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This girl sounds like a mentally retarded person. Where and how was she abused in the whole thing she has been saying since? What is our business if she slept with him? Why is she forcing us to hear and believe her? What are we supposed to do with that information? This girl should get lost completely.

Chibydinho:
I did that the last time I noticed and she was like she can't choose any of us... She is confused blah blah blah.

When you hear stuffs like this, flee. If she's been with you for a couple of years, and finds it hard to choose between you and a guy she just met, know that it's time to walk away.

Technology and social media is just bringing out the inherent stupidity in a lot of people. What on earth are we supposed to do with this information? Why are some ladies this daft? If you can comfortably snap pictures on pants and bra, and share with the whole world, why then do you wear clothes when going out? You can as well dress like that out.

Women are unpredictable. Spend on them,what you can afford and wouldn't regret if things go sour. But the truth is, there is no romance and love without a considerable level of finance. We just have to set boundaries on what and what we should do, and not do.

She is the type of woman I want. A woman who would tell me everything and not give me reasons to be suspicious. Such a woman, I'd defend with everything I have got. Nothing beats a person being honest and truthful with you. I think you should worry less, but join her in prayers. Everything would be fine.

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

A lot of Nigerians are just not sensible and it really shows why the country is messed up. Yes, the op went against the church doctrine and has repented. That does not mean she shouldn't face the consequences. David took the wife of one of his men, arranged for the man to be killed in battle, slept with the wife and had a child. He prayed to God for forgiveness and he was forgiven. That did not stop God from punishing him and killing the child. The fact that you repented doesn't mean you will not face the consequences of your actions. If the church makes the mistake of bending the rules to accommodate you, they would be setting a precedence and would no longer be able to effect their doctrines. Every other person would use you as an example as to why they should not be sanctioned. You can't eat your cake and have it. Stop being sentimental and emotional about it.

How is it being calculated? How would a person know how much to pay?

I experienced this in the 80s as a child, living in akure at that time. Reminds me of the good old days.

You sabi. Urhobo comes before isoko. The Urhobos are the dominant tribe in Delta.

fratermathy:
There is no such thing as "Isoko attire" that is uniquely different from Urhobo attire.

Let's not personalise this style of dressing.


As for you Mr Ovokooo, always do your research well. That song is an Urhobo song, not an Isoko song!!! "Oghenerukevwe vwa suine ejiro" is pure central Urhobo dialect. It would have been better to have said Urhobo-Isoko or Isoko-Urhobo than to remove one from the other when you are not sure which is which in this case.


Anyhow sha, Urhobo and Isoko are one and the same people but always be careful with things like this.

Urhobo Wadoo!
Isoko Wadoo!
Misiagware oooo!

Ewwww. I had to go spit in the toilet at the sight of this. If you are eating, don't attempt to open the main link cos you won't like what you will see.

Exactly. A lady who got into a serious relationship with a man, loved up, gave her all to him, had sex and got pregnant and took the path of honor to keep the baby, I can understand and tolerate. Not one trashy person with no morals or values, who met a total stranger at a night club or a party, and had sex,became pregnant and gave birth to a child. I can't deal with that. How will I explain to to myself and convince myself that I would be happy with, and can trust a woman who got pregnant by having a one night stand with a total stranger? Even if someone swears for me or curses me, I can't be that stupid.

cstr151:
Absolutely annoying, hommie.
And the thing is the vast majority of these young single mothers got impregnated cheaply and stupidly. You only need to hear the stories to cringe at the total lack of value and self-respect. Even their baby-daddies(who are obviously not stupid) would not take them for wives under any circumstance.
I was into one lady i met at a professionals training programme, dated her for a while, only for her to tell me she has a 4 year old child after 3 months of dating. I just tactically withdrew , and the next thing i got in my mail box, and phone for the next one month were different levels of vulgarities, curses, and abuses by this chick.

Rappers are usually tough at heart but iceprince no follow. They provided dude with evidence of the babe in same hotel her sugar daddy lodged in and pics of both on vacation but instead of dude to use his head, he was busy forming Voltron,the defender of the universe. Finally, she left him. Dude done cast big time.

DrOBD:
Sir, you didn't complete scenario number 2.
If that same man bought a car at 520k in Nigeria which was 1000 USD last month, and he sells that car at 400k, he will have excess of 20k and can buy that same car again at 1000 USD, because 1000 USD today is 380 Naira to a dollar. Who is fooling who.

Did you go through what you just wrote? Buy at 520k and sell at 400k? And lose 120k? In business, if you can't make profit, you try and break even. That means if you buy and can't make a profit on your 520k, you must sell at 520k(breaking even), and not below your cost price. If you have this type of mindset, please do not attempt to go into business or else you would lose your entire capital in a jiffy.

The thing that pisses me off with most people on Nairaland, is the brazen display of ignorance. People just run their mouths like tap and say all manner of stuffs... For those of you saying importers are greedy and jacking prices up arbitrarily, have you ever asked yourselves how the importers get dollars they use in making purchases? Go around most car lots in Lagos today and you will find that most of them are out of stock and have almost closed up completely cos they can't bear the huge burden of importing with high exchange rates. A lot of them have switched to Nigerian used cars. This brings me to another issue I'd like to address. When you see a car dealer quoting a high price on a Nigerian used car, know that the fault starts from the client he bought it from, or is selling on his behalf.
I had an issue this week with a client who wanted to sell a used 2009 Camry. We were 4 individuals involved in the sale of this car. Client had agreed to 1.8m initially and as soon as the buyer agreed to pay for the car, the owner changed his price to 2.1m. All efforts to get him to collect 2m, proved abortive. At the end, the deal didn't work. Somebody who doesn't know all of these, would say a dealer is greedy if the dealer attempts to sell the car for 2.2m. As I speak to you, I'm currently trying to negotiate a Camry with a client and he is insisting on 2.2m. How much am I expected to sell it?

Don't just sit there and blame innocent dealers over what they have no control over. Last week, we got a 2009 Benz c300 and Lexus ls460 and it would be shipped in pretty soon. How much was the dollar last week? If the dollar keeps falling to around 300 or less by the time the 2 cars come in, how much do you think I'd sell? Will I sell at a conversion rate of 300,for a car that was bought with dollar of 400+? You do the maths.

After, one person would senselessly come and say that a man who refused to date or marry this one because she has a baby, is cheap and silly. As if it is mandatory for the men to take up the trash other people disposed off.

Dyt:
Nawa ooo
I can't even believe a mother will think of denying her child cos cheap silly men are leaving her
Orisirisi

Pls change your circle of men and don't fall for society pressure

The way you ladies reason and talk at times could be so irritating and annoying. You are referring to men who made their choices, as cheap and silly because they refused to go further with a woman who has a child for someone else; how intelligent does that sound? Must they be forced to accept her and the baby? Does the child not have a father? Not everyone is interested in getting caught up in a web they aren't comfortable with. Women being who they are (unpredictable) can wake up one day and start getting close to the ex and that would start creating issues for the new man. As much as I do not view single mothers as condemned, I also do not think anybody should be angry with a man who doesn't want such. The best set of people she should attempt dating, are people in her own kind of situation. Calling single men who refuse to go further with her, cheap and silly, is not just a selfish way of reasoning, but a very silly one. The child did not drop from the sky and there is a reason why the father of the child is not with the mother. Not everyone is interested in such details cos whatever happens between two people, only two of them would know. The woman might not speak the truth and not everybody has the strength for such...

Engine oil shortage and lack of water / coolant knocks an engine faster than any of the other reasons you posted there. Most people don't check their coolant or oil gauge regularly. Every morning, that's the first thing I do before starting the car.

I keep cash where people can access it if they need it and I'm not at home, and it never gets missing. This your kind of wife would make cash disappear from the house mysteriously. I think she's just a drain pipe, and isn't someone who is going to stand by you in tough times. You better start preparing for the uncertainty that would happen if you don't have money to give her.

No be so. E just be say dat place been popular that year.

horlakunle25:
bad guyb na ashawo house u dey reason for dis kain mata

Smiles. Okpe road, akintola road, gks, etc. Good old sapele days. Shey Del rosca motel still dey function?

Jonathan spent $2.1bn over 5yrs on Boko Haram. Buhari spent $2.6bn on Boko Haram in less than 2yrs. This is quite interesting considering the fact that Boko Haram were much stronger and posed a bigger threat under GEJ. Well, it's obvious where this money has gone to.

Lol. Slay queen must have been a blonde.

Too many goats and dumb people in Nigeria. No wonder the country hardly moves forward.

I feel really sorry for the girls who agreed to date you. They passed the test and were in for real but unfortunately got trapped in your inability to make quick decisions. Most girls these days hardly ever pass that stage. I think maybe you should sit them down individually and talk things through with them. Abuja to Kano shouldn't be that far but dating a girl still in school is something you shouldn't try if you have a better option of having someone you love around you. At 20,that girl will still wanna have fun. Girls that age, are everybody's toys. If I had to choose for you, I'd go for the one in Kano with you, provided she's out of school. If she's still in school, I'd advice you go for the one you took her virginity cos there would be no difference.

The calibre of people in leadership positions, tells the Nigerian story very well. How can the economy be buoyant when you have nepa bill certificate holders, and a forged certificate holder as part of the policy makers. '

This is what G boyz call "employment"

deparagon:
This is a counter thread to www.nairaland.com/3689026/guys-she-possesses-these-traits

Ladies Abeg we sef Get Qualities
i dey lie?

If He Possesses Most Of These Traits, Consider Marrying Him.

1. He doesn't Force Himself On You.

2. He Shares His Life Goals/Visions with you to have your Opinions.

3. He is not a Drunk (you know what these ones are capable of doing)

4.He loves you passionately.

5.He pays rapt attention to your complains & find/ suggest's possible way out's.

6.He is not a Fault Finder.

7. He is not quick at getting angry.

8.He doesn't Hit you.

9.He doesn't Spend irrelevantly.

10.He adhere's to most of the (+)advices you give him.

11.He doesn't Harass you in Public.

12. He talks about settling down with you.

13. He doesn't take actions all alone, he considers your opinions before making any move.

14. He talks more often on where, how and what to Invest on.

15. He talks more about the future.

17. He talks to you about moderate dressing.

18. He is always interested in your family's well-being.

19. He introduces you to his friends/colleagues not just as a Gf but as a potential wife.

Mehn my ink don finish i can go on and on and on, believe me there are good guys out there that exudes most of these traits, though most of 'em are introverts buh they're good.

Ladies let's have ya say!

True but ladies don't pay attention to these. They would meet a guy who has all that, but would opt for the one who treats them as an option and when things go awry, you'd hear them say "all guys are the same".

AngelicBeing:
It is your life, are you out to please people or to do what you are comfortable / gives you peace. if offending lots of people while l do what l am at peace & comfortable with, so be it. It is my life, choice, decision & race , l am not in a competition with anybody and nobody gives me a national award for spending a fortune on a lavished wedding but down the line, they will say wow chronique has been happily married for the past 40years, what is his secrets? nobody remembers what your burnt on your wedding day but they will see how you have been able to tackle all the challenges ahead and still have a happy home

Thanks.

CeoNewshelm:
Popular Comedian Basketmouth has explained why he does not enjoy partying at night clubs.





Speaking to HIP TV, Basketmouth said, "It's too stressful. I swear what I am about to say, some club owners would not like it. You go to a club, it's crowded, you can't dance, everyone is hitting you, the drinks are expensive.


''If you look at it at the end of the day, you are actually getting stressed out to spend your own money. I would rather just stay at home. Buy the drinks and keep it's real. It's cheap. Call my friends to come to my house and drink. The money I would spend on a bottle of brandy in the club, I can use it to buy 3 at home. It's just #11,000 for a bottle (of a particular brand) but in the club, is it i #35,000? I be mumu? I be igbo, I save my money. No be club?"


http://www.newshelm.com/2017/03/basketmouth-i-dont-club-because-their.html

Exactly. The crowd is the number one thing that puts me off. I like really quiet lounges and restaurants.

AngelicBeing:
It is better you do a moderate wedding / marriage, save the rest for sustaining the marriage, there is no point spending Millions /billions for wedding, all your guest will hail you, eat and go, then you have your cross to carry alone , marriage is responsibility, it is not a child's play, it is a life time investment, a school you never graduate from, so it is better to spend less and have so much saved & stored for the raining days, alternatively , the excess you would have burnt in your "show-off" wedding use the money to open an account for your unborn child and leave it there like a trust fund, your baby will thank you in the future to know that you already have his Education fund sorted out before he / she was born, it will also save you of un-foreseen challenges like when your job or business is down, you know you have something saved up for the raining day, wedding is one day but marriage to your spouse is a life time investment

Ok. Means I'd offend a lot of people.

AngelicBeing:
Go with the bold

Why?