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aisha2:
Oya type to him na when he is home. As you work on talking start with typing and gisting.

aisha2:
True, social media makes strangers seem more interesting and intriguing than the real people we have around us.
When you and hubby are at home or out on a date, please dont touch your phones, touch each other and talk to each other.

Matthewbriggs:
In addition use the same energy you use in engaging in online conversations, debating and fraternizing with people who really do not care about you in the e-world ... and focus that energy offline. Channel that energy in building a really strong rappor with your spouse.

If not handled carefully technology has a way of alienating us from people who care about us and can stand in our way of building formidable human connections with people that matter in our lives .

#JustSaying

moca:
Cococandy, come let me couch u

I was worst than u cos of my upbringing not necessary my nature.
I hadly voice out.
So many bottled up emotions and things that need at least a yes or no from me that when I exploded, it was shocking.
Thank God it was immediately after my marriage.
After that day, I decided to be as open as the express way.
I don't know if I hv secrets at all.
Hubby on d other hand don't like being open. Infact, u hv to be a judge to extract info from him.
I will plobe and plobe, I also read body language though that doesn't work at times.
Now d only thing he doesn't tell me is if he wanna surprise me maybe with gigts or some special things.

Pls, talk,even if its about patience ozorkwor and her mother in law roles, that is how u will learn more about ur spouse even if ur gist doesn't make sense.
I learnt d hard way.

Mondisweets:


it is only a foo.lish man who does not see that if he works with his wife hand in hand as a partner he is more likely to succeed than when he treats her as his subordinate

jaybee3:
It's really easy ya know

Interest=>Determination=>Result

Show interest in the things he loves doing
Go with an open mindset because you are determined to achieve the desired result

If you enjoy cooking then invite him into the kitchen when you are cooking his favorite meal
If he enjoys soccer then endure the 90 minutes with him then ask questions about the game

Couples have to go extra length to make their marriage work and this is simply part of it.

Look at it this way, if you don't talk to him someone else will almost certainly keep him company be it online or work

jaybee3:
My worry is you create more problems for yourself in the long run with this your preferred modus operandi

What happens if he suddenly stops asking/teasing things out from you due to unforeseen outside stress?
Does that mean you going to start worrying about him not loving you?

If the absent of effective communication is one of the key problems in relationships then why not try to avoid it at all times

RoyalRoy:
Hahahaha....the unafrican Cococandy.

Well I dont believe it much until this recent one. How did a mother of two get on top of a 25ft high church roof around 3a.m without a ladder or pole vault? Was she "sleep flying"?

Beats the imagination!!!

damiso:
Nagging and talkative can be two different things. I know I rarely ever nag but I sometimes tend to be the one intiate conversations that hubby would rather not have e.g does pink go with this top which is often met with rolling eyes and 'yes' even though he is not seeing the top.

jaybee3:
There is obviously an extreme scale to each trait.
An extremely quiet wife could be dangerous. Restricting to your shell is counter-productive as you are most likely not going to share the things that bothers your mind.

RoyalRoy:
*****Takes off glasses....wipes it clean... Taking a second read through ******

Lollz.


When there is friendship and closeness between the couple... There is always a balance between the two in the long run!!

RoyalRoy:
Really its true!!

Stranger things happen.

Am sure you are among those who dont believe the "women who fly at night and land on church roofs during revival services!!!

Lollz.

thorpido:
sometimes fear takes over and self preservation takes precedence.

RoyalRoy:
Lollz.


Strange but could be true!!!!


I know a family like this and the dude actually drove his wife and 3 kids to his home town... Told them to go ahead and he wanted to see a childhood friend along the street.

The wife drove his car to the family house and was met by strange faces.

They showed her the grave of the dead dude. She fainted and was badly shaken. She died a week later on her hospital bed.

The kids are grown now, alive and well.


Strange things happen... It could be beyond our comprehension but definitely not impossible!!

jaybee3:
The key is the personally trait of the other half
If he is extroverted then the balance is just about right.

You can't have effective communication with two raging parrots in the house. If the wive is a nag then the husband must be a good listener.

apolonius:
Coco my tireless equality rabble-rouser,how are you? I am here reading you as always.

jaybee3:
I see you cococandy

thorpido:
That ought to be the right thing for her to do especially because she was the initiator.

moca:
Cococandy, kpachara any gi dia o!
I go wuzaaa u o

Since u guys doubt my genuineness,my hear is broken
I will go
That's very unfair u know

Bellong see what u caused.
Coconut head
Goodmorning!

thorpido:
Na easy way out.Women no like stress.

thorpido:
He could have been hypertensive or have other health issues.Violence is not the way to go.
Now the man don get kasala for head.

Tallesty1:
Yes!

Tallesty1:
Women killing their men indirectly since 0001BC

blake777:
Not really a prenup is just a written contract between two people u just need a good lawyer anybody can do it

blake777:
Na to sign prenup sure pass...problem solved

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