many times guys will beg for oranges, airtime, bread, etc when i go to buy? "Sister, my own nko"?..."make i take one"? Or how angry i have been when a male colleague ate the meat in my food "jokingly" when i didn't offer him. So many instances...

But you didn't see me open a thread to throw "Nigerian guys" to the dogs or generalizing and calling it an "entitlement mentality". But one small thing a girl does, thread opened.

..."I am not the type of guy that bashes girl". Indeed

Don't mind them.
As if men are not also entitled. I had one ex who because he knew I earned more than him was always calling to tell me the things he needs, he needs to repair laptop but no money, he needs to change Gen, he needs this, he needs that. He would not outrightly beg for money but his comments about things he needs skyrocketed when he discovered how much I earn.

I also know men who would ask you 'what did you bring for me', when you return from trip. Or ask, 'wetin you cook? the minute they step into your house.
Then is it the male staff at airports that want to beg your life away if you enter that room where luggage is searched, I think tboss made an Instagram post about how shameless those men are.

They feel entitled to money, to respect, to sex sef. At least women only want money. Men want money and undeserved respect from random women.

realtalk19:
I did it with all faithfulness and sincerity and at the end it ended in misery.

The ego is always there no matter how humble and understanding I was .

Intimidation and suspicions started.

Insults, abuse and arrogance followed with no regard for my family

At a point I became responsible for every provision even to delivery and home needs to fees and bills.it was draining and frustrating.i had to survive for my kids at least and endured.

Then violence sets in . I needed to stay alive for my kids so I took a walk finally .

I will not say a guy that earns less or am more educated than is enough to judge all men. Some uneducated men are even more responsible and caring than the educated one's. I feel it's about a man's character which is exhibited through various factors like family, environment, experience and Gene.

In my own case 'he' grew up in a dyfunctional family settings, beliveing a woman has to be the one paying for every bills and expenses and he will still collect on top(imagine him telling me "ever since I have been working, I have never given him my salary.is that how a good and responsible wife behaves?" Those were one of his many verbal utterances

As long as a man is responsible, God fearing, disciplined,tolerant(women can be nasty at times, blame the hormones-lol) caring and hardworking and with the woman also making positive efforts towards achieving a successful marriage then it doesn't matter if a woman is earning more or the man being an illeterate. Av seen successful skilled hardworking men who never saw the four walls of a university but end up becoming a responsible husband and father.

I dunno why men think women are on earth to slave away their lives for them. Just imagine the pathetic behaviour of the man in this story.
Its not bad enough that he cannot provide he has to start beating his wife in the process and demanding her salary.

Forget what you read on Nairaland about women being demanding. Men are worse.

More than 90% of Nigerian men would just relax and stop trying if they have a wife that earns more or had more money than them. They will not bother providing anything until they are sure she has exhausted her money. Or if they do provide it will be grudgingly and with anger because they feel the woman should be doing the job instead.

I don't blame them. The society we live in coddles irresponsible men and blame everything on women.

don4real18:
Madam, time can be created. The child will learn more from his deadbeat dad who is productive than staying with his lazy ass mum who wants to sit and wait for upkeep. What if Wizkid dies tomorrow? She will look for another person she will make a baby daddy.
I have seen women who don't wait for a man to take care of her kid(s). Wizkid's baby mama should do the same.

First of all the boy has nothing to learn from Wizkid.
What is he going to learn?
How to have casual sex with different women and drink booze all the time and get high from weed?
Or how to go on Instagram posting profanities about hoes and snatching girls from their boyfriends with good sex(something Wizkid does).
Secondly who told you the woman doesn't work? She must have a job that's how she takes care of herself and her son in the absence of financial support from Wizkid.
Thirdly, the fact that some women take care of kids without support from the fathers does not mean we should start encouraging irresponsible and selfish behavior of deadbeat dads by telling women to raise their kids alone.
Wizkid should sit up and take better care of his child.

If he doesn't want his baby mama to spend the child support then he should hire somebody to help him pay school fees and buy clothes and set up some sort of trust fund for the boy. He can afford all this so why hasn't he done it since?

The boy is just irresponsible and deadbeat. He doesn't want to take care of his child plain and simple.

Lexusgs430:
Why would they not freely sleep with You & I ? It's simply the meal ticket mentality........

If they freely sleep with you you will call them cheap and useless and all sorts of horrible names.
Its not meal ticket mentality. Men make women who are easy to get look very cheap and wayward.

don4real18:
She should give the child to Wizkid to raise then... I'm not sure he will reject his child

Wizkid should pay up child support instead. He is a busy musician that travels frequently and won't have time to dedicate to proper child care.

You can't separate a mother from the child because the dad is deadbeat.

Lexusgs430:
So we see a pattern here .....Our ladies must always carry & offer condoms ..........

Men should carry condoms too.
Responsibility lies on both of them.

Lexusgs430:
Let's forget wizzy...... Let's go make our baby ........

No. let's not forget Wizkid.

We should stop encouraging deadbeatry.

Is Davido not a rich musician too?

Wizkid better look after his kids like a normal human being.

Lexusgs430:
Staying on this case...... Why did she not choose to get pregnant for me or a regular Joe Blogg ?

It was clearly a masterplan ........

You are just talking based on speculation.
How do you know she planned it.

Wizkid is deadbeat, plain and simple.
He spends thousands of dollars on a daily basis but he can't give his own son a quality life.
Even if he hates their mother he could have hired an agent to pay the boys school fees and buy his things with that 2000 dollars to make sure the woman doesn't get any of the money

but even that one he cannot do it, he would rather go on Instagram shouting money hungry hoes up and down.

Lexusgs430:
I have 3 kids, and collectively they don't cost me $2000 + every 4 months, not to talk of $2000 a month.....

She should go get a job and have funds to jointly look after their kid .........

She does the day to day care, cooking, taking to hospital, helping with school work, cleaning up after him, keeping him safe, showing love and emotional support.

Wizkid does non of all that, and you still believe the woman should join him in the only little thing he does which us to basically throw money at the kid?

Its just too bad men are not taught to be fathers. The only thing they know about fatherhood is providing money. That's why you people don't see anything wrong with wizkid's actions.

Elder001:
I don't have to be a beta male to be able to spend my wife's money.

You just said common son, because people are on nairaland with you doesn't mean everybody here is your age or social mate. Even fellow women know that only a juvenile will come online and start encouraging men to submit just like wives submit.

PS, I'm married and with the rubbish you type on family section no sane Nigerian man can marry you.

So you didn't even deny that you want to spend her money?
You want to spend your wife's money and at the same time you don't want to submit like she is submitting?

Does she even know you hold these views?
Does she know what you do on Nairaland?

Nigerian men are something else. You want sole authority and a woman that takes care of you and provides for you at the same time.

No wonder many of them are yahoo boys. Always looking for Maga or mugu so they can use the person's head

Elder001:
You said "that's why you're on nairaland advising men to be betas so you can spend your wife's money "

It's clear your IQ is too low to understand the ridiculous stuffs you post on nairaland (maybe you post them because of likes) .

Go and tell your father to start submitting to his wife before you tell men to submit to their wives.

Men and women should submit to each other indeed.. C'mon go and suck breast. You're just a juvenile attention seeker.

You seriously want to involve my father in this conversation?
How old are you again?
And common son, you know very well I was telling the truth about you wanting to spend your wife's money.
I didn't say being beta translates to spending women's money.

I said you,
Elder001,
You are advising men to be beta because you want to spend your wife's money.

Thats what I said.

Elder001:
Shut up. You see how you just contradicted yourself?

You said men should start submitting to their wives, will an alpha male submit to his wife? And you're saying I'm advising men to be betas so I can chop my wife's money.


Your childishness is beyond me I swear. So according to you being a beta male is all about eating your wife's money.

Repeating shut up over and over in your posts will not get me to shut up I can assure you.
Go back and read that topic properly, I didn't say men alone should submit to wives. I said both wives and husbands should submit to each other.

And I didn't say being beta is all about eating your wife's money.

Why are you consistently misunderstanding simple posts? Do you have a comprehension problem?

NoToPile:


I don't think he's married. I find his posts here very amusing too

Unrestricted and unregulated indeed.

I know a woman who has a husband like him. After their marriage the guy started giving funny laws,
stop talking to your family,
delete all your Facebook friends except five or six
stop working so that you can depend on me and I can control you totally.

When the wife started showing him the true definition of frustration and misery in the house nobody told him twice to undo his selfish laws.

The most annoying one was the one about cutting her family off. So her parents that suffered to train her and spent millions to make her the educated, refined wife he wants to marry should just be discarded and abandoned like they are nothing.
Shoro niyen?

Elder001:
Keep shut. Honestly, your guardians made a bad mistake by purchasing a mobile phone for you because with the kind of comments you drop on this site and the kind of topics you create on family section (imagine asking men to submit to their wives) you must be a juvenile just discovering social media.

I bought my phone myself oga.
Unlike you that his wife to buys things for him that's why you go around on Nairaland advocating for men to be beta so that you can continue spending your wife's money.

Tonyebarcanista are you married?

I have been reading your posts and laughing since.

Elder001:
How's being deadbeat or irresponsible related to misogyny? I can't hold myself from calling you a fool because you don't want to respect yourself.

Go and check up the meaning of misogynism on Wikipedia before you spew your sentimental and emotional hate here.

Daeyler report this post for him calling you a fool. I hope he gets banned.
You accused another person of being sentimental and emotional but you have no problem with getting emotional and hurling insults at her.

cococandy:
Yea. Try to emotionally blackmail me into agreeing with you that it’s better for a woman to get cheated on than a man. You are not the first.

I’m very loyal to my gender and will never compromise it to boost your ego. Take a seat.

Stay loyal Abeg, we need more strong minded unshakable females.

Its very unfortunate when I see some Nairaland women writing misogynistic crap against their fellow females in a bid to sound objective and non feminist just cause they are afraid of attacks from small rats on this forum.

One particular case dey vex me well well because this girl had so much potential before joining the objectivity brigade but I don't want to mention names.