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Kimoni:
Mba! She was a dove, always looking to please everybody sometimes to her detriment, now she is "Firebrand" esp with the family section guys.

ileobatojo:
You mean you don't know?

Lemme help you break it down.

Marriage is the ultimate, the only goal in life for a girl.

She was gang raped, hence she is now 'damaged goods'.

Someone was 'generous' enough to offer to marry her.

Of course she must be married off immediately! It doesn't matter if it's a rapist, a serial killer, an armed robber, a wife beater, a raving lunatic, a goat or a cow that asked for her hand. Heck it doesn't matter if she was 13, 12, 9 or even 5 at the time. Of course how the girl feels about it s completely irrelevant. Come on, look at the big picture now Coco. It's all about stigmas and that end goal called 'marriage'.

akinsadeez:
Huh Now this can't be true. I refuse to believe this.

How can a young lady who was violently robbed of her innocence be condemned to death by stoning as punishment. Punishment for being raped Even if some certain parts of Islamic religion are very archaic and bile-inducing, I don't think it is this bad.

Even the rape of a Muslim woman is almost impossible to prove under strict Islamic law (Sharia). If the man claims that the act was consensual sex, there is very little that the woman can do to refute this. Islam places the burden of avoiding sexual encounters of any sort on the woman.The crime of Zina is not confirmed except if the fornicator admits it, or with the testimony of four trustworthy men, while the testimony of women is not accepted.

Since it is incredibly unlikely that a child molester will violate his victim in front of "four trustworthy men", Islamic law amounts to a free pass for sexual predators.

Islamic law rejects forensic evidence (such as DNA) in favor of testimony. An interesting situation thus sometimes develops in cases where a victim alleges rape and the man denies that sex even took place. In the absence of four male witnesses, rape cannot be proven. The woman's testimony then becomes a "confession" of adultery. She can be stoned, even though the male is unpunished, since he never "confessed" to a sexual act.

Some clerics blame rape on the woman. Australian Sheik Feiz recently said a rape victim "has no one to blame but herself. She displayed her beauty to the entire world... to tease man and appeal to his carnal nature."

One of the world's most respected Sunni scholars, Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi, recently told an audience on his al-Jazeera television show that "To be absolved from guilt, the raped woman must have shown some sort of good conduct."

anakobembash:
I haven't ascertained or assumed it to be best ( note - "even IF". You can simply suggest how thing ought to be done instead of concluding on my comment

Herzumpther:
No we are deltans but we stayed in Abia and IMO when my dad was serving there. I was born in Umuahia.

anakobembash:
What would you do if the little girl was your daughter? I see most people strive to condemn any act, even if its for the best, so long as it has a relation to Islam. #HatredBeyondReason #SMH

Herzumpther:


My Abacha preparation.

Ingredients.
Abacha (dry African salad)
Ugba
Crayfish
Maggi
Palm oil
Potash
Salt
Pepper
Garden egg
Utazi leaf
Onion.

I soaked my dried abachin in boiled water for about 3 to 4 minutes then I sieved and kept it in a separate bowl.

I blended my crayfish and sliced my onion, garden egg and utazi leaf.I dissolved my powdered potash with water just to filter out unwanted solid material that is embedded in the potash.

I filtered my dissolved postash into a mortar and added palm oil then I stired until it formed a yellowish paste. (I stired using a small pistle) I added my crayfish, pepper, Maggi and salt to taste then I staired again. I added my ugba to the mixture and stired again.I added my abacha and stired the whole mixture together after which I transfered it from the mortar to a pot and heated it a bit because my parent likes it warm.

I already sliced my garden egg, utazi leaf and onions as I said earlier, I already fried my fish too.

After heating to make it warm I served adding my garden egg, utazi leaf and on it. I also sliced a bit of fresh pepper on the one I gave my mum because she likes the feel of it.

Please I'm actually not from the east, the way I prepared it is the way my mum taught me so I stand to be corrected if there is a place I made mistake or if there is anything I missed you can tell me. Thanks.

Ishilove:
Lol. Same thing in my family. We love each other to pieces but we don't use the 'L' word at home.

However, it's my younger brother who is now doing by fire by force 'I love you' for mischievous purposes. When he calls, he ends the call with 'I love you' because he knows we will be too embarassed to respond. The day I dared him and responded 'I love you too' he laughed in embarassment and quickly hung up. Since then, he dares not tell me he loves me to my face.

When he tells my mum 'I love you' she answers with ''common get out''. That's not to say she doesn't love us. She can give her life for her children, and the feeling is mutual.

The fact is Nigerian parents are not expressive, especially our parents' generation. They express their love in different ways, ways which we have come to recognise and appreciate, so we do not see the need to vocalise it. A dad who sells his car to sponsor your education, or a mum who sells her jewellery to buy you that dress you've been pining for doesn't need to tell you they love you; their action says it more clearly than words could ever express.

As for me I've vowed to be very expressive to my children. It's difficult but I must learn it.

dayosaurus:
Isn't that what your lord jesus christ preaches Are you going to go against his teaching??.. 'Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us'

carefreewannabe:
Such stories make me very sad.

I woke up in a good mood, decided to tidy up, played some music and simultaneously started the PC. When I logged in on NL, I read many dreadful stories like this one and saw the ra*pe video and another story about someone who hates his wicked mum and then the American woman who has been used because she loved. What is wrong with all these people?

I must confess that while it changed my happy it's Saturday mood and created sadness in my heart, it also made me grateful for the life I live. But what is wrong with all those people? Can we change for the better? How can we save all those kids?

nduchucks:
I can see that most of the critics here appear to be Christians.

While my opinion on this is currently reserved, I make bold to say that the so-called Christians who are condemning this man and the alleged rapists, that you are hypocrites and are not following the teachings of Jesus.

Jesus preaches forgiveness and he even forgave you people for killing him, you are well-advised to practice your religion properly. Many of you appear to be bigots who look for any opportunity to exhinit your religious bigotry.

venivedivici:
A Muslim faithful should please enlighten me. What's the punishment for rape under Sharia law? Or am I missing something here?

akinsadeez:
What a big pile of hogwash. The term used by the father is even nauseating. He said 'I decided to marry her off'' as if she is a cow or a piece of good that he can just dispose off. How can a father just decide to marry off his daughter to one of her rapists. It is patently unconscionable. that such barbaric practices are still being allowed under the guise of religion.

Imagine the unspeakable trauma a young girl who is gangraped will go through. Then consider her going to bed everyday with one of her tormentors everyday and having to serve the same friends who also raped her food. This also likely means the young girl's education has come to an end and she has been consigned to a life of misery.

Why are they so backward in the north

IamDejman:
To all insulting the man. Take a look from this angle

His daughter was raped. Under Islamic parlance, she might possibly not get married cos of that lingering issue on her. Since the rapist decided he would marry her, the father was happy that the shame would soon be over and therefore agrees provided there isn't any use of pregnancy in a month.

Note: the rapist in the afterworld would have his punishment cos of direct contravention to the forbidden act he committed (Haram)


#ProudlyChristianThough

carefreewannabe:
She is 13

Does she want to get married to her ra*pist?

knightsTempler:
Pedophiles on the prowl this days, what is going on?

There should be a new law to castrate any pedophiles, only then i think this despicable act will stop.

babyosisi:
I hope they can stitch up her bleached skin without it tearing
Marriage is not a do or die
He has obviously done this many times before

http://www.nta-news.com/2015/01/lagos-traditional-ruler-brutally-beats.html

babyosisi:
I remember the case of the Akure oba that assaulted his wife a few years ago

I bet you she is just one of the many wives not the wife
To him,she is disposable
There is no real bond and they know these women are desperate to be with them
I bet you this is not the first time he did this
I hope she realizes the next one may be her funeral

No to domestic abuse
No to polygamy and the authoritarian lords it makes men and the destruction of proper family structure

MizMyColi:
Perhaps I've said this before; saying it again isn't a bad idea.

Apart from the usual back and forths in the family section, you are one of the 2 females on here I'm eager to read their opinion on issues.

You're just in a class of your own.
#Bless