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She needs deliverance. You being the "disvirginer", if this is true, is NOT a reason to hook you.

Drop her like hot coal.

It is a very simple something. Change the keys. Take her to dinner and tell her that "Your Mumu Don Do". Don't listen to her pleas and her sex bribe. That will be the end.

Or, if you can get her a CHEAP self-contain for 6 months or 1 year, do that. Only do this if the money isn't up to half of your monthly earnings. Think about it this way, every time she sleeps and eats in your house, money has left your pocket.

Your head is not correct.

Don't message her again.

Move on. Respect yourself.

My brother, you are not serious. How can you carry a girl that you don't yet know to go and see your family.

Tell her to carry her list and marry. Delete her number! Block her number! Just move on.

It is EASY to lose hope in Nigerian women but don't. We are 200 MILLION people. Not all of us are bad. Not all of us have the MONIMONIMONI mentality/lifestyle.

So?? I think the only problem is that they did it in school. I'm certain the school doesn't allow that.

It doesn't matter what your size is, your attitude is more important. Some skinny girls think EVERY guy has to be attracted to them and that obviously is not the case. Some "OROBO" girls think their booty is God's gift to men even though not everyone is attracted to them and not all Orobo know what to do with it.

I made another comment which was directly aimed at advising him.

I noted that he might seem desperate.

However, I disagree that he should wait until when he is working or has money. People are diggers mehn and for someone without experience/history in dating or even knowing when someone actually likes you, he could be easily misled.

grandstar:
Oga, thanks for your response.

I'm trying to detach myself and see things from his point of view.

Imagine an 18 year girl is only in her underwear and she complains that no man looked at her, will you not find that strange? Will you not ask what's wrong? Or does she have polio?

He states he has asked 7 girls out and no positive response? Really?

I am still trying to find out what's wrong. how will you make a pass at 7 girls and not one is interested? Why are there no girls giving him green-light? There should be? There's something missing somewhere.

I used to be very shy. I'm still quite shy. But most girls I approached were interested. And many girls gave me cues or green-light. I'm trying to put 2 and 2 together and that's why I came up with the answer

Perhaps, he is trying too hard! Perhaps he is running after girls that will be least attracted to his personality? Maybe he is trying to act like a guy he is not and they notice and this puts them off.

He might be getting training from the wrong quarters about what to do. Maybe those advising him are only interested in him having sex and it shows when he approaches women.

That is why I said what I did. With time, things will fall into place. Once he starts work, buys a car and so on. This will boost his confidence, make him shine. That may have been the way he was raised.

That is why I gave that advise.

If he's chummy with his parents, they are the best to provide him with direction and confidence. His mum could say, "Jimmy, you're a handsome guy. There's no girl that can turn you down. Don't you know you're dashing? Your father seated over there was not even half this dashing and I was even posing with him when I was with my friends. My son, carry go, nothing spoil"

You may find this hard to believe but the advise coming from home is the best. The prime problem most time is that many parents choose to bury their heads in the sand and therefore worsen the problems by compelling their kids to find answers outside.

That's why paedophiles and rapists have a field day because many parents have abdicated their duties and believe that any form of sex education or romance education is bad. That really isn't Christian (Deutoronomy 31:12). The Mosaic Law contained sexual matters and children had to listen to it.

It seems like you guys haven't dated for too long. She is not a "sugar mummy". It is insulting for you to call her that. The age difference is not bad but you are clearly not ready.

Date her seriously and honestly for 2 months and review your state of mind.

Gloriagee:
He does have dignity, I think. He's just completely stunned by it all. He's the calculating kind - the type that doesn't act till the proverbial straw touches the camel's back. My prayer is that he doesn't snap one day and lose it all.

@op - marriage counselling and yeah that DNA

I think you've got a point. How is her business doing OP? She needs to get a job or open a business (THAT IS BRINGING IN MONEY) if not. She might be resenting you because she used to support you when y'all were in university.

IMMEDIATELY you get to the USA, she will finalize her plans. Remember that you will bear responsibility for her in the USA (because you filed for her).

NEVER tolerate abuse from your wife. You need to end this relationship ASAP.

So that he'll be 35, still a virgin and chicks will think something is wrong with him.

grandstar:
I want to ask you a simple question and that is- Are you handsome? Very handsome? If you are, ladies will give you cues

Alternative, do you understand those cues? If you don't, that's another thing. Do you understand green-lights?

I have a friend who doesn't have a girlfriend and he's over 40. He's confident around them but very lousy and that puts them off.

You're young and had probably had a sheltered upbringing. So, there's a lot of innocence in you.

Don't rush things. Face your career and with time, the right woman will come around. You maybe behaving like an over-aged spinster throwing herself at every man and they keep rejecting her.

And you know the funny thing about that old spinster, it is those who don't give a hoot about their age and not being married have a thousand and one men at their feet begging for marriage. Perhaps, you by being desperate and all, empower them to turn you down.

Please face your career as earlier said. Things will piece itself together. You're who you are. Don't try and be someone else. Don't try and imitate someone else. Eventually when it is time, the pieces will fall into place.

Don't date anyone who starts to date you because you start working or making money. They will NEVER be satisfied, will cheat on you constantly and will drop you at the first sign of trouble.

Take a break from ACTIVELY seeking a girlfriend. Let that not be the goal anymore.

You could change your strategy. You could respond to girls who FIRST show interest in you. It is more efficient that way. They may not come and say outright: "Baby let's go out". Look out for more subtle signs.

Be busy. Busy with work, your passions, sport, etc. A guy that is ALWAYS available quickly becomes a doormat. Keeping busy could also lead you to more people, give you confidence, etc.

Finally, loosen any unnecessarily stringent "criteria" you (consciously or subconsciously) have: ethnicity, age, etc.

How much will you clear 2017 Honda Accord and 2015 Jeep Patriot?

Hey, send your CV to pathwaymontessoriltd@gmail.com. They're hiring primary and secondary school teachers.

glamay:
I teach for 30k in Ph, but the work load is something else. Teaching Civic Education from JS1 to SS3 and Home Economics, from JS 1 to JS3. The school will still owe you at the end of the month. Am resigning by after this term

Simon Fraser is not one of the best schools in Canada.

Also, to be fair to Amaechi, he continued the overseas scholarships Odili started. Many such scholars were sent to Simon Fraser University. Wike canceled it after his election.

Vex for someone else.

delugajackson:
They send their children to the best schools abroad. Ensure their safety in a safe and civilized environment. Secure their future and the future of their generations unborn. Have you ever wondered why these politicians do not send their children down here to engage in their political warfare? Yet some senseless youths kill themselves over them for the sake of blind loyalty, sabotaging their future in the name of cultism, ballot-snatching, thuggery and other vices.

Some of them are here on Nairaland defending their incompetency for crumbs, hurling abuses at each other while they loot away their future in their very eyes. Woe betide any youth of this country that fights for any politician. Its about time you all realized that these politicians do not care about you, you're just being used as a pawn to do their dirty jobs and satisfy their selfish interests, only to be discarded once they achieve their aim. To whom brain is given, sense is expected.

Emmannn101:
I wonder why its so hard for the government to construct good roads for the country,, even for the fact that we have limestones as one of our numerous natural resources


This country needs deliverance

Road ke??

We need to be moving these containers with trains.

Even if she was cheting, SO WHAT!!!! Move on. This our madness must stop. We are almost 200 million people but everyday people are crying and killing themselves because somebody they "love" isn't showing love back to them.

Abeg we should stop this nonsense.

There are no corroborating news stories. There are a number of newspaper articles of Air Peace reiterating that their international flights will depart from Lagos and NOT PH.

If he helps some couples with this much needed and not oft talked about advice, who are you to judge the mode of delivery?

Can 1 person (a school) register many students?

AbelAbdul:
Let me see d interior

There are 2 backseat rows. 1 row seats 2 people, the last seats 3 people, just like a Sienna.

AbelAbdul:
What's its value?

Available for 3.2 mil.

AbelAbdul:
Hello house, goodmorning.

Please between Toyota Sienna 2002 and Honda Odyssey 2006 which one is best for interstate transport business and why?


Urgent answers needed as I intend buying either of the cars this evening.

Thanks for your input.

Try my Mazda 5. I drove for 7 months in Canada. It is in perfect condition. Had it checked and fixed only the shock absorbers in CANADA, not Apapa. Great fuel efficiency, same size as Sienna & Odyssey, very comfortable. Both rows of rear seats can be folded down for more room. Great car! Comes with everything: jack, spare tyres, etc.

Favy93:
Am a graduate of geophysics and i have three years experience az a physics teacher..i am bazed in Portharcourt,and i wish to be informed on any teaching vacancy on any science related subject.here is my email address(aberefabulous@gmail.com) i can also relocate to lagos if need be..Thanks

Send an email to pathwaymontessoriltd@gmail.com

kellybently:
have u ask ur self why there is no any manufacturing industry in Rivers state.
all the goods and commodities we use in Rivers state are from Aba and Onisha.

Who told you?

One thing I love about NEXT is the wide array of places wherein their goods are manufactured. There's soap from Senval, chocolate from Ghana, zobo, water from Port Harcourt, kilishi from Enugu, yoghurt from Nassarawa, etc.

That is one of the good things about mega stores like this. If your goods are sold there, you'll make a killing. You could even get other shop customers who buy from NEXT to sell.

chukxie:
We're on the same bro. Honestly, it's beyond shameful that Nigerian with all its abundant wealth still hasn't been able to provide its citizens with constant, reliable and affordable electricity.

Who are Nigerians? Are you not a Nigerian?

marticeus:
A large grocery shop that will at the end swallowed hundreds of small corner shops, provision shops and supermarkets. The multiplier effect means that many families will be pushed out of their means of livelihood.
He should not even consider coming to Anambra state, highly celebral governors will refuse them license to operate in their states, what we need now are production/manufacturing firms not all these gigantic retail/grocery outlets that afford our corrupt politicians an avenue to congregate and satisfy their unending appetite for foreign goods.

You make very valid points that I was concerned about myself.
However, a big problem with NEXT is ACCESSIBILITY. Not everyone knows about them yet. They have serious competition from MarketSquare and Everyday so they are "just one" of the big supermarkets. They are also located in a tricky area. Unless you're buying a relatively large quantity, whatever savings you would have made would be eaten up by transport.

I frequently go to NEXT. At least 4 times a month, sometimes more. I always see somebody buying in BULK. Why? To sell in their shops. Many people are using NEXT as their wholesalers because of reliability and affordability. I don't think the supermarket is having an effect on small businesses just yet.

To recap, NEXT is not swallowing small shops because they have other big supermarket competitors and they are not super accessible to everyone.

A reputable primary & secondary school seeks:

1 Headteacher.
- Computer literate
- B.Ed/B.A/B.Sc minimum.
- Experience with foreign/modern curriculum in big school a plus
- minimum of 4 years teaching experience.


Location: Port Harcourt

Email: pathwaymontessoriltd@gmail.com

No second chances needed or prepare for a life of heartache.

Take a break from him and indeed all guys for a few months:
- download Duolingo and learn a language
- start a business or work on a particular project in your own business.
Do something productive and rewarding.

Learn from the mistakes in this relationship:
- don't make excuses for early red flags
- don't stay when you have slight proof of unfaithfulness.


Good luck my G.