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I've never liked buhari. Not by a fraction of an inch.
Everything I was afraid would happen during his tenure is happening and worse.

God have mercy on him.

smite:
the world is going down hill fast... imagine that comment generated over 500 likes.

even I as a man sometimes need a break from any sexual relation... would it be fair for my woman to hurt me for denying her

Basic common sense is rare on this forum. So I won't be surprised if he gets 1000likes.

MsFaith:
My sister, confirm zero sense, hear him say it's better for a man to be stingy with his money than for a woman to deny........ C'mon, and some dumbass gave him over 500 likes....mtchwww.

that's because there are many mor0ns on NL.

CFCman:
The comment you quoted was absolutely stupid. I'm astounded to how a rationale human being could post such balderdash on a public forum.

lol. The things we see on NL

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. She's not serious about you and that's the truth. If you guys hadn't done the introduction yet, one would think maybe she's doing it because she's not sure of your readiness to commit.
But doing this after the introduction, she has no excuse.
So do the needful.
Sorry for the heartbreak. I know it hurts. Ndo

You're welcome

divalishis:
This is a fresh perspective. Thank you.
Will try not to bring it up anymore. Because I do it most times.
I'll try my best. It's just painful when you're accused of something you're not guilty of.

OP the matter hasn't reached divorce level like I see some folks advising you to.
Unless you're stil angry about his cheating in the past. If all your concern is his constant attempt to police you, then it is still resolvable.

However you must continue to stand up to him, albeit in a matter that doesn't make a bad situation worse I.e reminding him of his own cheating or calling him ashewo when you've been acting like you forgave him all this while.

It's obvious his guilty conscience is prodding him to try pin some dirt on you too so that you guys can be on equal standing.

True

raumdeuter:
Well it happens in relationship, when one party thinks I brought this into the relationship so you should cherish me forever

It can be the virginity or it can be that I picked you up from nowhere(Teebillz) or I financed your education, I saved you from an abusive relationship so you owe me for life

Atimes its better to have 2 equally flawed people, 2 broke people, 2 equally educated/uneducated people marrying themselves. So no one is feeling he/she is doing the other a favor

Useless people with useless beliefs

I thought that's what guys want? Lol

This weird but pretty double colored flower is in bloom now. I see them almost everywhere in pot planters and side walks.

tearoses:
coco I give most away
Plus because they are organic about a third of them have bruises, insect damage etc

Please no one should say apple pie I beg

The pictures are the right orientation on my phone but sideways on my laptop
very bizzare

Wish I lived close to you.
Apples with peanut butter is my favorite snack.

Yea I was seeing the pictures upright too so I was wondering what you were talking about.

9ja4show:
It's obvious you will never learn..run along girl

What a good teacher you are.

9ja4show:
Go and sit down and learn , you think life Is rosy all the time ! Some People lose thier job everyday and their good wife supports without anyone else knowing, even the kids will not be aware its their mother's money they spending.

Na only question I ask o.

Instead of answering me you're telling me to go sit down. How will I learn if you don't teach me.

So again. What's the work of the husband in the marriage.
And why shouldn't the kids know their mom also provides for them. Is it a crime for her to be acknowledged for her hard work?

So what's the work of the husband in the home?

9ja4show:
Op; I don't support violence against women but don't listen to women telling you to divorce , if you check them out you will see they cant even keep a boyfriend not to talk of husband...I know you provide for the family but don't override your husband cos of that, you should let him take the wheel sometimes , there is nothing wrong with you providing for your family... a man ego have no cure ooh

byvan03:
Thank you!!

As long as both them are still in the relationship by fire by force. Lol

Whatever helps you sleep better.

SAMBARRY:
so violence is a substitute for communication. even if he can't afford washing machine sebi there are mobile laundry girls and boys who go from house to house, door to door to ask if they have clothes to wash and those ones are cheap.maximum they collect 500naira

Sambarry I don't think I said or insinuated that.

Personally I think he should wash his own clothes.

Person never feed pikin na laundry machine he wan buy. In these days of no electricity and high petrol price, how will he keep things running?

Did you see their pics?
I'm pretty sure he can't afford it

SAMBARRY:
if washing of clothes is the cause of friction,shey the man cannot save money and buy washing machine of 45,000 naira

I'm sure the clothes he beat his wife for and accidentally killed the baby is worth it

Laundry man go dey kirikiri.moreso it's better as the child went back to her maker because if she was still alive she'll be one of the kids who witness abuse or get abused herself

It is not wise to have relatives live with you permanently after marriage.
No matter the love, they will have some days of disagreement and those days they may not handle it as they will treat their own blood siblings.

You're not even accommodating one person but three. Haba you think am.
If three of her siblings come to stay with you guys permanently will you like it?
Don't think the marriage is all about you.

If you can get them accommodation elsewhere, then better do it. Or if you can wait like she said until they move out (which you don't know when it will be), then wait. But if not, let her go if she wants to go.

Once you guys get married, she becomes your number one family. And when you guys start your own family with your kids, trust me it will be a crowd. Nobody wants that.

And you're right to want to take care of your siblings since you're their oldest one.
Tough to be you but you have to decide.

P.S it will be hard for you to find a lady who is willing to start her new marriage with that kind of crowd.

Go with what you think is the priority for you now.

tearoses:
green manipulated ke?

I said green fingerred

Meanwhile all my pictires are sideways
It is well o!

Lol seun and his euphemisms.


What are you going to do with all those apples?
Pls don't say apple pie.

Zero sense.
P3nis speaking.

So because she didn't drill the hole with her hand that means she supposed to always be in the mood for intercourse regardless of what may be going on in her life at the moment.

Uramzi:
It's better for a man to be stingy with his money
because he hustled for it...than for a woman to deny
you a hole that she didn't even drill.
Bro I'm most sorry buh yhur sis is kinda wrong! How does it sound in your ear disallowing yhur hubby intercourse? If en begin cheat nko? Wetin yhu go yarn if yhu catch am? If dey say make dey dey fu**k b4 marriage to know if sex dey bellefull dia man dem go say no, I'm a Virgin! Oya nunu! Get well o. God bless yhur Union! Over to d brothers...Is the man still breathing??

So this boy na olodo

taryour:
GBAM!!! End Of Discussion.


Kimoni I see you o. cococandy ekale o. how you doing and all yours?

We are doing fine.

Thank you.

How are yous?

Stupid fools

Chillisauce:
God. I remember then I always see cucumber on EfemenaXY plates. I went to charter 3 of it. Ate one for 1 week. Forgot about the other two. Cleaning up the fridge and saw the things there. I trashed the gaddam thing.
The funny thing is you can't even add pepper sauce to it. And I alwasy forget to put in my salads.

I will keep trying .

Or use peanut butter.
I guess that's not very healthy.

My DH went and got a trainer for me. Na so the woman always on my neck to give her my daily food catalogue at the end of the week.
In the space for snack she will always see
White cake
Banana bread
Cookies and creme

I don't even know when I developed such sweet tongue. I can tell she's about to give up on me.

You'd think I'd know better. Having taken nutrition classes and all that. Or maybe it's because my friends keep complimenting me that I look great for someone who just had a baby.

I know what to do but no discipline for now.

chisco82:
I'm not much concerned about that but calling him that will it bring back the dead child? No
Ma, sometimes u need to seperate your emotion from you thought.

goodluck separating your emotions from the image of that malnourished dead child.
Me I can't.
Not when I have a baby approximately the same age.

Me Calling him a lizard is the least of his problems. If I was her, I'd kill him before the police even get there. That's when he will know there are different levels of madness and his own is just a tip off the iceberg.

Nonsense and ingredient.

Don't try to reason with me. I'm upset over that baby. Bye.

chisco82:
No ma! The bolded is no no no, you went to far Sis.

An innocent baby is dead and you're more concerned about what I call the killer?

he said yes quietly.

I can imagine his face at that moment.

Kimoni:
Hahahhahaha

I've had to perfect these skills overtime o

When I had my first baby, hubby said "no nannies", he still wanted Mr and Mrs (who Mr and Mrs epp ) alone in the house and wanted us to use the crèche option instead for LO. But it wasn't convenient for me because we both not closing early in a very demanding industry so we had a situation where LO was always the last to leave the crèche and a caregiver had to stay with her till I got there when others had long left. The lady wasnt finding this funny at all and it was written all over her face. My constant lateness was increasing her own time in traffic and impacting negatively in her home. I had to do something fast since hubby still didn't see the need for it; he felt since we were paying heavily for late picking which was in their policy, all was well. I knew all wasn't well.

Besides that, I wasn't getting the much needed rest over the weekends, I was always tired on Monday mornings I knew I had to devise creative means to have my way. Somebody cannot not come and die like you rightly said.

So I did exactly those things you highlighted and much more. I also started spending long hours in the market every Saturday (wetin I dey buy biko) just to leave both of them at home alone for long hours. You need to see the helplessness and relief on his face when I get home. On one of those fustrating days, I asked him gently and sweetly if we could get a help, he quietly said yes. Well who cares - quietly or boldly, all I neede was a Yes!!! so I got a live-in nanny and life has been sweet after that.

So sometimes, a woman man gotta do what a woman man gotta do

For those saying she used her baby as a shield maybe read it again.
Post says she carried the baby hoping it will soften his heart and make him stop hitting her (wrong decision I know) but it's not like she took the baby to physically ward of blows as some people seem to understand it. Same end result obviously. Shows that she's not very smart but clearly her intentions towards the child weren't bad as per being used a physical shield.

I believe you. That child looks so malnourished it makes my heart bleed.
All bone and skin.

I can't believe some people are actually blaming her for not being submissive enough. No kind of disgusting this we don't see on the forum.

I do blame her for not doing the needful sooner.

covbrand:
oga I wish unto all your daughters this kind of Man. I used to live in the same hostel with this people, and believe me this man's wife is a very quite and scared person. she is very withdrawn. this man has always been beating her, locking up her children and starving them. I remember during my project defense time last year November I was about going jogging as early as 5:30 am when I came downstairs to see this woman who just gave birth lying down outside in open air. I asked her why she would expose herself such way only to be told that she was locked out all night by her HUSBAND! !!

As if that was not enough, one day while coming back from another jog, I met this lady and her 3 children outside with the door with the door locked. the baby of a few weeks didn't even have water to drink and this was harmatten season. I had to boil water to give the baby.

this man didn't start today, and I blame the woman for not being woman enough for her kids. to me she killed that baby. am so pained.

GodpunishBuhari:
I remember that guy barbing my head, his office is opposite blu buka

Pls go and give him a slap for me.

Poor baby
So upsetting.