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It has happend before o.
In aba. My auntie's neighbor.
(I didn't see it. She gisted us)

Left her newly circumcised baby boy on the mat outside and went into the room to get something.

The wound was left open(for quicker healing.village women style)
And a wild dog came and chewed on the boy's peepee. His screams got her rushing out but the deed was already done.

Never say never. This new baby prolly had blood and fluid all over it which can attract a carnivorous night-lifer.

But the most possible scenarios is that one edwife described.

crackhaus:
Wild animal Indeed...

If I'm coming,you'll be smart enough to clear the coast before I arrive.

Because if the babe vex commot,na your loss.
When I whip you finish come carry my handbag waka.....

you'll have to go and woo her all over again

crackhaus:

As long as you bring one bottle each of JD and Henny, and be prepared to meet anyone that will fight you for me while I watch & sip on the drinks.

Lmao. Your family belongs to the good 20percent.
Another nigerian women basher will still claim his family belongs to the small 20percent.

Meanwhile you live in UK. And from there,all the way from UK,you've been able to study 80 percent of Nigerian women.
(That's like 60 million women. Give or take)

I doff my hat to you.

Orishirishi.
Sunday comedy

50calibre: I'm not a woman hater, I'm straight, I love women.

I'm just saying how I see it, Nigerian women are like a low quality product that comes with too many faults. Now I'm not saying all of them, but most of them (at least 80%) hence my generalisation. There are quality Nigerian women but they're in the minority, and that's where my female relatives come in. (Note not all my female relatives are worth something, some are pretty useless just like the majority of Nigerian women)

Speak for the people (ladies) you know.
Can't contribute anything other than being a woman means what exactly?
Being a woman in any man's life is actually a huge contribution unless you and your lady don't even know what you're to each other and have no clear definition of your roles in each others life.

Some of you had the most amazing mothers but will come her to spew nonsense about Nigerian women because of the 18yr old you're dating.

Kids everywhere

ferdimako: My sisters being dumb, doesn't mean the truth isn't there or won't be said. That ur line is silly. Na so families dey package shiiit give man say na lovely woman. U can't contribute anything other than being a woman!

Yea I know that defect.
Why didn't I even think of it?
The whiteness of the skin depicts a still birth even.
The baby may have been dead on arrival.

Though it still says a lot about a woman who's having a home birth in this day and age.
If she didn't go to a hospital while in labor,means she meant to keep the birth a secret in the first place.

This story is deep

edwife: This might just not be what we are thinking but likely be a defect called Gastroschisis which is a birth defect of the abdominal (belly) wall. The baby’s intestines stick outside of the baby’s body.

She might have been frighten and abandoned the baby after birth.

He said the truth about what? His and your female family members?

And Nigerian guys are what?
Perfect?
Pls don't quote me with such low IQ response next time.
Thank you

PS I wasn't talking to you.

ferdimako: He said the truth even if he has. Most men don't talk, just to keep their laying rights.

You're not serious.
Personal how?

If I dey vex for you,I go come your house come whip you with koboko.
Not on nairaland

crackhaus: Ok!

I believe I've made my point already, before you start going personal.

Abandoning a baby is one thing.

Cutting the baby up to expose the internal organs is entirely in it's own league.

Omo I chose not to believe it.

Maybe she left it there and a wild night animal came and tried to eat it.

Or else she's a very mentally disturbed human being(maybe even a street mad woman who put to bed at night)

She'd have to be caught in the act for me to believe.

crackhaus: What is the difference between this story and that of women who leave their newborn in refuse dumps, or that story of one who tried to flush her newborn down the toilet, or that news of one who locked her baby alone in the house for over one week to starve to death while partying?

These are just a few of the many stories we come across.
There was even one on family section one time who beats her own children with iron and wood, maltreats and starves them all because of one reason I can't even remember right now.

You better choose to believe it...

He failed to get the point

Which is that even if someone wants to be pampered with gifts and all what not not,it doesn't mean they don't want to be financially responsible when they need to be.
The way the comments were going. Seemed like because women enjoy being pampered,thus we all like to keep our money to ourselves so the man does all the spending.
Maybe you didn't get the reason for the comparison.


You agree that a man will appreciate that if it is done to him(just like I said)
So what else are you talking about?

Does him liking such treatment mean that he wants the woman to do everything by herself? No

Hence it is wrong to assume every woman because she likes pampering won't mind being dependent.


For the rest of your post,I think you should meet more generous babes.
What does one call a lady who expects a gfit on their anniversary but doesn't see it fit to give one too?

crackhaus: Everything with you on NL has to always be about trying to insist men and women think, do, or feel the same things...hence, should act the same.

News flash: I keep telling you...men are women ARE NOT the same. We DO NOT think, act, reason, judge, or make decisions the same way.
Never have, never will!

Compared to women, men don't bother too much over pampering, neither do we make a big deal out of it...if you're being honest with yourself, you know this is true.

Of course a man would appreciate it when he gets pampered by his wife, appreciation is gratitude...the point is a man will not use that to gauge his wife's love, care, and devotion to him. If a woman doesn't buy her man a gift in let's say 1year except only on his birthday, the man doesn't read too much meaning into it.

But a woman will almost always measure her husband's devotion, attention, and love for her by how much he pampers or gives her treats...you know this is true.
Some women have even been known to expect gifts front their husband on their wedding anniversary...imagine that, does the man not need a gift too since two people married that day?
And still when he doesn't get a gift, which is most likely...he doesn't make a fuss over it.

You get it now?

You never disappoint.
Die-hard woman hater.

I hope none of your female relatives is a Nigerian woman. Or has a Nigerian origin.

Okonkwo feeling funky

50calibre: I'm familiar with the OP Safarigirl, she has a runny mouth like a tap, as well as a knack for talking nonsense.

Telling Nigerian women not to settle for less is akin to telling a beggar not to settle for less looolz.

Nigerian women are already less, they occupy the bottom of the barrel therefore asking them to set impossibly high standards for themselves is asking them to condemn themselves to a life of singlehood and lonliness.

Don't be delusional, Nigerian women score low in everything, their attitude sucks, physically they're less appealing with disgusting fake weaves, they've got nothing upstairs except different techniques on how leech off a man.

I consider Nigerian women a liability rather than an asset, & so do many guys. Therefore my advise to Nigerian women; if you're lucky to have any man come for you, just on him quicker than you could blink because you will not get anything better.

I don't see myself spending more than a day trying to woo a Nigerian chic, in fact after the first 5 mins, I determine if she's worth anymore of my time.

I never said no woman can do that.
I said I don't believe a woman can.
There's a difference

What I believe and reality may be at loggerheads.

I just choose not to believe it.
Imagining it is even horrible.

crackhaus: Are you sure about that?
Thought you said you only speak for yourself?

But the goat smell is part of the goat taste na.
I love all

bebe2: yeah, its the skin dat carries the smell,

take it off and its just like regular beef, well almost

Organs outside?
This must be ritualists.
I don't believe a woman will do that to her child.

True. But Even a man will want to be pampered sometimes too.
If you say a woman will like to be pampered by her man in terms of material stuff,well yes of course.

By the quoted it would seem like even if a woman makes so much money,she wouldn't want to spend on the family but would rather everyone in the depend on the man.

Wanting to be pampered once in a while doesn't contradict being financially responsible too.

That's why even a man who makes millions will always appreciate when hsi wife does nice stuff for him with her own money.

crackhaus: By my deduction, I believe what she meant is that at the end of the day, a woman still wants to be pampered and taken care of regardless of how successful she is or how much money in millions & billions she earns...and if you're being honest with yourself, you know this is true.

fvckfest

You go wait well well

SAMBARRY: I want to see my grandchildren



I give you 6 months to get pregnant if not 2 of us will wear the same trousers. Yes is you am talking to

carefreewannabe: The Bible is open to interpretation and not every human being is a Christian.



The misuse of power is ONE of MANY reasons why some women decided that it is better not to depend on their husbands.
Regarding your questions, I am a woman who doesn't like "to sit at home like princess". I have no problem to stay at home for a limited period of time when my children are small BUT there is more to my life and I know many women who think like me. They want to go to school, university, become doctors and save lives, become lawyers and win important lawsuits, be teachers and make a difference every day, become scientists and help the world to become better ....

They know that they have talents and potential that go beyond household chores and they love to make use of them.



The opinion you have of women is striking. My grandmother was one of the few women of her generation to have a serious career. My grandma and grandpa came both from rather poor families. To escape poverty, my grandmother started working too unlike other women who would have a new child every year. She didn't buy hair and make up. She helped the family to prosper. By the time her grandchildren were born, she and grandpa were so comfortable that she was able to stay at home and help her daughters (-in-law) raise their children thus giving them the opportunity to explore their talents outside the home too. All women in my family have been working ever since instead of sitting at home and pretending to be a princess in a castle. I am one of them and I love my job.



If a woman's respect depends on the man's pocket size, then she has the wrong attitude and the wrong values.
My partner is not my head because I have my own, he is my partner. And I have so much respect for him (else we would not be together) that I take his advice extremely seriously. In case he struggles with money at some point in his life, I am there to support him and not to disrespect him.



How a couple divides their family responsibilities is for them to decide.



The truth is that women back in the day worked a lot. Most people were farmers and women did not sit at home like a princess but helped with the harvest, helped feed the animals and helped do whatever needed to be done. And they did it although they had 5,6,7,8 children.




Nobody said so.



Does this actually make sense to you?

Tell her

Kachisbarbie: The lady never said we should settle for less - I guess y'all misunderstood her...she meant, we shouldn't be blinded by physical looks, sometimes marriage goes beyond the physique...just marry someone you wanna wake up to everyday (and vice-versa)...that's just it
-Never settle for less - always settle for the best, but then we can't satisfactorily define less/best...no single human out there is less

I think the problem we have these days arises from poor comprehension...the lady used words like- Obsessed, Most...she wasn't in anyway speaking in an affirmative, even though her points came out harsh...It's all about choice - If you wanna wait for yo Lamar - Voila...don't forget that Lamar has his own 'required requirements' - I hope you meet them too.
That your 'Lamar' might be some other ladys' 'Kevin Hart'

... why is there so much pressure/focus on the female folks and their choices in life?...I just don't gerrit
-they say 'marriage' is overhyped, yet it is one topic that gets so much attention...let it slide pls

P.S : The fact that you called her post 'stupeed' is unprofessional and...I don't know what else to call it... ...we can't all be of the same school of thought - respect her own reasoning.
-If you have to counter her, go back to her post, read/understand it properly...then counter her.

how exactly, would you come online and call someones' husband a PLAN-B (What's even wrong in a PLAN-B, What's a Plan without PLAN-B?...nne sometimes PLAN-B done sure pass @ one pt in our lives), and an available that became desirable??
Jeez...I know this is a forum, but before you 'submit'...take a moment to review your choice of words...Thanks

I like your thread. Very much

But there's a problem. The other thread you're yabbing isn't a xtupid thread. The message I got from that thread was for ladies to be more practical and less vain in the qualities they look out for in a partner.
That's a sound message from someone who had the experience.

Meanwhile your thread is cool. If only it wasn't antagonizing the other one.

We have been under persecution for long

This bit is very hilarious.
Dudes be persecuting the whole world since time immemorial.
Now they are the victims?

What's your point?

anonimi: Have you considered the fact that the man goes to the woman's family to marry her away from there and the attendant expectations
Perhaps when we evolve further and people don't marry or marry on EQUAL basis things might start to be different.

PS: This is not to say I endorse the lopsided pressure on just one of the partners for fertility wahala oh!

I forgive but it depends on what the offense is.

Dudes chanting 'always' won't even forgive adultery once how much more forgiving it always if the wifey keeps doing it and asks for forgiveness each time.

Y'all better get real

Would be a thrill to get ship wrecked or lose my way and find myself in uganda.

And be saved by one or two knights-in-shiny-armor in a deserted island or in a beach house wearing only a huge blanket in front of the fire place.







_{I'm high on vodka right now. Take me serious at your own peril}

mondisweets:
If a man is actually putting in effort and things just genuinely don't seem to be going well for him, i would still stand by him and support. Bu

Yea yea. That's the spirit babe

Who's this thandii. The babe just dey yarn my mind
Following

thandii1: I was about to throw in this line of argument. Some kids do not mourn their parents because they are bitter about them, and yet they can't be judged because i did not walk in their shoes to know how badly hurt they have been with these people alive. We see these bitter kids on nl, who have terrible things to say about their parents and then people try to counsel them to let go the bitterness and bla bla. You just can not mourn someone who was a symbol of bitterness in your life. All you will feel is a sense of relief. Does that make it morally right, well, that's subjective.

I think its easier for some men to sit out while a few just come in to twist the storyline to murdering a cheating spouse because no man will put up with a cheating wife in the first place(even one time cheating sef, she's out of the house for sometime or forever, not to talk of continuous unhidden cheating) , but quite a number of women put up with cheating husbands(including the ones who rub the cheating in their faces) because of the fear of being alone, being judged, the stigma of single motherhood, and of course their favourite line 'for the kids', not realising they are living with bitterness and planting the seed unknowingly in the kids.

A lady opened a thread sometime ago about missing a spouse who died 10 years ago even though she's remarried. Another opened a thread to talk about how hard it was moving on after years of losing her fiancee. A good number of women refuse to remarry and choose to mourn their spouses forever despite the advices from different angles to move on. Of course the mourning will not bring back their loved ones, but to them its the best way to keep them in their hearts forever, they believe they owe it to them.

Bottom line, everyone has a right to mourn however he or she pleases . Aint like the one being mourned cares from his or her coffin.

and they order this when oga has gone to work abi?
Na wa o

sheniqua: I have heard of women in this America that do not cook kpam
Especially in big cities with tons of caterers
You can order a pot of soup of your choice,stew, moi moi,jollof,fried rice,name it,even akara sef
Some men can never find out madam is not cooking any of that but they will be posing of their wife's cooking prowess

One large cooler of jollof rice is only $80,it can give you 100 plates of rice
Assorted meat cooler with stewed hen,beef,shaki $300
A foil pan of soup with stock fish from $200
Moi moi $1 per wrap
Electricity dey

I know the cost because I hosted a party recently

Men are very gullible wallahi

Happy birthday r231. Remain blessed

Number 5 is da bomb.

So simple.
But no. They want the wife to be 'the head' when it comes to responsibilities.
But they want to be 'the head' when it comes to having their way.

It only results in CRISIS

thandii1: Here on nairaland, housewives used to be e-battered severely and when they come running to nl, they are told they deserve it because they do not earn for a living. In the real world too, when being housewives used to be more common, many were, oppressed, cheated on and treated like slaves. Even their kids were not left out of it, the reason women have been striving for empowerment for years, to stop the oppression and gain some self worth.

Also, in the case of housewives, they do their roles religiously ; take care of the children, the husband, the home in general, they are submissive to their masters, so why will the masters cry out. With the househusbands, they want to spend, be fed but useless domestically. They don't want to be submissive .. If these new generation husbands aka househusbands were domestically useful and submissive like their housewives counterpart, the women will not complain na

aderonila18: The difference is that when a man pays the bills the woman takes care of the children and the household so at least the work is divided and both parties bring something to the table. The problem the men whose wives pay the bills is that they don't help out with the children or the household. It's unfair to expect the person who went to work all day to fend for the family to be the same to come home and take care of the kids and cook while the lazy man seats around doing nothing all day. No one can be happy in a relationship where you are the only doing everything

thiis is a very simple thing. I wonder why It is too hard for men such positions to understand that.

I've read the OP. Much of it rings true. From personal experiance and observation.
I'm not surprised

Here anywhere is crime scene. I remember random raids on our hostel street during my school days. They would just arrest young men and sometimes women under the pretext that there was a reported robbery in the area.

Before the unfortunate one could bail themselves out they would have spent like 20-30k. Imagine if they arrested 10 persons per raid. They just embark on such missions when they are running low on weed money.

Vagabonds

maclatunji: An officer in the police informed us that there is something called "Judges Rule 2" that guides the Nigerian police, it basically stipulates that anyone found at or around a crime scene is a suspect to be arrested.

This is a ready-made tool for corrupt police officers to arrest, abuse and extort money from people whether or not they are guilty.