₦airaland Forum

kennyman2000:
That motherly respect is what some people still mistake for that motherly love hence they still place their mothers love over that of their wives. Someone like me is a good case study.

Motherly love is still different.
No one can love you like your mom and you can't love another woman like your mom.
But it's a different kind of love.

You have a romantic love with your wife. And a filial love for your mom. That's two parallels that shouldn't meet. Why the comparison self.

Some kind of funny questions these nairalanders ask.

Kachisbarbie:
Nne the matter tire me o. I wonder if their mothers don't give them orientation. No son of mine would grow up and say that rubbish (my mother first, then you)to his wife. Except I don't hear it...my reaction would really shock him.

Give me my respect, that motherly respect. Then go meet your wife. Let my husband and I enjoy our old age-love, I heard that's when it's sweet sef.

Na suffer head wives that didn't have any love from the husbands of their youth that turn into those clingy over bearing MILs later in life.

When they should be in retirement strolling the globe with their husbands and enjoying their old age together since they don't have kids to support or mortgage to pay anymore.

firsttymum:
Let's not forget to appreciate our husbands o.... And continue to pray to God... You might never know the bullshit or nastiness you dish out to ur DH till u read someone's story

True sister.

I've said it before. The more I go through NL, the more I appreciate what I have. All these are learning experiences for us.

One would wake up to breakfast in bed and still take it for granted. Never again.

@bold you're contradicting yourself but whatever the case, just do something before you become a statistic.

ahnie:
Jellymon,i prefer to hear the bitter truth,than the sweet lies.my husband z good, the issue here is his temper.i see no big deal seeing him off to the gate,hugs n kisses,but i cant do it always because i need to tend to our lit2 child,sometimes wakin up by 3.30am to prepare his meal n put inside his flask and clean the house,and still go to work.which he fails to understand bcus sometimes i hardly sleep in the nyt.i hav prayed,fasted n the rest.they said,i shud be submissive,o yeah i did..but what did it fetch me?bullyin,beating,dehumanizin xperiences.do you know how many artificial tattoos(severe BITING on my Back and arms that he gav to me?i have a broken wrist, you want to know why i adopted the silent method?bcus then,if i talk it always fetches me beatin,so i always keep him quiet to avoid such.i'm not taintin his image.my people cant come to my home,becus of his character. my only pacifier is my sweet Mil,that encourages me to overlook his issues.i hav even ran away from home several times to his younger brother's place,who tend calls him to scold the both of us.he was the one that even told me abt keepin him quiet when,he's in the mood.yesterday he was pullin my strands n bendin my Neck that i must to answer him.i went into shock cryin n wee wee on myself.my almost 3months baby was cryin seein how her father was displayin his john cena skills on me.His mum has bn the one prayin and tellin be to bear his ish's.funny enuf,if you asked him all what i stated here,my husband will correlate it.what i need z help n encouragement.i dont want to Die and later n my burial proceeding z announced most ppl wil be like..why didnt she seek for help,and they will speedily typed...RIP,how can i rest in PEACE?i can never REST in PEACE that z why i'm cryin out loud for the world to hear me.i know that most ladies are passin thru this trauma ish,but are shy to speak. The age diff'z is not even my problem,but the beating.there is this lady that stays behind my compound,she ran away with her 4kids,almost 9months now.if you see the lanky husband,you go think say...he nor dhey shit,very quiet but nah FIRE.please jellymom,can we switch places so you can know how it hurts.gracias

Goldmine thanks for sharing.
What a heart rending ordeal.

armyofone:
aww, i don't know why better things are limited. Only few states have my favorite sandwich dibellas submarine.

well it's not so bad. Maybe one day when I'm in Cali, I'll check it out. One day one day. If I remember

I can still do my occasional Cheesecake Factory here. Not so much of a desert person anyway.

Truckpusher:
I ayaf died.
Na ontop this thread I go sleep until my people come carry me commot with truck.

Okada abeg na my last bus stop be this.

Lmao.

jnrbayano:
From her picture she deserved to still be a virgin.

What do you mean. Isn't she fine?

Kachisbarbie:
]There is nothing confusing about that grid up there.
Babymamma is just all 'bout the child. That's where her right ends. She shouldn't be in the picture.

The various women in a man's life are all important and should be able to respect their boundaries.


^^^God's view on marriage

I feel mothers that hustle for their son's love are insecure, because if she is so busy and loved up with her husband_ she would have better things to do. My MIL for example,her omugwo doesn't pass 1mth o. She would say her husband is missing her...fiam, she done disappear.

Secondly,guys that place their mothers above their wives are confused...unconscionable level of confusion. If you are married to a woman that you can have mind to place as a second fiddle, then you need orientation(from your 'special mother'),'should probably not be married to the innocent woman or you're married to the wrong woman. Nobody should tell me my mother suffered for me...I know right. A mother's nurture should be straight outta love, not for some cheap emotional blackmail.
Your mother has been getting good loving from her husband, now you are married...you say it's still her? Are you okay?
So the wife is supposed to wait till her son grows and gets married, then start dragging love with the DIL? And the cycle continues? ??

As for wives and daughters, no sane mother would feel threatened. Dads gat this natural bond with their daughters. As long as it's healthy, it's safe and allowed. [/font][/i]

@bold. I guess so.

armyofone:
www.extraordinarydesserts.com

They have delivery. Oh dear, be like say I wan go back

San Diego?

Ugh they can't deliver here. Too bad

armyofone:
lol and yours truly went to extraordinary cake yesterday to try something far from cheese cake factory stuff. Very healthy fruits packed cake. You should try them. Expensive and I was like one slice for that amount? Hubby was paying sha. I'm still on their website looking

Link pls.

omenka:
Chief, you are bigger than this oo.

You're such a hypocrite.
How's your comment more mature than his?

Beg beg beg your fiancé.

if you could hide a child from her, there's no wonder she's worried about the future.
Give her time too. Hopefully she will come around.

How you're going to make it up to her and prove to her that such a thing won't happen in your marriage is up to you.

She just needs that reassurance that she's not going into some marital trap where babies will be popping up left right and centre from different women and threatening the unity of your nuclear family.

I'd be worried if I were her too.

@bold, yea that could happen.

damiso:
At the moment we do school dinners. The school dinners in my borough is really good as well and my daughter's school is signed up to a healthy school programmes. No other drinks but water and milk and the only snacks are fruit and veg. You can inform them if your child has allergies.

[b]Packed lunches get monotonous sometimes [/b]especially with having to store or keep at the right temperature etc so one is sometimes limited to sandwiches and even that sef you can't use certain fillings.

I know someone who used to prepare her children's lunch to drop at the school at 11.50 so their own food too can be hot like the others.Obviously I don't have the luxury of that as I work full time and even if I did I know myself I would get fed up.

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Realizing your problem and admitting you have it is halfway to the solution already.
You're on the right path. Keep working on your mind.

It helps to put yourself in people's shoes too.
That way when you're being unfair to them, you will know immediately.

armyofone:
Labor day...still on the Bed dreaming of what to eat.

Moin moin and mackerel on my mind.

Still in bed wishing tomorrow is labor Tuesday

I had a four day weekend. From Friday until today.
(Last work was on Thursday.)

Yet I never belleful.

What kind of greed is this?

KanwuliaJara:
Lots of fun!
It was sickening. I nor sleep well at atol-atol!!!!
If those women were not DRINKING, they were in and out the cabin liked termites!
I had to stay out of the damn cabin so they could sleep, since I love to sleep in the day time!

NEVER AGAIN!!!

It is either one of dem is ALWAYS COLD, or the other wants to sleep by 10PM and wake everyone up by 5AM with ALL HER NGWONGWORO, LIKE SHE WAN GO WORK!!!!
See me roaming around the ship at night taking pictures!

I don't think going alone will be that much fun. Instead just go with one person next time. So you have a picture and gist partner.

There's always something fun going. A comedy show or any of those performance shows. You don't want to be laughing by yourself. Lol.

And really nobody sleeps well on a cruise ship. So don't feel short changed. We only saw our cabin when we were drunk and needed to rest our heads.

ifyalways:
Hehehe. Ok.I will try and post some for you. Make I search my archives

AJ, you did have lots and lots of fun. I have sworn that no matter how bad condition dey, i must escape on vacation atleast once a year abeg. It's one of the secrets to longevity and good health.

Waiting

@bold, exactly

babygirlfl:
Ladies is a new school year now for kids. What would you/ do you /did you do for your kids and why.

Packed lunch or school lunch.


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I would pack lunch for them.

Slight germophobe here.

If I didn't, I'd probably spend the day worrying how clean what they are eating over there is.

Truckpusher:
Cococandy will read everything as if she's writing exams.

Read fire.

These epistle hurts my eyes.

I'm even like "thread derailed. Serves OP right for giving person this long epistle this time of the day"

OreMI22:
Unfortunately, Nigerians are sometimes too sentimental to see the naked truth.

Exactly

Truckpusher:
Aha! oya come advice ya sister before she go break plate for another woman wedding.

already did

nairamaniac:
I'm fine o. This post and entire Nairaland can't contain us if we start on this thread. it WD take more than seun to drive me out of here.
how's our Oga(ur Husband)? hop kool.
but u no try at all o. u just 4get me since last time we crossed parts down here.

what's ur take As per my opinion/suggestion to the o.p?

Oga is fine. We are all fine. Thanks for asking.

Per your opinion, Yea I think she shouldn't go too.

Lol. Hi you too. How are you?

nairamaniac:
heeyyyy youuu. cococandy! goshhh I missed u.
u are soooo lost&found. I'm quoting on this thread cos of you. your moniker rung a bell, I opened ur profile and saw it was you.
how can I miss this cute-Tyra-Banks fore-head of yours.


Remember me? The smooth-talker-stalker. The one u promised your twin.
I took you very seriously. having one of you Doppelganger WD be a blessing, even as a friend(@least).
Is she as interesting&enlightened as u. I doubt that. let me guess, she's the Elena BTW u both, while you are the Katherine.

Let me shed some light on the op's post.

Dear O.P,
I advice you not to honour the invitation. Use your head. The bride needs your presence to massage her ego. Your ex(her fiance) and his relatives have sed nice things bout you. she needs you around as a point of reference to show invited quest the strong rivals/contestants that she defeated to win the groom.
if her motive was sincere she WD HV stretched her arm of friendship to you off-camera, not on the floor of her ocassion whereby she's the star of the movie.

She's not a very nice person.
That's not very considerate of her. A nice bride shd empathise more with her groom's ex'es. Not mock them or make them a yardstick of case-study.
if you wanna go, don't go alone. rent-a-date. u can pick up a denzel or Boris kodjo for that day. someone hotter than both the bride&groom, put 2geda.
Don't even stay long. make them both look stupid. like its his loss, that he lost you.

I for one(as a guy), have never honoured invitation to any of my ex'es wedding, cos the day belongs to her groom and not me. I find it selfish&insensitive.


Cc: freecocoa

How hard their life must be

Chiliisauce so it's not today you started looking for trouble

You're really looking for trouble

Omomo is kicking fine.

EfemenaXY:
Sad ke, they look mean jare. Anyway, how's Omomo kicking?



Where did you get that pic from? Have you seen the facial expression of the woman at the far end?

That's one hard babe. Thing is, I'm trying to decide who I think looks more like her on this thread. It's a fair toss between Naijababe and Edwife. I mean those girls don't joke with their exercise routines...but then again, that woman could be either Kimoni or Opella.

Why am I looking for trouble this evening?

baby124:
Almond milk or soy? Almond milk is very ok, so is soy. But the pain I got from soy got me in a panic. If one is not careful and watchful about what they eat, one won't know till something bad happens. As soon as I stopped the soy milk, no more pain.

I read something about soy milk and breast cancer .

Why are some men so selfish? You have a two month old baby and don't sleep at night for staying awake to take care of him and his concern is that you don't wake up on time to give him breakfast? tufiakwa.
This kind of nonsense pisses me off to no end.

Pls ahnie if you're in danger of violence, find somewhere safe to go. I can't in good conscience tell you grind and bear and pray about it.

From twisting your neck it will enter hitting your head against the wall.

Go somewhere safe if you're so scared of him to the extent that you piss yourself in his rage.

What a horrifying ordeal.

Congrats dear.
Well done.


All this story of horrible pain is scary sha. Why don't you guys ask for epidural?

missmalachi:
Bs
My wonderful family, how una dey?‎
Since we all knw I passed my due date wc ws 28 august. I went 4 acn on thur as usual nd wen I met d doctor n told him I noticed in d morning my pant was wet without me going to wee.he examine me n said my my amniotic fluid is leaking n dat they will hv 2 admit me n dat ws how they took my file to delivery section. On getting der d doctor examin me n said they hv 2 induce me.
           That is how they inserted a tube in my virginal ooo n dey told me one d balloon drop I shld let them knw.so I started walking up n down d whole section n started feeling pain @ my abdomen.b4 I knew it,i throw up n d pain stopped.i told d nurses dat am nt feeling any pain n she said I shld nt worry dat d pain wil come.
            I now started chatting DH since it ws hs break period n I came 2 update people on nl.i ws formin sexy thinkin d whole tin is not as hard as people say it.finally d balloon fell.
      The nurse now told me to go n lie down n d nxt tin dey brought a tube n inserted it in my anus oooo n did some abrakadabra n told me 2 stand n walk around 4 10min n go 2 toilet n poo.that its 2 avoid pooing during labor.afte walkin n goin 2 poo I felt so calm n empty but still feeling sexy.

      Finally they asked me to go n lie down on d bed n pass drip on me n in less than 10 min contraction started wit 5min interval n I ws ask 2 lie on my side.d pain ws 4rm oda world.
        I couldn't shout cos I hv read it wont help mata so I turn d pain 2 d wall of d delivery room.i almost broke der wall.( I have never spoken in tongues this lengthy lik I did yday). I ws praying n speaking d word to myself that it wil end in praise. Wen ever dey come 2 check me,it was lik war.after being in labour 4 2hrs 15min I called one of d nurses n told her I want to poo n she said she checked me in less than an hour n I ws 4cm n dat as a ftm I wil go through labor minimum of 8hrs.i called her after 5min again that I wnt 2 poo n wen I started screaming she now came 2 check me n ws surprised I ws fully dilated.b4 dey could convert d bed 2 delivery one I started pushing cos my baby's head ws out already n my 2nd pushing brought forth d body.
       My baby came out weighing 3.4kg

Sorry am an accountant n not good wit narrative easy

Mtchew

I'd vote an 18yr old child before I vote buhari.

Eww.

I dislike everything he is.

Ioannes:
You are right. Buh I wish Nigerians would realise that it is virtually impossible at this stage of our National life to have a party made up of saints. IMO, APC is a better party because of the person of Buhari and not because of it's members.
If we support Buhari we can force the thieving leaders to commit class suicide. This would never ever have been our hope had PDP won the elections, what with the "goat and yam" theory and "corruption is not stealing" proclamation. Let's hope Buhari will do the needful and jail whoever is indicted by the law courts for fraud irrespective of party affiliations. One thing puzzles me though, PDP had the opportunity for the last 8yrs to drag Tinubu before a competent judge and try him for corruption and embezzlement but they didn't... I guess they were too busy helping themselves to the national cake or the man is innocent.