₦airaland Forum

lielbree:
She went for the meeting and it was successful. Why the post? She needs to keep a low profile on social media , that does not stop her from working and making money

her work is on social media.
Darn

Mamatee07:
A mother wearing t-shirt, jeans and scarf is wrong Na wa o

So you don't know there are too many retardedd folks on this forum

Good for him.

This is perfect.
I can't imagine it said better

Jahblessme:
If you are being maltreated because of brideprice,pls set up standing order monthly to his account and pay off so that you can be set free.
If you highlight to your parents that you will be punished after marriage because you were sold as property,i'm sure they will reject all lists and monies.

Truth is if a person is a jerk,he will keep on being a jerk.

tBillz made the mistake of just being a lay about in the marriage.Work you no wan work,stay at home dad you no sabi,it's only to eat peoples wives food and whinge that he's an expert in.So he was entirely useless and not contributing anything to the home.Stay at home Dad is not a crime,if agreed he locks down the homefront while wifey hustles since shes better at it.If he had accepted his role in the marriage would we be hearing stories that touch? You cannot be entirely hopeless,the other partner will resent it.
Money isnt all that makes a home function,2 partners joining hands together forgetting gender is the answer.The outcome should be what is the best for the family in that situation,not i'm a man or i'm a woman.Do the one you can do or the one your abilities allow you to.

I believe it is when there is insecurity that you start hearing arguments of who is head of home.When you encourage your partner by your deeds and support,when you show you are sensible and you are willing to sacrifice anything for the good of your home pride included..you will inspire love,respect and loyalty without useless arguments.

Eg in a situation where the woman earns like £100,000 and the man earns £20,000 ,childcare for the kids £20,000 yearly,it's more sensible that woman goes and does the work while man arranges the home.Being stay at home parent is HARD WORK! Running after kids,meals,cleaning etc.Bloody exhausting! Both partners have free access to finances and make joint decisions the most sensible one winning out.I cannot understand why this arrangement cannot work between 2 sensible people.It's far better than lying around and moaning about being head of home.

My opinion though

bukatyne:
Eku standing

Kisses to omomo for me

Lol.

I'll relay the kiss. Thanks

Eagul:
Uw

I've seen d ring.. Lol.

Clearly displayed. God bless you

Bless you too.

Ngokafor:
....Oh so the iddiotic op does not even live in Nigeria...and poverty-stricken zombies traped in this country are supporting and applauding the dishonest clown....*walks out hissing*

Even if he doesn't live in the country what about his relatives there?
Anybody that can't sympathize with others because it's not affecting him directly is not a nice person.

Just imagine what people are going through for Christ sake. Even the smallest things cost triple their normal prices.

Eagul:
Coco is that you in ur dp

Oh my.. So so sweet

Thank you

duality:
It's obvious you don't know when to stop being silly.

Your insistence on labeling GEJ ineffectual, 7 months after he overwhelmingly won an election and accepted by majority except for the agrived nothern boko haram supporters, kills every objectivity in your writeup.

The subsidy opposition in 2012 was wrong and was all political sentiments. QED.

Thanks for saving me the stress of typing this.

Dropshot you're a nauseating hypocrite.

Shut up

TrumpDonald:
Women are getting dis gender equality all wrong. That ur husband cheats does not mean u shud too. He paid for ur body, u didn't pay for his.

So he has every right to act when she cheats but definitely not to kill her.

Now for d women, if u knw u can't stand ur husband's infidelity, u can adopt d law of Kate henshawrism which states that...

bukatyne:
Lol! @ I am sitting here waiting.

I got tired of sitting and waiting. Now I'm standing and waiting

tearoses:
Beautiful
I love the shades of pink

Onegai:
Awwww....

I was supposed to have built my terrarium this week but Baby E is under the weather and we may have a hospital visit.

Thank you

Onegai i hope baby E feels better.

Onegai:
You know, even if your wife is a stay at home mum, you the father of the child can still help her. Being a Mum is harder than most 9-5 jobs (hey your boss isn't as crazy as a baby's demands and you get a break. Mother's don't). Anyone can drive a child to the mall, pay bills and play basketball with them (the driver, their coach, my brother, the guy I'm cheating on you with etc). A father is the one who provides the things said child cannot get outside.

Guys who fight these things on NL are usually unmarried men. Do you hear the men we know whom are fathers day stuff like "I have never changed diapers, never bathe my child" they simply keep quiet when they are these threads and the single men commenting on it.

Meanwhile, I'd be afraid of using that bathtub, all that water. Nigerian babies are not buttie enough to lie obediently in one place.

I thought I was the only one who noticed that .

These ones when they marry will calm down too.

Dyt:
Gbam
We did it together
He come resemble you more
You must take larger responsibilities

Na who the pikin resemble pass abi?

bukatyne:
Everyone welcome to the thread.

Cc: Mindfulness, thoripdo, joesph1832, shayebaby, creamish, PresVa, MRBrownJ

So far, we are all of one school of thought: no rigid role division and we pick up things as they come up.

What about families that believe in strict role division?

Yea me too.

I'm sitting here waiting for someone who believes the man shouldn't pitch in with domestic work to come explain how it is fair to expect his wife to contribute financially to the home.

That's because you're not the typical couple described by the OP.

Mindfulness:
Bukatyne dear,

just a quick answer today because I am cooking rice.

We don't do such silly head and neck analogies. And we don't discuss authority or play immature power games that insecure people play.

We are best friends. We are lovers. We are parents. We are partners.

We both work.
We both do chores.
We both do the shopping.
We both take care of the child.



We both have chores we like doing and don't like doing so we do what we like and don't do what we don't like, this is where the other steps in.


And most importantly, we have a lot of fun.

Anyway before I vex.

@topic. Divorce is not the answer when the differences are reconcilable.
When it becomes a matter or life & death, I'll choose life over marriage.

bunbit123:
Only a true loving mother will tell you that there's no home without violence. A wise woman endures and overcome.

Na this kind thing dey make me vex.
So in every home in the world there's violence?

Is that the purpose of this your thread? To teach people who are going through domestic violence to stay put because every home has violence?

My Mother's Day bouquet. Still fresh.

GWMI:
Let's just analyse this.A worker recieving N20000 monthly, and living in a bed sitter of N5000 per month, having 2 kids he is training in primary or secondary school, how much will he use to feed?if he is to transport to work where will he get the money?how will he survive?God please don't leave nigeria to the mercy of men.Please come to our rescue dear lord.Thanks.

What exactly do you expect God to do?

I don't understand the rationale behind arresting someone because they live a different lifestyle than you do.
There's no way it makes sense to any sane person.

Did he really say that?

fem29:
I'm just weak when I read peoples stories. May we never see such in Jesus name

amen

BuddhaPalm:
Interesting...

I've always thought surrogacy na womb for hire.

So in the case of a gay couple, if a woman were to donate an egg, who will carry the belle?

but that's what it is is though. Womb for hire.

In this case another woman (the surrogate) will carry the pregnancy.

I'm not surprised.

Mamatee07:
So the bastard making noise about his wife supposedly cheating was even cheating on his wife and impregnated another woman

Cheats are always the first to rant about cheating they always think everyone is like them

Amazing how he left out the fact the he committed adultery and impregnated another woman

abbey621:
Thanks for confirming that you insult any man that comes your way, I'm sure your father must be very proud

My father is proud indeed. He didn't raise me to have low esteem. And he definitely didn't raise me to think its okay for a man to slap me in the name of resetting (oh the nerve of you).

Can I say the same for your father who raised an assholl like you? Prison candidate. Just try and slap someone and let's see if you won't be locked up with the keys tossed over 3rd mainland bridge.
Anu mpama.

I'd love to stay and do this though but I gotta go. Stop typing stupidd comments or you'll be hearing from me.

johnson232:
God bless u sir...

Of course.

Because he's helping you spread your misogyny.
Well all this na internet talk.

Y'all should go out there and look for females to beat up and slap. Let's see how many of you will survive it.
All you do in come online and spread hate for women and support for violence.

abbey621:
You see why I said some of you deserve a slap or two? I'm sure this is how you call your boyfriend, husband, brother or father a fool too so I'm not surprised!

God forbid any man I know make this comment in real life. I'd do more than call him a fool. I'll disown him.

I don't frolick with ediots raised by ediots.

If your father wasn't resetting your mother with one or two slaps for breakfast every morning, you wouldn't have come out with that bump on your head where your brain is meant to be.

Congratulations!

remioshy:
Domestic abuse has been happening years and years ago, I prayed women will wise up and leave such relationships, I had the courage to leave an abusive relationship when I got lucky to be given another chance at living. I had been in an abusive relationship with my then boyfriend for about 2 years, he was so controlling , I was young and in love, he always beats me at every argument or provocation, I kept it to myself, I got pregnant for him in my final year at the university, heavily pregnant, he still beats me, but belts me on my legs and says you can beat a pregnant woman but only on her legs, I could not tell my mum because she didn't like him at all , I had a child for him and he still continues, I was scared to leave him cos I thot who will marry me now with a child, the last time he beat me, he was so angry he grabbed a plank and bang on my head, I woke up in hospital, his cousins took me there and they told the doctors I fell off the stairs, I realised there and then that if I don't leave him he will kill me one day, if I had died that day, his family would have covered for him, I didn't care anymore what people will say or who will marry me, I grabbed my child and left him, told him it was over and never to come near me again, I removed his name from my child and made sure he won't be able to find us. It's been 20 years now and I never regretted leaving him. Anytime I hear of such abuse I always remember him and what a lucky escape for me. Women should be courageous to walk away from a violent and abusive man or relationship. It's just not worth it, for the children and for them

abbey621:
There's always 3 sides to a story. Her side, his side and the truth! I've learned that issues of domestic violence are rarely black and white but due to the nature of men(Superior strength), we should learn to walk away. Now don't get me wrong, a slap or two would fix most women but when it comes to the point of spilling blood and head injuries, it's just not worth it! I've always said this, it's much more easier to get a divorce than to stick with a woman that gives you high blood pressure!

You know you're a fool don't you?

A slap or two as if you're talking about some littling who's your slave. What right do you have to slap your fellow human being? Would a slap or two fix you when you misbehave? Or you think you can't annoy your wife some day. Does she have the right to slap you to reset you?

All these stupid boys who have no respect for women.

fem29:
Lord have mercy. What is going on these days. Just joined a Facebook group and there is just a ridiculous amount of domestic violence going on. Lord help us

it is not a new thing. More people are beginning to speak up. That's all.

BuddhaPalm:
Haba naw. Aren't all women saints?

The woman who agreed to SELL her baby - against the draw of the strongest instinct in the universe - the maternal instinct, gets no flak.

Well technically the surrogate isn't the real mom.
Whoever donated the egg can't also be considered As selling her baby since it was only an egg she donated. Not a baby yet.

But the OP is literally full of shitt. Like literally.
Of all the excuses she could come up with, them raping the child managed to get on the list. Sigh