₦airaland Forum

SeriouslySense:
Religion killed North, they used to have high levels of honesty and a simple mind, all people don woke.

Seems to me like being woke today is the same as "Eye Open, Things Spoil".

DeepSight:
From personal experience, I tend to generally agree with what you have said here about Northerners. Mind you they can be terrible in other respects oh (religion, women's rights and violence being some) but in matters of basic business honesty, they are usually far cleaner and more straightforward than many others.

I've known this to be true for years.

Only a very minuscule few have disappointed me.

Can't say same for other tribes in Nigeria. Especially from people from my own Delta state. From my own experiences in business, they've harmed me more than even the Igbo and Yoruba man.

I've become overly cautious now, especially when they're trying to play the : "we are brothers from the same side" card.

mrvitalis:
Bros I have been opportuned to interact with lots of average Nigerian politicians

Majority are near retarded and two majority of Nigerians don't know the difference between problem and symptoms of a problem

Most times they tackle symptoms leaving the real problem, n it comes up again

99.999% of Nigerians don't even know problem with Nigeria... Most just know symptoms

Oh..

In as much as I agree with the saying that too many Nigerians are ignorant of the real issues on ground. I find it hard to believe it's the same for the government and it's cabinet of educated elites.

And you don make this daddy laugh this morning. Which one be many of our politicians are near retarded? They're totally retarded..

Good morning to you bros

BoldBrainz:
"He who is silent in the face of evil is just as guilty as the enabler".

You see, that's the reason some of us go the extra length to talk and keep talking, despite the fact we're uncomfortable doing so.

When I die tomorrow, I want it to be heard that even if I didn't have the capacity to have corrected the wrongs, I was vocal enough to be heard in the criticism of evil.

That would be a palatable inscription for my tombstone.

Lols

Only talk? You aren't the first to do that.

Plus none of the talks has even worked since military until this farce called democracy.

I still like the country and that's why I even seem to get angry and my anger is mostly at how powerless I am.

If I had my way, hahahaha...

Una go dey find where to hide una head. I know me.

I can't be talking and no one is listening, especially, to what audience?

I recommend a total uprooting of the current system and do you think just talk will accomplish that?

How many of those so called advanced climes didn't pass through fire before they got to where they currently are?

mrvitalis:
The solution is simple my idea is similar to Peter obi idea

We must borrow more money in bulk but what we do with that money is key

Obi wants to provide soft credit for SMEs and build infrastructure


My idea is forget infrastructure we won't die
Borrow $15 billion, restructure our loans

Give this $15 billion to banks at say 3% interest starts after 3 years but the conditions are

1) this loans must be given to people who are into manufacturing in two divisions

a) import substitute - people who can produce what we import at a price lower or equal to the international average price
b) export products - people who produce this we can export at a price equal or below international price

2) this loan must be given to people at no more than 10% per year with 2 years no payment obligations

3) companies to qualify for loan must prove loan can provide employment for minimum of 20 people

4) loan should be between #200 million to 5 billion

5) you must show 5 years business track records

Not perfect but this is our best bet

I see...

It all boils down to the same thing many are saying on here: We need to industrialize.

A good plan.

And you think all those werey in charge of running the country are not aware?

No make me laff abeg...

Goodnight brother. There's a reason I don't like discussing issues plaguing this country.

It gets me angry for I refuse to believe all these fine ideas all you guys are putting out on here are things these people in charge don't know already. They know, yet they do something entirely different.

Abeg, does any nation need rocket science to know they're supposed to have working refineries? Especially a nation whose entire income rests on such. And an oil producing nation at that?

Smh

nairalanda1:
I;m still in Nigeria.

I am also laughing at people on this site who abuse me all day long for supporting subsidy removal. Many of them call me APC supporter.

Now APC has brought back subsidy. In essence, APC is doing their bidding. So, na APC they support in a way.

The truth is, I guessed APC was going to bring back subsidy eventually.

Anyway, I never vote for PDPAPCLP. All of them are the same. Small party for me since i first voted.

MODIFED

And the truth is, subsidy has to really go. Even if it means fuel costing N1000 per liter...even if it means I end up spending all my salary on fuel monthly. Because at the end, fuel costs money . Pretending it is cheap has cost us four refineries and billions of dollars in debt.

My brother, whether you vote or not, like this ancestor said earlier: "We'll enjoy it all together"

No sensible person will support subsidy if they become aware of it's implications. Especially looking back and seeing how much harm it has done, any sensible person would clamor for the same thing you always say on here.

Let's do some finger pointing here...

Who's to blame for the current state of affairs? What should the people do in matters as this? (Don't ask me this as I always recommend the vawulent approach)

No dey blame the average Nigerian. Most are either unaware of the situation and it's effect, that's why they're being lef by the nose by unscrupulous business people whose wealth rests on the status quo.

Remember all the ruse Ancestor Oshiomole played back then?

Abeg, I'm a lazy man. I dey quick tire to type. It's either I can fix something or I ignore it as I'm very aware of the extent of influence I command and I tell you, it's not enough to do anything for Nigeria, only enough to take care of those who are my own.

If your influence can let you, do the needful abeg.

sulaak:
In the 1970s, the Indians and Chinese rode bicycles when the Nigerians were spending their Udogi award on imported Japanese cars; in 1980 the Indians and Chinese learnt to mass produce motorcycles, and today both China and India are two of the top automobile manufacturers in the world.

Nigeria cannot fund imports anymore; the country has been mortgaged to the hilt and has large debt and low dollar exports. Nigerians have two choices start producing or do without.

This daddy agree with the bolded.
But with all these show off lifestyle ingrained in most Nigerians, it'll take serious flogging to accomplish that little matter.

mrvitalis:
"If we stabilize power supply "

Nigerians are too poor for constant power supply... Anyone who can afford constant power supply have it... It's just fact that you guys don't want to accept

Average Nigeria needs to pay $100 monthly per house for us to have power 24/7


Fuel would sale for 1000 there is nothing anyone can do about it ... You need about $100 to fuel your car monthly

The issue should be focusing on your people earning more than focusing on the impossible of reducing cost

If not for the last sentence, this ancestor been wan ask you where the average Nigerian go take see $100 to pay as you talk...

I no fit ask you wetin we go do to comot for this wahala because no be me and you land us here. And looking at the whole matter, me and you dey powerless to fix this matter to say the truth.

So if una get ideas, make una try to dey reach out to those wey dey in charge of this company called Nigeria. nairalander1 go dey always blame the ordinary people, as if na dem go borrow and share IMF money or na the ordinary people dey decide how the country dey go.

Abeg, dem don borrow, dem don share am, dem don make nonsense decisions with the little wey remain. Dem and their family no go face the nonsense. Na we dey face am.

Later someone go say why I dey always support chaotic matters. Put fire and burn it all as nobody wan use their head.

nairalanda1:


Landing cost is N720. Una wan sell that petrol at N617.

APC has brought back subsidy. They have gone back to their vomit jejely.

Yet, to do the sensible thing and actually remove subsidy, they no wan do, because what matters to APC politicans is getting voted back, not making Nigeria better.

Anyway, enjoy your subsidy, Nigerians.

Funny...

Abi you too don Japa? This one you're separating yasef as if you're not a Nigerian in Nigeria...

We will enjoy it all together...

Dem go take loan, share am among themselves yet na the common Nigeria dey owe and pay for the igbese somebody else chop.... Smh

Gofment na scam abeg...

In all the pretence of order, the disorder is overpowering.

Ah,

Another successful ruse...

Bankrupcy and scam tie the same wrapper..

If you know, you know..

Up to 7 pages yet the argument still no get head or tail...

When will these children realize matters are different between couples?

Even some married people are here sweating over what shouldn't be any issue... smh

There's no definite answer to the question our OP raised. More data is needed before any correct judgement can be made.

Even us wey go night school know this much. See all our educated people making a fuss over nothing.. smh

Chai, see jombo..

This child will kih himself with misbehavior,. Smh

occfx:
Innocent man will rest finally after 128yrs...

A body will remain in its state of rest or uniform motion in a straight line unless acted by an external force , thats the condition of a dead man. Hardware is useless without the software

Or maybe even internal force

LordReed:
You do understand that I was being sarcastic about Jesus' death and not about what you wrote right?

I know..

I'm just saying I can't be bothered about it all.

Reason I bolded the go figure.

LordReed:
Well he apparently committed suicide by proxy so go figure .

Like I would care..

Naim be wetin?

With how high transport to and from work is, how much go remain for someone with family?

nairalanda1:
So how else do we get the money?

Answer...we borrow, and keep on borrowing.

Like I said, you guys should stop complaining about government borrowing. It's a fallout of having a one trick pony economy. And yes, I blame APC for it, I blame Buhari for not taking certian decsions 8 years ago, but at the end of the day, we need money

And since we are all poor......and since we cannot magically spring money from anywhere (and recovering loot takes a lotta time)....borrow.

Lord knows, I did not vote for PDPAPC or LP. ever in my life.

Only APC you blame.

I've been blaming the government like Baba Fela before The old thief OBJ became a civilian president.

They've never ever done well with how they've run the affairs of the country. Every single one of them and those in their cabinet.

grandstar:
You referred to IMF policies as discredited, yet it is rejection of many of these policies that has left the country bankrupt and its foreign reserves empty. That means you fully support Buhari's policies.

Buhari's first act upon becoming president was to fix the Naira exchange rate. He ended the flexible exchange rate policy he met. By August 2015, Nigerian Letters of Credit were no longer honoured internationally as they could not be backed by foreign exchange. Severe fx scarcity had begun.

Buhari's refusal to end petrol subsidies very early in his tenure (January 2016) was one of the biggest reasons for the huge debt the country has today. I won't be surprised if 30-50% of the debt hanging over the nation today is due to the fuel subsidies. Buhari was also subsidizing FX by selling it below its market value and short-changing itself.

So, let's assume in May 2023, $1-440 at the official rate while the parallel market was 750.

So, if government earned $1bn in revenue, it would get only N440B rather than N750BN, short-changing itself of N310b in just one month or over 3.6tr in a year! And yet you praise these subsidies?

Government borrows money to pay for these subsidies. It even went as far as compelling the CBN to print money to finance these subsidies through Ways and Means.

When government is borrowing excessively, do you realise it crowds outs the private sector? Banks will prefer to lend to the government than to the private sector. Next, you'll be complaining that banks don't like giving loans.

The truth about the IMF is that if you really implement their policies, they lose you as their candidate.

IMF is run by technocrats. They aren't politicians who tell you what you want to hear. For your information, even developed nations have been its candidate- UK and Ireland. Both paid back their loans as soon as possible so that they could get the IMF off their necks.

What the IMF will tell you is the same thing Okonjo Iweala and Charles Soludo will tell you. There's no difference

1. Float your currency and make the value market reflective at all times.
2. Cut or end subsidies. (they are wasteful, corrupt and very inefficient, create distortions in the economy and many times, discourage investment.)
3. Slash a bloated civil service, cut it too size.
4. Maintain a balanced budget or low budget deficits.
5. Increase taxes if necessary in order to balance the budget or to keep the deficit small.
6. Privatize all public companies or close them down (this will save money)
7. And many more

No country with these policies will ever approach the IMF, and even if they did, they'll not be there for too long.

Now that the world is entering a recession, how many African countries have approached the IMF for a bailout? I can't think of one.

If I have any grouse against the IMF, is that they focus more on austerity than on rapid economic growth. That is where national governments can come in. Appoint competent economist to steer your economy into fast economic growth.

I like reading anything you post. That's because I see truths in your posts.

My only problem with your posts is when you talk about tax. It's as if you're not on ground in the country.

The government itself won't even want any clear tax system. It's illegally collected.

Do you know how much those like us whose businesses requires the transportation of goods pay just to get our wares to their destination.?

I was forced to follow my driver to Apapa to get my goods one day. For i thought the man was playing me.
Could you imagine, as early as 4-5am that we left my place, these Tinubu boys and some soldiers are already on road for collections. While returning, we paid for various tickets and NPF later collected their own. Now, I pay a uniformed man to regularly escort the vehicle but hey, that one no concern Tinubu boys, their money is their money. So the uniformed man only saves us from NPF, VIO or FRSC and their unending wahala..

Even in places where there's a toll gate, after paying at the toll gate, before a km, Tinubu boys will be there to collect again.

How can you like the government continue saying lies that we don't pay tax? Even the hawkers of gala and pure water pay something. The road side market woman pays too.

Stop this tax talk brother. The government should have a clear tax system and combat all the corrupt practices they started.

With the extent it has gotten to, it'll take serious work to do that. Not with how powerful these illegal tax collectors have become.

Na my own I talk so. We pay tax, but it's illegally collected by our government, hence the revenues gotten from those collections are pocketed. Else, how do you explain the abysmal condition of our roads plus all the collections everywhere in the country?

That's why I'm even against Obi too as he was once a governor. He took his share from such collections and nothing as usual was done with it.

I don too talk. My goods dey road and I dey house dey drink..

Smh

Maynman:
He also said....

That's Lord Jesus for you...

He said many things. (My Prof used to be against him. Even arguing that only dubious people use parables. His reasons are simple: Parables have a ton of meanings. Just to be against Lord Jesus o. Now he is dead like Lord Jesus )... Smh

But hating your life in this world? Isn't that encouraging suicide? Carnal man that I am..

The Lord's ideas are not something a worldly unbelievers like us can understand... Smh

Aemmyjah:
Spirits do not always allow themselves to be known
And that's an advantage to them
Imagine, a thief keeps entering your house. A thief will not come and say 'Hello, good evening', they use to hide and that helps them to carry out their evil. The more ignorant the householder is, the more he would gain... You did not see the thief but you feel that there's someone in the house. You tell your brother, he simply looks outside and says there's nothing and it's your thoughts that is disturbing you and there's no such thief . Do you think that thief will get saddened that your brother said 'there's no such thief ', he's happy, so he can carry on his crafty arts. You may not even be aware that he stole something. But there are places where these thieves show their faces and even attack or kill like in Banks
Same with the demons, they exists and the bibles says so... They will even be happy if everyone says they don't exist. They are very subtle, worst of it is that they are invisible. There are areas that they attack and harm and torment people even to death. All the same, they influence and mislead mankind, you don't need to see them to know
No need trying to seek atheist opinion. It's like trying to convince someone who had been saying that covid 19 was a hoax and never existed, to convince him that covid existed. You'll get tired... They blind to what is around them. When they see and read stories of people caught with human parts, or a building with such things, cases of human sacrifices, a innocent girl just drop from a car after sleeping with a stranger and she becomes mad or bleed blood, or someone is glued to a woman he'd sleeping with when she has a husband, who/what is behind all these? Are they mere for social experiment? Atheism allows fir increasing blindness... Ignorance in the name of intelligence

Ah...

No wonder Lord Jesus says the kingdom of God will come like a thief in the night...

Smh

Maynman:

Boy, bible means collection of books, and we have the hebrew bible called Tanahk, and Tanahk was written in hebrew, the words Existed before it was written.

If you are not empty, why don't you post the dictionary you used to get your Jargons.
Please, I will expose your barrenness.

I am not your mate, I will tutor you.

Charm Believer.

See am now.,

The same reason I dey avoid you, na the same reason I seriously no wan miss your wahala. For in truth, you dey almost always on point. But, meanings of whatever changes with time. But you think it remains the same, but those who're involved would've had many differing ideas of what they think they're involved in.

It's like, You're an His-Story believer... Or...

AKI-orlogist abi na PAWPAW-orlogist, cos ya wahala too much )
Always going back and back in time to pick up meanings and to the origins in your talks.

But all in all, I'm liking it. As lazy as I am, believe me, you've helped this daddy a lot.

ANormalHuman:
Akwa Ibom and Igbos, same ancestors, similar Spiritual activity from them both, similar foods and culture too.

Come on..

I no be Omo nna na..

I be Urhobo person. But you na my in-law.

Ukod..

Aemmyjah:
That's why I ask these same children of ignorance to come to AKWAIBOM, I'll just direct him somewhere. I won't take him there o... He'll see a lone path that lead to a place where he'll see things that till he dies, he'll never mention that there are no demons. He'll even say they are more real than humans. Imagine an African saying they don't exist! I don't even like talking about them. Jesus could have told stories about them but he did not... The masquerade in our village, if you try to snap them, you won't see them on your phone camera, only background... Like you said, people that sell skull, sane humans eating bread with faeces... Atheists are waiting for science to give an explanation 😂😂😂

Oh..

You be my inlaw?

Ukod mi.. hope I spelt it right...

Afor ka ri inor..
I learnt that from my daughter's mother. If I spell am well tell me.

There was a time I went to ikot-udoh, not sure I spelt it right again. Una wahala too much.

One of my Urhobo gee like that called my attention to something he found strange.

He was taking pictures of our supposed in-laws house and saw vultures on the rooftops. He took their pictures too but what came out was something else.... Hehehehe

I used my Gionee too and it was same..

Our in-law warned us to refrain from buying things from some people. His reasons I can't mention here.

TheBillyonaire:
Sabalo Master, may your days be long.

The Mind-OS is capable of transmuting his thoughts and manifesting his own assumptions, it does not have to be true to be manifested. It;s called Placebo. Once people understand this, then they can achieve anything.

That is why everyone feels right about whatever they experience. One must master the mind and grow above it to see the illusions of the mind, cos the mind just computes manifestations to the physical, but does not fall under the control of the laws of classical physics. It is on a quantum level.

So one must master the mind, move beyond it, understand it and control it. The OP and the rest of the people here and enslaved by inputs from their minds.

Cannabis and alcohol are actually aphrodisiac until abused. Even then, one can clean up the system and restore their functions.

That's why Truth is different for everyone.

My current truth heals me and makes me younger.

Aemmyjah:
Spirits do not always allow themselves to be known
And that's an advantage to them
Imagine, a thief keeps entering your house. A thief will not come and say 'Hello, good evening', they use to hide and that helps them to carry out their evil. The more ignorant the householder is, the more he would gain... You did not see the thief but you feel that there's someone in the house. You tell your brother, he simply looks outside and says there's nothing and it's your thoughts that is disturbing you and there's no such thief . Do you think that thief will get saddened that your brother said 'there's no such thief ', he's happy, so he can carry on his crafty arts. You may not even be aware that he stole something. But there are places where these thieves show their faces and even attack or kill like in Banks
Same with the demons, they exists and the bibles says so... They will even be happy if everyone says they don't exist. They are very subtle, worst of it is that they are invisible. There are areas that they attack and harm and torment people even to death. All the same, they influence and mislead mankind, you don't need to see them to know
No need trying to seek atheist opinion. It's like trying to convince someone who had been saying that covid 19 was a hoax and never existed, to convince him that covid existed. You'll get tired... They blind to what is around them. When they see and read stories of people caught with human parts, or a building with such things, cases of human sacrifices, a innocent girl just drop from a car after sleeping with a stranger and she becomes mad or bleed blood, or someone is glued to a woman he'd sleeping with when she has a husband, who/what is behind all these? Are they mere for social experiment? Atheism allows fir increasing blindness... Ignorance in the name of intelligence

Word..

I was one of the doubters until I experienced another level of the sciences...

Tested some too on my very own person. And learned some serious truth.

I don't want to put my experiences on here. It's no use as I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone. As long as I perceive I'll not be affected, I hardly bother about most things. I'm that selfish...

Like I once mentioned in some comment I don't even remember I made,: No custodian or guardian of any hidden knowledge will take up the challenge of trying to prove what those children of ignorance are putting rewards out for. You think say na play play matter?

So, what do they now think those who steal people's feaces to eat are doing? Or those who kill people or buy skulls? Oh, they're playing house abi.?

In Delta State, you'd be really foolish to think in that way. We go carry you enter Aviara and Uzere go teach you to respect the laws of nature..

Zonefree:
A house help that treats Oga better than the wife is worth sharing the gbola with.

A house help will cook for your husband, serve him, wash his clothes, clean his shoes, sweep his bedroom, dress his bed and you think Oga is foolish not to compensate her with his gbola in a magnificent way

Men are naturally benevolent. No sane man should allow his wife stops him from finding the love of his life.

Na man you be, and...

Thank you o jare...

In my own case..

Especially good food. I must try to as you say; Be Benevolent with such a great cook. I have the habit to love good food and those who make them.

Zonefree:
A house help that treats Oga better than the wife is worth sharing the gbola with.

A house help will cook for your husband, serve him, wash his clothes, clean his shoes, sweep his bedroom, dress his bed and you think Oga is foolish not to compensate her with his gbola in a magnificent way

Men are naturally benevolent. No sane man should allow his wife stops him from finding the love of his life.

Na man you be, and...

Thank you o jare...

In my own case..

Especially good food. I must try to as you say; Be Benevolent with such a great cook. I have the habit to love good food and those who make them.

TheBillyonaire:
He lost interest in sex, he did say he has erectile issues.

The man is amongst those who erroneously believe alcohol and smoking affects everyone's sexual drive negatively.

No..

It in fact over-stimulates men

Up till this moment, in Delta State, there are still people who call me "Sabalo Master". Because of my love for weed and alcohol back then. (I was surprised about the current Sabalo online, I once thought he'd be someone who knows me, but I don't even recognize meeting him anywhere and I'm sure he does not know of my existence. . You see why I always suspect you're right about that "universal/archachic records something" you always talk about as this is not even the first time I've observed my thoughts stolen.. smh)

ED has nothing to do with smoking or alcohol intake as I can even argue that no one on this platform takes in alcohol the way this daddy does. My relaxing time is mostly spent drinking and typing on NL. So whatever I type, blame it on the alcohol.. wetin concern this daddy..

The OP has a messed up psyche,where sex is involved and only he can know how it got to this extent and fix this. He mentioned he does not even have the desire. So wetin concern alcohol and smoking the goods of the gods?

Ah..

So where are they going to get such funds after all the pilfering.?

Even after usual taking of loans, not like they would be able to stop their itchy fingers from dipping into the national pot. The remainee will now go into DOA projects.

NLC is now pretending to have the best interest of the masses. The day they start insisting the country industrialize, that's the very time this ancestor will take them serious, and this daddy might join and protest vawulently..

Where would the government get such money? Especially with their extravagant lifestyles powered by looting?

These people are not serious abeg. They're not focusing on the reason the country has very limited osusu left, even after all the mighty borrowing over the years. They're after sharing money.

Even if it was increased to 500k, the spending power of such money has no business with how much you earn. If bread becomes 10k per load and other stuffs are as high as the heavens, what would that accomplish?

There's a reason why the spending power of the naira is approaching the negative side,

I currently wanted to restock and more than 19k has added on to the normal price. Not to mention money for to fuel my truck, NPF and Tinubu boys. Sorry, if I want to make profit and continue in business, what do you think I would do?

These people are simply delaying the inevitable.

TheBillyonaire:
Life is designed for survival of the fittest neural network by any means, legally or illegally. It is just the principle of the game. The survival strategy is used as lessons and upgrades strategies by others organically.

The weak is destined to die and the strongest is determined to survive. This is not a moral universe, this is a training process for strongest of machines.

The greatest loss, is the lost of one's life in a field of existence. The universe does not care if you are right or wrong. It programs you to survive as long as possible.

This crazy Marley indirectly exposed him to substances and induced him to his death and will walk free. His arrest actually is to save his life until entropy goes down. He should be buying gin to police for arresting him.

A harsh reality.

No matter. All is Allowed.

Smh

jozeflyfX:
I can see you are very shallow in your thought and mindset

You see nothing.
You've been misled...
🙄

StylesX:
She was the first girl I ever had amorous feelings for, I was in secondary school then, I asked her out with all the courage my being could muster, and she turned me down, we stayed friends for over 10years, I would try to move on, and it would work for a while and all the feelings will come back all over again especially when I see her, I don't see her often as she lives in another state.

We both did well for ourselves, I concentrated on making myself a better guy, worked hard to make something of myself, she did the same, and over the years we were just friends and I went ahead and dated only 4 girls, I don't womanize, I realized I always looked for her in every girl I dated, and I mostly dated girls that looked like her, I have been lucky with love in the sense that all the girls I dated loved me, I'm currently in a relationship with a decent girl too.

So fast forward to last week, she came visiting all of a sudden, haven't seen her for over two years and here she is, we connected and spent time like best friends, shared and talked about our lives and joked about how she put me in friend zone in the past, throughout her stay she stayed in my apartment, we slept in same bed and everything yet nothing happened, she kept talking about how I am a good guy that most guys will sleep with a girl that come under their roof, sometimes she would change her clothes in my presence and I won't make any move, she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now, I didn't read meaning to any of this as I have zeroed out the thought of anything happening between us for years until she started doing strange things, like kissing me without warning, cuddling at night and pressing me to her Bossom etc,

One night she did that and I got aroused, I lost control and we got intimate, it was intense, but before we could have actual sex I came to my senses and made her stop, it was super awkward, we didn't talk about it because she has a partner and I do too, I thought we'd just pretend nothing happened and move on so we wouldn't sabotage our relationships, then the next day we were alone at home in my living room, she wore my Tshirt with undies and we were binge watching movies, suddenly she started kissing and touching me, and I lost it again and this time we had passionate sex, she left the next day, and ever since then I've been confused and guilt ridden, she told me it was a mistake she rejected me in the past that we can still start something if I want, that she is ready to be with me, but I wasn't buying it, I am confused because a part of me feel something fishy is up, and the other part wanted her but I don't know how to tell my girlfriend nor do I want to hurt my girlfriend, I don't love her like I loved this old time crush of mine, but she is a loyal girlfriend and I can't look her in the eyes since the sex thing happened, and every nerve in my body is telling me to confess and ask for forgiveness or keep quiet and move on with my life, what do I do?

I learned something from my late old man..

Most times, in life, you can never be prepared for everything.

Sometimes, remove yourself from the scene, sit back like an audience and watch. Don't always have that protagonistic mindset. Be an audience sometimes and you'll be surprised how so much options will appear before you.

You did right, and you did wrong..

Make your choice and deal with it as a man that you are..

Na you even know the metrics you used to measure the quantity of love you have for both wonderful women you now have in your life. People like us can love both equally...

Like I said...

None here can help you.

Don't forget you'll be the one to bear any responsibility or consequence that ensues from any decision you make at this and every junction of your life.


So, Mr OP... DEAL WITH IT.