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These are the demons that we men need to call out. She never leave you yet but you want to pour inside her abi.

If you guys are still together after she aborted before then it means you wanted the previous abortion too.

Focus on getting back on your feet. Not on getting your girl pregnant when you don't have money.

Who told you the reason is a woman?

jibs4lv:
may be you are the mad one here , he said she's his colleague in office which means they are together almost everyday and you are here talking rubbish.


your type makes seeking advice on nairaland tedious

Na you and your ilk dey devalue the word "love".

You invite a girl for the first time and the first thing you tell her is I love you?

Una dey mad o.

The sensible part of your statement is the need for open communication in a relationship. Everything else is a load of bollocks.

Virginity is not a pre-requisite of a good relationship and non-virginity is only a disease to the virgin religionists.

If you say you will wait for a virgin, you will wait tire and that may cause you to overlook obvious problems because somebody has not opened their legs before.

Stay friendly but don't consider her a gf anymore. You never know, she might tire after 3 years and look for husband. That could be your ticket outta here.

Leave your religions.

Earn money, work, live more comfortably then both of you guys should move to a different & bigger city (PH, Lagos, Abj, Calabar) where you guys can live happily ever after!

ibkayee:
Do guys become desensitised to female rejection at some point since the onus is usually, if not always on guys to approach first

The antidote is for guys to only ask out a girl who clearly likes them already. I, for one, do not believe in "winning her over".

Delete her number.

My people abeg make sure that you are in the same relationship your gf/bf is in oh. Don't claim the relationship by faith o.

1. She almost certainly did not cum

2. You seem to lack experience

3. Tip 1: Read (in your spare time) about a woman's anatomy.

Tip 2: Always go down on her well. Look out for the clit and the inner lips. Stop if her smell is too bad

Tip 3: You guys can and should talk about sex. How much you do or don't know. What you expect, what you want.

Tip 4: Sex is not porn. Go slow and go with the rhythm. BOTH of you guys should enjoy the deed.

Don't request anything....except she requested from you for hers.

If she is not an exclusive lesbian then all her formings are for nothing.

adorable29:
Based on your logic, since both gender have at one point in time disappointed thier partners, then everyone should be heartless to everyone?

Grow up!

People should always have their eyes open. Do not forgo a clear opportunity because of one small relationship; especially if she makes it a dealbreaker.

This idea of "love" is a childish Disney fantasy.

adorable29:
Why do you people like to cry a lot.

So because your friend's girlfriend aborted twins for him, left him and chose another man it therefore means all ladies are wicked and blablabla.

Do you know the number of guys who dump women they promise marriage to daily?

You all should move on. She was never meant to be. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Hr should go get someone who will stick with him.

This lady (if the story is true) proves those guys right. Be heartless unto babes or babes will be heartless to you.

We dated for 4 years and didn't cheat.

However, the time we started thinking of marriage was also when I began to lose our religion. I thought it would be cool but she kept saying she has to marry a christian. That's why I broke things off.

We still love(d) each other but know we can't marry.

You basically said plus sized ladies are easier than "minis". This is stupid.

These stereotypes don't usually work.

Only go after a girl who clearly likes you too. A girl who loves loves hard.

If guys chase girls who actually like them, most of this money matter will disappear.

Oboy pay yourself and her more respect.

She told you with her own mouth that she doesn't love you. You still want to force it on her? Na by force??

You guys are friends with benefits shebi (Do you give her some money??). If that is okay with you, continue to bleep but forget about love or relationship. Use this chance to perfect your bleeping technique.

Don't force a relationship on somebody. Don't try to get her pregnant thinking that will keep her. You will just be setting yourself up for future heartache.

Oboy, you need to rewire your brain.

Forget EVERYTHING you think is the "right" way to treat a girl.

First of all, don't call or text her again. You can respond if she messages you but never go out with her. You people should only see in class or at her apartment.

Get other friends. Chat with other people, boys and girls. Expand your social circle.

Focus on yourself, your books and business opportunities. This is what should bother you at this moment. The girls who gravitate towards a hardworking semi-broke guy are better for your destiny.

Good luck.

They probably didn't buy the whole car for her. They may have only paid the downpayment only. In many western countries you can finance your cars at 0% interest.

People should approach situations on a case by case basis.

That being said, there is a reason girls who take initiative are usually more successful. By asking the guy out, even if a little codedly, is that the whole question of whether or not she likes him is answered from the get-go.

They can now focus on enjoying themselves and possibly build a relationship.

More practically, I think guys should review how and who they ask out:
- Only show interest in the girls who are clearly interested in you.
- Go for mutual love.
- Never try to win her over.


Ciao.

For you to be asking for advice is baffling. Dump the girl o.

PH is very safe. People walk around freely into the evening, including Oyibos.

I've been back in the country for a few months and was shocked by the sheer number of non-Nigerians who walk around and drive themselves.

I have driven at night without problems. GRA is popping well into the night. There are police officers everywhere and they mount (annoying) temporary blocks at night.

I hear Eleme is still dangerous though.

If you want to learn how to sex, seek an older woman that you can be free with.

Live your own life.

Love who you want.

No games. Twitter experts won't live your life for you.

Bleep if you want. Don't bleep if you don't want to. Do not use bleeping or the lack of bleeping to keep a man. It won't work.

People should leave her. Is it you that she is destroying?

I think I'll try this out. Many people seem to prefer employing women. Why? They think (rightly or wrongly) that the women will be more committed, more trustworthy and more disciplined.

Good on them.

Cut to the chase and confess that you're looking for ass. �

Amarabae:
All these guys with big ass, what do you people want to do with it?

I saw one yesterday, ukwu nnu.
Please go and dash it to any girl that don't have it big around you

Nigerian guys have to stop buying things for girls as a right.

The amounts that many guys spend on girls they aren't dating, are dating or want to date is staggering.

This cuts across all levels of income and wealth.

It's a different matter entirely if you've gotten the girl pregnant.

This is why I want to slap any guy I see saying he will die for woman. She no go die for you o!

You are the kind of man that gives Nigerians a bad name. Why did you rush to propose and for what?

Biko break up with her and save her heartache.

Now to your ridiculous myths. Who told you that people get tired of sex with age? Big big lie. Now, if you think she is too old for you (when she is 2 years younger) and won't show you respect, do you think a 20 year old girl will show you respect?

How do you expect your wife, someone who will see you naked, at your weakest, hear you make sounds during sex; how are they supposed to "respect" (aka fear) you? Oboy you are 28, do you think you could do better than this girl? Do you think you could get a better love, especially if she doesn't love you for money?

If it is only the age thing that is disturbing you, forget about it and forge ahead. However, break up if you will use other things to justify cheating on her or not treating her well, like an equal.