₦airaland Forum

Chillisauce:
Jobless yahoo nairaland ogbonge boys and their stories.

thought so too. With the fake story and all.

Saving the marriage indeed. The husband really said that?

All this packing and re-packing in this thread us the reason why I won't have more than 2kids.

Life is stressful enough as it already is. Arghh

Alcatraz001:
This post makes me feel bad. Does it mean we in Nigeria are suffering? i am work and i feel highly inadequate. Maybe i dont knw how bad Nigeria is. Should we all travel out of Nigeria cos it seems the diaspora people feel we are scums of the earth.

I am not happy at all.

Lol. I don't think it's that serious.

It's just because kids raised here aren't used to being bitten by mosquitoes or being sick from malaria. It's actually a big deal as they could get really really sick.
That's all.

When people travel from Nigeria to abroad too, they go through a lot of process similar to this. It doesn't mean those abroad are suffering.

Don't see it for what it's not.

How am I supposed to know

Icecomrade:
How many men and women stay faithful?

Chillisauce:
Hian . Personal trainer. No be small thing.

Just cook good foods only weekends. The week days, eat lots of salads and oven baked fish. Watch the weight drop. Wire the ego to me later

But she's very good. She's helping me work on my discipline and targeting specific muscles to train.

And let me guess. You're the bad one for pointing it out. Sigh

I keep wondering what's the cause of the abundance of sick dudes trolling this forum of recent. I really hope it's a few people with multiple monikers.


Otherwise we are not far away from India and those other countries like her.

Onegai:
I understand how the anonymity of the internet works, my dear. But my issue is, this is their inner feeling. And if given a chance, this is how they may react. But what is worse is that there are so many kids in this website, absorbing these views and not being able to distinguish between right and wrong (the Family structure and Society in Nigeria has really broken down). So these kids, these young man are being raised not by their fathers (little boys need their fathers) in real life positive interactions, but by random faceless people spewing hatefulness in the most anonymous way, irresponsibly.

I once had an interaction with some young boys (university level) who swore that D'banj was part of the Illuminati because they read it on the internet. It's easy for such uninformed minds to absorb "all women are evil and should be subdued by violence of necessary". There's no-one to say "Hey, that's not reality and those thoughts are not helpful".

Read any random page of any of the threads in the Ronke Shonde case: you will see a lot of male monikers screaming hate and praying she ends up in hellfire because they are following popular opinion from some commenters that she is guilty of adultery (without a single shred of evidence to the fact). Read the thread in the last who got beaten up by her husband for refusal of sex: you will see male monikers screaming "how dare she, she deserves it". Read the thread about the TVC reporter beating up his girlfriend: "is he her husband, how dare she try and break his career with her evil".

See a pattern?

In the next 5 years, if not checked, you will wake up and suddenly realise how dangerous it is to be a woman in Nigeria because things will be violent. Go to Mexico, Ciudad Juarez: several mass graves of women murderes by unknown people and a society filled with poverty, apathy and angry men who feel their egos are threatened by the fact that traditional roles are being changed (more earning power for women is changing things). Then look at Nigeria, are we not already having some of those issues?

Perhaps that is why the violence is coming much stronger. There was always violence but not this bad and not this accepted and celebrated by other men.

Same way, pornography came unchecked into Nigeria years ago (you would see them openly displaying dvds with graphic pictures at busstops) and data became and smartphones more affordable. That was a little over 10 years ago, in uni. Now, strangely rape and child abuse cases are now more common and on the rise.

You are what you consume. It is upto menfolk on Nairaland to be their brother's keeper or get used to being bashed as violent predators.

I speak up against women who do the same. At one point, I joined in and used to carelessly throw around words. But someone made me realise I was responsible for my anonymous words. That is the definition of an adult: someone who knows that have responsibilities, with no respite.

Ishilove:
You know, there are many times when your posts are little steps away from being sexist and condescending.

What tha fvck is the 'vulnerability' of the female mind?

Do you realise how insulting that is?

@bold, Talk about euphemism.

Don't you mean smack in the peak of sexist and condescending?

I'm not painting anyone anything o.
Merely stating what I read here.

amakoro:
we are not what your are painting us as

tearoses:
Ive never seen this flower before
It looks beautiful
The roses are lovely too
One of my fav flowers
DId they have a scent?

The red valerian is pretty common here. Yes it is beautiful.

The roses had a mild scent. Not like that pink wild ones I posted sometime ago. Those ones you could smell just walking up to the rose bush.

tearoses:
I think they are called Violas
What is the temp like where you are
They usually come out in April/March here too

Yesterday it was in the 50s-60s. It's been fluctuating recently. As of last week, we had some days of 78+ degrees.

6digitscomrade:
u are a worthless piece of toilet tissue and u know where u belong...u are a mannerless hoe i repeat..u want a king?build him a palace first..u insulted men first in ur comment without proper comprehension of the story because u are a very educated daft..if u know what that means..shame on u...tell me u are sorry for public misconduct and sin no more...u are still my beauty without brains unfortunately many are called few are chosen!

At least I managed to be beauty without brains.
You xtupid come ugly on top.
You're a product of 'whorism'
Those are the kinds that are quick to call any woman they encounter a hoe. Because that's all you've known all your life.

6digitscomrade:
another mannerless hoe on the rampage..instead to swallow ur disgusting pride and hide ur hoed face in shame....nonsense beauty without brains..ashewo kobo kobo!!!!!!!

Like the typical asswipe nairaland dude.
The only thing you can think of when addressing a woman is how to call her a hoe.

I guess you probably think somehow you're better than actual prostitutes who stand by the road side to sell their bodies.
Let me guess because you're a dude?

Useless thing.

Red valerian growing around.

Fool

6digitscomrade:
anty i advice u to stfu...where did it state they were raped?u already want to be claim the oppressed,victim...we know ur type..did u even read the part where it stated some the hoes appeared more than onceso he invited them several times to his abode to rape thembecuz they were homeless?women are like sugar ants and deception without common sense is why all of them think they are fooling the opposite meanwhile they are the ones been fooled..deal with it!!!!

Found this picture of a random bouquet DH gave me last year.
Been saving the pics since last year. Lol (face palm) But I really liked it.

Some of the roses were still buds (hope that's that's the word) and they bloomed in the vase when I put the flower food.
The pink ones were my favorite.

How about he stays faithful?

Just look at the xtupid advice being dished out to the OP.
If she was chatting her ex, will anyone tell her husband to ignore it?

Aunty OP nip anything you don't want in the bud.
Put down your foot and tell him it has to stop. Exes belong to the past.

raumdeuter:
Some of them live abroad where these foreign men abound yet they ignored these angelic foreign men and managed to find the few evil Nigerian men that lived there.

Some have been married to the devilish Nigerian men for several yrs but wouldnt divorce him

Why don't we see you guys preaching when it's the turn of Nigerian women to be insulted and labels as hoes and all sorts of derogatory names imaginable?

Mtchew.

Or you want us to pretend we don't see the misogyny being imbibed into these younger generation of boys so you won't be upset about our complaining?

plendil:
In about one or two of them, the ladies were clearly struggling, but the guy still went ahead. In one of them even he appears to have drugged the lady. Worse still is that in almost all cases he didn't use any form of protection.

He's simply a sex-crazed, female molesting pervert and should be hunted down and arrested

plendil:
In about one or two of them, the ladies were clearly struggling, but the guy still went ahead. In one of them even he appears to have drugged the lady. Worse still is that in almost all cases he didn't use any form of protection.
He's simply a sex-crazed, female molesting pervert and should be hunted down and arrested

Youngpo413:
Hoes worldwide, that's why I don't have regards for any lady cos I believe at the right price , you can fuccck all of them, married or not.

Did you watch the videos or you just felt like usual woman hating today?
Are all the women you've ever known part of these hoes international?

I guess the rapist guy is your role model since he's a champion in your sight.
Most of you guys on this forum are sickeningly disgusting. You openly support immorality and abominations as long a man is the offender.

Youngpo413:
blame the cheap ladies, the guy is a super star!

The one person that slept with dozens of women is not cheap for being such a lay about, it's the women that are cheap.

See your life? Zero sense.

floragregs:
congrats dear, regards to princess.

Thanks

Mor0n

Thank you.
Lol I promise not to do any of that.

Her name is Princess E.

dangotesmummy:
Heyyyyyyy ehennn koko baby Don born b on girl

What is her name o jare

And please o don't you cut her hair.just buy better fine ribbons of different colours and put on her hair depending on her dress.e.g if she wear blue dress carry blue ribbon put for hair

Number 2 I take God beg you no put Toro for under her eyelids in the name of cleansing babies eyes that's nonsense

Number 3 no to tribal marks whether on the face or hands.it's bad

And finally no to bleaching baby's skin.

Congratulations once again

TheSunSon:
For once,we sail together. The enemy of my enemy is indeed my friend.

mtchew

He's a jerk.
Hope you're no longer with him.
The dude is insulting you for having a child for him. Ungrateful mofo.

As for what to do, the other posters have said it all

Read front page about that TVC presenter who allegedly beat his girlfriend and left her injured.
And some posters were more concerned that she's not married to him hence has not right to complain.
Smh.

Onegai:
You should be worried. These boys will want to marry your daughter. And with what I read on NL, I refuse to allow Baby E marry a Nigerian man. Because it's getting worse. This is how corruption started and no-one asked tough questions and it was left unchecked. Now it is a huge hydra-headed monster that cannot be killed. Same thing with our Family, Community and Menfolk. If men are truly the heads of the family, what does it say that infidelity, domestic violence, shifting of responsibility and blame, child rape and children out-of-wedlock are accepted nowadays. At the rate we are going, the next generation of women will be glad that their husbands only beat them once in a while. This is how India started, to the point where getting on a public bus became an invitation to rape, assault and Murder. This is how South Africa started and look at them now.

I am not demonizing men. But for God's sake, all you guys not worried when you read NL's frontpage? Is there no little part in your brain going "yeah, I love fighting in Family section's on-going Gender wars, but sh.it, the level of craze I see exhibited by a lot of men is getting frightening".

Joavid:
you are what you attract.

am not scared one bit for my future daughter cod I and my husband will set an example for her and she would be confident and smart to know her worth, not to settle for nonsense, also save in the believe that some mother's like me will train thier sons to be a good man, father and husband.

Funny. You think being afraid means it's all about marriage?
How about if your sweet innocent daughter gets molested one day and gets blamed for it since according to popular opinion, she must have invited it upon herself (because it's a crime for a man to take responsibility for his actions).

It's more than marriage. It's about the society at large.

Suigeneris93:
The lady must be really foolish, what's the use of reporting him to the authorities when you're not even his wife Like seriously, you're supposed to be grateful to God for delivering your hide from a potential wife-beater rather than seek cheap popularity on-net.

He's rich and you're poor, so what? If you're not interested in his money, you would be happy to leave him and leave this attention seeking you're doing

nobody deserves to be beaten. Whether legally married or not. The assaulter should be prosecuted.

How can you not know that?

oshaosha2014:
Why should he run. Can't women learn to shut the Bleep up in a heated argument. I tell you, let the law say death penalty for any wife beater, men will keep beating their wives. Tell the women to learn to shut the Bleep up. Their poisonous mouth can turn a gentle man to a beast. Shut the Bleep up for Christ sake.

If they are having an argument, how do expect one person to shut up?
Isn't an argument double sided? Or you mean only a man is allowed to talk while the woman keeps silent and listens even if he's not making sense.

All these moronic misogynists let loose on this forum.

According to nairaland popular opinion, African marriage and its values is all about satisfying the whims of the man regardless of whoever else in the family gets hurt in the process.

codemaniacs:
You're an adult probably a graduate. You work and earn a living there and can support your family in Nigeria. Even if you're a student, you'll still be able to work and support them.

Your situation is much better..

I know.
Still it doesn't make the situation any less worse than it is.
If one used to send $1 before, now they have to send $3.
Because tomato is not smiling. Neither is fuel.

My brother it's not better at all

codemaniacs:
We are in Nigeria feeling the hardship, u are abroad talking about how bad Nigeria has gotten... You're weird.

Besides, anyone that has read Nigeria's history wouldn't like northern politicians.

I've family in Nigeria. The hardship affects me too.
That's not weird at all