HIPROFILE: To every man, a good and bad sides non is perfect Good legacy or bad legacy we shall surely die someday and opinions, comments like yours will definitely come up...that is Life.
That's not the point. Don't use the certainty of death to play down the more important point that he FAILED as a public servant. Whether I'll die (which is a certainty) or anyone else will die does not detract from the point that people like DIG Egbunike blundered very important opportunities to help change the country from the festered cespool of corruption that it currently is. For that reason he was grossly imperfect and failed woeful. That is the more important point.
MamiTer: Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.
A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.
I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.
The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.
He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me. All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.
Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.
This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.
Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.
On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.
I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.
Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.
I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out. Please advice me.
Why would you even be asking to go back to a bully? Don't you care about your self-esteem?
HIPROFILE: Going by the man’s qualifications and experience this is a big loss to his family the entire police force and the country at large although am very sure many officers must have been eyeing his position.
We live to die afterall
Rest on Sir you've done your part.
No, it's not a big loss anything. Una go just dey repeat common tropes. Big loss ko. Corrupt man that hasn't left any good legacy behind. Just as corrupt as his junior abba kyari that he refused to positively indict. That's how they'll all die one after the other.
Heybey33: 37 years male interested in a serious relationship .. age range BTW 27-32 working class .. please serious minded only.. no game .. if you are one of those sub for me keep off .. this not a job opportunity
kennyjoy: Respect to everyone here, I will be coming to Canada by ending of this month, and here is the list of food items I intend to travel with, Pls I would like to know if there is any Addition or subtraction so as to avoid story that touch at the POE regard to my luggage.
Only you? I have two questions for you. Is there no food at all in Canada or are you going to a camp in the bush and are packing all you need to survive? Secondly, you want to open an African store in Canada?
Beremx: Send me a DM. I will refer you to someone I know personally who can help you. I hope your wife isn’t O negative? That’s the one the person cannot handle
Cheasystickylov: Hello all, please all I need is your candid advice. I do not think this is the time to ask me rhetorical questions. I would have answered all those questions before the end of the epistle. I do not sincerely if to quit my marriage or jut keep hoping that things will change in the nearest future. I dated my wife for three years before got married in 2006. I can say without exaggeration that it has been war, except occasionally when peace will just reign for a short period of time. Sadly I got a job in a multinational and we moved to Germany in 2014 and that just worsened everything. This made her to acquired more powers to do what ever she likes. My wife is someone that literally fights with every single person. During our dating, she exhibited so many of these characters. Despite all these red signs, I somehow just continued rather foolishly in the relationship hoping things will get better. This was not also helped by the pastor of our church who ensured that the relationship continued, he gave very many biblical examples including forgiving someone 7 times 77 times. I must also state that her mother was an elder in the church. So the action of the pastor is understandable. We eventually got married, and it has been sorry tears and blood. We were able to have 3 children, and the eldest is 11 years, the youngest is 7 years. My wife disrespects every single living thing I say, every one of them, she can insult me in public without giving a damn. I can not list all the scenario. Just to emphasize this point, her eldest brother and sisters have cautioned her many times , in my house and even when we visit them. To further emphasize, her eldest sister’s husband stop us from coming to his house because he said he can does not just bear the insults and the manner she disrespects me. We can not have a heart to heart discussion, she is always not ready, or when we talk she just tell me to summarize, or she ignores me completely. I have suggested counselling, however, she simply refused. We can stay in the house for months without talking to each other, I have and still has always been the one that tries to initiate peace. Sadly most times she doesn’t even listen and walk away. She keep male friends that I do not even have any real relationship with them, even if I try to caution her, she screams back. I have actually stopped trying to caution her, I just leave her alone with them. The latest now is a pastor who prays for her for the past 5 years, sadly the pastor and I have never had any conversation for all these years. I demanded for his number 2 years ago, she refused as usual, so I just allow her be. Of course their has been one or two case of suspected infidelity, initially when I asked she just ignored me and was even screaming. I gave her deadline of 5 days and she later cam to me to explain. Although there were still many grey areas.
The sad part is that, there is no single family member to even look into the matter 1.Her step brothers and sisters- they are not in talking terms. 2.Her mum- her mum dare not ! 3.Her uncle- She is not in talking terms with any of them 4.Her Aunt-the same story, not in talking terms with them
She does not really have any close per say, and occasionally attend church online. I wish does attend a physical church, her pastor would have been the next person that might probably look into it.
Sadly she believes every one of these people including me have a problem. She feels she is right and we are all just evil people.
I am so confused and frustrated. I do not know exactly what to do.
I think you may have gotten too used to this treatment it has become normal. You shouldn't tolerate this. The same way you gave her those 5 days to offer an explanation, give her some days of ultimatum to change, else you'll leave the marriage. If she doesn't change, just leave. People always have a choice to change or not change. If she doesn't take that choice, you should be in that marriage tolerating it any further.
Anytime you hear news like this and you click to see the pictures, it's always on haggard looking man. Yet, we know that rich men in suits commit these same crimes in Nigeria where the law only works against poor people. Fetch them all out.
What do you hope to achieve? To get the lost information back or to extort the school?
Now, nowhere in your story did you mention that your wife saw someone operating her device thereby breaching her privacy, technically that puts you on a lower ground legally because it's all assumptions.
Phones can factory reset themselves when the limit of wrong password input has been reached. It could be this.
But,
You have evidence of messages that didn't originate from her to her contacts. But that is no proof either. A good lawyer could pin those messages on your wife, claiming they were sent by her with a malicious intent to blackmail the school or that she has a dissociative indentity disorder which would further cast aspersions on her sanity as well as her credibility.
So,
As long as your wife does not have nudes of you or herself on the phone or any other incriminating file, you should not be bothered.
If she does have nudes or other vital information she wants back, I could help you retrieve those lost information.
But,
By default, I do not trust women. I'd advice you not to. Do not excavate a graveyard except you are hunting for skeletons.
Apparently, your wife is a threat to the HM who does not want her taking advantage of connections she garnered in the course of working for her.
Just let sleeping dogs lie. So you do not go and find out that the preek of a rich parent is the reason behind your wife and her HMs' squabbles.
I'm not saying that teachers are as wayward as nurses, I'm just saying I know someone who is a big benefactor in his kids' school; the story of his goodwill and philanthropy brought the Proprietress and most of his kids' teachers to his bed.
The proprietress found out she was was sharing his preek with the same people she was paying salaries and it brought about squabbles amongst the teachers and most of them just like your wife, tendered resignation letters but never told their husbands the true reason behind their leaving.
Those husbands till today see their wives as victims of unjust treatment in the school they served in not knowing that they, the husbands, are the actual victims.
oseun526: Hello everyone, I’m currently in the pool as which I claimed married with my partner but yet to get married actually. I planned doing court wedding after receiving noi. Hope it will not stand against me for doing wedding after noi. Please advice. Thanks
You guys underestimate how a simple automated SQL query can find you out in just 2 secs. You think this is Nigeria that don't even know how many citizens they have
Allegory: It’s obvious I’ve hurt the feelings of team ‘I just woke up in Canada.’ I apologize. I see your team also posted on the students thread, let me go and warn those ones too.
shupy: He is right tho. Why would you send to a stranger? It’s just common sense. Literally anyone can come here to tell people to send money for exchange.
And nothing prevents the person who wants to send money from doing the required checks to make sure it's okay. There are a thousand and one ways to do the required checks.
chrystee: Hello nairalanders, What's your opinion on a wife relocating abroad with the kids while her husband stays back at home. I and my family are considering my relocating with our kids but my husband will remain at home. The essence of the relocation is to seek for ways of obtaining dual citizenship for the children after which we will possibly return back to our home country. My husband has a thriving business here which he won't want to leave for an uncertain future abroad. Are there people who have gone through this long distance marriage. Is it worth doing for the future of the children given the current situation of our beloved country?
have you read the story on the front page where a guy is almost nearly won over by sidechick. That should be lesson your for now. Go back to front page and read that story. Try to learn a thing or two.
It's only in Nigeria you hear happy new month. Next thing will be happy new day. Later happy new hour. Much later happy new minute. And finally...happy new.... Una get time o
wordapostle: American media house (CNN) is doing the thinking for many people especially Africans, Russia has done nothing compared to what America and UK has been doing for decades with no one condemning them.
Everyone is blaming Putin because America is using the power of media to propagate their sublima messages framing Putin as the evil guy.
If you really follow the news of Russia vs Ukraine from 1997 you will understand the present day happening.
Nevertheless, war may not be the only option for peace.
Rip to the dead And safe trip back home to our African Brothers and sisters.
The way you guys open your mouths to talk sef, thunder suppose dey fire una for that place wey una dey. Would the world be a safer place with Russia calling the shots? With a dictator that suppresses his own people? With a man that has no opposition? Whether we like it or not, a country in the world will be the most powerful and will call the shots. It better be the US than Russia. At least when a despot like Donald Trump became America's president, we saw how the power of democracy limited his excesses. Can we say the same for the despot in Russia?
Pee2Jay9: Hello all. Please can a good credit score be achieved from just using credit cards to buy groceries and pay phone bills? Can someone achieve a good score for house mortgage without having to do car loan on credit first?
I don't know why you guys are always scared once you hear credit. Credit in canada is different from credit in Nigeria if you know how to use it wisely. Credit is actually good and a lot of people have made fortunes off the back of this. Oga, don't be scared. You can do car loan if you want. You can do anything and not just limit this fantastic opportunity to just "buying groceries and paying phone bills". Just use it wisely.
All I see there is just a boring sequence of "how are you" and "how was your night" from both of you. Aren't you guys creative? Invite yourselves to an online game or something...
KosiGee: For someone on his Masters degree in a UK university, your write up was horrible and very hard to read.
You should’ve complained to your landlord about Harry’s racism. He is an idiot who took advantage of your timidity.
When you got Covid, you should’ve made everyone aware via your flat’s WhatsApp group chat. If you didn’t have one, you should’ve sent messages to your mates or to the landlord to inform them. What you did was wrong, anyone of them could’ve come back before your isolation period.
There a lot of Chinese students who can barely speak English, but who are geniuses in their chosen field. Same applies to a lot of Africans. While it's good to speak good English, speaking good English is no sign of intelligence.
Politics › Re: DIG Egbunike Slumps, Dies In Office by CountVersailles(f): 12:32pm On Mar 09, 2022
