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Amelian:
@ cococandy, am serious o

No wahala at all.
Enjoy

This girl will not kill me

Amelian:
that's how I was taught by mum. My mum Is the last and 3rd of my dad. my dad loved her so much due all these virtues she taught me. Amongst all the wives, he opened a big shop for my mum, stocked it up with wares, he also built a house for her, and she inreturn built 2 more houses from the profits coming out from her shop. My dad was so proud of her, while other wives were dying with envy. Thank God, my mum is up to the task of tackling the 2 first wives. anytime, its my mum's turn to cook, she will stock my dad's plate with orisirisi meat and fish ,with vegetables, my dad will smile and call one of the wives, you see.... why wont I spend on her , when shes not stingy with her money
my dear, am happy abt the orientation from my mum... it has taken me a long way and open lots of doors for me.
other women talking sarcastically, and opposing my view, well its a free world and I simply wanted 2 know other pple's view about the scenario. but its all good...more opinions are welcome, but pls lets be civil in passing out messages, we are adults here

You mistake me for someone who cares about your opinion.

Pls swerve.

TribalEAST:
your first comment on this thread started you off as a neutral observer who feels both parties' pains, now you are shifting towards dislike for comments who reason in line with the man. Very soon, you'll let us know how much you hate the man and MEN. yuck yuck yuck @topic. As long as the man still provides for his family and not in a lesser manner, I'll see no reason why he should be saddled with house chores. Who among you won't mind having your husband as the housemaid just cos he lost his job? Oh, the feminists. House chores might dumb the man down. Imagine him waking up early in the morning to sweep the big house and wash the dishes while his male counterparts and wife are on their way to work. It will be a huge shame to a virtuous woman as her neighbors will make mockery of her. He ought to be on the streets looking for a new job. Perhaps, he's scheming in his bedroom on how to float a business of his. I think the girl is not appreciative enough even after their enrolling her in a school, paid for her acquisition of skills and even got her a job. Perhaps, she now feels since the man is the jobless one, he should take chore responsibility. I understand the work might be too much for her but wanting the husband to chip in while the sister is there, without informing her is were she got it wrong. You can't order a man under his own roof.

Never one to encourage buttlicking.
Kudos.


@Thread:
It's pathetic really that some people can't drop their opinions without first of all making xtupid predictions about what coming posters are likely to post.
Even more pathetic is it that they usually have no opinions at all or any scrap of advice for the affected person/s if not to stand around and pick apart other people's posts.

I wonder if all that rigmarole on the first page was to prevent out spoken people from posting their candid opinions about the issue.

As usual the F word comes into play for absolutely no reason. I wonder how little minded some people are. Why all these virtuous women won't go and wash all the clothes of all the male relatives in their lineage and stop disturbing us with things like this is beyond me.

aisha2:
I am trying to understand why i was mentioned and what this has to do with feminsim.
A typical explotative couple brought in a relative under the guise of training her and have frustrated and she is lashing out.
What is wrong with a father who has free time caring for his own children?
My husband helps out and will never dump all the work on a relative mine or his

Where did this theory come from?
This is the first time I'm hearing it.

Sounds interesting

Debeloved87:
hey...I hope you are getting what you want in your quest for the spiritual realm...well, spirit realm exist. thats were we came from, at first we were created as a spirit but our first man rebel even before he was fully made, against the Great ones and he was expelled from the community of the spirit and dump on the earth, having being groom and fully grown on earth, his attributes became earthly instead of spirituals...that's why most men are blind to the spirit world....only those that will take time to walk in the spiritual manner, will see the light of the spirit realm...thou its not easy..."God told moses,no man can see my face and live"...its a pure truth, any man that want to venture into the spirit realm must be prepared, be fortified for it hence he/she go on a journey of no return...read spiritual journey books, like book of enoch, it will enlightened your mind because that's were everything revolves .

This bit is true. I know it to be true.

When Older male- younger female versus older female -younger male couples mate, it is more possible to have birth defects from the former group than the latter

carefreewannabe:


Older men five times more likely to father children with birth defects

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'Don't leave it too late to have children,' MEN are warned, as research finds older dads are more likely to have 'mutant sperm'
Studies have found that as a man ages, his sperm becomes poorer quality
Mutations cause stem cells in the testicles to divide abnormally
This results in an increasing proportion of mutant sperm as men age
Older fathers have higher risk of fathering a child with a disorder like autism


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2564752/Dont-leave-late-children-MEN-warned-research-finds-older-dads-likely-mutant-sperm.html#ixzz3GiqSt0aV
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Fathers bequeath more mutations as they age

http://www.nature.com/news/fathers-bequeath-more-mutations-as-they-age-1.11247

A Man's Shelf Life
As men age, their fertility decreases and the health risks to their unborn offspring skyrocket.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200708/mans-shelf-life

True his being jobless is inconsequential as far as that area is concerned.
Because saying it that way mkes it seem like washing his own clothes is a humiliating thing for him to do hence should be reserved for jobless men.

At least if his wife doesn't mind washing up after him always,she shouldn't mind now that he lost his job.

But shifting it to the sister?
that's just.....still looking for the right word.

soulglo:
Does he have to be jobless to do it? I feel like if she felt he was an invalid before he lost the job then she should keep feeling that way. A woman who has made a man feel like chores are beneath him as a man should not dare open her mouth to complain simply because he lost his job. He was the useless before and still useless now

veave:
Oga, I have noticed you derive joy in carrying people's matter and thread on your head and shoulders. Hope you are okay?

Sophyrocks:
Hahahhahahaha. What a wonderful post!! Nigerian men for Nairaland wey like to bash their women all over the place, una dey hear? "I dnt like Nigerian women", "Nigerian women are wh0res", Nigerian women are this", Nigerian women are that. The Op made one point that is absolutely true: Go and try that 'I am a man', 'I can do whatever i want', 'Men are polygamous' bla bla bla sh1t with them, try it and you will know khaki no be leather!! Cheat on them and they will throw you out and take half of what you own. After all that drama, you will still come to Nigeria and marry the very women you despise!! Una see am?? A white woman is telling y'all they aint taking sh1t for anything! These people dnt know that when they put their fellow women down due to inferiority complex, they are being watched and white women take notes because it tells a lot about who the men really are. Whatever negative report you have is a reflection of who you are.

Ohh she even remembered their joysticks!! Hahahahahaha. African men feeling funky with their joysticks since 1600BC. Now she has bursted your bubbles. NTOOOOOOOOOR!!!!!

Nice post jare!!! The guilty people will soon be here to beat their chests again!! Na the only thing dem sabi before. To beat chest!! Finish!!!

You forgot to add their favorite. Gold diggers






And their mothers are not included o

you're funny.

qstar:
Hey cocosisi! howfar with your humming of the "HU" sound?

Have you mastered the art yet? How about soul-flights?

What to make of this thread? Chei!

......
1) A 26yr old girl is not a baby.why is she carrying on like one?

2)Why does her brother in law expect her to wash his clothes? I can't wrap my head around that.

3)When it comes to other chores that Doesn't involve washing other people's personal stuff,she should have been wise enough to follow her sister's cue. It is their house so she should have just left things for them the way they operate them. If the man doesn't do anything and her sister the wife is cool with it,she's not supposed to tell the man by herself to do chores. That's strictly between man amd wife.

4) She should just do what she can and leave the rest unless they have a written or unwritten agreement/understanding whereby she's expected to take on all the house chores as a form of payment for the help they are giving to her. If so,let her just keep quiet and fulfil her own side of the bargain.

5) But even if no such arrangement exists,she shouldn't be told before she knows one good turn deserves another. If the man and her sister are helping her out that much,helping them around the house shouldn't be a demeaning thing for her to do.(That shouldn't include washing his clothes)

As for Mr man...

6)Pls and pls. If the man can't wash his clothes by himself,let his wife do it. Which kind rubbish be that kwanu? Eh bikonu?

The way some of us like to belittle and humiliate others because we are doing better than them. Why will a NORMAL man feel ok removing his dirty clothes and expecting his sister in law to always wash up after him.
Tufia.

I believe it is good to help but help must be rendered in such a way thayt the beneficiary will forever appreciate it. Not the kind of help that leave them grumbling.

Waiting for the bashers to come bash you for saying the truth.

Meanwhile, Sagamite come and read.

I tell ya.

The annoying thing is when someone begins to narrate how she's being abused in her marriage,anyone who advices her to find her way out the abusive union is attacked as evil bla bla bla. Telling them how God hates divorce and how all single mothers are lesser beings so the victim gets the impression that she would be better of a Mrs than a divorcee

But
When the victim dies,that's when they'll start condemning the action of the wife who didn't leave the abuser.

Smells of confusion if you ask me.

EnlightenedSoul:
Following the logic of a thread I happened upon yestie, maybe it was because she 'ran her mouth'? Perhaps, she was a world-class nag? Let's not rule that out

Beyond sad It just isn't worth it.

You were naïve to believe that.
Sex urge/libido isn't something that can be turned on and off like a switch.

Anyway I don't think I've anything new to say that hasn't been said on this thread.
Just be strong and work with her.
Find ways to make love to her than she's never been loved before. You might be surprised to have a different reaction.

If all fails,take it to the Lord in prayers and encourage her to follow you to counseling.
Remember adultery is a sin.
No one will advice you to go that lane but in the end,it's your life. Your decisions.

tolu4you:
She promised to change

tolu4you:
She has a six month old baby... but i knw her before marriage she is a frigid type...

So why did you marry her?
Were you 'hoping' she would change?

God bless you OP for taking the time to appreciate your beautiful wife.
Many more years together I wish you guys

You went ahead to marry someone you hadn't really forgiven.
Now you want a divorce for an offense you were aware of before going into the marriage.
What would be your given reason For filing divorce?

Is Fashola projecting lagos state as a seperate entity from the Nigerian state?

Eya.
She was staying for her kids. Divorce is so horrible,it's always better to stay and fight and work on the abusive person to see if they'll change.
Mmm.
Maybe she didn't pray enough.
Or maybe she didn't have enough red bras and black pants.
Or she didn't want to be seen as a non virtuous divorced feminist.


#poor baby didn't even get to be born

You're glad? Bwahahaha.

So you even like the civilized manner of doing things yet you were supporting the uncivilized actions of the criminals.

Until next time

donedy:
I'm glad the case has been settled in a civilized manner ! I hope you'll now stop insulting a woman old enough to be your grandma.

Also, I'm even blushing on the fact you still remember handle . Unfortunately, I am already taken . I wish you well in your future endeavors. Next time we cross path, I hope we will be on same path.

Exataly(exactly)

There's no competition between wife and mother. Both are important. Unless the man is a puss who doesn't know where to draw the line.

Nor should EPL cause a rift. Hubby ain't a footie fan but if he were,I'd gladly give him space when football is on.

Much ado about nothing for some people

edwife:
Exactly coco,don't try putting a man in this position,you will have yourself to blame aftermath.

Depending on your wife,a man can have 1 and 7

I don't intend to put him in a position to choose

SaltonKey:
1) Your Wife of Your mother?

2) Your Job or Your Family?

3) A Plot of Land or a Car?

4) Your Father or your Pastor?

5) Savings or Investment?

6) 2/3 Kids or a Volleyball/Hockey Team

7) Her Night Food or Champions League

Depending on your wife,a man can have 1 and 7

I don't intend to put him in a position to chose

SaltonKey:
1) Your Wife of Your mother?

2) Your Job or Your Family?

3) A Plot of Land or a Car?

4) Your Father or your Pastor?

5) Savings or Investment?

6) 2/3 Kids or a Volleyball/Hockey Team

7) Her Night Food or Champions League

OP pls insist on saving by yourself or insist on being signatory to the the account he's saving the money for both of you.

Great news

Donedy. Olodo. Don't commit suicide because of this o

Dey don come again

OP as a first wife the answer to your question is no. I won't tolerate polygamy

Nice. Very nice contribution

BuddhaPalm:
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ----- Albert Einstein.

"Miracles are not contrary to nature but only contrary to what we know about nature." -------- St. Augustine.


I used to be the biggest atheist on the planet. Not anymore.

Every single manifestation you see, feel, experience is a fvcking 5-star miracle. No exception.

Regaining you sight after 20 years is not 'out of the world', it is a small miracle. You having the consciousness to even ponder on these things really is out of the world.

Your day-to-day life is filled with an overwhelming extravagance of miracles. What is electricity? How the hell does your DNA sample, that can fit on the head of pin, contain information that can fill up to 1,000 books - of 600 pages each?

Why do plants grow? What holds the particles of an atom together? How the flying fvck does inanimate matter constitute a biological organism like yourself.

How and why do you see in the first place. What is consciousness.

Chains and chains of meaningful coincidences & synchronicities...what other miracles are bigger?

ElFenomeno1:
Who is this dumbfu..ck?!
Tell the wise men they are a fucking lunkheads and you are a vacuous troglodyte
Brainless twerp

jnrbayano:
Picture or.............

google it

coogar:
intimidating eyes?
don't mind them - they are too weak to admit they are scared of your ada mbaise status.

mabise girls don't bite. Especially the ADAs

BuddhaPalm:
Intimidating ke? EVERY women is my little sister.
Yes...including my mum.

Lol. Shey u dey call her "small girl come here quickly"

Messilistic:
Someone actually called me a snub and the honest truth is I dint even know who the person was. So i'm guessing its something about my first appearances

you must be a kindred spirit.
I get that more from females anyway. Because I'd rather sit in my corner and read or browse than talk about what Beyonce did last,they labeled me a snob. Besides I'm not good with faces so I don't remember people unless I have had a personal and impressive encounter with them. So if someone says hi expecting me to remember them and I don't,the next thing is to think I'm a snob.

It used to bother me until I figured out that there's nothing I can do about it. It's just me and I made peace with that part of me.

You just have to do the same than live your life trying to be who you're not in order to please some other folks.

I've had a few guys tell me I have intimidating eyes. What does that even mean?
Guys answer o.

Dude you have issues. Go get help. You can blame whoever you like but the problem is from within you.
If you used to see women as EQUAL to men,you won't have problems with feminism. Liar

Anyway Who's business is it that you don't appreciate the women around you anymore?
And who's interested in your nostalgic sob stories? If your wife bears a baby girl,you can cook it and eat or better still marry a man so that you'll be spared the involvement with females.

We are not homophobic. We won't judge you