₦airaland Forum

Amule5000us:
Hellos Boss
Abeg I need your help, the only help I need from is connection to travel out of this country and my favourite destination is USA.
Right now I get N1.2m with me, if you can connect me to sure link that will help me out to travel out. I have tried several times, those travel agents out the duped a lot have wasted a lot of money, but I don’t know went through my mind to contact you if you get sure link for me to travel out to USA (For Non appearance)
Am your die hand fans Here in Lagos, meanwhile I get friends there I can stay with if you favour my request.

Thank You, God bless you

You are still going to get duped from the look of things. Sit down and STUDY all types of visas to the country you are planning for, and how to get them. It is not magic.

There is nothing wrong with financial planning. In fact I am glad that the OP is thinking that way and all couples should emulate that. What I have a problem with is the income disparity and the amount of her contribution.

By the time she removes all of that, say 50k, it only leaves 30k for her own needs, which may not be enough. And you earn times 3 of her salary. Pity her small.

If you want that kind of contribution, look for a woman with a higher income, maybe around 200k to complement you.

On the other hand, how has she been living with the 80k?

Its all about compromise, OP, try and see.

lummily:
There was a “contractual agreement”… I buy you food, you follow me home… The man fulfilled his own part. So taking back the food justifies that he is a real niggarrrrr

What the heck is food? Food? Really? How is food a bargaining chip for following someone home? It is truly the poverty mindset of the average Nigerian which is ultimately tied to the poverty in the country that I blame for this.

It is sad that this happens and for the first time, I blame the Nigerian economy. I mean, it is poverty in all sense that leads to this. This cannot possibly happen in advanced countries like America or Canada where one can earn say $3000 per month and ends up only spending $200 on food.

This goes to show just how cheap and meaningless food is. To think that someone can be threatened to sleep with a man for food? It's just the economy I blame for this.

iCauseTrouble:
In as much as I feel happy for the guy for getting the job, my heart bleeds for him again on the other hand..... Thirty thousand naira is just $60.
I won't say more than this

I meann...it's just $60!!! This country is really messed up

I had been (still am) one of those that would cover my exam work from being copied.. When I wrote my SSCE, I intentionally asked to be skipped from any answer passing around. In fact, I'd rather leave a question unanswered than to cheat. I got an F in my WAEC and NECO (In Igbo language) because I won't cheat.

I continued same behavior even in my undergraduate days. In fact, many people did not like me for that reason although I made up for it in other ways but everyone knew that I won't assist you to cheat in exams. So where am I today?

Doing very well actually! I had also worked in one of the places the OP listed and moved on to better things. I never liked cheating or dishonesty. I still don't!

cococandy:
Seun doesn’t care. It’s good traffic. NL provides an outlet for the actual and potential rapists, murderers and assaulters among Nigerian young men to come and voice their frustrations, receive validation on it and walk away more reinforced with hate.

You are absolutely spot-on. Eventually, we would only come to look, express internal disgust and hope that these people consume each other. I only worry for the young impressionable minds that visit these sites and may be affected by this display.

Slowly but surely, Nairaland will soon become a place where men come to anonymously massage their egos, compensate for their inadequacies and completely exclude women voices.

Seun you need to see what your platform is turning to. It is harboring men that make it unsafe for women to speak their truth.

It is truly sad when a woman with children doesn't have a source of income aside from her husband. I wish more women will place priority on financial independence even more than marriage. In this situation, this man has broken the marital vow beyond repair and she should walk away. But now she can't go because she has no financial means to.

Beancounter93:
True...and let's be honest, it is not a problem affecting only Nigerian-foreigner marriage...it is a problem affecting marriage between two different people from different countries.

Upon all the usual stress of marriage, you have to carry the stress of navigating two different cultures, two completely different ways of doing things...

I used to wonder why Nigerian men and women still look back home when they want to marry and the reality is just simple, it is easier to live with someone that is your own person, understand your background, speak your own language. And that's why Nigerian partners will never stop bringing their people to the US.

People that have never lived outside the country are the first to swear that they'd have nothing to do with Nigerians when they live abroad. There are many more Nigerian couples that live peacefully but the news will not carry that because there is no news.

Beancounter93:
Married woman from a different culture..and did not make the needed compromises.

Especially marrying an AMERICAN woman....those women aren't like Nigerian women

There is nothing wrong with marrying outside your culture...but let's be honest, you have a lot of work to do in your marriage...more than those who marry fellow Nigerians.

This is the exact problem. But people on front page are too myopic to discern that

ELKHALIFAISIS:
Someone who spent a million plus for traditional wedding is crying for his wife to borrow him 1000 naira from a shop he didn't rent for her...

Walihi to slap you dey hungry me

You don't understand. I am sure he does not need that 1k, everyone has this need to feel loved and cherished and protected. He just wants to know that if he needs something, his wife has got his back.

Even people with plenty money still need someone that is willing to care for them

Where una dey see hoodlums as wife? How can one be so selfish as to not even contribute to the same house where you are supposed to be a partner and even disrespect your husband that way? OP don't tell me you didn't see all this red flag in the relationship

Na wa o. But it's still one side of the story.

Daddy46:
hungry never catch you, people like you go travel out na pride go still kill ona

Okay.

Okay, OP.

Listen to that man called nextstep. He understands what the concept means to the last breath. He has indeed said it all

The OP himself does not understand what feminism is about and the aggressive variants we see online goes further to aggravate the misconception. Nairaland is also the last place to have such constructive discussion. So OP, to each his own

MejiLoyon:
Tell your friend to take that msc certificate and pour oil on it every morning. It will bring money and help him build large houses and buy big cars.

He is the proud one. And he will stay long looking for a job. That's pride and not self esteem. You are better suited at this job.....oh sorry I no do. Finish. Which one is if you know me. That HR is very trained and I commend the company. If na me ogbeni I go compose better swear give am and damn the consequences.

Aimoiye msc wey be cook for hotel. Some na security

When you don't know your worth every Harry and Tom will throw anything at you and you'll accept it

proclinician:
Dear mumu. I understand what you're saying but right now I just said what I want for myself.

Go over to the original post and say what u want for yourself I assure u I won't even read it talk more of commenting on it.

Next time u come under my space to tell me I don't have sense I will be very angry with u.

Be warned.

Okay.

proclinician:
I dont see myself marrying a woman that will not take my mother as her first mother while her biological mother comes second.

Anything other than this won't be easy I tell you.

Lmaooooo. She should take your mom as her first mom because your mom gave birth to her? And then her actual biological mother should be her second mom. Nigerian men keep amazing me every day.

If you have sense you will realize that what you need is a humane woman that is respectful and considerate and not selfish. Nobody needs to dump one mom for another. You only need someone that is genuinely interested in you and can work with you

Nothing wrong with that. She's family. My uncle has a framed portrait of me in his house and I am only a niece. I'd also want one of my dad. It's all love.

SmartProf:
Academically brilliant minds will never follow the dumb narrative that 'school na scam' cos they will always excel and win honours, grants, scholarships, and opportunities in any clime. Congrats to this beautiful champion.

I agree o. School was not scam to me. It opened a lot of other opportunities I may not have gotten with a good degree. It never was and never is.

Kriss216:
A desperate evening newspaper on a hunt for a husband hardly remember genotype. She just wan marry, go her husband house, intimidate her mockers and start breeding children before menopause start knocking.

This sentence is disgusting. How do you even think like this

2elliot:
be like na u be the girl op dey yarn. bitch!

I am trying to understand how you can think the way you do. You just wake up and choose name calling. It must be really muddy in your head. Wow.

ebuka10box:
wait, all of y'all saying she is Ripe for marriage and all that seem to amuse me .the word 'love ' doesn't mean anything to you. assuming I fell for this and got married to her ,I'll be on the loosing side cos she wants marriage and I want love and I want a companion. She is into marriage and will do waeva she wants in it so far she is legally married.
who never ripe for marriage ,even 16 year old gets married nowadays. let's call a spade a spade . So if I had spent a lot on this girl ,marriage will be the excuse

Okay, she wants to get married. Are you ready to marry her?

Know that love is not tied to one person and it can come at anytime.

Lmaooooo

Boys that should be chasing how to rearrange their lives so that it would be good for you. Her priorities is marriage, you know that's what she wants. Your own priorities are different. Go pursue your own let her do her own biko

Ah ah

horlarleecon:
Good morning Halimah, I would really love to talk to you about the Canada stuff please, I would really love to if you can message me or WhatsApp 08108155667 or drop your number for me please. My name is Taofeeq Galadimoh. Please I would really love if you can help please.

You must not be bright at all. Remove your phone number from this public site right now!

This op is not bright at all.

You have been dating her for 4 years, same length as a PhD but you are still not married to her.

You set a trap that even you cannot avoid. If someone chats you up with all those specs, even send you 25k and iPhone 6 instantly, tell me you will not fall for it? You probably will fall for even less.

People saying she was willing to meet same day, yes it happens. Sometimes you meet someone and you are compelled to meet them, especially in a public place. She also said she must come with a friend and won't sleep over.
I am not saying she was completely right, but you can sense the hesitation in her tone. And she's also not very bright with y'all painfully boring conversation.

That the op is willing to go so far shows his stupidity. I hope it comes out and y'all break up. This is too painful to look at.

Orkpekyandega:
That's the same thing women do when such a sensational story is shared pitching the fault lines against the man.

Speak for yourself, please. Two wrongs will never make a right.

It's the people on the front page for me. It breaks my heart that Nairaland men would rather look for one million reasons to justify this callous act than blame the man. They hide behind the anonymity of the internet to reveal their true selves. God, please help us not to fall for one of these people.

adanny01:
Ask yourself this question, Angela Merkel has a husband, how many times do you hear him talking to the press on the issue of his wife's government?

Aisha over stepped and she got what is right to her, it's not because she is a woman.

The government is his not hers or thiers.

Besides the comment was said in humour, see how the low comprehension in Nigeria turned in upside down.

Does he have to know everyone in his gorvernent? If he doesn't know any Igbo man so no Igbo can be in his cabinet.

I cannot argue with you. You have no point but I can't possibly argue that. Your heart is already set in its ways. So cheers! Do you, and raise your daughters with that ideology.

You do realize that not all marriages end up like this right? Before you marry, make sure the person you are with has the underlying principle that is compatible with yours. Underlying principles or lack of it govern our outward actions and how we behave.

For example, a man or woman that feels comfortable telling white lies is comfortable with lying to save face or passion. There's is nothing like small or big lies, if push comes to shove that person will lie. So be sure of what you are getting into.

I have never seen more nonsense than this. Literally, it makes no sense at all. Not even one.