₦airaland Forum

Mercychen:
Mr Man, sorry o but you're being rided by that woman and she's not a good wife.

On no condition should she deny you sex except she's sick.

Her body is all yours and you have the right to have her anytime you feel like. She has no right to keep her body from your for so long.

Fine, you assaulted her ( which was a fault of hers) and you've apologized. She should forget and move on. Couples quarrel and yours won't be the first. So whybis she making a mountain out of a molehill?

It's either she's seeing someone else or tired of the marriage. I mean, why would she starve you of your conjugal rights for so long in the first place and still go on to deny you of it when you asked for it?

You better shine your eyes. I have a feeling shes getting it from someone else and now you look repulsive to see her.

Ladyhippolyta88:
It is comments like his and many others on naira land that makes me worry for women in Nigeria.

I will reiterate again there is no where it is a crime to refuse sex it is your body and choice to decide, what is a crime is to force someone to have sex with you without consent.

Ladyhippolyta88:
And shameful, a lot of women in Nigeria are in danger

foleskay:
Shut up you hypocrite. If the woman had not been horading sex like gold,would the man had raped her?? She brought out the monster in d man... So his actions are justifiable. Its his legal right and forcefully taking his right his debatable under d law.

advanceDNA:
It’s not a new thing,

Women deny men sex for no reason.. they will just say “I’m not in the mood”

ayindejimmy:
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Not when we both own the biro.

This is marriage not dating. Two has become one.
Refusal of sex by any of the partners is negligence of conjugal duty.
Some men when they're sex starved they portray develop animalistic instincts. Me, I just leave you and move to plan B.

I'm not defending the man's violent reaction but don't come here and say the wife is not wrong. She boxed the husband into a tight corner and he reacted differently.
They're both victims

jaxxy:
Everybody talking down on the man like he is a potential psychopath without calling out the stupid wife.

How dare a woman treat her loving and caring husband the way this woman treated him? Month after months this man was subject to sexual deprivation and Torture by a selfish and uncaring wife and at some point he lost it.

It wasn’t the 1st she rejected him he did this it was over a long period of toture and frustration with no explanation in sight.

Should he have done this No! He should have looked for a better way to address the wrong behavior of his erring wife.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I was looking forward to your comment, glad you commented here I also puked too, why on earth is the wife still with him?

Kingcalls:
A man can't rape his wife...stop forming woke... a wife has no right to deny her husband sex...its a big sin if u don't know it... denying ur spouse sex can lead to adultery which is among the commandments of God....again the a spouse can ask for divorce and win the case if the partner is not performing his or or matrimonial duty ... it like give u money to keep for me, I later ask u for the money and u refuse to give me , I then search ur bag ,see money in ur back and forcefully take it and u go about telling people that I stole ur money... u women should start being logical for once and stop throwing emotions

Arsenate:
Kinda love how you are about to burst an artery on this issue but always happily troll men who open threads on paternity fraud.

Not news that you've always been bias towards women so your opinions and labels of men don't hold any weight to me, tbh. Hopefully op sees it that way and doesn't feel guilty by your words.

PlentyMonikers:
you be idiot, why would she deny him sex in the first place when her bride price was paid for?
OP don't feel any guilty abeg, it's your right, you deserve it, next time she denies you sex you rape her over and over again before kicking her cheating ass out of your matrimonial home

Arsenate:
Yeah, hopefully she does, in the best interest of everyone. She can proceed to meet other men who will tolerate her selfish, sex denying asssss while op can get other women who will wanna fuuuck him.

*funny how you make it look like a woman divorcing a man whom she denies sex will be the man's lost*

nrexzy:
U female can pretend naa u know dat....

A woman can kill you slowly

tosinhtml:
Poster your issue is very simple.

You are currently in Nigeria and since you plan to stay in Nigeria for 2/3 years, It means you still have time.

I'd advise you to take steps in these particular order

1. This time you have should be used to focus on your job, build your CV and professional certificates, if your career requires any.

2. During this time, you should save your money.

3. Marry your wife in Nigeria within this 2/3 years, don't suspend your marriage plans, carry her along.

4. If you decide to travel for your studies, make her the primary applicant for the study VISA and you become the dependent. It means you should have every right Dependents are permitted to work in Canada. They need to have an Open Work Permit for this. It will allow them to work full-time anywhere any Canada without any curbs. This should be easy.

5. If you choose to go with the PR route, that is fine as well.

6. Don't travel any where without your wife, It is going to be a fruitless venture. I promise you. Canada is cold and lonely, forget about the noise on Nairaland.

7. Ignore those saying you should learn coding. Please Ignore them. Coding isn't the only way to earn good money and it isn't for every one.

Shalom!

eyinjuege:
You still have a bit of time to save for the Canada relocation if that's what you will eventually opt for.
Just make sure you continue saving enough. In the meantime, ct building your career and see where things lead to.
You may even get better opportunities even at your workplace, so see how things pan out and keep relocation as a viable option.
I've noticed time naturally takes care of certain decisions for you

PeaceJoyLove:
What determines your economy? Is it your naira? What dictates rise in prices, I guess it is your naira. If you want to buy any gadget, what dictates the price? All your clothing, na naira dey dictate the price?

So, you dont know that lawyers can even advise you better? Law, medicine and nursing are still future jobs.

Oga, no be dey do you. I am not the one who said you should not have the brain to code na. If you cant, I listed others there. The joke is on you if you dont know why coding is hot cake now. And didnt you see the rest I wrote there if your brain cannot match up with coding? So you cant use google to even help yourself out? Na waoooo.

Why is it that your blood is always hot when you hear coding?

No be dey do you ooo.

You called him inexperienced cos hes 27. Leave him with your girlfriend or wife and we will see who is inexperienced.

If you are contented with N300k, good for you. God forbid bad thing. Chai! See reasoning. This guy can never in his life buy a brand new car oooo. Never. So, in your life, it is used cars oyinbo don condemn you have to use? Dem curse you say make you too no buy house in a very good area? Chai! So, that N300k will do it for you. Are you cursed never to drive tear rubber? Na that N300k go do am?

Walahi! We need good government to turn around the brain of people. Poverty has messed with your brains. Honestly. You see $500 as a good salary. Chineke!!!!

Go and ask your father his salary in those days compared to the salary in the UK. See eh..you need deliverance from poverty. I'm sure you havent left this nation for once.

You need help.

PeaceJoyLove:
Those you mentioned on quora are from places where they make $3,000 per month (EU, rich Asuan and ME) in their countries before relocating to Canada. Is it Indians or Nigerians who make less in their homes that will complain of cold and leave? Lol. I read a complain on Twitter, but the fellow hasn't returned. Lol. One was even over quoting rent there and bla bla bla-ing how expensive Canada is one year like that. His friends who even know him there in Canada bursted him that he is a prodigal son who spend too high. Ok...make oga return home, e no gree....yet discouraging others. I guess he made the posts to tell off people at home asking him money. Lol . But that was a wrong call cos his friends bursted him and even said they prefer the cold than the heat without electricity In Naija. Another was one woman and man like that who are in APC or so. Those unserious people. Or is it Fayose's bro who became a driver in the UK? Lol. It shows he has no brain to learn future needed skills. With all the billions in naira he looted during his brother's reign. Lol. Meanwhile boys are making $3k to $6k and above as soon as they land there with good jobs. What you dont know, you dont. Ok?

Oga, it is like you havent breath in good air. Lol. If you think air is what you breath in here, you dont know anything. Just leave the shore of this nation and go breath there, you will understand. Let me not talk too much.

Fine, Canada is cold, but it's ok. Go and check figures and facts well, more Nigerians relocate to Canada than to anywhere in the world. Canada has more programs to integrate migrants into their system. In the US, it is mainly marriage cos most cannot afford to cough out $1million via investment route.

All those doing menial jobs do not have skills for the future. How can you learn digital marketing and become Sule at Walmart's entrance? No way. E no possible. If he gets masters, and learns one of the skills needed, and you say he will do a menial job.....hmmm. How possible? No way. Let the cold hammer him well, with just $1,200 entry level monthly salary, he will be far better off....which I know can be even $35,000 to $65,000 per annum with benefits.

Do not discourage him. His salary is just $526 now monthly. And he hopes to have it increased to $700. How much is that? If he aspires to go higher, let him be. If he decides to pick up those career above, leave him alone. Let him go after his passion. Stop discouraging him. And stop saying what you do not know.

If he has the opportunity of earning $3,000 here which is around N1.7million monthly, then, one may start telling him to think twice. But it's just only N300k. Haba! No so you think it is such a huge salary?

Give him pros and cons, and do not just tell him not to. If you choose to stay here, goodluck. It's your choice. But dont discourage these young guys.

He has a very good brother. He will be happy he has such guy in 5 years. He thinks he is making money and successful now, but he has not stepped out of Naija. Lol.

Anyway, let's end it like this. Just stop discouraging him. If you care, let us know the number of Naijas who has relocated to Canada and returned cos of cold. I guess you said they are all on quora. Right? So, let us know the number of Naijas there.

N300K job is what you call good. Lol. Ok ooo. God will show us the way in this nation. Hmmmm. What a pity? Ordinary $500!!!

Jim99:
Father's have ALWAYS been good to their kids and have always played important roles in the life's of their kids.

Your own definition of a good father means changing diapers, cooking, cleaning, bottle feeding, putting them to sleep but that's not it. That's the role of the mother.

descarado:
I wil try then and see. Read we can use baking soda. Thanks.

Jim99:
There's nothing to ponder on. How about you let Men advise Men?

And focus that energy on advising women on how not to be manipulative moms, especially with the children.

zomby:
I think you guys are mixing things up.

Caring physically/ mentally/ emotionally for your children is not the same as marrying to a wife that hates you.
Every great mom is very happy to have children that cherish their father. In fact, majority of magnificent mothers systematically train their children to always love their father regardless of the circumstances.

So please do not mix caring for your children with marrying to a wife that despises you…That should be a different topic.

descarado:
Evil feminist

They don't know any better I tell you.
They don't.

You were brought up in a home, majority here ......., let me reserve my comment.

Abeg, I have dry ukwa, have you cooked it with pressure pot?
I'm not ready to use edible potash.

Fridaya30:
Bath them too , pack the pups, replace the pampers, breastfeed the baby, pamper ham if na cry the baby Dey cry, be there always to attend to the baby’s needs �.
Abeg find another thing talk about. U think say e easy to be a mother. I be man o. Before u come replying yin yin yan yan yan

Jim99:
Of course it's gonna sound like bashing to you, because you're guilty of it. Just like 99% of mothers are.

It's a good thing y'all are being exposed.

@Codemnbattery i commend you for this post but don't stop here. Take it to Twitter, reddit and the others. We need more men seeing this.

Richy4:
It is really embarrassing my sis...
How are u doing by the way? Happy New year... Hope you had a cool holidays.

Richy4:
I'm happy for you my brother that u were able to find love again...
But I feel really bad for OP honestly... Imagine my spouse calling my work place over domestic matters... It's just a sin in my own book honestly...

No matter the domestic dispute, she shouldn't have gone to that angle especially if she didn't find the job for me... What's her motives behind that if not to get his appointment terminated...

To think that her tuition fees comes from that same job she was tempering with is a different abomination raised to power two
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