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ahnie:
Banana,what's that face for?

I'm feeling bad na...

ahnie:
Banana after how many weeks?
Continue no wahala.

They have found husband for your girlfriend na.. it's like you dun even know warris going on.

Do your investigation, you will find out from another "reliable source" that there's a suitor coming around for your girlfriend's hand, and he is enticing her and her mother with the money you could not afford to give them.

I wish you well my brother...
The only thing that should concern you now is how you can still be seeing your child. Forget about your girlfriend, she's not your own anymore.

Cheers...

So you carry basin wey we dey use soak cloth use am take cook beans with firewood... Ehn ehn Annie!!!

Iyaebe:
Start beating your chest very well because there are still women faithful to the core no matter how long the husband is away.

Mbanu, I can't try it...

NoToPile:
Reasonable? okay, I personally can't condone a light fingered person in my home.

Most of the stealing lots of us did as kids /teens were licking milo and milk from pangolo and extra meat from pot and five naira change we keep in the pocket with the hope mummy won't remember and we still chopped better cane for it.

This boy is not attempting to steal what seems to be age appropriate, he's been accused of money and laptop for me it's a big issue, address the main issue, leave her aim out of it.

And yes his image and that of his guardians (OP included) are being tarnished even if it's a mere accusation. So even if the OP is concerned about herself and hubby she has a right to be after all he lives with them.

Besides I still remember the bad boys in sec school.

All thief na thief abeg...

The main issue is that he remains accused, not guilty.

As for the bad boys you remember, are they still "bad" boys today?
Did their bad boy image in secondary school affect them or their parents/guardians today?

Since 2007? Hian...

It's that your elder brother and the rest of you who thought that a woman in that situation can stay faithful, that I blame...

Even for ONLY one year sef, I cannot beat my chest and say that any of our modern Nigerian women can stay faithful to a man they're not seeing. Na ment?

Well since y'all have pushed her out, problem solved for everyone involved.

Mariangeles:
What if she’s genuinely concerned about the nephew? I choose to believe that she is until proven otherwise.

Her choice of words and her judgements on the boy already say otherwise.

Mariangeles:
@Lamanii22, you have to be very careful how you bring your family issues to nairaland, especially sensitive ones. And with your real account too.
It is for your own good dear.
You don’t want people twisting your words and casting their negative vibes on you.
Whatever family issues you need to discuss, discuss them with your spouse.

Oh please, don't be willfully patronizing to her... No one is twisting her words.

She is gloating, plain and simple... It's as obvious as the white on rice.

She's talking about being "worried" about the image of a boy in a boarding school that he will eventually graduate from and probably never see anyone from there again, a boy that hasn't even been proven guilty...

Like seriously, what image can anyone have in primary/secondary school that will follow them for life?
It's a non-issue as far as the trajectory of a person's life is concerned.

Such faux concern for his image is bullshít because he is but just a boy, not an adult. You don't write-off a child you love, and this is how I know for a fact that she doesn't like him.

Would she type in that manner if the boy were her own son, or perhaps she's one of those people who will scream "my son can never be involved in something like this".

Let's try to be reasonable, shall we?

A lot of you (if not all of you) stole little things here and there when you were kids, don't even deny it.... Yet it seems y'all still turned out okay.

So school has resumed already...

I thought he just came from school barely 3weeks ago to spend the holidays at your place...
That holiday don finish just now ke?

If they seized his phone and assuming he is a boarder, wouldn't this seizure be because he is not supposed to have a phone with him?
It's been a very long time for me oo, but I don't remember schools allowing students to keep phones while in boarding house.

Anyway, you and this your nephew matter just get as e be... I taya for you.

The thread even comes off like an avenue for gloating.
They have not actually seen him with the stolen laptop, but you have concluded & decided that you were right and he is a thief.

Your next update will probably be how they have finally found the laptop under his bunk or inside his cupboard. Because agenda must to agend...

Wahala for who get aunty wey nor like am oo..

efighter:
Ladies want whom they can control. First borns are determined and uncontrollable. Only sons are monitored closely by family and relatives, so evil wives cannot control only sons.

Another angle ee...

Now that I think about it, it's been a really long time I "approached" a lady because I "like" her oo. Chei, life...
When men were boys...


I believe as a man, there's a certain stage you get to in life that conversations with the opposite gender just flow without really trying to make it into an "approach" per se... And from that first conversation onwards, a friendship could develop if one or both of you always keeps in touch.

The secret to any of this is in reading the cues, reading her non-verbal gestures...
You should be able to detect when a woman is open to you, likes you, or is minutely into you, even if you're just meeting her for the very first time.
Women who fit into this category are the ONLY ones your conversations can flow with easily, and you mustn't bother yourself with the ones who give off that 'stay away' vibe.


However OP, if you're really here looking for "procedure" on how to approach a woman from women themselves, then carry on and ignore my submission above.
Just sha know that you will end up trying what you've been told here and it won't work because every woman is different. For some, na ignore dem go just ignore you if you stick to "procedure".

This one that almost everybody is just talking about man and husband...

My own is, a woman that doesn't know how to to cook, how will she be able to feed her own children properly?

This is just one example of the many problems bedeviling you so-called modern women – una nor dey ever gree think further than the length of your wigs and fake eyelashes.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that, should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

As the fiancé has accepted her like that, should the unborn kids who will require good nutrition for proper growth also accept her like that?

emmaodet:
Crackhaus, sup brother.
Seems you are less busy today. You have really been active on nairaland today.

Lol, today?

The comment you quoted was from a few days ago bro.

emmaodet:
Fact bro.
There are many men married to women who are contented with what they have and thereby giving the man peace of mind and his respect. Far better than poverty if you ask me

True...

sgtponzihater1:
Stories make the world beautiful. When people share their stories, good or bad, it's a privilege to peep into the world of others in their own lens, without going through their indiscretions.

Women generally hate true stories because it nearly always paints them in a bad light. They are more inclined to fairly tale stories, romance novels, and "African Queen" type videos, when in actuality there are no more African Queen anywhere, but ravenous wolves waiting for "somebody's son" to find them someday. There are exceptions, and I respect these.

It's the true stories that carry the substance, and that's what we men will continue to tell and pass on to the next generation

Might I add that it has to be "somebody's son" who CAN/MUST give them the kind of fancy life their own biological parents could not give them.

If we could dredge deep into the minds of most young women today, you will find that a lot of them desire the fancy life BUT not the one they worked hard for by themselves.
It has to be a man somewhere who should give it to them.

sgtponzihater1:
Men have feelings. My biggest joy is taking my children to school everyday. If I loose that joy I loose everything.

Most Women, especially those below 40, have no feeling, their biggest joy is being hammered to orgasm, and eating from where they did not work for, and disturbing their horsebands to get another househelp so they lazy around.

Those are stark contrast.

I am so emulshional right now...

Obviously for the d1ck...

This one is just to pass time.

If not that there are now too many greedy/hungry girls who came from equally greedy/hungry families, is it not the bride's family that is supposed to sponsor the traditional marriage rites (entertainment and refreshments) in the first place?

Just tell your friend to tell his wife that her father can sponsor the traditional wedding, it's not a big deal.
He can then use the church/white wedding reception to show himself and show how much of a man he is for the in-laws.

azraeljaheel:
Good afternoon NL
am not really into carwash business but "na condition dey make crayfish bend". I just finished washing a mans car at his house{so it could be called homeservice} and i was paid six hundred naira N600.

how much do you currently wash your car at the car wash?

For going to his house to wash his car, N600 is NOT fair payment. He should have given you at least N1500... Abi is it not transportation you used to get there?

Washing ONLY the exterior of my car at a car wash costs N500–N700, and depending on my mood I can give the guy 1k.

For both interior and exterior, it's N1500.

Washing the AC condenser (with chemical) and engine costs 2k, but it's something you only need to do like once or twice in a year.

Ynix:
It is the nature of all animals to impress females generally, it takes a human that operates beyond the normal carnal (animalistic) nature not to do that

And we are not plenty, unfortunately...

It's the mensurated and mensuration for me...

JONNYSPUTE:
..... The thing tire me too.

It's pathetic...

Alaji1220:
Brother no one is asking for your pity I only ask for advice from reasonable people. You may feel you are wise until you fall into a situation that will make you look fool.

It's a good thing you realize that the situation you're in now is making you look like a fool.

No one wishes to find themselves in your situation, and some of us will NEVER be found in it either way... It's not because we're too wise, but because we have the necessary attitude towards women, especially women like your wife.

Mtcheeeeeeeww...

Pitiful, ball-less, spineless, and full of self-pity...

An advise would be wasted on you.

Did you see any man complaining about this lack of celebration?

Goes to show you what we consider important...

If it was women's/mother's day that wasn't celebrated, you people would have created hashtags and formed another "internet" movement on top.

tensazangetsu20:
The greatest misfortune that can ever befall a man is poverty chei .

The greatest misfortune that can befall a man is being with the wrong woman.

Poverty is nothing compared to that.

ShaqFu:
I won't be surprise those who say the bolded are from the F gender.

Obviously...

Tallesty1:
Dating an idiot kinda makes you an idiot or something lower.

I recently learned from nl that YOU ARE WHAT YOU ATTRACT.

I guess there's some sense there afterall...

sgtponzihater1:
They gave me long list. When I calculated the list then, all the items amounted to 450k. I ask for discount yet nobody look my side. With my 160k salary of those years, and squeeze my face to buy the items on those list. The goat was rejected for being too skinny. At this time no lady, even my own aunty told me we were equal with women. They all asked me to man up and pay for her head.

After I marry she become feminist ontop my head. The same feminist that couldn't warn her people that she is not for sale.

I no blame her, I blame my own aunties, and sister wey follow whine me

Number 7 reason why modern marriages is a scam.

LOL...

Are there any true Nigerian feminists? I highly doubt it.

Mostly SJWs and Snowflakes.

This thread dey sweet me like sugarcane...

@OP, please continue dropping your tidbits... Pay no mind to anyone trying to emotionally blackmail you into keeping shut.

We are in the era of choices and doing whatever makes us happy as long as we're hurting no one.

Ndi choice people need to keep up that same energy all round...

2kurupt:
Naa, I knew this long ago while still catching flings here are there.

It's the litmus test for knowing a truly matured and intelligent lady when it comes to relationships.

Na so..

It's always best to allow these women think they know what they're doing and that they're in control.

As long as you know exactly who they are deep down and what they're capable of, a man will always be safe.