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cococandy:
The few bad stories you hear doesn't mean that is the majority.

Trust me these things are very common in normal marriages.
And it is not just the place of women to do that for their husbands. Loving husbands do more for their wives too.

You know,right hand and left hand washing each other

Right now I'm sporting the sexiest eyebrows of my life and it was done by my DH. He sat me on his laps and shaped them to his taste and they look GREAT!

So you must go into marriage with the mindset that you have to physically pamper and cater for your wife too. If she didn't know how to do all these things in your list here,she won't even know when she will learn and start doing them because your loving and caring actions teach her to.

emusmith:
Yea, I know...a counter thread should treat that, I guess...

Done. No need for counter thread

emusmith:
Yea, in Normal Marriage ... The things we are seeing/ hearing today, are they normal?

The few bad stories you hear doesn't mean that is the majority.

Trust me these things are very common in normal marriages.
And it is not just the place of women to do that for their husbands. Loving husbands do more for their wives too.

You know,right hand and left hand washing each other

Right now I'm sporting the sexiest eyebrows of my life and it was done by my DH. He sat me on his laps and shaped them to his taste and they look GREAT!

So you must go into marriage with the mindset that you have to physically pamper and cater for your wife too. If she didn't know how to do all these things in your list here,she won't even know when she will learn and start doing them because your loving and caring actions teach her to.

There's nothing too much about that list.
Just common things you find in a normal marriage.

secretG:
thank you freecocoa and also to your side-kick 'cococandy' i appreciate your time and comment, but my dear i noticed you were beginning to take it all personal, i see how you slowly but steadily seek to deteriorate this thread into a platform for verbal confrontation, well....i will let it slide and pretend i didn't get the silly message you sent across.

you cant tell me there are no domestic chores you happily did as a little girl that you do not find too comfortable doing now....and if there isn't, then i see the syndrome of confusing stupidity with humility playing on you.
you cited instances where you had to push the barrow in a cousins wedding as well as fetch water with your friends....it beats my imagination that you find this crappy analogy fit for comparison with my case, if this cousin of yours had to share the duties of the washing, cleaning, cooking, et el and decides to hand you the barrow-pushing part, i guess it will go down well with you right?....my argument is that you choosed to do it yourself, it wasn't placed on you!...it is different to be coming back from say school, and i see my mum, aunt, uncle or even elderly neighbor, pushing a wheel-barrow and decide to collect it from them and push it back home, but to have them single me out to push a barrow? i say no! mind you, i have been doing this job all through my teenage years and even while in the university. their is nothing wrong with doing it, i know! but am no more comfortable with doing it! i happily do other chores you can ever think of, am that well breed and proud to say that am neither proud nor lazy.

lastly, if i remember clearly this thread was directed to a certain group of people (THE MATURE MUMMIES IN THE HOUSE). am sure you are not a mummy, and to whether you are even mature at all, well....your comments so far says it all! so please, i never solicited for advice from the young girls in the house or a 23 & 1/2 year old girl, your posts and comments on the romance section paints at least a good picture of your personality...you are too young to comment here...KEEP OFF! the mamas have commented, i have learnt, made my adjustments and corrections.

and also dear, you may want to check your choice of words, cause you were like "Just imagine, I'm older than him too"...i swear you cant look me in the face and tell me that! because i will squash your brains!!....and you concluding am proud from a single event and thread....is like me concluding you are a prostitute from the little you wrote on the romance and sexuality section , i have had enough experiences with girls of your age who believe anything younger than them should be treated with contempt.

so please mind your track...and also, "no insults intended"!

kuntash:
in as much as I personally condemn this act of beating the woman by the husband... but putting the picture and this story online would not yield anything good let alone settlement between them.

yes, once in while things does get outa hand in marriages, the most important thing is fixing ... perhaps there are kids involved between two of them... if the Man sees or hear about this , I wonder how he would feel

Oh you think it hasn't gotten out of hand?
He broke a bottle and stabbed her in the neck!
That was after hitting her with her chair.
When will it be considered as gotten out of hand ? When he stabs her in the heart with a knife?

Will you encourage your sister to go back to such a husband?

africanqueen111:
And she has bn living wit d beast all dis while

She will still go back to him and beg him to accept her and forgive her

masonkz:
A miracle, like what Nigeria is expecting of us to become by initiating that anti gay law

i guess so.

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
feminists are making men looking for other alternatives..anything that can reduce our interration with you cancers is fine with me

Just hang on then. In 50years you could have a child of your own from your own skin cells and we won't have a miserable female suffering at your hands in the name of marriage.

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
i don't smoke , nice try tho ..but you should direct that comment to your feminazi friends and minions

Ehn? So now it is the feminists' fault too?

Damage control?
How?
Over what?
That's so amusing . I haven't said anything now that I didn't say before which is that it is a good option for those men who dislike women to spare them the unpleasant experience of relating with women on long term basis because of the ties of childbirth.


As for you and the 'truth' speaking gang , I have nothing more to say.
I've already looked for trouble by naming them let me not make it worse.
Truth indeed

P:S

The experiment hasn't even been carried out. As yet it is just in the developmental state and you're already sure only few men will go for it. Now you speak for all men?
Besides who says the men won't be having sex with women while opting for this means of reproduction to eliminate other-party in their kids lives?
You can't be sure.

So speak for yourself.

And yes you're right, not all gay guys will accept it same as not all straight guys will reject it.

crackhaus:
What you are now attempting is damage control - you cococandy also missed that subtle tone in the article which directs the scientific concept towards a man-man relationship.

These are the presumptions you made in this post of yours:

1) Of those guys you mention, none told you he detests women but if the comments they type on NL critiquing Nigerian women is what gives you that impression, then this is where your major problem lies - what they (we) do is type the truth (sometimes with exaggerations for effect) as it is, what you and other females on NL do is hate reading this truth...hence the labels chauvinist & cave man gets thrown around.
I can assure you that guys who have been given this tag still date women, in fact some may even be getting head from one while typing what you people refer to as woman-hating comments.

2) What I believe or what I don't believe is something you can't know through internet bandwidth.
I only asserted that this scientific concept of reproduction is better suited for the gay community, as straight men don't really need it - I also hinted in one reply to E-soul that even in the gay community, it would be divided in acceptance.
As for your opinion that there are straight men who will welcome it, please conduct your own experiment with men around you.
If there are indeed straight men who will readily favour harvesting female eggs from skin cells over having glorious sex with a woman to reproduce, I can assure you that they are so few, it becomes negligible.

3) Camnewton is the only guy here who typed something in the affirmative regarding acceptance, so don't get too excited over it - if you slowed down, you would realize he may have just been playing to the gallery.

No need to do damage control

I don't need a man yet I'm married?

Dude get off the weed.

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
you won't have to spread your legs anymore..that what i meant...


humm so you are no longer among the female folks pushing the : i don't need no men and i am a strong woman agenda? ...btw you are the one who first quoted me ooo so im just telling you to rejoice with me...women or innocent women as you rightly said won't get killed anymore because of our frustrations ...isn't that something to b happy of?

oya wetin you dey drink ..?

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
we are once again freeing you from men's domination,, eh eh you no want to be free anymore? you want to spread your legs anymore nah? no more comments about you getting old and yet to give birth, in fact no more wahala....
you don't need what? talk something else please is it no longer a man world?

I'm trying to reply but I can't make meaning of your post.

Last I checked I am not against the idea of guys like you reproducing from their skin cells instead of killing an innocent female somewhere with frustrations of trying to make the marriage work.

So how does your post apply to me?

babyosisi:
I am sure the profession has some female practioners
What else should they be called but mamalawo

totally

babyosisi:
It. Must be at the prescription of a babalawo or mamalawo

Mamalawo

Ezevajina:
youz muthafuckaz support sodomisation of nigerians young people in the name of "modern world". Fcuck modern world, if more nigerians become this I'm emigrating to The Gambia. Brother Yahya Jammeh won't allow dis lalastiklala kind of things

I'm still wondering what this had to do with me.

BABANGBALI:
that is why I always tell you to stop dressing seductively,boys are not smilling

Shut up ediot. Did the sleeping great grandmother dress seductively to entice the man?

R@pist.

Rape again? Na wa. What is this? A norm now? Because it happens daily now

This is the most unbiased straightforward and concise political article I've read on this nairaland in a while

Ezevajina:
Its the nigeria who live in america who are sodomites. Why, why, why would open his rectum and allow another man's penis into your intestine? muthafucka why?

and you're quoting me because?

BoiledCorn:
cococandy we dont want head all over. give us goody

I'll think about it

I blame the wife for marrying him when she knew he was gay.
What was she expecting?

But camnewton is not gay
Neither is din@chi
Or misogynist.
(Pls you guys don't kill me I know I'm looking for trouble)


They are just normal straight guys who detest women. You just don't want to believe there are straight guys who dislike women but can't do without them because of biology.

I'm not disagreeing with you that gays guys would like this but then it won't be all of them. Same way some straight guys will like it.

crackhaus:
Lmao...

Well sometimes it's entertaining to engage in some arguments just to see the extent the person you're arguing with can make use of logic and deduction, as well as also exercise one's mental muscle.

This here is stated in bold right there in the OP:


And I subsequently asserted that it's a development better suited for the gay community, as there's no need for it among most if not all straight men.

But these chics on citing any of my comments, subconsciously descend into argue-against-him mode to prove to themselves what I neither know nor care to know

https://www.nairaland.com/2082990/man-80-years-arrested-raping#29613077


Another one

Chillisauce:
Na wah .

All the topic in this section Is r@pe r@pe r@pe! Even with our religious way.

Something is definately wrong somewhere.

Where people flash br.east anyhow, in TV, beach etc, we don't have much case but having more crimes where people are well covered, not restricting to even kids.

Parents pls your primary responsibility is protect those little ones.

Heaven knows the length I will take to seek for justice if someone I know is involved. Not gonna leave it in God's hands oh.
God forbid !

protect those little ones, could be your neighbors children. Watch out for these predators.

Happy New yr everyone .

Again?
Another one?

Humph

What do you have to say about marriage that is more a detriment to women than men in Nigeria?

Asides from accusations of marital r@pe which of course won't affect a well balanced guy with his senses in his control except he is married to a she-devil who accuses him falsely, every other thing on your list can affect a woman too yet you insist men are more short changed in marriage. What an exaggeration.

The only thing I see is fear of commitment and accountability. That's the problem most guys have because it seems to them that marriage limits their options and forces them to behave well especially in the west where a woman is empowered to walk away if you don't keep your own side of the bargain.
That's like bondage to some of them as they would rather be law unto themselves like their comrades in third world countries.


If you are sure you can keep your side of the contract and respect your vows, and if you find a lady who shares same philosophy as you concerning marriage and life in general,there will be absolutely nothing to fear.

But these guys are afriad because they do not have the intentions of being totally upfront,committed,faithful and honest in Their dealings with the opposite sex and they know there are laws to tackle such deceit and high handedness so to them the marriage institution isn't favorable.

Don't buy into such fears.
Despite the exaggerating and whipping up of emotions they attempt you will still find millions of men who are happily married to women in the same west that 'hates men so much'

Simply because they know and understand what marriage is all about and have partners in sync with them.

coogar:
•marital rape
•no fault divorce
•child custody battles
•ridiculous divorce payouts
•prenup, etc

all these things have crashed the value of marriage institution & men are mostly the victims. i can't even see it getting any better as there seems to be a force out there determined to swallow marriage values completely.

Since men are not women and women are not men,no body can actually answer that correctly.

I do know it feels heavenly. Shebi Seun says it ends in a 'heavenly feeling'
Even Seun knows.

Oya guys over to you.

checkdate:
RENT AN APARTMENT CLOSE TO THEIR HOUSE AND FIND OUT.

Life is Too Shot To Be Constantly Waiting For Opinio(s) From Nairaland Users.



The Man (the head of that family) I See On That Pics Is Smilling; That Means He Is Happy & Nothing Can Convince Him That His Marriage To That Beautiful Lady Will Not Work; not even your thread on nairaland.

Here's your answer @op

Bondage?
Aww so your relationships have been bondage all this while?
Well here's a possible solution for you. Pray they figure it out on time before your skin cells are too old to work with

Unlike you,I don't need for the opposite sex(men in my case) to be removed from the picture.

It would be totally worthless without them.

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
do you want to be free from men's bondage anymore? there won't b anything like forcefull sex in marriage anymore? nothing like pregnancies and the missed opportunities caused by them, nothing the very degrading misogynist taking care of your children? you will now be able to go to the moon, invent something, create something, become doctors, engineers, physicians ,chemists you know all these positions/professions men are not allowing you to access. In few words, you will b free, no more pressure about when are you going to get married or give birth...so you should b happy

Miss:
Imo
Abuja
Benue
Lagos
Enugu

Is this a lie or what? 2000 people?

unveil:
There is something I have noticed amongst my fellow Nigerian females and it is not good. There appears to be a 'sleeping beast' within the hearts of many women of my country. Do you know why this is? What has created this trait? Who has the answer?

I'll like to know why so many women between the ages of 25 - 70 are so evil? When I write evil i mean thoroughly unempathetic, vile and just plain wicked. Why do we set out to employ kids as nannies and domestic staff? Why women? Why Why Why? Why do you do this? Even if everyone is doing it, it still does not make it right! Why is our conscience all but dead? Why do you employ these kids (ages 7 - 17) , and turn them into slaves? Beat them to stupor, relay them to the boot of your SUV on the journey from church to home, allow our kids perpetually belittle them, screeeeeaaaaaam all the time, damn iv seen too much. I am almost in tears.

I asked a wise man once, and he said ''many women grew up under tension, violence, poverty and hate and the ripple effect is what we see today" . Is this true? But the essence of being higher animals is to be able to grow past our past, take learnings and be more useful members of society.

The God we worship detests this type of evil the most. Perhaps this is the reason why Nigeria is amongst the few countries sitting on the so called Infertility belt of Africa.

Link to infertility belt: http://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2014/01/10/nigeria-is-sitting-on-the-infertility-belt-of-africa/


More on people's experiences with Nigerian women and their brutally abusive instinct: https://www.nairaland.com/234543/why-most-women-maltreat-househelps

That's your answer. we are aggressive and angry and always mean to those under us as a people.
You see it everywhere.

Husbands on wives
Wives on housemaids
Housemaids on madams kids
Even kids are not slacking in displaying violent attitudes. Go to secondary schools and see how they treat their juniors.

Smh

I just dey feel mutter on this thread
What a wonderful new year