₦airaland Forum

Takotsubo:
Cheers!!! Nice to meet someone who actually understands the meaning of the name.

@ food for the goose..let's just say I am open to all possibilities and very easily bored.

Takotsubo:
@babythug

I think a lot of emphasis is placed on male cheating , lol.

Tooo many variables:

Length of marriage.

Religious affiliation and attitude towards religion.

Financially dependent or independent wife

Children involved and their ages

Wife's interest or lack of in sexual intercourse

Social security ,stigma or lack of stigma

Wife's redlines: for some, cheating is nothing compared to poverty.

Social status of couple

Lifestyle of wife

One off episode or length of affair plus result of the affair: baby on the way etc

Attitude of spouse pre and post cheating

Openness of both spouses

Results of STD testing and willingness not accept no sex or sex with condom

Ability to move on or not..could take years etc


Personally, my attitude towards cheating has changed over the years mainly because I have a very good relationship with my spouse,he is a good guy, our children are very happy,home life is stable.I think he's a great father who would generally avoid anything that could hurt me and he has a very good income too which in combination within mine means a decent lifestyle for all of us.

1. I may or may not leave ,I have the financial power to care of my kids alone,society I live in doesn't have issues with divorce so this is not a problem at all.

2.The impact would be devastating for the children, because we all have a very close relationship.

3. I could cheat as well,I cannot promise 100% fidelity because the longer you are married,the more bored you become especially over 10 years...

I love my spouse like kilode but I'm quite open minded about expecting someone to have sex with one person forever. Maybe I'm this lenient because I know I can fall into this particular sin out of plain boredom.

No I did not have sex with anyone's husband in the past,I don't have a shady sexual history either.

I just don't see why I should end all our years together just for sex especially when I could be guilty of such too( I still would draw lines on are,new child ,length of affair etc) . It depends on the context and also if I'm innocent of same at the time of the offence


My spouse so far has not cheated or he's abnormally smart about it( we've passed the 10 year mark).Either ways,if he does,that just opens my mind further to the options available to me.

Yes,my spouse knows I can leave or stay dependent on my interpretation of the situation.

Yes yes I know about the pain and betrayal ,I'm just not overly emotional about things in general.


There's just too many variables,no one really ever knows.


People should just act based on their convictions.

Dyt:
I couldn't finish sef
Will use it as a side for my chips for dinner
**licking lips**

Dyt:
**sitting on my bed rubbing my belly**
Thank God for today's lunch

Hathor5:
Thank you
The feeling is mutual.

Hathor5:
As I am craving jollof rice, which I am planning to make on Saturday and on which I will, as always, overeat, I am saving calories today.

Salad and home made dressing.

pocohantas:
You thought you were talking with someone sensible. Well done.

Softapplez:
Ha!!! There is more to me than meets the eye.

There is a reason why they called me prophet samurai years ago in nairaland.

So immediately Pocohantas opened the thread and when reading, i kept seeing your face all over again and again.

That's me for you, I'm spiritual.

Let me tell you something coco, your next baby will be a girl and I'm seeing her coming before summer next year.

You will call her Jane.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

bukatyne:
Very true

And the fact that he is borrowing to sustain/feed them.

Not a one off project or sickness.

Softapplez:
But Pocohantas said the money does not belong to her so it's only fair she mentions the lady that gave her the money for her second giveaway.

And I know the lady is cococandy

So op remove Pocohantas and put cococandy

By the order of the Peaky blinders

doitforyou:
Chile!! I think I got it from my job ( flying back from Ventimiglia, Italy). I got to Jersey and in about a week something didn’t feel right. I have never had the common flu before but I had fever and felt lethargic, right of the bat I knew something wasn’t right. Then, I had difficulty breathing, my inhaler didn’t help, I thought I was going to die.

I was transported to the ER. I was on a ventilator for two days. This was in first week of March, one of the first waves in Jersey. Sis, my outlook to life has changed, damn! It was hell lol. We take life for granted, I infected two other people but they weren’t hospitalized.

OutharryHIV:
I "accidentally" found out I had HIV in 2015... Worst year of my life.. I know you might be thinking that I'm a promiscuous person but I assure you, I'm very far from that... So this is how it all started?

I did my NYSC in my dad's company and finished in late 2014 and I was given a full year to go read a course I didn't even want. So I instead volunteered for Youth In Action Against HIV and poverty in Tanzania. My dad was furious but my mum understood.

It was 6months filled with lessons, tears, experience and a firsthand witness to the sufferings of others... We tended to the poorest of the poor in rural Tanzania.

I later came down to Borno and later North bank area of Benue state, I realized there were a lot of vulnerable people that are hungry and can't afford even cheap medical care thus they die of common malaria.

I didnt stay long in Borno before I started having this feeling of fatigue and blurry vision, I thought it was cuz of the stress that comes with what I do, so I decided to go home. Few days after getting home I started feeling this head splitting headache, I thought it was malaria/typhoid of which a lab test later confirmed.. Out of curiosity, I told the doctor to run a full check up.. Just to be on a safe side.. Which he did..

You should imagine my surprise when he told me I was HIV positive.. Nothing has ever prepared me for that moment.. It was funny how a malaria treatment could turn to an HIV nightmare.. I thought of just ending my life right then.

But i braced myself and took the drugs, I was surprised that it was free in Nigeria sef.

I rushed home and took my girlfriend to run the test and it turned out that she has it too...
We've been taking the drugs for the past 5years now with an high Cd4 count and a low viral load.. The virus is not detectable in our blood stream anymore and we are happily married and our first twin boys are negative.

If you're out there and you've been in my shoes.. Its not the end of your life.. Life just happens and its not entirely your fault.

I don't smoke, drink or live a reckless life or sleep around, like I've been in only one relationship all my life, so its not about your lifestyle.
I don't know if I got it from the idp camps or my girlfriend(she was the only person I was with at that time), we just didn't care, we moved on.

So lovelies, Take your ARV drugs, take fruits, eat well, within 3-6 months you can still have unprotected sex throughout your life with your partner without infecting them or your children.. You can live your life to the fullest and more.

P.s: HIV patients do not look skinny and dried up.. That's just an archaic stereotype...
It is also not a death sentence.

GboyegaD:
Lunch:
Rice and Beans burritos with beef and sausage. Couldn't defrost sweet corn because I'm hungry. Had no Feta Cheese at home so improvised with Parmesan and Provolone Cheese. No pico so improvised with diced Onions, mini sweet Pepper, and Parsley (improvising for cilantro). No Salsa/Verde so had to use stew.

And a side of Banana Chips (bought from the store).

doitforyou:
cococandy, how are you doing?? I just recovered from rona. I am asthmatic and high risk but I caught the rona and survived.

doitforyou:
cococandy, how are you doing?? I just recovered from rona. I am asthmatic and high risk but I caught the rona and survived.

Darkseid:
So today is my brother's birthday,
1. Spaghetti for lunch
2. Me and my sis made him a birthday cake, we're still amateurs though
3. Inside the 4 in 1 cake, consisting of normal sponge cake, chocolate cake, red velvet cake and fruit cake.

movingclouds:
Awww Coco, you're such a kind Candy

Harlequeen:
Thank you. We know that our visions align. But we will give it our all.

factormatt6:
. I have a clear cut goal in life even before my girl come into the picture. I am the type that draw a plan and ways to fulfill my plan.I went back to school for a reason, I should have just settle for less.

IamgratefulLord:
My dear, 5k this time can't really do much. A lady sent me 5k yesterday after pleading with her to help me. I just started a school and 90% of the parents haven't paid me a dime. I just came back from the market in kuje, Abuja.
Guess what I bought with the 5k??
Tomatoes and peppers- 500
Onions- 500 ( small dustbin basket) it's economical for me!!!
Yam- 1500 ( 5 tiny tubers)
Ogbono- 200 ( half cup)
Cray fish- 100
Ugu- 50
Okro- 50
Meat- 1500 ( for stew and soup for the week)
Pure water- 3 bags( 390). 130 for a bag.
Money don finish!!!
Transport fare- 200 ( to and fro)
Thank God I even got the 5k from the lady. It's not easy!!
At least I would have stew and soup to eat till Saturday!!

Afolabimills:
dear sis so sorry about what's happening in America right now we in Nigeria is now terrible because d hunger is real am a family man I lost my wife 2018 after giving us a boy now due to this lockdown n extension again I don't have any money on me nobody wants to help because d hunger is everywhere pls sister help me if u can Gt bank plc a/c 0024085482

sassysure:
How una dey over there, abeg this one is more important.

Do u know that schools are open here for kids who rely on free school feeding programmes?
There is provision for some parents who are in clause.
If u are working, u can send your kids to school.

I officially stopped work yesterday.
I'm already tired

Hathor5:
I love the potatoes like this but I try not to make them too often because I overeat once I make them.
They are delicious

factormatt6:
. We talk about kid. We intend waiting for the right time. We planning relocating to western country before raising kid. I don't if I am to continue buying and selling stuff or go into IT. I need an advice on this also.

factormatt6:
. Nope. I am fully committed to our relationship. I have had female friend who offer to help with money to boost my business in exchange for sex, I declined because of her. How do I know I will be able to give her a family she deserves and a good life is what is disturbing me.