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You need to think back if you ever logged into any other device... Like your personal computer or place of work computer because that's the easiest way to recover your account.

Otherwise it may be hard

sonofakin:
Thank you once again for the update. However, as someone in position of extreme knowledge, I think you should be more explicit with your advice. It would really go a long way for both the 'realistic' and 'unrealistic' individuals on this thread. Like what exactly do you want people to do? Stop applying for admission? Stop applying for funding? Stop requesting for email version of I-20? Stop asking questions on this page? Pay or dont pay for SEVIS? Defer admissions? Pay and request for online classes? Apply to Nigerian schools instead?P.S: Canada are already upfront about the fall classes situation. Hopefuls already know they would have to make do with virtual classes come fall semester.

My God

makinson2865:
I hate girl that is fond of demanding. I want to plait my hair today, I need airtime tomoro and bla bla. Well, kip spending on her as per maga you be.
Lass lass your eyes go clear when she returns to her real bf maybe till "your ancestors whisper" son we disown from this family. Gbewu dani omo

Is it the 2k and the 3k and the 4k I am seeing here?

Please the guy is not complaining. "kip" your observations to yourself

What type of relationship is this bikonu?

I swear y'all cracked tf me up

safarigirl:
Thanks for this

Being a big girl doesn't mean you want to go it alone all the time, but a lot of Nigerian men don't know that. They just count their blessings because nobody is asking them for money for airtime and hair, in the long run, na the big girl go lose, cuz she doesn't ask for stuff and the man doesn't have sense to contribute without being asked. Same problem guys have.

So correct. Everybody wants to be pampered. So to every girl that "have got it" just sit tight, sip ya wine and buy plenty shoes, clothes and whatever you want please. There are men that will understand you. He will come and you'll realize that you have been wasting your time with every other person. Until then, don't even think of settling. It is not worth it.

There is a misconception sha. The fact that a girl can hold her own and not need your help does not mean that she won't appreciate it when you offer it. Make that offer often enough because you care for her not because she needs it. You will be more appreciated then.

stabilizer:
Baffling? Really? Thought birds of the same gender would flocks together in this ....

There are so many ways her thought process was wrong. And how exactly did you come about this particular bird of feather analogy?

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Wow! The way your inferences and conclusions came about is truly baffling.

topsam1:
Nice write up..... Please can you help one to atlease get a job offer from there sir? Thanks for your response

He took his time to explain as succinctly as possible. While you are waiting for help others have already started checking out those sites

So it took Coronavirus for the north to realize that the alamajiri system is a problem. People have been calling for better population control methods and they rejected it in the name of religion.


But look at what they are saying now. Mtchew

durosegun:
Good day everyone. Please I need information on schools that offer funding for Masters in Mechanical Engineering in US. My profile is GRE: 303, CGPA 3.82/5.0. Abeg, I await your response. Thanks.

Instead of awaiting, why not do a bit of research yourself. One tip: Use grad cafe to search for your course. Updates usually carry if it was a funded offer or not. That way you can know which school funds or not

greenskittles:
Hey guys. I got a fully funded offer to a top school, and I'm really excited. Now the last hurdle for me is the whole VISA issue. For now the site says they're not booking appointments, and my I-20 form isn't even ready yet. I wanted to ask how other people with offers are preparing. If ther s anything you think I could do while this pandemic rages on to ensure I get through this stage.

Hi,

Congratulations on your offer.

There isn't much to do right now than to wait and let this whole thing pass away. Hopefully, a vaccine or a remedy will be in the works soon.

The guys that will value you, that will love you genuinely will not care about how "sculpted" your body is, as long as you can keep yourself in shape through regular exercise.

It's the slay kings, the money miss roads, the new money gang, the ones that want the impossible, they are the ones who will place utmost priority on this type of procedures. Their own is to spend all their mostly illegally gotten money on you without showing you the true experience of love.

So before you want to get your body done, think about it over and over again.

If it will bring you so much satisfaction, then to each his own

COOL10:
Don't y'all ever get tired of making use of that manipulative 'a real man' phrase?. It doesn't work anymore . The sole defining factor of who a 'real man' should be, is actually A MAN.

Y'all never get tired of subtly using a man's ego against him.

You misunderstood me obviously. Men are the ones that let their egos destroy them. Yes there are real men and it is a class of its own. Same way there are real women and its also a different class

konkonbilo:
I'm sure this kind of attitude only happens in Nigeria, when a lady comes visiting she most collect transport back. Sis if you're doing in the past I'll advice you to stop so you'll not lose your self worth even when you're giving kindly reject it I bet you you'll get those money in another form from the guy maybe by him gifting you something later.

My self worth is very much intact thank you. I don't even step out of my house if I am unable to fund where I am going to because I hate embarrassments.

But it doesn't mean the guy should not be concerned or ask. It's just the humane thing to do. Something I even do for anyone that comes to visit me.

She's probably saying it the wrong way. And making the wrong points but there is a certain truth in what she means. A real man meant to be chivalrous and caring especially after you have done the deed with them.

So, it's just proper that you ask a lady if she has the means of getting home. You might end up not giving her money but you ought to ask. It's the human thing to do

Kennedyiheme02:
lol you can fight me, you cant fight reality and nature, chase that career and see what happens to you... take a pen and paper, create a diary with my username, stating i warned you

You keep screaming but nobody can hear you. The feeling is draining I know.

What did you say? We truly are unable to hear you.

drakeli:
The message is not for you if getting married is not on your bucket list. Here whether Canada or US, Nigerian ladies better come with your husband from Nigeria. The competition for men here from way more beautiful foreign women is high. Men here hate marriage, besides, they are in very short supply . Too many women way more beautiful than you are single

Ok

Yes yes yes!!!!!!


Op yes!

I completely, absolutely, with no reservations whatsoever, totally agree with you!

Powerintoxicate:
haha whos the troublemaker? Everyone knows some Nigerian women are troublemaker s likely you one of them

I am no trouble maker sir. I am highly reasonable and mostly gentle and minding my business. This one just happen to be an issue I feel obliged to comment upon

Kennedyiheme02:
sorry for women it simply doest come when it comes, you have to pursue and find it, many old women wiser than you said this in the past... you they just gave birth to forming wokeness, it will end in tears, ask linda ikeji

Unfortunately, your opinion does not matter in the scheme of things. You can only cry here but nobody can hear you. It must feel somehow right?

You don't matter dear. Not to me, not to Linda. You don't matter.

Powerintoxicate:
stop fooling yourself. Get a man in Nigeria before moving. That's common knowledge

See ba, you are just a trouble maker and I don't want to get into anything with you please. Avoid me.

aragonchuks:
maybe you are very young now and you think you have lots of time but later in life you will realize we all need someone to lean on be it husband , wife or children . Unless you are a bitter person or witch ...Ciao

Okay. I want to get married. I want 5 kids. I want a large family, I want to marry into a large family too. I want everything! But only when the time comes. I will not put my life on hold because I want all these things now. It will come when it comes! Until then, we are still seeking better circumstances sir.

yassinattah:
Madam if it is autonomy you want,So be it,We are even overpopulated in Nigeria,so if it's Canada or US u feel like eloping to,Bye Bye.
We have so many unmarried women in Nigeria seeking for spouses all over the country, the north predominantly,So please am begging you in the name of God,Go oo and live in peace in a white mans land

Your bitterness is smelling sir! Go find something to do with your damn time. Don't mention me this afternoon please. Can't you see the sensible comments others are making? If you don't have anything intelligible to say, please sit back and enjoy your quarantine.

Babatunde40:
I see where you are trying to go with this.

But let me tell you. Happiness is a personal thing. Happiness is like salvation. You do not generalize. I personally do not comment in relationship threads to avoid the bandwagon of generalization.

Forget what the world says. Forget what feminists say. Forget what misogynists say. Do what makes you happy. You owe yourself to be happy. You only live once. If being with a man who loves you makes you happy, go for it. There are many internally unhappy people online, posting things online, forming strong women.

Just do what makes YOU happy. You owe yourself that

My God. To think I nearly missed this comment. Thank you for all you typed because you made the most sense.

Everyone should pursue their own happiness. You don't tell people what to do in pursuit of their own happiness. As long as they are not hurting anyone.

IdioticNLmods:
You don't know what you have till you loose it, this men you are downgrading with this your statement will be the cause of tears in your eyes before you sleep every night while in diaspora if you don't plan well. Anyways, most of you females don't deserve pity and it gives me joy seeing some you over there.

Oga nobody is downgrading any man. The post is insinuating that a lady may not want to travel because she doesn't have a partner of which I disagree. There are plenty other reasons why someone may not be in a relationship and I don't think it should interfere with your travel decisions as a woman.

I am not downgrading any man.

OkoAmarashy:
It is your type that they are talking about.

You that know my type. Thank you very much

Hay God !

Even the educated have fallen our hand. Even if you do, must you loud it?

bukatyne2:
Hahahahahaha @ allow ladies to make their decisions. Am I holding them?

The problem is that a lot of people are not strategic in their thinking, jump head first into a project or claim one thing when something else is doing them.And I agree the typical Nigerian marriages are not ideal so you create your ideal and work towards it.

Dear Sir,

Moving abroad is not something you rush and do. Most people are in the process for not less than two years. I am talking about legal relocation not overstaying visit visas. Within those two years, what exactly makes you think that there is no strategic plan for the abroad when you eventually get there. If you are in that process believe me, there is no scenario where you have not thought about EVERYTHING at least 10 times. So if having put in so much money and effort and immigrate without partners, don't you think they don't know the outcomes?

Let people, let ladies make their decisions. It is not your problem!

mamatwiny:
My cousin in USA gave me this advise when she heard I had plans to relocate. She is now heading to 50yrs.
"If you are in a serious relationship, try to seal it b4 u move," else, you can move, get your papers, come for a visit after a while and trust your male cousins to hook you up for marriage to a good person. Another option is to do surrogate with a donor sperm, have a child, let ur mum or another trusted person train till 4 years and you come pick your child cos school starts at 5 years in ca.
A Lady must not be with a man.

For that your one cousin heading to her 50s there are a thousand other women that have successfully either brought their partners over after they have moved or found other partners there to settle with. Should I also tell you the success stories I know?

Dear Lady, what are you waiting for? Move and make something better out of your life please!

ogaontop:
I don't think it's advisable to dump your immigration dreams because of men, No, never!!
But it's good to get hooked up with someone before immigrating or probably plan it together, it might not bother now but when you must have been so comfortable over there, and as far you've got the plans of making a family and there's no one around you, you might start feeling lonely and resort to what the OP is writing about!!

There are too many uncertainties in your post. If you have a partner you are planning with, then awesome. If you don't, you cannot let that stop you. You can only control what you know about. So all the you mights laced in your post eventually will not matter.