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IyanuDeb:
Someone posted this in one of my discussion groups( anonymously ),,surprisingly different opinions were given because I thought there is only one answer to this kind of problem, let me hear yours though


I am a 29-year-old lady, I got married 6 months ago. Everything is going so well and my husband is everything I could ask for, but I have a small problem. In my year 1 in school, I had fallen in love with a guy in 300level, and I got pregnant, he initially was talking about how we were going to handle it, then a few weeks later he disappeared, till today I don’t know what happened to him, I don't know if he dropped out or if he died, I just don’t know. I couldn’t tell my parents I got pregnant in school. I know how they were struggling to send me to school so I confided in my roommate and she advised me to terminate the pregnancy. With the help of another coursemate, we found this nurse that was willing to help us out, and so I did it. All I could remember was blood, I was just seeing blood everywhere and I passed out. I woke up in a hospital where the doctor told me my attempt to terminate my pregnancy has destroyed my womb and may never be able to conceive. I asked my friends what happened and they said I was bleeding so much they had to rush me to the hospital. I cried and forgot about it.
My husband is already listing out baby names and I don’t know how to tell him I might never be able to have children for him. My husband is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Please advise me, what should

hammerT:
YOUR HATRED WILL CONSUME YOU.

NA STILL THE SAME ENVY CARRY UNA ENTER HER LANE.


NO ORIGINALITY, AND IF WE ARE TO MAKE ANY PROGRESS, THIS IDIOT SHOULD JUST CONTINUE TO BE IGNORED.


THIS IS HOW YOU GET GENUINE PEOPLE WITH ORIGINAL IDEA AND FOSTER CREATIVITY.

EcoBrick:
https://twitter.com/MobilePunch/status/1668305167467388930?t=czI0pPCnVzUR7yQS7x8ejQ&s=19[/quote]People don't follow her because she doesn't dress naked unlike the other one.
The world celebrates nudity more than decency.

ElBenny:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z40Mv1cBrSI
Drama ensued at a restaurant after a Nigerian lady ordered food which cost N12,000 while on a date with a guy.

The man who took her out refused to pay the bill and it led to an argument between the two of them as he stormed out of the establishment and tried to leave her behind.

She followed him to the car park and pleaded with him to settle the bill that her phone was dead if not she would have paid herself.

He, instead told her to drop her iPhone as payment for the phone and said that she was embarrassing herself

The man queried her for eating food of N12,000 and she said that she can even eat that of N50,000 and it is not a problem, as she would pay for it.

The young lady asked him not to blow the situation out of proportion, saying that she just needed to call someone and it will all be sorted out.

A waitress who attended to them in the restaurant could be seen standing behind the lady, waiting for the payment while the two continued the verbal exchange.

When the man insisted on not helping her to pay for the meal, the lady regretted and noted that she made a mistake by agreeing to go on a date with him.

chisomkachy:
https://www.bbc.com/hausa/articles/c03909x6lnro.amp

Kobojunkie:
1. So, the woman should live what amounts to a tortured existence as a nag in the name of marriage? I would rather vote she quit the marriage entirely.

BloomingDale:
Counselor.

Kobojunkie:
1. LOL... you think say na everyone get time and mind to pressure another adult into doing what adults ought to know to do? That job is meant for his father and mother, not for a wife abeg!

2. Life is what is not a bed of roses — marriage is rather an agreement and a choice.

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

Lutherblaq:
https://www.thecable.ng/its-mans-inhumanity-apc-governors-accuse-oil-marketers-of-causing-hardship/amp

Essenza01:
I really don't know anymore, i just did my budget for the month and i am scared, i have cut from everywhere possible and i fear for my self.. i dont have a GF, Wife, Children.. my salary is N400,000 and i have added side businesses and one or two's to even survive.. but with this fuel increase, what else is left... zero savings..

- Rent - N108,333/mth (1,300,000/12)
- Fuel for car - N180,000 (36k for 5-6days)
- Auto maintenance - N30,000/mth (service/repair)
- Fuel for generator - N50,000/mth (20ltr/wk)
- Feeding - N62,000 - (N2,000/day)
- Health miscellenous - N5,000/mth
- Dstv - N4,500/mth
- Data - N7,000/mth
- Recharge card - N3,000/mth
- Dry cleaner - N4,000/mth (Starch/iron)
- Hygiene maintenance - N10,000 (body spray/perfume, roll on, soap, cream) etc..
-  Gift to people - N10,000/mth
-  Family House contribution - N20,000/mth
- Eko electric - N10,000/mth
- repairs and maintenance - N12,000/mth
- Clothing, footwear etc - N10,000/mth
- Outings, restaurant, sit outs and provisions - N30,000/mth

Total = N556,500...

My rent is average rent for where i stay, its a two bed flat, i use the other room for home office..

Feeding is N2,000/day.. its not anything out of the ordinary.. tried cooking and spent more with time wasting.

Fuel for car is at the new rate of N500/ltr, my car is a 70ltr car tank..

Auto maintenance is basic brake pads, shocks, service 2mths, tire guage, police pr, tire purchase if any, minor touch ups etc... nothing major.

Fuel for generator is 20ltr/day (2hrs or less daily)

I need help.... how are you people doing it, what am i doing wrong? The rat race is killing me..

peekspot:
https://punchng.com/subsidy-petrol-price-will-come-down-says-nnpc/

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

Sunnyshinylight:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xq_-zlFYElM



https://www.legit.ng/people/1536540-i-waiting-perfect-man-123-year-woman-slept-a-man-video-trends/
Source: Legit.ng

ebukajay184:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsvXqoQAzPV/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

ItisWell22:
Responsibilities!

Dicado:
You are totally wrong. There are many factors that affect one's sexual urge of which stress is one of them. Check this out, why do most rich women become sugar mummies to younger and active sexual partners? The answer is simple, due to a limited physical stress. But check out marriages where women deny their men sex, they're either doing all the chores plus taking care of their babies plus their baby adult husband, working 20 hours everyday etc.

Some factors are medical conditions. Some people especially women lost total pleasure in sex in their mid 30s and instead feel pain every single sex they have.

Some other factors are age. Most women fake their ages, so by age, you will begin to only feel sexual urge once a week until it becomes once a month, etc. as a woman ages.

Other factors are lack of love to even ignite urge in women

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

kyber:
This Is The Kind Of Past Women Want You To Forget(Pictures)

Never !!!

Saviola86:
You seriously don't have sense

treesun:
https://punchng.com/how-fg-spent-over-n200bn-on-postponed-census-npc-chairman/

Saviola86:
So today I had to call my resident pastor to order.

I am a 30yrs old guy and in a relationship with a lovely lady of 25. It's been 6 good years together building and improving ourselves.

I come from a family where nobody mounts pressure on anybody especially on marriage issue. My parents are so liberal that they trust our judgements and allow us to marry from anywhere we find love despite fact that we are igbos.

I and my fiancee have been through different stages of life because she was 19 when we met, I was a dead broke ass graduate then without a job and still going from one interview to the other. I was so broke that my young fiancee then was the one giving me money to go for the interviews (she was running her mom's store then). Aside that she would bring food and sometimes get me clothes. When I say I was broke, I mean totally broke

God did it I secured a job of 60k a month and a year later got a more improved job of 100k. I don't drink and don't spend recklessly, I was able to save and began a POS business which my fiancee 20yrs as at then was running for me in her mom's store while I was working. To Cut long story short, my fiancee is in her 300L now in school while I have ventured into other business and I can say I make about 500k monthly combined.

On reason why I caution my pastor, in church I am one of the youth leaders and a key figure and most of my friends or mate in the ministry are married and my resident pastor took it upon herself to always use me for jokes or call my name from the alter to go and marry.

You'd here bro sososo go and marry and the congregation will laugh, during meeting you will hear word like don't be like bro sososo who wants to become a grandpa bachelor.

Once any member marries you will hear bro sososo we are waiting ooooo.

Like I don't find that funny, she is mounting unnecessary pressure on me which I don't like. Will she be the one to take care of my family?

Sometimes she goes as far as introducing a sister in the church to me.

So today I had enough, called her after service and told her my mind. I know she will feel disappointed but for my mental health I needed to put a stop to that rubbish.

My friends in church are married and to be sincere they look like shadow of themselves.

My fiancee is in school, she was there with me during tough times, she built and grew with me and even in school she is also learning a trade and preparing for life after school. We agreed to marry immediately after she graduates (next year) and so far everything is going as planned

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!

I'm Fadila. I'm the fifth born in a family of four girls two boys.

The thing is, I have breast ptosis. Why are women with this condition shamed even when it's not something they have power over. I have had this condition ( still do) for has long as I can remember. It's been like that even when I was much younger, though I'm trying to better it. So, I don't know why someone should be shamed for something he or she have no control or power over. There's this erroneous misconception about having this condition. I won't it, but it's hogwash anyway. I'm pained because of what has been said to me and thought about me because of this. If I remember them, I feel so bad.

If you're one of those who abuse/bodyshame or shame anyone having this, you better desist from it. Just stop it! What would you gain doing that? Instead of shaming the person, why not profer solutions or remedies you think can better the condition? Why not that?

And if you're one of those still believing the erroneous misconception about having this condition, the earlier you stop believing in that the better for you.

Are you a woman here with this condition? Have you ever been shamed for it? How did that make you feel? How did/do you handle the situation?

And if you're a man here that has insulted someone with this condition, tell us why you did that.


Thanks!

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Yugoslavia247:
Women or gals who love their father so much can give a husband alot in Marriage.

1 They already understand loving a man truly and even unconditionally.
2 A gal that buys gift for her father will understand that spending your money on your husband is normal
3 They have less entitlement mentality
4 They show high emotional stability.
5 They already experienced the love from their father so they are very considerate and respectful.
6 They already understand the power of love and having Daddy love.
7 They work hard because they already learnt it from their papa.
8 They are smart and intelligent.
9 They have the right perception of feminism. Which is competing with men to achieve goals and not depending on man when it suits you and manipulative entitlement when it pleases you.
10 They are good friends.
11 They easily understand a guy and know what's up.
12 They cry when hurt 🤕. They love fully. Daddy 🐶pet


Please this is my observation. Don't question it. There are exceptions though.

You can repair your relationship with your parents today.

Forgive and forget
Move on so life will move ahead too.

nairalandkachy1:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/sudan-evacuation-fg-hires-40-buses-at-1-2m/

Marvellsmart:
I just found out last night that my husband
to be is ga.y.
Like he is into men
I stumbled upon his phone yesterday night
and saw his chats with his best friend, the
supposed best friend that returned from
South Africa because of our wedding next
week.
We have planned our wedding next
Saturday, everything is set. We have dated
for four years and never for once did I
suspect that he was into men
In the chat, he was professing love to his
best friend. Telling him how he has missed
him and his pen!s.
How he had enjoyed last night with him, I
even saw my fiance nπdes in their
Whatsapp.
I am losing it, please help me
I went to his house for the weekend, on
Saturday, he had left me and returned late at
night without knowing he was going to
have s.ex with his best friend
I just left the house this morning without
him knowing cause he is a banker and he
leaves home early
I left his door open, packed all my properties
and haven't talked to him
He has been calling me since but I am not
taking his calls. I couldn't concentrate in
work today
What should I do?
Please help me
I love this man so much, he has been a
blessing, and I am pregnant for him, but
then, why this??
Should I cancel the wedding?
Should I confront him?
I'm confused
I want to run m.ad.

SundayNightGist:
Look what I found guys! I never expected the response in the fourth attachment. Kilodeeee!

Is it advisable for a lady to ask a guy out?

chisomkachy:
https://twitter.com/adamugarba/status/1650186359200464898?t=gjSjNKrD3hbl8VNWVpPc2w&s=19[/quote]They Saw the outcome of the general election and rigged it, now they want to be practical.

No, I thought they said they have the numbers. The unity of a nation is very sacrosanct, if there is no unity you rule in vain without progress.

ijustdey:
Two aspirants for Senate President, Speaker reportedly offering $1million per vote – APC governors



https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/593633-two-aspirants-for-senate-president-speaker-reportedly-offering-1million-per-vote-apc-governors.html

PrinceofSarcasm:
Why not stay quiet if you have nothing to say?