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Oh Exciting!

Good to see you too.🫶🏽

But I say memories over money. These things they’ll never forget. Better than leaving the money in the bank.

One thing these kids will do is cost you some serious money. Hehehe

KanwuliaExtra:
Yes o my sister! It is gonna be one expensive summer.

Week 2 : The Walker School of Economic Planning.✅

Week 3: YMCA leadership camp.✅
Week 4 & 5: Residential boarding camp! 2 GOOD WEEKS OUT OF MY HOUSE! Yaaaaaaay. Dem nor go see me, I nor go see dem SAM-SAM!👍
Week 6: Fitness BOOT CAMP!
Week 7 & 8. . . UK/Nigeria here we come!🎉

Price TAG? Not for the faint-hearted like mine!😞

Thank God for TAX-RETURN CHECK!🙏🏽

Week 9: BACK TO SCHOOL!❤️
COVID is over, everywhere is super open.✅
Longest time.
Good to see ya!❤️

This is only week 1? Sounds like a fun summer ahead

KanwuliaExtra:
Keeping them busy!
School is over. . . Time for SUMMER CAMP!

Week 1. . . . Movies and Andretti Kart Racing camp!

Money go burn die!!!!

Choose exclusive XTREME theaters please! Not jam-packed theaters with lots of crowds!❤️

See the yeye oyinbo pipo det squeeze face and eyes like Lamidi ApapaRABAMBI dem!😆

Everything she says irritates me. Hypocrite

Hathor5:
My dear, work outs is what I so miss. Your contribution is a sign from the universe.

Do it babes They’ll survive.

One of the ladies in my class actually bring her kid but he’s older though (like 6-7) and sits quietly in the corner while we exercise. I imagine toddlers can’t still that long.
But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Leave them for dad and dash

Pilates is saving my life right now. I found it’s lack of energy not lack of time that was my issue. As soon as I put my Pilates on the family schedule and everyone learns to take care of themselves when I’m out to class, I come back energized and ready to roll.

Yes the black devil and white Angel trope was the biggest scam if ever there was one in the history of time


Don’t even get me started on all these other stuff.
Some of them it’s like the pinnacle of their existence is bedding a white or light skin woman 😏

descarado:
You know, watch series from countries around the world, then research on things you see that caught your attention and you will pity blackman.
We are fore er slaves. Blaming and blaming others aside ourselves for our failure and lack of foresight. Lots of countries in this world were conquered like us but look at them and look at us. Perfect example is India. India was a civilised world before Britain invaded and grounded it. Indians were all over Nigeria in the 90s. Fast forward today, they run British economy. Not because an Indian man is the prime minister. If you are in uk, you will understand and India as a country is back to world power. Another example is south Korea colonised by Japan. Look at South korea and Japan today. When south Korea sneezes, Japan will catch cold and south Koreans citizens are yet to forgive them. If you follow k entertainment, you will understand their animosity more. But look at us, still bowing down.
Who do us this thing.
When I said that the worst weapon of mass destruction is pyschological and targeted to black man using religion, people tend to misunderstand the statement.
As long as Satan the devil is depicted black while the Europeans are white( are people actually white) which signifies angels and angels are there to crush the devil the bad one forever, a blackman will never rise above this brainwash. (I have met some old folks here and they were taught that black people were children of Satan that need to be crushed. This is the introduction of low self esteem to black man. The rest they say, is history.We bleach, change accent to become like them. Once a black man cross over, his first point of call is white woman unless it didn't work out, he will remember black sisters as third option. I thought we can never manage 4c hair until I saw chimamanda rocking her hair with style and proudness. Her accent purely igbo.
I have lots to talk about black race that's losing it completely.

You know the latest cleopatra film by Netflix that generated buzz cos cleopatra was cast as a black? Even black people instead of doing some research joined in condemning it. We have sunk so low. Spain was like 60% black, king James of King James bible was black, Egypt and some of the northern Africa were blacks, some Indians till date are blacks and some Asians( they will tell you its slavery cos they don't want you to know the truth) but they have successfully narrowed blackman to sub saharan Africa with the help of black man like this footballer is doing.

iamdapsyj:
Stop creating excuses for them 😂

I’m actually not making excuses for them

Jennyclay:
Staged and scripted

bergs2:
Madam be calming down; they are skit makers

TheSuperX:
This shit ain't real, they are both attention seekers looking for views on their social media page, don't believe it.

Moprince:
This idiot and his wife useless content just to always trend... They should try something else.
Mumu man and mumu Aisha

Seems like all these talentless skit makers know that what sells is for they make fake scenarios presenting women in a negative light

Paracetamol01:
African girls are useless.... you will never see a European player marry an African girls.you will only see our black brothers marry there girls

They marry their own Maybe…..because they are not conquered negros whose idea of wholesomeness lie in another race?

🤷🏽‍♀️

Low self esteem. They don’t think black skin is beautiful. That’s why they are trying to breed out their own race

God1000:
I think about 60-70 percent of African players in Europe are married to white girls

Postinor:
yes, you should be flattered that a man is willing to marry u, and take care of your expenses till the day u die

okay

Send her a link to this thread.

I believe she’s the one who needs counseling (based on the premise that what you said is 100% true).

But she can’t change if everyone is talking to you instead of her. Her who needs to do the change

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Postinor:
you would make a good wife

Right. Because I said it’s unafrican to respect women.

I guess I should be flattered to me chosen?

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.



I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism

Pocohantas girl you hardly miss. Lol

As in eh

pocohantas:
For a gender that claims not to benefit from marriage, you guys are too invested in the marital status of women. Can you focus on important things like Chinese men? Invent something and elect good leaders.

Kobojunkie:
Let's please leave the bible which instead states submission was, in fact, a curse on marriage out of this brain damage abeg! Don't wake them up abeg!

Someone tried to argue with me that it wasn’t a curse. lol

Lol they are polygamous in nature and women must submit. That’s what the Bible says. Don’t bring that western nonsense of asking men to respect their wives. We are Africans and we hate woke.

Umm what else is missing? I believe I covered the talking points

CuriousStudent:
It can't be real, can it?
A 25+ woman, with kids, plus a divorcee( she was a single mother before her first marriage) A "damaged goods" getting engaged to a high value man when they are fresh young virgins from 18-25 year-old out there.

Thankfully many of these clannish boys are getting to realise that reality is bigger than their hateful projection of women future.

What can they actually do about it other than murmur?

And murmur they shall

djon78:
See I no get time for all these up and down
Men vs women
Talk

Every human have there own modus operandi
Every family too
So to each his/her own

I have stated my mind
Chikena

What was your mind that you stated?

That this man did well by his actions. At the same time you praised the women who did the opposite of what he did?

When confronted you said “by the way how many women have that type of money”? In your efforts of course to rubbish women.

Well then I empathized with you for not knowing women who have that type of money. So, you reverted to saying all the women in your family are wealthy and I’m nothing compared to them. Am I missing anything?

Big foot in mouth. Move along pls

Persephone1:
At first i thought it's copy and paste but I noticed his other posts.
He must be a choirmaster or song writer . He will write one verse, leave space jump to another.

This is how we write church song back then nah

That’s how all my hymnals are formulated

So you do know women who have money? Because you just said this.

How many women get that kind money self?
Extremely very few

Now all the women in your family are rich?
Which is it? Because y’all just argue and say anything to make a point.

If everyone or at least most people know a few rich women, where are your previous stats from?

Now you’re deflecting. Trying to talk about my location as if it has anything to do with the conversation. Typical

djon78:
Haha see this one

You think say because you dey somewhere in the West


You are very funny


My four sisters
You can't even stand them on any levels
As in both overseas and Nigeria here
Not to talk of my madam
What's your academic qualification self?
Nonsense


Do you even have money self?
Do you even have $100, 000
No do you even have up to $50, 000
$100,000 is too much
You can't even see such money


No dey think some of the people you are chatting with here are poor

Nonsense

Persephone1:
Why are you typing in stanzas?

Verse one

Then chorus

And then verse two

I’m sorry you only know poor women

djon78:
How many women get that kind money self?
Extremely very few

And those that have treat there men like King

I have been in a function with Folrunsho Alakija
The richest Nigeria woman
A billionaire in dollars

She was advising young women to respect, worship and adore there husband's
That she worships her husband
Still cooks his food despite her wealth
Still does his manicure




Same was said of Late Prof Dora Akunyili
She cooked her husband personal food
Despite being nafdac DG and later minister
She never allowed anyone cook for her husband food but her



Same for Mummy Ngozi Okonjo iweala
With her level of connection and global exposure
She doesn't play with her husband
And taking care of her Man
Being a responsible Wife


Na all these chewing gum girls
Wey never achieve anything in life
Will be looking down on Men

Isn't it surprising that
Responsible high powered women
Don't play with the men over them

Na all these chewing gum girls
Wey never achieve anything meaningful in there Life
Will be making noise

More abundance = more homemade goodies 🤤

This yes this.

This is exactly what I need women who ride for them to understand. Witch hunts, anti-woman cultures, shaming of thing’s that are feminine, vulgar languages used to describe feminine things and behaviors, etc are all imports of the colonial masters. It’s a shame we adopted these cultures and then turn around to call others over westernized or woke. Like read a book people. The entire history of Europe is riddled with woman hate. If they can see their error and try to move on, why are we upholding their traditions and calling it African tradition?

descarado:
They learnt very well from their colonial masters.

Let's say women liberation came less than a century ago. The atrocities committed against women in these developed nations were shocking. Not as half of what was obtainable in our culture before colonisation and in the 70s above.

Modern day women hating comes from religion.
You see them quoting the bible up and down for women slavery called submission.

My Grannies told me how powerful the umuadas were in the old. Look at our women now. Team u must submit to your husband.

But I'm happy that in those nations, women fought. It will take time but with things on ground in Nigeria right now, women emancipation is just a step away.

Women no longer see themselves as breeding machines only and they can actually walk away if they desire when the marriage dont favour them. This is a huge leap.

djon78:
Na if she get the money first

If woman had money
She can fly first class
No be on Oga money

More of entitlement

If I hear say a woman with money buys herself first class tickets and economy for the husband.

Like all of you won’t be up in arms about how she’s emasculating him and how women with money are rude bla bla bla. Oh please 🙄

Keep same energy if wife does the same that’s all

It’s not a complicated issue. It’s misogyny simple and short.

Many cultures in Nigeria have refused to accept the simple fact that they hate women. They’ll use “this is Africa, we are traditional, we hate westernization bla bla bla” to perpetuate hatred against women (something that’s innately western BTW but I digress)

Now it’s happening in Igbo land, Yoruba people are focusing on the tribe. when it happens In Yoruba land, Igbo people will come along to bash their tribe. But all of you have the same thing in common and that’s all Nigerian cultures perpetuate some form of oppression against women that you justify with tradition.

Let’s be focusing on the tribe and not the issue which is that most of all of our culture only works if women accept these types of barbarism in different degrees.

baralatie:
It is a complicated issue.
One.it bothers around widow s ND it's after effects while in Calabria they are more inclined to identifying women who are into witchcrafts and either banish the women or killing them.
It is a different thing in some areas.some areas associated the death of the husband as tobe due to the witchery acts of the widow(and it can go really bad for the widow if investigation revealed that the husband is well known.agile and productive).
Because of this members of some communities exploit omen into widowhood to instigate community against them
Then there are other issues of concern.
In deltaimo.rivers.bayelsa some communities still are at crossroads of how to phase out this problem


Even in the west there are hidden practices that affect women which is been hidden from the public of which a lot of people don't know about.
It is not always green on the otherside

Funny how it’s usually women who are witches. How many wizards have you heard them banning?

Or11:
There's something called a warning which is what you could have told her. Try this stunt in a developed world and watch her sue you.

Developed world? Where’s this illusion developed world where such things fly? Lol.

She would have been fired from the interview

Poor men analyzing rich men’s lives . A favorite pastime

Larissa also noted that love always protects, perseveres, gives hope, and does not delight in evil.

But she was delighting in evil when she was hurting another woman by birthing a child for her husband?

The thing with people who use religion to further their hypocrisy. It makes my skin itch.

Just be your bad self and leave the Bible out of it.