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pickabeau1: I agree with your post in part but feel outside involvement should b a thing of last resort

snazzylove: Seriously I don't get this.
A 3yr old boy selfservicing!

A friend of mine yesterday confided in me that on 3 different times she has caught her 3yr+ old son stroking his manliness.
The first time according to her she didn't read meaning into it but cautioned him gently, the second time, she said she was very firm and warned him sternly to stop it and never to try dat again.
But the third incident is wat actually hit me, this time according to her she caught him in the same act and unfortunately the younger sister that is barely two years is practising the same thing with him. She said she spanked him mercillesly and even applied hot pepper on the kini
I told her to monitor dem closely especially what they watch on the tele, the type of people they associate with and even the kind of books around the house. And equally make sure they are not always together idle, she should get them educative toys and books to keep them busy, at least it will take their little minds off dat.
Fear grip me o
Dunno if this is normal or what.
Mothers pls oo keep an eye on what your kids are doing.
Anyone with similar experience or solution to it should pls share so that we all can learn.

aisha2: Na wa oh. Do people even read at alll
Most of those commenting read the sensational headline and went to the market to start commenting lol.

Let me summarize:

1. She apologised to the WOMEN os ENUGU no to CHIME

2. She simply asked that politicians shouldnt use what happened to abuse Chime and score cheap points that despite what happened between them he is still their leader

3. She said her exit was divine and not to be blamed solely on him

4. This letter was written in 2013 and not recently, divorce proceedings have already started for them so this isnt a recent thing, She is not begging to go back to him, abeg before we comment read and understand if its too hard to understand or too long to read, waka pass no comment

pickabeau1: .however what do you want..

purecotton: I hold so much grudges against my husband and I really need help to let them go.

edwife: Not only you,how i love christmas,that an understatement;I adore the feeling of love and sharing

The gifts are my best part.

damiso: On a side note I can't believe its September already before you know it it's christmas.

Officiallyurs: Aside during sex can you make it a daily thing.

crunchyg: U ar welcome, I hope it won't be bad if we get to know ourselves better??

crunchyg: Cococandy I love you so much for all these your comment here, you really sound like someone with a good heart and I really like that. Your type are rare this days

Reference: I disagree with you completely. And will continue to dispute many other similar responses. All the points higlighted are borne out of sentiment and go against common sense and statutory instructions on how and what to do in cases of suspected or proven exposure. Sentiment brought this virus to Nigeria. Sentiment has spread it as far as Portharcourt today. Whether we like it or not, this is not a disease to approach in any way no matter your feelings for the afflicted. It simply cannot be handled without the best PPE. If you are not properly trained and equiped you are just going to kill yourself and possibly infect yet more in the process.
Once a suspicion is raised get in touch with the authorities immediately. Do not attempt to administer any care whatsoever. You will only worsen the situation.

maestroferddi: I make bold to say that I have exhaustively made my points.


You can go on with your patronising attitudes and skewed inferences. It is your call.


Not that I couldn't detect the veneer of bad-temperedness, unjustified complacency, unnecessary pomposity and petulance in your latest post.

Consequently, since you have elected to divorce objectivity and rationality from the interchange, I will no longer oblige you with further rejoinders.


You can go on indulging yourself in whimsical smugness since the rest of humanity depends solely on you for sustenance...

SeaGold: Patrick Sawyer was admitted to the hospital on a Sunday, on Monday she resumed work and Patrick Sawyer was her first patient she attended to. Patrick died on Friday and it was 3 days after it was discovered he'd die of Ebola related disease.....Read up the first paragraph of this article please.

Then fast forward to 18th of August when he did his own research and discovers his wife might be down with the dreaded disease. He took her to the hospital and when she wanted to hug him, he withdrew and reminded her of the danger to himself read the article down further.

Now all this have given them over 2 weeks of co-habiting ignorant of the danger lurking. When his fears was allayed, he continues the caring knowing fully well his own health has deteriorated since he came down with unusual temperature.

Nne, that man acted ignorant and take precautionary step the moment he had the all clear from health workers

maestroferddi: You make me laugh.

maestroferddi: If there is anyone getting dizzy by sentiment, I am afraid that person is you.


No-one said you should become Santa Claus that gives away gifts. Just like I remarked above, Igbo people are not known to be dependent on anybody.


I wonder whether you understand what it means to help people. Maybe it is unknown to you that every giving is a sacrifice. That if you are waiting till all you personal and nuclear family problems are solved, that you cannot give or help.

Taking it a notch deeper, most times all people need to be able to help is to curtail unnecessary expense and flamboyance to help. Help can come in the form of handing out things like used clothing, furniture and household effects.

As some pointed out above, it does not mean that you would be under the whims of the receivers of your assistance, but that you should factor helping people into your responsibilities.


You seem to forget that you need those are not so endowed to enjoy your wealth.
What is the point of having billions when people around are wallowing in poverty?


In some Igbo towns, community security is undertaken by the menfolk while clean and other tasks are that of the women. Now how does it look when you, the supposed Queen of England or the Prince of Wales makes it to the village probably during the festive periods and the village folks refuse to allow you pay someone but insist that you must personally take your turn personal to discharge the requisite task? Can you see that we all cannot be on the same level?


Every man and his cat know that working conditions are better overseas than in Nigeria, so I don't what set out to achieve by stating that Nigerians should not expect their folks who are residing overseas to render a token assistance.

The question about patriotism does not connect, you can see.

MissMeiya: As in. I just followed her. She's hilarious.

AriDsexy: *when she was lying weak on her own fieces,he went in putting his health aside,and cleaned her up,how many men would do this?That is spectacular to me,ignore him.

soulglo: He assaulted a defenseless person. He was not even repentant. If he did that in the UK he would have been arrested. They absolutely need to take all that into consideration when approving a license that puts him in a position of authority over defenseless children

iamayodeji: Am inspired, money must be made.

tbaby534: That's not true. I went to the boarding sch, and when it happens to some people and they start shouting mummy or daddy they are not still able to standup, most times we either drag them up,flog , or pour water.

maestroferddi: Then you are being unrealistic and reasonable.

You don't want to be molested, robbed or kidnapped when you make it to the village and yet you think the way to go is to remain self-centred and aloof.


You forgot that everyone cannot have the same opportunities and luck.

That why you are fortunate to be educated and working or earning good money overseas, that not everyone will have the same luck.

GodMode: Nope, the children should be the priority.the kids aren't your responsibility alone. You and your wife share that responsibility. So both of you as well as your kids come first with each.
Read my first post again. I wonder why you're repeating my points and making it look like I'm saying something else.
You need to rest your eyes so you can read better.



An obligation is a course of action that someone is required to take, whether legal or moral.
Help is not an obligation

good. So since help isn't an obligation,no one is obliged to help unless they want to. What's the matter with you?
Is that different from what I said?



When u begin to curse during a constructive debate it means u have points.

Says the guy who mentioned me to say that I'm selfish and I'm holding Africa's development under my chair. I just pointed out your confusion ( as I have just done again in this post) and I'm the one cussing?
Constructive indeed. Repeating my points and calling it constructive debate
Abeg swerve!!

maestroferddi: You and your illogical posts.

Africans are lazy bla bla... Guess you are now from Mars just because you happen to be probably out of the country.

We are talking of empowerment and you are feteing yourself with self-importance.


Maybe you have not heard that success is nothing without touching lives. That there occurs a time when the trust and devotion you repose solely in your immediate family would come back to haunt you.

At that time you would understand the practicality of the Igbo aphorism that: ozu siwe isi, enyi ka nwanne alaa. Take it or leave it, but I know that one's extended family always matter at critical times.

Have we not seen some sojourners whose very children could not even honour their burial when they die and are brought back to their despised ancestral homes?

GodMode: cococandy, babyosisi and OdenigboAroli... are selfish beings that's why Africa is not moving forward...

you've no idea how generous I am


If u want to help then help cos no one is forcing u to help... But your family and kids come first the wife is just a passenger that's why she also needs to work but most women always want a rich guy....

I'm pretty sure you're talking out of your behind. Where did I say 'don't help?' And what does that line about wife being a passenger mean? And how is it related to the topic? Except you're saying caring for a wife isn't supposed to be a man priority. Read my post again. Wives and husbands should be each others priority'

The whites help themselves no matter the situation.. They don't care if you're a relative or not.

it is called help. Meaning it is obligatory. My comment was against seeing people's help as one's right instead of a priviledge that shouldn't be expected.

The moment people start taking your help as an obligation you can tell them they are not your responsibility you are just doing it out of goodwill

nwokem idi confused. How's this different from what I've been saying? Una go just dey dey quote person meaninglessly.I said before. Extended family isn't anyone's responsibility. If you help,GOOD. Very GOOD and BEAUTIFUL(pls note that in case you're blind.it was in my earlier post)
But if you don't, it shouldn't make you a bad person.
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maestroferddi: Leave that thing.

We Igbos have this annoying way of sounding more catholic than the Pontiff.

The patronising way you are sounding makes it look like if people in home give a hoot whether you guys are picking gold billets in the streets of foreign lands or not.


Some of you guys really need to realise that trying to sound sophisticated and aloof because you happen to be out of the country does not cohere at all.

No Igboman waits for another man's bread but how do you reconcile the fact that a man would only be relevant in a foreign land while his homestead suffers abject negligence.

If companies can incorporate corporate social responsibility into their business philosophies, how much more a son of the soil who merely sojourned to a foreign land?


It goes beyond a long, drawn-out argument. I know what I am talking about.

What shall it profit a sojourner to enjoy all the comforts and coziness of a foreign land only to be deemed a misfit by his roots?

Aku fecha na-elu, emesia ukwu eruo ya ala...

SeaGold: You are pretty and intelligent and I admire that. You would have made a good lawyer.

thank you

Now let run the Usual circus

The man and his late Fiancee are probably live in lovers. Since the late woman is pregnant which is obvious, he was actually taking care of her every needs. Probably the eat together, bath together and he even made love to her...a preggy woman needs it abi?

The report stated that Patrick Sawyer was confirmed of dying of Ebola after 3 days. So it was just a normal thingy that a patient died in a hospital the wife attended to. they still carried on with their matrimonial activities. It was after Sawyer death that the Ebola disease was well pronounced that he did his own research.

oga the news of patrick's disease was out before he died.
I read about his condition when he was alive and read about it again after his death was confirmed.
In fact health officials said he urinated on the health workers when his condition was made public.
The news wasn't published after his death.

After the research, he was quite convince that his "wife" and possibly him has also contracted the Virus owing to his responsibility to her. When the wife was fully pronounced to come down with the virus, he continues with the caring knowing fully well he is also a victim which he alluded. But when his result came back negative, he ran and started seeing the women through the window

he must have been told to stay away by doctors so that they can do their job. Sensible yes and is the right thing if the care was adequate. But it wasn't and when he couldn't bear to look at her thru' the window anymore,he went in to do it himself

I bet you the last time he saw his dying woman and offer to clean her up, he must have been dressed up with the Ebola suit from health officials.
you think?
Well I don't know. We weren't there. But I'm pretty sure many folks won't even want to step into the isolation ward no matter the dress up. Seeing the fuss made about disinfecting his home,the taxi etc etc. He knew of the gravity of the disease. Not many a person would do that.

That guy only performed his responsibility towards the Fiancee because he was oblivious of the impending threat.

obligini? You read where he said he suspected and even googled the disease when it persisted after his suspicion?
Taking her to the hospital instead of calling the hospital to come and take her doesn't show you that he kept on being there. Very close too. even after he knew what was wrong with her?


*sorry for my typing, I dey whack rice*

enjoy odi very important

babyosisi: You are very young but very wise beyond your years
People forget that a man's family are primarily his wife and children and he should also take care of his parents
Every other person is a distant relative
You help them if you can,they are not your responsibility
If people are home expecting my husband and I to build them something to show for our sojourn here,they will wait till death
Cousins and some you can't even trace the kinship want you to train them and train their children