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carefreewannabe:
In this story the women would be charged with se*xual and armed assault.

The same would happen if the victim was a woman. Her aggressor would be charged with sexual assault because no intercourse took place.

njokusboy:
Seems you have already decided you were gonna disagree before the lesson...

Yes, men can be raped...

A man can be drugged and ra"p'ed, as long as it's not consensual, it's rape... my lil man gets a'r'oou'sed even in my sleep, assuming I woke up to someone riding it, it counts as rape too... doesn't it?


A man can also be bound and r'a'ped, the penis would respond to stimulation of any kind unless the man is impotent.. so yes, he'd get an e'r'ec.tion.. the fact that he was forced (he had to be tied) clearly indicates that the act was done against his will... it's r'a'pe... deek no get brain... he'd stop her if he was not tied...

A strong lady can also overpower a man and r'a'p'e him.. a teenager maybe, a physically challenged or unhealthy individual, an old person or a weakling...

In all, as long as the person had to be forced, d'r'u'g'ged and was not able to resist, consequently, it's r'a'pe...

Why u dey squeeze face like dat sef.. who vex you

carefreewannabe:
I saw the link.

I said that if a gay man penetrates another man then this will be considered rape and I stand by it. The link does not prove otherwise.

All the link says is that it is easier to get away with rape on males because they are less likely to report them and to sue their rapists.

Women have fought for legal protection when it comes to rape to be taken more seriously and against people blaming them for having become victims. They have won this fight. If men do not speak up and cannot even explain what constitutes rape on them and for them, how can they be helped? Who do they expect to help them?

lofty900:
its true. u r a woman so u won't understand. I'm 100% straight but d day I watched a gay p.orn I was so aroused and I hated myself 4 it. it can control itself, just ask hubby its true. u r a woman so u won't understand. I'm 100% straight but d day I watched a gay p.orn I was so aroused and I hated myself 4 it. it can control itself, just ask hubby

lolaredvelvet:
Dont be ridiculous. If you dont understand one's plight because you haven't suffered their fate, then dont comment at all

@OP.. although your mother might have failed you as a parent, you can still move on to a better life. Find a mentor e.g a pastor, uncle, aunty etc.. that can play the role of a guardian your life. Get closer to God, learn some skills, work hard to make something of your future. Dont let this affect you mentally so that you wont continue the cycle into your children's life. Stay positive and remember that you deserve to be loved. You may not have gotten that love from her but the beauty of life is that you can create your own loving family with ur future wife

datalossvictim1:
Lol A no m ya o. Exams have kept me away from the kitchen . I will be back soon. Thanks dear.

You are a fantastic matchmaker! Interesting events have occurred over the past few months and I hope it blossoms...

735i:
Lool....
Bia Cococandy... What is it na?
Relax...everything is okay....

BluIvy:
As passed off as I am having been close to someone who almost experienced the same thing, I believe this reply comes from Esther or the guy sister. If its Esther she is sharing her own side of the story and her pain.

BUT, why would anyone work hard fund a man to go to destroy another woman's life for her own survival and still cry victim?

You are a wicked soul woman. May all that is coming to you keep you up all night till it reaches you.

Blood sucking monster! You do not care even if heart ache kills this woman and her unborn child? Bloody vampires!

735i:
Nne... A'chokwanam okwu oh!!
Gbalu ogu gi nwuo oh!!!

735i:
Why are you calling for her?

manny4life:
Lmao... Nne, okwu wedding elugo mu n'obi, ife melu nu bu, oburo n'agho a ka mu ga ebuje nkwu nwanyi... Mana chineke debe anyi ndu na ahu isike, ife ga eme

manny4life:
Nsogbu adiro... You are on point.

I will teach you Igbo if you don't know how to write.

Herzumpther:
O din nma
Cococandy hope I got the spelling right?

manny4life:
@Herzumpther , nwanyi oma, kedu?

Hmm, my kind of person? Lekwanu ajuju

I barely get upset, in fact, it got to be serious when I get angry but when I do, my only flaw is that I overdo to the point that I often regret my actions even when my action is appropriate. My mom says that na m'enwegho obi...Therefore, I need someone to calm me down; I make good and rational decisions when I am calm. So I need a wife material that understands my weakness, because if my wife is always adding salt to fire, nsogbu ga adi o...

manny4life:
Really? Who is it?

Can she cook? (not a deal breaker because she can always learn from my mom)

Can she handle house chores? (definitely not a deal breaker because I can handle house chores).

Is she slim and pretty? (slim is a deal breaker while pretty is "indifferent"

Does she come from a good family? (this is a deal breaker o, good family background is important)

Is she family oriented? I am big on family o...(this one is a deal breaker).

Is she humble and Christian like? (humility is a must but as long as she's a Christian, she doesn't have to participate like I do)

Can she calm down my type of person? (this one is important o because of my type of person)

Is she supportive or is she a naysayer? (No 2 deal breaker for me)

Above all, is she a home breaker or a peacemaker? ( No 1 deal breaker)

Oya, who is the wife material?

moca:
This is sad.
My inlaw's dad married 3 wives.
First wife had no child.
So it started with my inlaw's mum(2nd wife)
He was d eldest and had a good paying job in an oil company. A very down to earth man and can use his last kobo to help d needy.
When d dad saw he has a down to earth happening boy as d first son, guess what?
He started making plan 4 d 4th wife.

Meanwhile d guy is d bread winner in d family.
It was really affecting him even with his good pay. He called and warned his dad sternly or else he should count him off as his son.

Yes, it got to an extent he started looking for work outside d country. Once he got one, he moved with his family.
He said if he didn't do it that way, he will never ever amount to anything.

So @op has d right to be angry and mad.
Assuming @op married a wife that don't like too much extended family wahala nko?
What of if he didn't make it big on time?

Even girls of nowadays r very skeptical of marrying a first son with football team behind him.

So he is right to be mad.

@op, d earlier u start looking for way to help urself to become somebody in life d better.
Goodluck.

tobechi20:
Then after the whole manipulation exercise, you both enter another war zone called Marriage..... Lolz
This is when "for better for worse" comes into another form of manipulation.

You will cheat on her, beat her, refuse your responsibility,make babies with other women, bring in women to your matrimonial home, boldly tell her that you are tired and you don't love her...... (


She is now scared of the word "DIVORCE"

Instead of leaving you, she would turn to prayer warrior.... Lolz..... You are on the receiving end.

Keep nagging young girls to marry, keep calling single mothers and divorcees names...... You men are the ones on the receiving end, because you are going to spend the remaining part of your life here on earth with a woman you don't love.

As For My Women......
Because you still want to keep pleasing the Naija society at large, you have become desperate.
Some of you live with useless men who haven't't paid one kobo on your heads, and some of you have desperately turned breadwinners, while the man is busy gallivanting about.... hmmm


Because you heard that husbands are scarce, most of you are just grabbing any thing with third leg just to update your Facebook status to "MRS"...... Odiegwu.com


Keep manipulating men to marry you by fire by force, and within few months of your so called marriage, you will bring your marital problems to Facebook pages or groups for advises... (The same advise some of you will ignore now)
Rather be single and be at peace, than being in a marriage that lacks peace.
When love leads two people into marriage, they tend to enjoy the marriage no matter what life throws their way.
But when a marriage is being manipulated upon, it becomes hard work trying to maintain the marriage.
Marriage is not a do or die affair, and the last time I checked, marriage certificate is not the gate pass to heaven's gate.


Tobechi njoku

ileobatojo:


Funny enough, I wasn't even responding to your conversation, it's just the rationale for this whole craziness that takes my breath away. In a very bad way.

I wonder how it's possible that these people and I are the same species.

TheRealCoolHunK:
...then he'll try to kiss his mates, they'll resist, then he'll force them, feel good, and become a rapist. And then one day, he'll try to rape someone, they'll resist and he'll accidentally kill them, and feel good. Then he'll become a serial killer and show up on your doorstep. You'll repel him because you own automatic weapons. And then he'll stalk your little kids and try to tongue-kiss them because that's what his mum taught him anyway. And you are cool with it.

bebe2:
Ehhhh, but wat sort of play is dat sef?
I do kiss my kids, but I cant remember ever tonguing my kids.

Even chewing food for a child , I dont like it.

I almost cause my cousins 18mths old to choke last summer.

She said "cut cow leg for am he sabi chop am" so I cut a tiny piece and put in his mouth seconds later he is choking. We had to beat his back and use a finger to take out the offending meat.

Wen it came out my cousin was shouting " ahhh u no chewd meat before u give am dats why e choke am"

I just stood there thinking u expect me to chew food for ur child??
Must he eat cow leg??

Na wa oo

edwife:

alutacontinua:

WORLDPEACE:
Be respectful. her dreams and desires are defined by her cultural experiences. I am not saying its OK. But unless you can take her out of the environment and give her a totally new life that offers her new opportunities don't criticize the father. He did the best he could under the circumstances. Sometimes in life a person mu,st choose a lesser evil over another.

WORLDPEACE:
Sometimes, in some cultures the marriage covers the humiliation of gang rape. Don't forget divorce and remarriage is very easy in this culture. Take yourself a little outside of your own culture before you comment.

Chillisauce:
Thats how they keep looking for trouble.
cococandy used to be very polite like herzumpther, now she is a warrior

btw, babyosisi, this one you dey, i dey suspect you for herzumpther side. Remember, any person you are trying to ""'é"é" , should pass through me for assessment.