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chris51:
My dear, a man in his 30s who wants you to be his baby mama is irresponsible, selfish and wicked.

Do not quarrel with him but start withdrawing from him. Let it be strictly, "NO" to sex again. If you are good enough for sex and not good enough for marriage, then forget him.
If you are a disciplined and we'll behaved girl, a good man will appreciate you.

No sentiments. Stop going to your boy friend's house. Give him small time to think. If he is not interested in marriage, call it quits.

He may be eyeing another girl some where. The problem of sex is that it is mistaken for affection. At 35 he is looking for a baby mama. Please run.

Good luck

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.
My dear girl, a man in his 30s that wants you to be his baby mama is a very irresponsible, selfish and useless man.

My
I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

chris51:
It's sad that your father's burial date was fixed by your uncles without informing you.
To start with, how old are you? Just in case you are a minor and your uncles are acting on your behalf.
What of your mother?
Is she properly married to your father?
Who is the official next of kin to your father?
It's your late father's next of kin who is in a position to act on behalf of the family.
Many men make mistakes and make their brothers, their next of kin.
Unfortunately when they die, the widow and children suffer.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

chris51:
Why can't Donald Trump mind his business. He has more than enough problem in the US. He should leave Adeshina and African Bank alone.

Bad belle man and serious racist

chris51:
It's better than nothing. There's hope. If the rail projects have been taken seriously by previous administrations, we could have been talking about fast speed trains.
May the Lord help this regime complete the projects and the next regime to continue where this one stops.

1realBobby:
And they would still end up using 1972 model trains on the trackis... smh!

chris51:
I am telling you from personal experience. I am an elderly lady and suffered from serious pimples when I was young.

Wash your face regularly. If you can get SELSUN hair shampoo, not Selsun Blue.
If you can't get Selsun, Dudu Osun will do.
Rub it on your face and leave it for sometime before bathing. It will dry the pimples.

Try and buy Shelly cream, Silver Rose or Drula. Rub any of them on your face before sleeping. They are more like ointment. I assure you, they perform magic.

I used above routine more than 40 years ago and that's how I got rid of my severe pimples. Till today, I rub Silver Rose lightly on my face before going to bed.

All the best.

chris51:
Are you serious man?
You want regular sex from your pregnant wife?
Please leave her alone, your concern should be the unborn baby.

If you really want sex, it can't be as a right. Buy her little gifts, show her love, help her. This is how you can easily get sex.

Some women have problem of miscarriage and are advised to keep away from sex for a while.
Be patient, its a matter of understanding. Pregnancy is not easy.
Good luck

Smarttravels:
please take him to the hospital for proper diagnosis. He might have Alzheimer or Dementia.

chris51:
This is an incredible story but if its true that your girl friend is short tempered and you SCOLDED your mother because of her, you need to examine your head and brain.

How can you say this girl is good? What you are enjoying now is SEX and this is called LUST.

A marriage material will be dancing round your mother and relations.

For your sake. THROW her out.

chris51:
Please, next time, do not buy underwear for your wife's niece. Your wife is irresponsible and wicked if she can be dressing her children up and ignore her niece.

She doesn't realize that the niece's appearance has positive or negative effect on both of you.

The buying of clothes should actually be the responsibility of the mother in the house. Give your wife money. Let her buy for all. If possible, do the shopping with her, to avoid her accusing you of having affair with the niece.

chris51:
Governor Wike is not a Catholic and doesn't understand the doctrine, otherwise he could not have said that Christians should go and celebrate Easter on Easter Sunday.

In the Catholic church, there's Triduum, which starts on Holy Thursday. There is washing of feet of 12 representing the disciples and the last supper.

On Friday, there's stations of the Cross and passion of Christ.

On Saturday, there's is Mass in the night, which is the eve of Easter. This is when we start to use the word Hallelujah. Throughout Lent no mention of Hallelujah. On this Easter Saturday there are 9 Bible readings and Baptism.

After missing the Triduum, going to church on Easter Sunday only is not important. The most important thing is for the Lord to heal the world of this PLAGUE called coronavirus.
People have been following Mass on TV.

chris51:
Please tell the girl's biological father and his family to get lost. Your sister should tell the man that the girl does not belong to him. After 16 years of desertion. What does he mean?

He and his family should go to hell. I can imagine what your sister must have gone through in her hour of need

israelmao:
It's injustice and the judiciary hijacked by the executive that led to his loss of the case every sincere and sane Nigeria knows Atiku had a strong case. Which strong case did Atiku have against Buhari?

kolafolabi:
Hmm! God is the greatest but I smell IUI - Intrauterine Insemination

chris51:
You are deceiving yourself
What's the difference between bleaching and toning?

Toning is a more refined word for bleaching.

The bottom line is you are fairer than your normal and natural colour

chris51:
What is $640 shoes for President of a whole country Nigeria to wear.
How much shoes do present day pastors wear.
Reno please look for something to do