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UIA04:
Good advice


u are pretty btw

bigneorapz:
thanks dear.

bigneorapz:
first of all, you got a nice picture there. Well, am not staying with my parents (mum) for personal reasons.

EfemenaXY:
Oh, I missed this bit.

You work as a SUPERVISOR in the Federal Ministry of Environment without ANY qualifications.

Pls, what exactly does this job entail?

jumzzy448:
Eba and ofe onugbu...don't mind the egg in it.
Just eating silly

bigneorapz:
thanks for your findings. But my work doesn't require a qualification. I was employed there through connection. I'm working under Dr. Iniobong essien and Hon. Victor S.A is the one supervising our office (green brigade supervisors). You can come down to the state secretariat and confirm this. There's no point decieving you

bigneorapz:
thanks for this question. Well, i work under the ministry of environment in the state secretatriat (Greed brigade supervisors) . Our work was terminated since on may. And we were told to resume this month. So we're likely to recieve our month end salary before the 15th of january. And that's where my hope lies.

Education / Re: Jambites Did You Noticed This by bigneorapz(m): 9:27pm On Mar 06 exactly the same thing that happened to me. I took time to answer my chemistry but the mumu people gave me 47 and the maths that i didn't take time to even read a full question before guessin..omoh i shock as dem score me 52..lol naso my guy guess physics score 67..kai. God punish jamb

bigneorapz:

DarkRebel101:
So because the sex lives of some couples are below the threshold, he should be grateful because he's getting a beggarly morsel? That rings like settling for less.

You are asking him to forgo his rights to unlimited sexual relations to his wife and accept her demands simply because she cannot match his libido and is apathetic to his sexual unfulfillment? Sounds a lot to me like the woman is blackmailing him and allowing room for infidelity.

Which makes me wonder: would you remain unwavering in your stance had it been in inverse and were it the woman griping against the marginal sex she gets from her hubby?

bbmpin:
You are way too nice to her(for her to boldly present those terms), she will never have respect for you

You care way too much about what she thinks and she takes advantage of that; too late to fix any of that.

Men like you are responsible for emergence of "feminism"

You are supposed to be the head of your house-hold

You are the leader in your house, supposed to guide your wife!

Then there is also the possibility that she hates having sex with you (very plausible)

Take a deep breath and start living for yourself, I would not say to leave your wife or your family.

But give yourself time to think about about your opinions

Right now from your description, You are not enjoying your marriage ,You are bogged down.

It's very common, You are not alone.

5minsmadness:
Anyway, I trust u. If he steps out of line even once you will divorce him

ItsQuinn:
It is but so complicated

I remember writing an exam about this topic once

missjo:
You made this comment on the premise that the wife has no job and ALWAYS requires her husband to take care of her own family.

I honestly don't see how a woman with a source of income needs her husband to support her own family when she isn't supporting his own family equally.

jnrbayano:
Quite clear.

Now, what of if he doesn't show those "caring" acts towards his family and mete-out same kind of treatment to his in-laws, what judgement will he get?

Take another scenario, when a man is butchered (made to spend excessively by way of paying dowry and other bogus marriage requirements) in the hands of his in-laws. In his marriage with his wife he decides to be stingy with the affairs of his in-laws, can his actions be described as uncaring?

shumuel:
Lol one thing you ladies must know is that; A man must always want to do irrespective of who you/she is,

its now left for the lady to give conscent or not(heavy burden, yeah i know), if she refused him, we wont (ever) be having such topics to discuss, am not blaming the lady alone, the man was also very wrong, am just suprised a lady would give conscent to her sisters husband.

Unfortunately, there is no law against a man marrying or dating two sisters, but up till date, a lady having sexual relastionship with two men is a sin, most especially one who is tag a relation.

If we the men are carried away with the pleasure of sezx, we dont expect any lady to play along,, thats how society sees it, the women should always be the last hope of dignity.

jnrbayano:
Don't mind me this evening. I'm in my question asking mood.

What kind of behaviour towards them here can be adjudged to be "uncaring"?

jnrbayano:
Can you breakdown No 5?

shumuel:
Am not really interested in the man's adultry, what picks my interest is the younger sister, was she charmed to forget she was dating the husband to her elder sister.

Sigh... What these ladies are causing but would continue to blame men.

sweetcocoa:
See the way the hediot even settle down responding to people over an obvious made up story, aimed at trying to justify cheating, by men .

byvan03:
Crusty computer

Omegalala:
Who is mumu...
I came online for advice.

Do you know what your husband is doing or will do behind you...
I feel if the opportunity pops up, we men display our intrinsically polygamous nature.

Better learn from my situation instead of abusing me.

Omegalala:
Who is Ode... me?