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derrick015:
I am a student of a university in Nigeria studyin Microbiology.
I would like too study medicine immediately after my bsc degree.
I don't know if I can do this before my Nysc.
pls help.

Ok I want to understand you properly.

You're currently studying MCB right?

You would like to study medicine after you must have gotten your Bsc in MCB right?

In as much as I admire your zeal in acquiring knowledge, you should know that everything in life comes with challenges.

Let's see those challenges and know if its really worth it.

1. Sponsorship: If your parents are the ones sponsoring you in your current Microbiology program, I doubt they would spend another money sponsoring you to study medicine for another 6-8 years. If you have a sponsor who is willing to shoulder the responsibilities or you have enough funds to sponsor yourself, no problem.

2. Time factor: Over 70% of Nigerians graduate from the university in their Mid 20s. So let's assume you're in your mid 20s when you graduate, do you think it would be wise to purchase JAMB form and start seeking admission at that age again? Imagine you abandoning you Microbiology certificate and sitting for JAMB at age 26 simply because you want to study medicine, is that really what you want for yourself?

3. JAMB: What if you fail, or you don't reach the cut off mark for your institution, or your result gets sized or missing, what would you do?

4. Alternatives: There are alternatives for you. You can go for Msc upon graduation, then PhD.

The choice is yours.

Good luck.

excellent2013:
My brother work as a security in a water processing company in lagos. he was employed last year sept. on monthly salary of 20k, since oct. its been one story or the other. the factory was closed december but the security were told to be coming for work. all attempt to see the owner of the company have not been successful. how can he recover his money (100k)?

The closure of the company simply means that they're in some kind of debt. Unpaid loans, mismanagement...etc.

I'm sorry about your brother's case, if he can have a face-to-face meeting with the MD of the company, he may just be lucky since he (the MD) is a pastor.

But if the company is truly cash strapped, then his 100k has gone down the drain. He will never be paid.

MizMyColi:
Good Afternoon Nairalanders

I have seen people get help from here; burdens made lighter. I'm confident mine won't be different
I could use varying opinions concerning certain issues I'm facing career wise.
Please no insults, no denigration. I earnestly look forward to your objective contributions.

Brief Background.

Roughly 2.5 years ago, I started work in an industry where I had little or no training. (my first job post NYSC).
However, I had hopes of becoming one of the best, seeing as I had a passion for the job. I had expectations too, in terms of working with a team, learning on the job and achieving new strides. Things haven't particularly panned out that way and I'm not feeling the job anymore. It's not like I'm having any difficulty here (matter of fact, I know people who are willing to be in my shoes), but I feel like I should be doing more at this stage of my life and that is so not happening. I've kinda lost my flair and zeal. Efforts to resuscitate those have proven quite abortive. I don't feel challenged here. I feel so "unbusy"........this has a lot to do with management.


1. I've started nursing ideas of leaving. I am well aware that I have to be sure of a new place before making any in-house move, but I feel like I don't know how I should approach my boss to state my case without brewing hate. Truth is, I feel like I owe him for showing me "the way" and I wouldn't want to come off as being ungrateful.......perhaps I'm being overly emotional?
Question is, incase it happens before or during the time I projected, how do I go about telling him? What do I say?

Its is absolutely normal to want a change of job, probably for reasons ranging from pay to career development etc.

But how you go about it matters a lot.

1. Get the job: In as much as you want a change of environment so badly, you still remain an employee of your boss. Until you get that new job, you still remain their staff.

So my advice to you is that while giving your best to your current place of work, map out time to search rigorously for another job. Never let your job hunting affect your commitment in your current place of work. Keep giving your best until you cease to become a staff of that company.

2 Inform your boss: After you must have gotten the new job, the next step is to inform your boss. Regardless of how well you and your boss get along, he should hear the news from you directly. You should know that casually mentioning your leaving (when you've gotten another job) to a co-worker can create an office wide rumor that may get to him before you break the news to him, causing him to feel disrespected or even misled. Don't disclose your intentions to leave with anyone at work until you've notified your boss.

3. Avoid a resignation letter: from your write up, its safe to say that you work in a private firm, and its also safe to conclude that you have a close relationship with your boss.

Most private firms unlike cooperate firms create a very strong relationship between the employee (your boss) and the employee (you). So in cases like that, I won't suggest you submit a resignation letter. Such in my opinion is unnecessary and may even offend your boss.

MizMyColi:
2. I registered for a professional course. Thankfully, I sponsored myself for part 1 and thankfully I had fine grades. Now is the time for part 2. Our head of accounts hinted me this morning that there are plans to support me this time. My parents have plans to support me too.
She happens to like me a lot (unavoidable emotional attachment) and has ordered me to write an internal memo, detailing expenses incurred during part 1.

Is it proper to tell her No, seeing as I have plans to leave this year?
If I say no, what would be my reason?
If I go ahead and submit the IM, wouldn't it look like I'm playing a fast one on my firm........perhaps, I'm being overly emotional again?

Like someone said earlier, its unwise to accept their sponsorship offer since you know deep down within you that you're planing on leaving. Its absolutely wrong and your boss wouldn't rest until you've paid back every penny the company spent on you for that course.

This brings us to your next question.

MizMyColi:
If I say no, what would be my reason?

Just tell her that your mum has agreed to sponsor you. That's a good reason and I believe she would understand.

MizMyColi:
3rd, And More Important
As a result of my time here, I have discovered my talent/passion lies basically in these fields:

*Administrative Roles
*Account Management and Client Relationship roles
*Public Relations

I have no idea where to start from.
Could you please suggest Quality and Standard firms/companies and their websites possibly, where I can submit an online CV/Covering Letter?

I'd appreciate all the help I can get.
Thank you in anticipation.

Please tag anyone you know that can proffer a way forward.

Thanks again

Banks.
Law firms
Insurance firms
Auditing firms

That should be a good start I believe.

I believe you're a lagos resident, so locating them shouldn't be very difficult for you.

Good luck.

MizMyColi:
What is your take on a friendship where only one of them is permitted to be "honest" and "upfront"?
If the other so much as tries to be as expressive, albeit courteously.....well, that is not even allowed.
Where the party just spews stuffs, and treats you like you're employee or a beneficiary, because they love you and want the best for you.

Then you should ask yourself this simple question "What do I stand to gain by remaining friends with smeone who doesn't reciprocate, or friends who treat you with disdain"?

I think its absurd staying in a friendship where one party feel like he's doing the other party a favour.

Friendship in my understanding is all about mutual respect, and freedom of expression. If you respect someone, you would respect his/her decisions. You wouldn't try to dictate or try to control his/her life.

Friendship means being honest and upfront with each other.

No matter what decisions you make in life, a true friend will let you know what he/she thinks, but still stand by your decision.

Friendship means keeping away from backbiting. A true friend wouldn't say bad about you behind your back, rather they would defend you when you are not capable of defending yourself.

They stand by you during the tough times, and darkest of hours. They do these things and so much more.

Such attitude existis mostly among africians.

chibic:
But if the woman is making a considerable amount of money,why won't she help?..what is her money for? Make ups and clothes? Spending money on her kids should be a problem? But it is right for the man to spend all his money even when he is making a pea nut amount.women loves to anounce to the whole world whenever they spend a penny on their familly. If a man starts a busines for his wife and she eventually starts making good money from it,why won't she help out financially? Or maybe the husband sent her to school and took care of her till she graduated and get job,still she will expect to go to her grave with all the money she makes.I thought women wants equality but when it comes to responsibilities,they'll remind you that its a man's job. Only a house wife should complain if the man is not taking 100% care of his financial responsibilities.but as for working class or business women..shut the ffuck up you selfish beings!!!

You're getting it all wrong bro.

Read my original post again...we're talking about when the man deliberately shy away from his responsibilities thereby leaving the weight of the family on the shoulders of the woman, and not a situation where a woman settles a petty responsibilities and starts telling everyone that cares to listen.

Jackeeh:
You cousin is lucky. I watched my mum cry severally cos of the embarrassment she received from my dad. I watched how my dad would cross certain things off the market list to reduce the little amount needed for feeding. It got so bad that I'd go to my dad's superstore to steal cash just so my mum could have some money in her purse( that I'm not proud of). She was just a secondary school teacher then. My dad has never bought anything for my mum. She worked hard, got promoted , became an academic supervisor etc. Fast forward to 2014: she retired n received her gratuity. Meanwhile dad who was a rich banker then, lost his job n was duped in a business deal he ventured into. Now mum is the one in charge. No more tears. She now runs the show. The jeep she bought, dad drives it. Everywhere they go, mum tells whoever cares tho listen that dad bought the car n not her. She has begun her building project n will soon become a landlady. She doesn't hesitate to give whenever dad needs cash. She has forgotten how it was. She has forgotten how this same man who is greatly benefitting from her now, used to abuse her n call her lazy n a liability. Lol. Now who's the liability? She doesn't hide her money from her "beloved'' husband. I get mad at times n wished she would retaliate. But my mum would have none of that. She now has more thasn enough wrappers n jewellries. No more tears. Hmmmmmmmmm I believe that's how marriage should be. So pls advise your cousin to do what she can. She's even blessed with money n can comfortably provide for herself n kids. If need be,let her do same for her husband. Things will change for the best someday. And of course, now that mum has some money, dad is not even contributing a dime anymore. Lol. Mum still believes he will change some day. But as we wait for that day to come, mum is smoothly running the home n everyone is happy.

Of a truth your mum is truly a rare breed. If it were most women, you dad would have probably been squatting with a relative living from hand to mouth.

She's truly special.

kallmemrB:
Africa is full of crazy leaders.....why do they still need this civilian Task Force when u have joint Army from 5diff countries.....

How many of the soldiers fighting that war are Northerners? And how many of the Northerners amongst them are from brono state?
They need the civilian Task force because the civilians know the terrain better than the military. Its their state, its there village its their land. You cannot win any domestic war without involving the locals. They are the once would give you the exact geography of the area.

Daresh:
I have to say thank God for my husband o! For all the foolish things he has done in our married lives he has never pushed the financial burden to me. I know he will even wash plates and clean toilets sef to make sure we are catered for.

You're lucky then...most women would gladly trade places just to have a man like yours.

spartoo:
wch men?

Read the topic

xynerise:
Let her ask him what he has been doing with his money

You don't know some men, they'll just come up and lie about one invisible business they're into. And the poor woman would have no choice than to believe him.

A very good morning to you all, and I'm guessing you all had a great weekend.

I was with a female cousin of mine yesterday (married) and she was lamenting to me how her has husband has annoyingly stopped giving her money for the upkeep of the family.

She said she now has to hide her money from him most times cos whenever he discovers she has any, he distances himself from any form of financial responsibilities that concerns the family.

The reason when I inquired started fully when she handed over a cheque from her personal account to the caretaker in regards to their rent.

She said she and her husband had a discussion the night before, and he promised her that she would be reimbursed if she settles the rent, but changed suddenly when she paid the money.

Now that I've paid the rent, he doesn't drop a penny in the house she told me. She's the one practically shouldering all the financial responsibilities. Ranging from their kids expenses to kitchen expenses to house expenses which include NEPA bills, purchase of water for their geepee tank...etc.

According to her, she only has a rough idea of what her husband earns and very little idea of what he spends it on.

I know some men are irresponsible but this case supersedes irresponsibility. I prefer to tag the man an over grown baby. Someone who has refused to mature.

As a man I believe its your responsibility to provide for your family regardless of the kind of job your wife does. You wife is there for support and not for you to abandon your responsibilities for. Every man should always bear that in mind.

What do you guys think?

reality777:
THE PRAYERS WHERE NOT COPIED FROM 70 DAYS FAST 2015. THEY ARE COMPLETE AS THEY ARE. JUST PRAY OUT YOUR DELIVERANCE WITH SERIOUS 6A.M-6P.M FAST OR 6A.M-3P.M FAST DAILY FOR 21 DAYS.

Ok

Thanks.

bingbagbo:
Genesis 18:2 which says, “Abraham looked up and saw three men standing nearby.”

Who were these men?

Your question was answered in verse 1 of genesis 18. I wonder why you skipped it.

Did you copy it from MFM 70 days fasting (2015 edition) if yes, please post the full prayer points here, I would print them out and pray with it.

Thanks.

asala1:
Lol! You are funny. You think crazy things no wonder you moniker. I rather eat the chicken with the demon.

That wouldn't be wise dear friend.

Henrolla:
lolzz... he might just b dead b4 d final 'Amen '

Its expected...he has to be dead to this world so the demon can leave his body paving way for christ to inhabit it.

asala1:
Church is boring to me now, I find it hard to stay awake in church. I went to church today after a longtime and I found it extremely boring, I had to start using my phone to save my life.

You are under marine bondage, anyone that sleeps during a church service is under marine bondage. But fear not cos I can deliver you.

In order for me to do so, you must bring the following items when coming to my shrine.

1) One cane or horse whip
2) Broom
3) White chalk
4) Assorted candles of different colours
5) One bag of salt
6) One white cock
7) Food items

In no particular order, the cane or horse whip will be used in flogging that marine demon out of thee, the broom shall be used in sweeping whatever thing that comes out of your body as a result of the flogging, the white chalk shall be used to paint thine eyes and draw dots on thine face so as to scare away the demon, the candles shall shall be used to lit up the dark room.

The salt shall be used to sprinkle on thy wound which thee sustained during the flogging, ye shall experience pain, but the demon in thee shall receive a double of whatever pain ye shall experience.

The blood of the cock shall be sprinkled on the ground as a means of sacrifice.

Lastly, ye shall eat the food of thine labour and shall no longer sleep during service after the demon has be casted away from thee.

Tarry not while its day for the night cometh when no man shall see...I await thee in my shrine.

Signed

Concerned friend

Generals02:
Very nice. Your believe has set you free today. So I break every yoke of craziness from you now!

From this moment you shall nolonger be known by the moniker crazyman. I change it to WISEMAN by fire.

Lol...the change will take effect from today henceforth.

Salvation is found in Christ.

John 3:16. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life

God gave His Son so that we may have eternal life, thus destroying the need of good works, including going to church, to go to heaven. Eternal life is attained by faith alone in Christ alone.

See also..

1 John 5:12. “He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life”

Those who believe in Christ, who have accepted His sacrifice in payment of their sins, will spend eternity in heaven. Those who reject Him will not.

To your question No amount of church attendance will earn you eternity in heaven, and no lack of church attendance will result in the loss of your salvation. However, church attendance is important.

Not just deeper life...they don't visit MFM also.

2 Kings 2:13-14. 13 Elisha then picked up Elijah's cloak that had fallen from him and went back and stood on the bank of the Jordan. 14 He took the cloak that had fallen from Elijah and struck the water with it. "Where now is the LORD, the God of Elijah?" he asked. When he struck the water, it divided to the right and to the left, and he crossed over.

Note: Elijah was like a senior pastor to Elisha. Elisha saw the many wonders God did through Elijah and also saw how God delivered him (Elijah) from death on countless occasions.

Elisha became convinced that his master's God was the one true God unlike baal of the covenant which the children of Israel worshiped.

Genesis 24:12. 12 Then he prayed, "LORD, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham.

In this second passage we see Abraham's servant praying to his master's God. The servant was convinced beyond any reasonable doubt that his master was serving a living God

Why? Abraham was blessed by God. The servant saw his master's wealth, saw all that he had achieved and must have said deep within himself that of a truth my master is serving a living God.

Finally, when you're blessed, those around you would also be blessed. It is safe to say that the servant also amassed great wealth courtesy of God's favour upon his master.


Genesis 32:9. 9 Then Jacob prayed, "O God of my father Abraham, God of my father Isaac, LORD, you who said to me, 'Go back to your country and your relatives, and I will make you prosper,'

Jacob saw the miraculous things God did in the life of his grand father Abraham and his father Isaac.

He knew that only a living God can open the womb of a woman of over 80 years of age.

He made up his mind to serve that God...hence his prayer in the above passage.


I don't believe its wrong to pray and mention the name of your spiritual father, most especially when you're convinced that he's genuinely serving God.

Bobbysworld28:
Sorry sir, this is a useless question. Pls come and ask us later if buying foodstuff from the market is a sin, putting money in banks is a sin etc.

Good answer

I believe what a christian needs is God's grace upon his life, consideriding the magnitude of sins we comit on a daily basis. Cos if God should judge our inquities daily, who would be left to stand before him?

Good message.

Religion has brought more evil and bloodshed to mankind than good...the world would be a better place without it.

Yokiti:
Hmnn! Ogbeche77 and Crazyman need to see this.

I totally agree with that dude...I'm hoping that things would get better next season. That is after we come third (and qualify for UCL) then lift the FA cup.

Hopefully, we would improve especially in away matches.

sweetcocoa:
Wow! You are the male version of me, my lover can have my password if he asks but if I sense that he's asking because he doesn't trust me, then I highly likely won't give him, he should respect my wishes just like I should his, I don't like men with unattractive traits like, too much possessiveness and controlling nature, these kind of people are the ones who think like the OP , and I honestly believe they have no self confidence and are a turn off.

At last someone understands me...maturity and trust is what keeps marriages going. The moment childishness and mistrust creeps in, that marriage is bound to collapse.

mirexxx:
why hide your passwords from your spouse 4 no reason??

Like I stated earlier, my passwords belong to me, and if I decide to keep them to myself, then she must respect that.

Second how does keeping passwords to confidential mails translates to I'm cheating on her? Childishness is what is killing marriages these days. You want to know every move your husband makes, eveasdropping on his calls, even going through his laptop when he's in the bathroom...etc. That attitude alone shows that there's no trust in that marriage. And if not properly checked, believe me, that marriage would collapse.

mirexxx:
nobody said u are are sex machine if your wife refuse 2 have sex with u for 3weeks i know u'all start being suspicious

No woman I paid bride price for can deny me sex for 3weeks for no good reason. 2 nights alone and she must tell me what the hell her problem is.

If her problem is worth waiting for three weeks (could be medical, religious related...etc) then I would respect her decision and wait...if it isn't, then we would sort ourselves out there and then and continue our sexual life.

mirexxx:
me thinks if u are married there's no point keeping anything from her. simple!

Me thinks if you don't want malice, hatred, anger...etc to crawl into your marriage, you must learn to trust your husband and respect whatever decision he makes.

If he's playing his role as a good husband, of what use is his password or any other irrelevant thing to you? I believe you should also play your role as a good wife and stop allowing the devil plant unnecessary suspicion through you in that marriage.

ToyozzieTohBad:
1.5 Billion Serves them right!...dere are slower than two snails self.. The way they willl delay you if enter the bank ehn.. You may end up withdrawing you sin

You just spoke my mind...Very silly and frustrating bank, to clear cheque problem, to collect western union problem...they can delay you for up to 3 hours all in the name of no network. But if its to debit your account for their silly alerts, their network becomes one of the fastest in Africa.

mirexxx:
The 7 behaviors most likely to cause suspicion in marriages and relationships


1. Having one, or even a few, very, very close
friends of the opposite sex.

True...as a married person, its unwise to have close friendships/relationships with members of the opposite sex.

mirexxx:
2. Keeping passwords to social media, email,
computer log-ins, etc. a secret from your
spouse.

My passwords to my emails, computer log-ins, social media are my business. If I decide to keep them to myself, she has to respect my decision...this is where trust comes in. If you trust your spouse, then those things should be the least of your worries.

mirexxx:
3. Shutting down browsers quickly when someone enters the room.

Hmmm...True

mirexxx:
4. Refusing to have sex on a consistent basis.

Do I look like a sex machine? If I'm tired, she has to respect that biko...

mirexxx:
5. Maintaining multiple email addresses for no
explainable reason.

If I decide to operate a thousand emails, how is that anyone's problem? (my spouse inclusive) provided I'm playing my roles as a husband my dozen or thousand emails should be the least of her worries.

mirexxx:
6. Withdrawing or transferring unexplained amounts from your bank account.

Provided it wasn't from a joint account managed by both of us. Whatever amount I withdraw from my personal account remains my business and my business alone.

mirexxx:
7. Insisting on maintaining separate bank accounts to which you and your spouse do not have equal access.

If I decide not to have a joint account, I have my reasons.

In marriages, every partner's opinion must be respected. If you force your principles down the throat of your partner, he or she might just walk out of that marriage as a result of suffocation.