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Any Man below 5 years older than I am is too young for me.
I knew that right from when I still dey belle.

I'd rather my aunt who loves us become our step mom than a new strange woman. That's speaking from the point of view of a kid about to get a new step mom.

The hard part is wondering if there was something going on between them before your mom died. Hopefully there wasn't.

All things being equal and minus foul play, she's actually in the best position to take care of her sister's children than anyone else.

But speaking from a woman's point of view, anybody's ex (friend and sister or neighbor) is off the limits for me. I won't agree to marry such a man.

chronique:
My gates and doors are wide open... If I see you now for my house and I nor run pass Usain Bolt,make I know wetin cause am.

Just wishing.

Roland17:
Yes it is spicy hot, I used the original Nigerian hot pepper..gave it a very good kick...
Nne, always know I have you in my prayers as you journey through the most honorable path of humanity, may God give you the strength, courage and keep you na"nwa gi" in his blossom of safety .

Chai. Anyway let me sleep and dream of it. That's where I eat these days. The things I can't easily access.

@bold. Amen my brother. Thank you

Roland17:
Whole wheat spaghetti with beef stew, baked chicken, boiled egg and some fried over ripened plantains..

why didn't I see this one before?

Omo you guys should stop messing with person head for here. Is that stew spicy? Drooling

chronique:
Come get it...

Don't tease me man.
You will see me in your house now.

bukatyne:
Lols funny thread

I don't even know where the Op is going with this.
Maybe to teach us biology or something.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Here I got Couscous cooked with chicken stock with shredded chicken, shrimps, spring onions and lots of stuff

nice

I want that.

chronique:
Wow! Had to read through several pages of gidi-gbo. Dem open thread make una put food wey una cook but una done use gidi-gbo scatter all the food put for ground.

@all4naija: I dey pity u. Dem don give u combined beating before? By the time wey all the people wey u dey yab,join hand beat u finish,pour all those pot of soups,stews and coloured meals on top your head,your face go get colours pass joseph's coat of many colours.

Abeg,make I post my bachelor's hurriedly prepared fish stew wey I make several weeks ago. Was too busy to post pic here. I wanted to eat stewed beans today but the amount of foods I've seen here,has put me in a state of confusion. Now,I don't even know what to cook and eat.

To the ladies here: I noticed my stew never smells like those ones they sell in all these mama put restaurants on the road;why is it so? Why can't I cook and have the same aroma with some of those women cooking by the roadside? Their stews tend to smell in a particular way that I like. I don't eat out though,so I definitely do not know if those stews would taste as good as they smell.

I put fresh curry leaves in this stew of mine and it gave it a very nice aroma.

5minsmadness:
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Women need respect too. Love without respect is almost condescending. Like you'd love your pet
How can you even really love someone if you don't respect them?
Is that possible?

Men in addition to respect need love too.
If you don't need love, that's up to you but my man does appreciate some loving.

You can't speak for all men.
Don't be too generalistic.

5minsmadness:
You would lose the bet.
I was nothing but polite.
In fact i had to pause the discusion to ask if i had offended her in some way
In the end when she got to know me better she passed her rudeness off as trying to "assert herself"
Go figure

we hear you.
The way you guys go about hounding and insulting feminists on narialand and still have the guts to say they are insulting.

Hard to believe you weren't harassing her for not buying into your idea of what a woman should be and act like.

5minsmadness:
supporting feminism and being a feminist are two different things.

really?

5minsmadness:
You didnt read the op. If not you would have seen where I explained the evasive elephant argument.
Why the smugness on the other factors, or dont they count?

You're telling us something we already know.

How about I type women have boobss and produce oestrogen hormones to state that's why women are somehow different and have different roles. Duh. Captain obvious.

I only picked on that one because it is a falsehood that has been propagated a long time.

freecocoa:
And that's why I believe that, early men, used physical strength as a tool, to make society the way it is today.

They probably pummelled the women into submission.

Not probably.
Most certainly
History and laws are written by the conquerors.
Conquerors were the stronger ones because all it took then to win was strength.
So invariably conquerors were men and men wrote the laws. Religious, cultural, social and otherwise.

Only that times have changed but some are still clinging to the past.

Lol.

It's not bla bla bla.
You're making sense.

jaybee3:
What positive actions can we do to raise awareness of the plight of those without a voice


Positive messages displayed on Tshirts

Public campaign across the nation by NL volunteers

Dedicated NL volunteer team (Investigators, counsellors and lawyers) willing to respond to reported cases within a short period of time

Free banners permanently displayed on NL linked to a dedicated thread with information on how to go about reporting such incidents

NL uni students encouraged to act as ambassadors in helping to curtail the evil menace by actively engaging in educating their peers

Bla bla bla

100

UjSizzle:
Education. Yes, I agree education will go a long way to curbing the instances of rape we encounter every day, but this time around we have to shift the focus.

There are people who say that even though the woman shouldn't take the blame, she should be accorded some responsibility. Beautiful. The world is a bad place and it only helps to limit the odds in your favor everytime you step out of the house.

But women get the memo; it's been over stressed. You WILL get raped. Period. It's important she doesn't do anything suggestive to the opposite sex. Don't smile too much. Don't flirt too much. Don't accept a drink from a guy at the bar if you won't sleep with him. Don't enjoy or even revel in the delight of the chase (especially when it involves gifts like that's not supposed to be normal) because you WILL be raped. Everytime a woman dares to enjoy life, she's asking for it.

But women have done these things-- we've moved about with the constant fear that our right to consensual sex cam be stripped from us at anytime.
We get the memo. And it hasn't worked. There have been recorded cases of rape against women from the most moral countries in the world with respect to modesty in dressing and social activity. And there have been recorded cases against children too all over the world.

Women have changed. Laws have changed. But the education given to the male child hasn't been attacked with as much severity as the first two. Men are predators, true. They are hunters, true again. But they do not have to be sociopaths. Shift the awareness of how inhumane rape is to the men for once. Spend twice as much time as has been spent teaching women to be decent, and focus on getting the disgusting act of rape from the men.

Let the legislators enact laws that gives stringent punishment to offenders. If there's the possibility of having an executive arm of the police handle crimes of this nature (if it doesn't already exist) that will be superb.

And then the general population at large need to be sensitized. Rape happens because there are masochistic people who believe they can prey on the weakness of others. If we can stop being afraid of them, then they have nothing. What's to prey on when there's no visible weakness to exploit hmm?
Also rape victims are simply victims. They shouldn't be made to live in shame because of the nature of our society. We need a platform where men and women who have suffered sexual abuse can talk about their experience-- the fear, shame, and how they were able to get past it and integrate fully into society again.

There's so much work to be done. Where do we start? *sigh*

Couldn't have said this better texanomaly.

texanomaly:
Sex education is a must. If we, as parents, don't teach our children about sex they will learn it from other sources. Namely; friends, TV and porn. Non of these three sources are ideal. I, for one, do not wish to trust my child's friends to teach them about a subject as important to their future happiness as sex. Yes I said happiness. TV distorts what relationships are really like, and creates false expectations. Porn also creates expectations, ideals and attitudes that are counter productive to healthy relationships.

Many children begin watching porn at a very early age. This puts images and thoughts into that child's mind that their bodies and maturity level are unable to handle. These types of "entertainment" also usually show women as docile and agreeable to any and all situations and acts. They are not respected and are seldom treated well. They are simply there for the pleasure of the man. Nothing more. Is it any wonder that these children grow up thinking this same way? Men thinking anything goes and women thinking that acting this way is what "love" is about. Smh

If we want to raise health, happy and well adjusted children, education and example are the key. Children need to be taught about good and bad touches. They need to be empowered to say "no" to elders in this situation. Let's face it, we teach our children to respect and obey those older and in a position of authority. Give them the strength and the permission to go against that authority in this situation. Anyone who wishes to harm my child does not deserve respect, and that child has my permission to do and say anything necessary to protect themselves. Children also need to know that we will always take their side in this case. Many crimes are not reported because the victim is intimidated or is made to feel they are to blame.

We need to show our children at home how a husband should treat his wife, and the way a wife should treat her husband. If our children see love and respect at home they will want that same thing in their relationships. If we teach them about sex in a loving and mature way, they will know the difference when they are faced with all the images that are thrown at them daily by porn, TV and social media. They will look at the world around them with the knowledge they need to make good choices.

We've heard it said for many generations now, "Things were not like this when I was a kid." This is more true today than in any generation in the past. Kids are faced with so much more sexual pressure than ever before. They are exposed to so many more sexual images than we were. They are becoming sexually active younger and younger. Don't let them go out in the world without the "armor" and strength needed to withstand all that society and the media will hit them with these days. Until we take charge of sex education at home and in our communities, empower our child and keep our eyes on their comings and goings this situation will only get worse. The answer to this problem starts at home.

Bigger brain doesn't mean higher cognitive abilities. Duh.

Elephants and whales must be smarter than men then.

And that the only thing on that list that even deserves a reply.

Muscle mass, blood level, different hormones?

Hope she rots in jail when caught.
Goat

opella:
Thanks dear. Congrats too, eat well and don't really eat for two, so that you won't have a lot weight to battle with after delivery.

I'm trying.
I don't even have appetite for things around me only those that are hard to get. So overeating isn't really a problem for now. Let me see what I'd really like to eat first.

So you want is to click on that link OP?

True.

Where will she even begin to try to compensate him for the years and everything he put into the kids. Not even money wise.

MRBrownJ:
although i didnt click on the link to read the full story:
if a man raises 3 kids up to their teens (aka feed them, raised them, loved them, educate them and gave them a roof) then he IS indeed their father, whether biological or not. at this point in time the man is just TOO MUCH involved in their lives to back down... he has spent too much energy/hrs/sweat/money to just walk away.

also, he should do a DNA test to confirm the story

Don't mind him.

He has money to waste on law suits.

ronald4lif:
How is it possible for him not to have known what the wife would look like without a make-up? Did they court at all?

Although make-up transforms and enhances a woman's beauty thereby masquerading her natural visages I find it hard to believe that someone wouldn't be able to tell or picture what a woman would look like without enhancements. A pretty woman is pretty, and one should be able to decipher that even with make-up applied. And likewise for the not so pretty ones.

He has no case here and the woman is not liable for charges or indictment as there's no law that states women shouldn't use body enhancement and she didn't contravene any decree. The man should lick his wounds.

Damiso big bone is not a myth.

some fat people may even weigh less than they look because most of their body is fat and not lean muscle. Lean muscles weigh more than fat and it's not bad weight either.
As long as you're looking good.

That's so nice.

Congrats

opella:
My dear, I no wan disappear, am just loving the way I look and feel these days, you won't believe that am back to my pre pregnancy weight.

Sinbad2:
Madam if you are in Ife or have someone there tell him or her not to stay late at NIGHT till new king is crowned ok nd when I said late I mean 10:30pm upward shalom.sebi omo yoruba ni e kilode to n soro bayi

Hmm. So something is going on.

That's probably the only thing left to do.
Let the friendship die a natural death.

E dey pain sha.

Askseek:
I have been itching to ask this question and am afraid I have to one up u here. My friend is married like me for about 15 yrs and we have been friends for about 12 yrs. husbands met through us, we r actually a group of 4 friends that turned into family friends. We are practically neighbors. As in if rice finish in her house she will take from mine. The story started like play until it snowballed into something else. And for the longest I thought her husband was a jerk until forced intervention happened. See story, found out she had never been honest about the issues they were having, I mean she was wrong. Not holding brief for d man but she was more on d wrong. Now they r heading for divorce and it has torn our close group apart. We were the closest and I chose not to take a side but it affected me cos if we did not talk in a day then that day was incomplete. I have been so sad over it, the only choice I see is for the friendship to dry up. How does one handle this other than mind your business. There r some relationships that r so intertwined their business is ur business.

No dear. We didn't stay in any of the Disney resorts. But I think going with their meal plan would be nice. Do you want to be on vacation and spend half of your time looking for where to eat especially with kids in tow? they probably have buffet service, your kids can eat all they want if they do have buffet meals. Na your money.

I like combo deals. They take stress of you. The one we got had all meals, alcohol,a Caribbean cruise to the Bahamas with their hotel and meals over there part of it, rental car to drive around town both in Florida and in the Bahamas plus entertainment.
We stayed at radisson resort in Orlando and the Grand lucayan resort in the Bahamas. Their food was good.
It's just easy. So you won't go there and start looking for where to eat or what to do for fun.

ifyalways:
Cococandy, please bia. Tell me, did you sleep over in any of the resorts at Disneyland and bought their dining plan? Nne, I have bought a package that comes with 2015 dining plan ie 1 quick meal, 1 table meal, 1 snack, 1 quick refill per person per day. My boys and myself can eat for Africa oo and I'm having a hard time managing this yeye dining plan? Where did u eat?

I saw one African restaurant ,(Boma's flavours of Africa) and was dancing for joy at the possibility of eating my eba/fufu/amala but nne on checking the menu, I was sorely disappointed.

Yay,I got Fastpass+.

tchidi:
LoL! This Coco is in trouble o!!
I'm thinking it's too strong. Abi, isn't it? I thought you make that with very fresh corn?

When I used to make it back home, I'd soak the corn overnight if it isn't fresh and then boil it for a long time before adding the beans.

It's usually better with fresh sweet corn (that I can get easily here )
Beans corn porridge coming up soon.
Or 'Benco' as we used to call it during boarding school days.

Sinbad2:
As far as am concern there's lay down principles that r follow in Crowning a king especially that of Ile-Ife the use of human heads as u claimed is strange to me nd if its does happen then I believe things has changed ok.Am not jst contributing here

I didn't claim. I said I heard the rumors (hoping they aren't true). I can't something I don't know jare.

There's nothing wrong with laid down principles in announcing the death and choosing of a new traditional ruler. It's all a part of the ceremonies associated with it.