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Reasonable? Indeed

Also ways insulting about pointing out your hypocrisy?

PHIPEX:
Now that it involves insults I'll say goodbye, thought we were having reasonable discussion.

You are an idiot

Craigslists:
Lol

Na Olosho puna wan send you go six feet so.

Na today boys don dey high rochy

Why we never kill all our girlfriends oloshos finish

You read my mind. I was about to ask how come all the snails

AntiBrutus:
You gey snail farm?
Abi is snail not expensive again?

You are enjoying o.

You love preserving the family when it’s male infidelity

Shut your hypocrite mouth

PHIPEX:
Fairness is subjective so quit being sentimental. You and I weren't in court and you didn't hear what the judge heard. The issue they had isn't all about what you heard in the social media so don't think you know better than the judge in this matter nor care about them more than anyone else.

The aim here is preservation of the family system not a showcase of gender equality.

morningstar55:
Your eyes don clear abi?

Like if Lilian has kids for four different men right? Not a big deal

HopeAlive14:
To err is human, to forgive divine.

There is no marital conflict, no matter how difficult that not be resolved.

No. It’s because you endorse promiscuous behavior in men. QED.
You’re in Africa is such a wonderful excuse. Africa is the reason why you don’t have a conscience or sense of fairness? Rolls eye

PHIPEX:
Of course I wouldn't support her, not because I endorse promiscuity by men but because we are still in Africa where men doing such a think is not yet "a crime".

We equally have to discourage the rate of divorce, every offense or misunderstanding must not end in divorce.

And if you don’t stand by and let them have their way with the onslaught, then you are a bitter feminist.

Really??

lilmax:
no mind them

I just hope they change


rubbish

I bet y’all won’t be rejoicing if it was Lilian who’s going around having kids right different men and the judge wants to force Ubi to remain married to her.
The type of things your support shows the kind of person you are. It’s really that simple.

danjumakolo:
God showers his blessings on the household of the judge for keeping a marriage.

PHIPEX:
I stand with the Judge at least he heard from the 2 sides. If not, with the way things are going people will divorce their spouses on the ground of "she doesn't know how to cook" or "he snows while asleep".

I don’t need to read her story. I believe him.
Is was just saying that for those “I need to hear both sides” kind of people.

ericsmith:
One of the distinct attribute of Truth is coherence ... when you hear it your brain will validate without your consent; the bitter part is that most times the truth doesnt align with our interest, these ur comment lacks the usual energy. ALOL !
the wife released her side of the story earlier you can search 4 it.

It’s funny but not funny

ornicus:
It's the second wife who was doing stand by your man that should be sweating now. And the side chick who was shopping with him for butt plugs or whatever.

And every chick who had fked with this guy. You can be sure he did not tell them about his status and you can be sure he went raw

This is a while new avenue for lawsuits against senator abbo.

His story rings true. But I haven’t read her side (for those hearing from both sides people )

Anyway he couldn’t have made that up.

Yes I am.

Why are trying to get into my DMs?

fx45:
Are you the gang leader?

Please ignore that idiot. hateful people who have nothing going well in their lives except to spread hate often think others are like them in manner reasoning.

Mariangeles:
Chai Chineke nna ! Jus legodi ihe okenya kpachapuru anya we de. eh !
Odi ka onwere ndi na like ka nsogbu na di ebe nsogbu n'adighi !

What do you gain by creating strife?

Why are you sending me DMs?

Insulting feminists and trying to crawl into my inbox. Wetin dey worry you?

fx45:
Awon frustrated feminists cannot stop ranting

Many of them discover their status, start taking treatment and never tell their wives. Until the wives’ HIV turns into AIDS

Saw many cases like that when I was doing NYSC, working in a HIV testing and counseling center. Very sad.

lordsterlin:
Its hard to believe the lady's story because if the man actually had HIV and was on treatment, he wouldn't be able to infect his wife and even anybody unless it was his wife who infected him with the virus. If the latter is true then one can understand why he became violent with her and denied her attention.

Many of them discover their status, start taking treatment and never tell their wives. Until the wives HIV turns into AIDS

Saw many cases like that when I was doing NYSC working in a HIV center. Very sad

lordsterlin:
Its hard to believe the lady's story because if the man actually had HIV and was on treatment, he wouldn't be able to infect his wife and even anybody unless it was his wife who infected him with the virus. If the latter is true then one can understand why he became violent with her and denied her attention.

Ndi war room

Wonyi and thothermes.

How far? Was his first wife a virtuous woman for staying with his philandering behind while watching war room and praying for him to bring his disease ridden self back to her?

LadySarah:
Sad story.What women Go through to keep Their marriages.A graduate at that.She must have been watching warroom.
God punish enduring a hellish marriage.
The day My neighbour used the husbandzs walking stick to hit his head the same way he had hit her with was the day he last hit her.
Nonsense and Its ingredients!
You changed your name but your stinking character remains!

We want pictures of him in handcuffs

While it’s makes sense and I agree with making him responsible, in reality, he won’t take care of those kids.
Seen it one too many times.He will find aunties or grandparents to go send the kids to (in good cases that is). In other cases, the kids often end up as house helps in some distant relatives house. Sexually and physically abused.

I won’t recommend her putting her life on hold because she had kids. At the same time, she can’t sacrifice them because their father refuses to be responsible.

She can live and also take care of her kids.

However OP you know him better than us. If you feel like he can take care of them including the one you just weaned off the breast, you can try it and see if works out. I definitely don’t recommend it but can’t knock it if you feel like it will work for you guys.

Acidosis:
The parents are not wrong about that. If women begin to face their realities squarely, many men will sit up.

@Redrosely


Go and give him his kids. They won't die. "Dump" those kids with him (not his parents) and his useless side chicks to take care for two weeks, and watch him retrace his steps.

As long as women continue to act like they can't separate from their children, men will take that as power to impregnate carelessly and take off. If he gets you pregnant and he's never available to care for his children, biko go and give him his children to manage. Tell him you need time to cool off and his kids are distractions.

You did not bring them alone to the world. Suffer all you want, those kids will leave you max at 18 years and begin to spend on girlfriends. By the time they're even old enough to care (the so called fruit of labour abi), your system is already failing due to emotional and psychological stress plus old age. At that time, you're really too old to enjoy any vibe. You go see chicken, but no strong teeth and system to eat. You won't even try fried chicken cos of longstanding BP issues.

You may end up as grandma running from one house to the other taking care of grandkids while you never really lived. Is that your purpose on earth?

Think twice please, consider your age, and your purpose here.

Seeing your chat, my interpretation of the whole saga is what Nigerians call See Finish . I'm still recommending the idea of staying unpredictable. "Dumping" those kids with him is one of the steps. Let him see his seed cry for food, love and attention. If that won't retrace his steps, nothing else will as far as that marriage is concerned.

Every state needs a feminist leader. So long over due

Don’t abandon your kids for the sake of remarriage.

Your parents are wrong about that.

Redrosely:
Hmmmmmm... The matter tire me sef. Called my parents to let them know that I've bought the idea of coming over with the kids during the holidays to ease of, na dia story change oh.
My parents said I can only come over now on d condition that I carry my kids to my in-laws place n come alone. That d cannot feed d kids of a man who disrespected my mum like dat, saying the will only be doing him a favor and he may have more time to flirt more knowing that his children are ok where they are. They insist that,if I suffer for the kids from nw,they will still return to their dad after all my labor,so I shd save myself the stress of giving them away now.
The suggest I walk out of d marriage alone n remarry.
My question now is how will I do such to my kids. I'm yet to wean my little son.
What guarantees d second marriage of being a success? I never wish to even marry again shd I walk away from this.
Note my marriage is an inter tribal marriage which my parents kicked against due to some reasons.

Advice has been given to you but you choose to go the other way. What do you want posters to do?


You can either act like you don’t have a husband which you don’t or continue to give him power over you. But Nairalanders honestly can’t do anything for you from their own houses.

You are an adult. Decide what you want

Redrosely:
Can't even sleep, cos I can't seem to find it. Decided to pick his calls today, after much missed calls and pleading. Guess what ... Yes he apologized,n I asked him y he's sorry n he said , he is sorry for nothing. My heart just broke all over again. I'm back to where I started again. Worst is, my salary can't look after my kids n my self, I don't even know how much my husband earns. I have lost every respect I have for him,cos he totally disrespects me. I hate his arrogance, I even regreted picking up his call today. Now look what I've done to myself.I can't sleep n I bet he's snoring over there...
Life can be so unfair.

You would make a successful pastor

I served NYSC in PH. Their bole is something else
I spent all my alawi on it

sassysure:
U have to remove the gills na
Porthharcourt bole no get rival.
Have tried to recreate something like that at home, no way.
They must have secret ingredients.


U will cook and still go for bole
Men on ties. See them sweating it out
Shell, chevron etc executives.
Its that addictive

The woman we usually buy from at old aba road used hers to train her kids in university.

Many women pay all the bills and many split with spouses 50/50 if not a higher percentage coming from the woman.

That you don’t know this simple fact, means I can’t even debate with you.

Tallhero:
lol,calm down,if we are to split bills 50/50,how many women can cope?
How many women can pay 4 million naira school fees per year?I am only asking men how they deal with the thought of been loved by how well they can provide.

You don’t want equality yet you want to be loved and submitted to for nothing? Can’t eat your cake and have it.

If you want a subordinate wife like most of you do, you have to something to ensure that it stays that way. Transactional.

That girl didn’t give him any std. he’s obviously a liar too.

ReeLoaDead:
This OP na bad guy ... quickly glancing at his profile shows that he was even nacking his secretary.

Lmao.
Smelly yet you can’t get enough.

Vaginaa matters will be the ruin of you simpletons

ogbonti:
Go keel urself, smelly puss y

Frothing at the lips like a rabid dog

Can’t give they take.

Typical dumbass

ogbonti:
Did your grand mom share her pu ssy with other men? Please tell me what I don't know... mine grand mom was married into a polygamous home, she had like 4 other co-wives.. just like her mom and Grand mom was married into polygamy, and she lived and died a happy woman. So what's your point? Probaby u are not even married and you are here lecturing us..keep dreaming about monogamy, e go soon set for u, na 4th wife u go be Las las

Injured brain

freemi:
the way u c sexy nt same way there c it. The way u admire toke der don't have such der so der see sexy in their own type of toke