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Try to get pregnant and have children before you call someone lazy.

The reasons why y’all call stay at home moms lazy is because you don’t value the contributions of women. But if you’re left to do that job, you’ll go insane. So please speak only of what you know.
Because women do it all the time doesn’t mean it’s easy. It just means that most of you have gone for many years of your life without appreciating what a difficult job it is.

Do better

Jman06:
What the hell do you mean by "non of them will ever wish their sisters at home"? I have sisters who are married and they are very productive and supportive to their husbands! Sometimes I begin to wonder why I would marry a liability when other men are getting the best of my sisters

Op's wife is just a lazy assz, simple! She needs to get a job ASAP

The only solution

Acidosis:
How old is your mother? Why can't your mother work? Is she suffering from one ailment?

Look, the only way is for your mother to get a job. The alternative is for her to take care of your triplets so you and your wife can fully concentrate on your job/business.

Don't ever suggest to your wife to get a job at this stage without anyone to help with the kids. Only a ma.d man will tell a young mother of triplets to get a job. Attending to those toddlers daily is harder than driving a truck from Lagos to Kano every day. So kill that idea and don't ever bring it up.

Ishilove:
I disagree Coco. Dress according to your gender and stop confusing little kids.

I teach my kids that people can wear whatever they want. We do run into queer and cross dressing folks once in a long while. It’s never been confusing for them (well at least for my bigger kid. Dunno about the small one yet ).

This is mainly for the grownups who feel uncomfortable about it but kids do not have the same biases as we do until we teach it to them

Ishilove:
All for the gram. Wrong attire for the kitchen, wrong jewelry.

It is high time the government made cross dressing a punishable crime. Social media and bloggers are also not helping by constantly pushing these perverts in our faces and keeping them in the news.

ishi people can wear what they want

JONNYSPUTE:
...Uwc. Thanks and sorry if I was harsh.

it’s fine no worries

JONNYSPUTE:
....Did you understand what I wrote there?. She should move out and file for divorce instead of staying with him and denying him sex. That what I imply. Go read my other commitments I don't support the man.

okay. Sorry I misunderstood

It’s their Madonna-wh0re complex at work

pocohantas:
Any small thing, they will start telling the wife to take care of herself. How many of you Nigerian men look good? With your pot bellies like drum and nonexistent necks.

Suddenly prostitutes look and feel better than your virtuous wives ba? Yet we keep hearing talks of how high body count makes a woman look old, sexually unresponsive and unattractive.

I guess it all flies out through the window when y’all are ready to justify and defend your cheating ways.

Why not marry the lady with ashewo vibes? You claim men know the one to marry. Say you want peace of mind. You done marry peace of mind now, you come dey cheat on am with ashewo. Confused gender.

CHoccolaTE:
LOL
Nigerian men get problem no be small oo

after they will start crying paternity fraud. No who No know dem

JONNYSPUTE:
....Are you trying to solve the problem or worsen it?

Is it not better for her to get a divorce and be alife to take care of her daughter?
Why not ask her to file for divorce instead?

So let's assume she starts denying him sex and he got angry and beat her or even kill her,what happens to her daughter?

so in order to avoid getting beat up, she should open her legs and collect deadly diseases?

If your wife has been sleeping with multiple guys, will you say the same thing to yourself? Many of you are so chronically insensitive it’s awful to watch

The boys advice on this thread is a clear example of the reason why nobody should feel an iota of empathy for them when they get the rewards of their labor . Harvest what you grow and support

Please shut up your nonsense mouth

StPete:
It's just sex and it's his own addiction. Either help him to fight it or just let him be. As long as he does his bit in his family. You see, to men like that, it's just sex. No feelings attached.

I know many people would reverse the case if it was the woman but women don't just have random sex, it comes with emotions. Even prostitutes catch feelings with their clients. So just let him be. Insist he use a condom with them and just free your mind about how he bleeps around. In his own time, he will stop

Amanee:
If you divorce him like he deserves now, people will say you used him to go abroad and grew wings upon getting there. God help you ma'am

as in eh

Yum

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Shadyfeelings:
Please help me. I am a Tailor in ogun state

That’s not the reason why I posted

The underwater video was insane.

Just to chip in my two cents, I worked for a really popular fast food while I was a student. That’s where I learned to cook a lot of stuff. It just started one semester when there was extended strike and I didn’t want to be idle. But after the strike, I kept the job until I graduated because why not?. It was actually quite fun to be able to do that even though my parents provided for me. At least I could have extra in addition to what they gave me.

Not knocking anyone who needs assistance and asks for help but I’m really only motivated to help folks I see making effort to better themselves no matter how small their efforts are. At least they are doing something

BlueRayDick:
Exactly !

What most people fail to acknowledge is the fact that all fingers are not equal; not everybody is fortunate to have parents who do not only pay their school fees but can cater every of their needs . When one finds himself in such situations it’s only wise u do everything legally possible to not remain in such situations in the nearest future .

I know of a bros who was my senior in school , he used to sell chin chin to other students when he’s not having lectures.... he moves from one department to the other hawking his goods. He ended up being the first person to graduate with first class in the department since inception. Today he’s a lecturer in the same department ( he was offered automatic employment after NYSC) , has a family that is going well and almost through with his PhD.

He survived in school because of the value he was able to offer his immediate community . That’s how one leaves the “trenches” , not by begging others for money to feed instead.

RoyalBoutique:
Which Kain wives una dey marry sef?

My wife sustained me for years before I found my footing.

And she didn't make noise about it.

Find better woman, Una no go hear.

They know good women.

They’d rather focus on some internet story about a bad “westernized” woman than appreciate the good women in their lives

InTheCloudySky:
Broccoli, bacon and cheddar salad. Lightly buttered and baked Salmon

oh that salad .

Hangulsaram:
my submission is base on the fact why a man can marry 4-5 wife and still love and care for them equally but a woman can’t.

This is infact not factual

But glad you agree with my other points

It’s your house, take care of it

The wedding vows do not include being “sexually available as required”, It’s not a sex slavery contract. Yes consensual sexual relationship is a reasonable expectation of a marriage. It’s not however a justification to ignore when one person doesn’t feel like having sex and expect them to just be available because they are married regardless of what’s going on with them at the time. They are a person not a chattel sex slave.

There’s no interpretation y’all won’t attribute to wedding vows. Except what they actually mean. Because if you actually thought much about the wedding vows like you’re pretending to, the last sentence you made wouldn’t be that amusing to you.

DMerciful:
You got it wrong! Insofar you made a vow during wedding to be available sexually as required, you have to fulfill your end of the bargain. If married women will not complain if their husbands cheat, they'll know that their bodies is not worth that much because you can get probably a better body to bang for #500

They will be alright

descarado:

You saw my comment on first page?
The kind of insult I received eeeh

The insult will boil water inside kettle

I don't take these people serious cos we know reality versus nairaland anyway.

Hangulsaram:
I can understand you @ the bolded, but u need to understand that man does n’t need connection or neither do we care if we are in the same frequency with a lady while having sex or to have sex, our own no to pour out oo. That is why some men will have sex with maid and even mad woman.

Brother, This is not the flex that men think it is. It’s not something to say out loud like it’s worth being proud of.

Women are perfectly capable of having sex without any emotional connections whatsoever. If we weren’t, prostitution wouldn’t be the oldest trade known to man.

However when the person involved is your spouse that you will spend the rest of your life with, then it speaks to a deeper issue that the person is willing to do it without wanting to resolve the root cause of ill feelings first.

Live your life sweetheart. Nothing will happen

Emaprince:
You don't want me to really delve into this. Your own gender will look useless to you I swear.

Make we just leave am at the manipulative tactic of women to make themselves seem so important to men...when sex is the only thing a man want from you. The same sex the women also crave for.

I wan watch Chelsea match.

Lmao. Nice cop out. When you’re ready I’m waiting

Emaprince:
I think the only thing a woman brings is sex. Nothing else. A man that depends on woman for money is already unfortunate..either through badluck or whatever.

But what a woman benefits from a man is not just sex..but a WHOLE lot.

What does she benefit from a man

Hangulsaram:
Okay, Thanks. That is to say, those things are not necessarily a good reason to deny a spouse conjugal right.

Every reason is a good reason because it means if they don’t say no at that time, they are going to be having sex with you when they don’t feel like it. The proper thing is to resolve the matter before initiating sex once more. Saying they can go ahead and do it because they “don’t have a good reason to say no” implies that you don’t mind if the person feels forced into it.

And honestly, do you want to have sex with someone who’s not sexually into you at the moment? When y’all say conjugal rights, you sound like it’s something you’re taking and you don’t care if the other person is on the same frequency as you.

I know I don’t want to have sex with someone who is reluctantly doing it with me because they can’t make up a good enough excuse to say no even though they truly do not want it at that time. Think about it

God1000:
so many of them are exactly like me

the evidence suggests otherwise

Omg someone was commenting this the other day online. Like how a man will meet a girl and within 24hours he wants her to come spend the night at his place.

They really do take strange women for granted because they believe women can’t do anything. Any female serial killer will have a field day with them. I was watching one on TV where this lady stood by the roadside and they would just stop and pick her up because they imagined they’ve seen free sex.
And she was killing them one by one until a cop went undercover and they finally caught her. After so many men had already died. Smh

pocohantas:
Oga rest, nobody will beg you for anything. Say you be who? Men are CHEAP! Ashewo gender that can fcked with N4 message. Who go beg una?

Woman wey never fck na say she no wan fck. Message 20 men, including married ones and 25 would reply! You fit still use scope collect money from them join.

Make una thank God say women no get evil mind to do rituals. Una population for done reduce by 99.7%. Make I see mouth una go use dey insult women online.

C’mon leave this place osiso.

God1000:
lol, if all men are like me ehh, you ladies will beg for sex.

Please let them be o. Maybe rape will decrease drastically
You need to talk to other men see if you can convince them to be like you

It’s her body she doesn’t owe it to anyone

I encourage a healthy sexual relationship that’s pleasurable to both partners. Not one where it’s a chore or a duty to be performed for sake of the man.

advanceDNA:
You make it sound like women don’t need men’s body...it’s manipulative and that’s why men complained in that thread because she denied the man for no reason...

Here u are making sex and your body look like a favour you are giving to the man....

What is he bringing to the table ?? A base ball bat??

Sex is nature’s gift for both genders to enjoy their companionship in marriage ...it isn’t something you leverage on like a prost!tute or a gigolo

And it makes them angry that they need it that much. That’s what all the hyperventilating is all about.
They hate what they like

pocohantas:
All that women bring nothing but sex is nothing but emotional blackmail and guilt tripping. Men want to be appreciated for just existing. Even a jobless man would cry out if his wife isn’t respecting him, but everyday they tell women to go work and earn respect.


Yes, the thing in between women’s leg is very important to them. Remove toto and men would be stabbing themselves to death on the streets. They need to fck and suck bobby to maintain 50% sanity.