₦airaland Forum

Mcslize:
There are still guys here who are dating white girls. White girls are friendly than our black ladies.

A white girl will be so willing to help you out than your fellow black girl. Don't tell me you don't know any of your friend who is dating a white girl if you live abroad.

You sound so ignorant. It is a pain reading your comments.

pocohantas:
You have said it all.

The OP, just like many other homebased guys are steady in a dick-measuring-contest with diasporans. I would never understand why.

Stay your lane, let them stay theirs. They no kuku send you sef.

Exactly. Everyone is in a journey for himself.

ttoyetade:
Thank you for your intelligent contribution. An average Nigerian is always in competition with others about money. Money is not everything. Probably the OP missed the opportunity of going to US some time ago and he want to justify himself that he is still doing well despite the miss. You can't compare people doing well in US or Western World to yourself at all. Your N22m savings to day will loose its value with the depreciation of Naira. Also some abroad may not be earning much but they are living in Properties which could be more than $500k and could be sold if they have to return home

I love competitive people, but the obsession I saw in his posts is just utterly disgusting.

AududuNine11:
Beat comment so far on this thread.

You have a sound brain.

Thank you for your kind words

The truth is that this guy is not looking to leave Nigeria or his business. He is in a contest of some sort between who earns more. Him or someone in the US and he's trying so hard to justify that he makes more. Remember he constantly asked for someone to tell him their exact savings.

He has no issue cutting off his family so he can save more, or being with a partner. It is obvious this kind of person will literally do anything for money and is threatened when his money is threatened.

He does not want to hear that anyone he knows is doing better. This fear kicked in when he saw first a lady that spent 12m, then he constantly refers to himself as poor. He is trying to compensate for what attributes he does not have using money.

Brother, money is a lot, but it is not everything. You are not in a competition with anyone. Saving 22 million a year cannot make up for some things that family and friends will bring to you. Stay on your lane and do what is best for you. But most importantly, enjoy your life with the people you love that loves you.

The culprit for Nigerians abroad raising indiscipline kids boil down to the mentality of "my child must not suffer what I suffered". There is a stark difference between suffering and providing the necessary tools for your child to thrive and dominate in their environment. Some of those skills are coated in "suffering experiences" which inadvertedly makes some Nigerians believe that you cannot separate sufferings from skills.

The good news is that, you can. You can isolate and teach your children those pertinent skills that can help them succeed no matter where they are. So, not every time my child must not suffer but use your sense to teach them right.

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brandsoncharlie:
You want to be famous but you don't want to do anything with famous people
Davido has his quiet time just like Messi and other celebrities. They got time to hangout with friends, same thing with Messi he always hang out with friends such as neymar etc in his house sometimes. It is very common with celebrities.
There's time for everything.

I would never want fame. Nope not me, not ever.

How does his wife cope with all the visitors trooping in and out? I could not be with a man that entertains all day and night. A small secluded family suits me the most.

Horlertoungy:
Please help me find an answer to this question.
Assuming somebody is living in New York City in the United States and he sends invitation to another person in Nigeria, can that invited person arrive and start living somewhere else in that same country?

Lol. Get the visa first na. That is where the major problem lies.

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I always want a slightly large family, bonus would be marrying into a large family too.

If I ask what men want now, they will come for me.

But independent women, practice what I term "independent dependence" in a relationship. The fact that you can do it all does not mean do it all. While I can afford my expenses, I will still ask my man for assistance and give him my assistance also. I will definitely don't put everything on his head but he'll show up for me because you show up for people you love. Giving is love. There must be somewhere you and your partner can help each other.

So don't carry it all. Love is sharing and giving. Vice versa.

I can be anything but what I cannot be is to stay with a passive aggressive partner. I don't grasp the concept of punishing your partner for something by using extreme actions. You wont beat the person, but you start exhibiting some questionable reactions. Why won't she assume something strange is going on?. On her own part, she should try to be more sensitive to you by examining where your pain point is coming from. But, the minute I sight that behavior in a man, anyone really, I am the first to run.

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lawali:
Please where did she go wrong?
I wish other waiting for the interview best of luck. Prepare and pray for the best.

Thank you for your detailed transcript; there is enough information for anyone to learn from. I am not an expert but I have some observations.

First I think she did well in questions that concerned the school choice her answers were satisfactory. However, there seem to be a possible disconnect to answers that addressed living arrangements. Even though you are obviously behind the orchestration of this process, she should have been sufficiently informed about the details so she can say them without hesitation.

On a good note, if she intends to reapply, she knows exactly what to correct as the vo was not vague in the reason for denial.

Better luck next time.

ublight:
he is a university dropout, and has no qualification apart from ssce.

His mothers brother who stays there wants tofacilitate his travel. However the condition is that only food and accomodation will be given him for 6 years after which he is on his own. Should he go? If yes what can he do with ssce?

Through what means? On what visa? Is it even that straightforward to get the visa?

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Water!!!!!

Use tissue to wipe the surface if it's a public toilet, but most definitely use water to wash your hands.

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Honestly, though life is not roses, I CANNOT complain at all!

This man is a clown. We are truly unfortunate.

100%!

If you can share something as intimate as sex, unlocked phone is just a topping. I cannot be with someone that I have no access to his phone.

RedPanthar:
Because of your purity. It's not the same with many of your sisters. So many act innocent and pure when outside, but when in, they become the enemy of the man and devil to him using all possible means. Many go extreme going diabolical to control and keep the man beneath them. To control their lives and have an advantage. Even when nothing is pursuing.

I am really sorry for men that fall for such deception, it is not meant to be that way at all.

bluskyee:
Nice points! But how can we be equal when I bankrolled your travel expenses, paid your tuition, fed and housed you during your training period? Then few months after earning peanuts you want to 50%-50%? Even in corporate organisations, the holder with the greatest stock controls the direction of the company. If you want 50% bring 50% from the onset. Thank you

The thing is, personally, I can do this for whoever I love without seeking to control their actions. Love is not a business transaction, it is a promise of faithfulness, love and loyalty.

GeneralPula:
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Tell your kids..

Men don’t need your advice..

Alright, will do!