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cooluc:
I decided to speak on this topic because it cut across all age group sex race religion the rich and the poor. It seems to focus on the inner peace that envelops one whether you are living in affluence or not. It is contagious in the sense that it radiates and affects the people around you both friends and foes positively. This state of mind can only be achieved when you abide by the word of God and thus you are at peace with your conscience. Even if there is a derail somehow quickly retrace your steps, ask for forgiveness in other to maintain this state.

Good write up

This is where the saying "As you lay you bed, so shall you lie on it" comes to mind.

If you walk in on your daughter in such position in broad day light right in front of your house, then you've failed as a parent.

daviyjones:
When a girl sleep with other guys, it is certain his Bf is breaking up, why ? Is it reading meter? No! Is because you caught her.

Guys need to live with girls sharing their body after all you are not married yet. A girl got to do what she got to do to survive.

What if she stays with you alone? Can you pay her bills ,satisfy her sexually? Some guys can't even buy make-up kit for a week.

they will go about saying hoes aint loyal.
Sorry guys no list this time.

If you think part of your duty as a guy is to foot the bills of your girl and attend to her domestic needs, then you have no idea of what relationship is all about.

A girl who cannot replace her make up kit and feels its the duty of her guy to do so is as lazy as she is stupid and would forever remain a sex machine who no one takes seriously.

I for instance cannot date a girl who cannot prove to me that she's independent. I've gone past the stage where I'll recharge your phone, give you money for hair, make-up-kit, money for shopping...etc. What do I get in return? Sex? There are hundreds of girls out there who can provide me sex with very little stress. So why go all through all the trouble?

If you want a guy to take you seriously as a girl, then you should look inward and ask yourself what exactly the guy stands to benefit from dating you. And the answer is simple. As a girl, you should be as independent as possible, pursue your career and succeed as a single girl. And believe me any man who encounters you would go the extra mile to have you all for himself. Why? Cos you've proven to him that you're not some lazy cheap selfish slut who thinks relationship is all about her needs, her desires...etc. It should be about what you two can do for each other and not what only you should be doing for her.

So my dear op I would advise you to detest from that mentality of you providing for a girls needs. That's the duty of her parents. And when she comes of age, it becomes her duty to provide for herself not you. You should be seen as a compliment in her life and not a relief.

Octaves:
I get what you're saying. It's like he's there with one leg in one leg out. He's keenly looking for another job. Hopefully he will quit soon.

Good...I wish him the best of luck.

Send that request to the mods in this (education) section. They would delete your thread for you. I moderate NYSC section not education. So I don't have enough permissions to delete a thread in education section.

Just thank God that at least you survived. May the soul of that old woman rest in peace.

"Inferiority complex" that's what you're suffering from.

You should start believing in yourself. Stop placing yourself below everyone.

Being shy is a weakness, and believe me if you don't over come it now, its gonna cost you a lot in future cos no client would hire the service of a lawyer who's suffering from inferiority complex.

Octaves:
No offence, but Do you have another ready for him.

Its much better to be an unemployed free man than to be a slave. This is the 21st century in case you're not aware, slave trade has been abolished so no one boss or not has the right to force anybody to do things against his will, issue threats and go on to carry out those threats should you decide not to give into slavery.

I read a thread on this section few weeks ago where a guy lost his job simply because he refused to carry his boss handbag. He knew that bag carrying wasn't part of the job description, so he stood his ground and refused to become someone's errand boy. How much more your friend, whom his boss has practically turned to a slave...tell him to stand his ground.

Yes we all need jobs, but jobs shouldn't cost us our freedom. I cannot work in any organisation where my rights as a human is constantly being violated.

That's slavery, cos I doubt if working as a church cleaner was part of the agreement when he took the job.

Every Nigerian has rights, and those rights must be respected. Its high time we stop enslaving ourselves all in the name of hussling for daily bread.

Tell him to quit that job asap.

MercyMercy:
I did not study Pharmacy but Cell Biology and Genetics. I love things about health. Being a Medical Doctor was my aim but cut-off marks after three attempts made me go for an alternative course. Now that I am out of sch, I still av this passion for health.
Pls people, what will it take me to own a Pharmacy?

The answer to your question depends on a number of factors. Where did you get your degree in Cell Biology? How long have you practiced? You would also need to show your NYSC discharge certificate or exemption certificate depending along with your degree certificate (of course) and then pay the required fees and you'll be registered. If you are really serious about it, Whenever you are in Abuja, a visit to the Pharmacist's Council will give you more specific details.

Good luck.

Ayjos10:
Dear nairalanders,i am a 200l nursing student in one of the nigerian universities but the truth is,i dont have a sense of belonging their.Heard people talk about future ambition,how it makes them happy but i actually think nursing can never make me happy and neither can any health course.. PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP ON HOW TO KNOW MY FUTURE AMBITION

@bolded.
What's your future ambition?
Surely you can't expect us to know that. But if you tell us, we would certainly know how to advice you.

I'm sure that you know that building a house in Nigeria today most especially in a town is quite expensive. As for the warehouse, that's also a good idea, but it requires a huge capital as well.

If you intend to start with very little capital, then car wash is your best option. All you need is a space to rent in a very good location (bus stop preferably) and you're in business. In Onitsha most car wash operators make between 6-10k daily, reason is that they locate their business (car wash) close to transportation companies, so there will always be customers come rain come shine. I believe if you do the same for yours you'll have cause to smile.

Good luck.

Caracta:
*off-topic*

You can send the messages now. I'm back.

Thanks

Done

koonbey:
Wikipedia has regulations guiding the inclusion of articles about people ,especially living people... so as to avoid any sorts going to put up articles of themselves you know.

I would also like to know...do they charge people for publishing articles about them, if yes how is it like?

Join the general room. If every student decides to create a thread inviting members of his alamata to join him, believe me there won't be enough room for other topics on this board.

https://www.nairaland.com/1895871/prospective-nysc-2015-batch

funkyjms:
cc: yokiti, CrazyMan , Ogbeche77

This n'der quoted my post which includes my digits. Kindly remove my number from his post.
https://www.nairaland.com/1835381/batch-b-2014-osun-corpers/53#26515817

I contacted the n'der offline as I know him personally, he told me he can't access his account again, not even his mail box to recover the password.

Done

The incoming administration should not use their victory to settle scores, rather they should use it to unite this nation.

Appointments should be made based on merit, integrity...etc, and not based on past grudges with a particular ethnic group.

Truth is Nigeria cannot move forward if we embrace a particular ethnic group and castigate another.

Buhari said it times without number that he's government is going into intensive restructuring of the nations power, academic, sport, agriculture...etc sector. And to achieve this, we have to be united and work together.

To those who said igbos betrayed the yorubas, you should know that this is democracy, every one has the right to vote whoever he wishes to vote. We joined forces with the south west in 2011 to install GEJ but he failed us. Unfortunately most south easterners preferred to give him a second chance rather than embrace change. It was their choice. The media should stop making it look as if we committed a great sin by voting GEJ.

To my fellow igbos. Well I've said this and I will say it again. Jonathan's administration was of no benefit to the south east. It only enriched a few of our leaders, but had no positive impact on the majority; its time we unite and embrace the new administration.

I will be viewing from the sidelines as I've done in all previous contests.

I wish all the contestants the best of luck.

PeeJY:
Crazyman pls how do I send my information across to you, your email of sometin. I want to change my username.

You have just 6 posts. I would advise that you register a new account and forget about this particular account.

Good luck.

The problem with most students is that they study under pressure.

Follow your lecturers material, make sure you don't miss any class. If you have any questions ask the lecturer I'm sure he would explain much better to your understand.

Also you can form a study group amongst willing members of your department. You study together, solve difficult problems together, and you can even set quiz for yourselves. With that kind of competition between you and your colleagues, I believe your reading and understanding skills would awaken.

Good luck.

lonelydora:
Shooting renting air in my own Ohafia, when I have my Isreali-made Tavor sniper rifle? I did not hear or see any shooting in Ohafia that day. Maybe it's in Arochukwu.

Onye Ohafia kaa o

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The perception of the personality you project during the short period of an interview goes a long way in determining your success or failure at that interview. If you express some trails or thoughts that suggest your unsuitability for the job, you may not have the opportunity of correcting that impression after interviewers might have recorded marks for you. It is therefore better to avoid some negative traits or impression which may reduce your chances of being selected.

Let's look at those Negative traits:

1. Never Go Late For An Interview: For whatever reason, its advisable to avoid getting to the interview late. It does not portray you as a serious and organised candidate. You should organise your schedule such that you arrive at the venue not less than 30 minutes before the commencement of the interview.

Apart from the interviewers impression, you should avoid putting your nerves under pressure by arriving late for the interview. Arriving early ensures that you're mentally and psychologically relaxed before the start of the interview. Apparently, you're likely to project a better image of yourself under this condition.

2. Avoiding Projecting Negative Self Image: Some candidates try to evoke sympathy for themselves by projecting negative self-image. "I am the first born in a family of ten." "My father and mother are dead." "I am the only one responsible for providing for my younger ones." It is the belief of such candidates that this kind of information should move the interviewers to select them for the job.

This approach is not likely to help candidates applying for professional or career positions. The interviewers may be sympathetic, but selection criteria are not likely to be best because of such sentimental stories. The fact is, the organisation is interested in candidates who are able and willing to provide solutions to some of their problems. It is better for candidates to arm themselves with facts and figures that will show that they can be of benefit to the organisation. This approach has always worked!

3. Never Give False Information: Even though you're not supposed to give negative information about yourself, giving false information is even more dangerous. Unknown to you, some facts may be checked. Also the new information you have may be contradictory to what you sent earlier in your curriculum vitae.

As soon as it becomes apparent that a candidate is presenting contradictory information, the interviewers become weary of such candidate. Trust is very important in employer-employee relationship. If there is any doubt as to the trustworthiness of a candidate, his chances of being selected becomes very low. This is irrespective of how good the candidate's performance have been. Truth is consistent and easy to remember, it makes your chances better.

4. Do Not Project Idle Impression Of Yourself: A very common interview question is: What have you been engaged in since you graduated Bleep years ago? Some candidates respond to this question as thus, "NOTHING" or "I've not been able to get anywhere to work." Hoping that this answer may enhance their chances of being selected. Unfortunately, this often brings about the exact opposite effect.

Let's look at it this way. Suppose you went to grocery store and you saw a particular brand of soap covered with dust and worn out packaging resulting from long standing on the shelf. Chances are that you would avoid buying such product.

Same thing goes for employers. They want candidates that are hard working and full of initiatives. Even if you've not been employed since graduation, you should be able to mention tangible progressive activities that has kept you busy. If you're currently employed, you should make it clear that you have a busy schedule. You should both agree on a convenient date and time for subsequent interviews if necessary. Creating an impression of idleness does not only reduce your chances of selection, it cheapens you and strengthens your employer when it comes to negotiation.

5. Do Not Project "No Choice" Or Desperate Impression: Its not advisable to present yourself as a desperate candidate without another choice apart from the interview you're undergoing. This kind of attitude cheapens you and may even irritate some employers. The fact is that "you always have a choice".

If you don't get this job, you're likely to get a better one later. You should therefore carry yourself with grace and respect. It should be clear to you by now that you're not a beggar. You have some skills and ability to provide solutions to problems in specific areas of the organisation. Both parties therefore have something to benefit if the relationship is consummated.

6. Avoid Presenting Contradictory Goals of Interest: Consider the following responses in an interview in which a consulting firm is considering some experienced graduates to join its management team. The candidates are asked this question. "What is your plan in the next five years from now?

Three of the candidates gave the following responses...

Candidate 1. "My goal is to become a university lecturer, but pending my postgraduate admission, I want to get a job that will help me survive.

Candidate 2. "My ultimate goal is to end up as an animal farmer, I love farming, but right now, I intend to gather some money to get settled in lagos.

Candidate 3. "I intend to end up as an American citizen, but I need money for the processing of my documents.

The response of these candidates have shown that they do not have the long term interest of the organisation in focus. They're simply using their employment as a stepping stone to achieve their own selfish goal. Most employers would not select such candidates however good their performance may have been.

In as much as it isn't good for you to tell lies about your future plans, you should have the organisation in focus when responding to questions of this nature. Since all of those wishes are still in future, a lot of factors may still change the actual goals you have. You should therefore not allow unrealistic dreams to affect your present opportunity to develop a career.

7. Avoid Arguments: In as much as you can disagree with some opinions of the interviewers and express your own independent opinion, it is not advisable to engage in any form of argument for whatever reason. Arguments build up tension and put the two parties under pressure. Each person's ego is at stake. And there may not be any change of opinion from either party irrespective of who wins the argument.

You may succeed in winning the argument, but eventually loose the job opportunity. This is because, if the personal egos of some of the interviewers have been hurt in the process of argument, they may go to any length to ensure that you do not get the job.

The rule of the thumb is: "accept the interviewer's opinion, acknowledge the fact that it may be valid, then express your own opinion giving reasons why you take that position.'

8. Never Loose Your Temper, No Matter The Pressure: Some questions are sometimes designed to watch how you would react under pressure or how you can manage your temper. There was this story of a Nigerian studying for his masters degree in the UK. He graduated with a first class degree from ABU in Nigeria. He was invited for a very lucrative international job interview which would require good interpersonal relationship skills.

The interviewers put his temper to test by asking him this question: "We understand that ABU is one of the mushroom colleges in Nigeria. Is that true? The candidate was so angry and gave his response: "Whoever told you that must be very stupid. And for you to believe such trash only shows how daft you really are. In fact, I'm not supposed to be talking to empty heads like you people. Good bye!

9. Never Portray Negative Impression About Your Former/Current Employer: A common interview question is: "Why do you want to leave your current Job?" In answering this kind of question it is not advisable for prospective employees to portray their current employers negatively. When you portray a bad impression of your current employer, you're sending a signal of disloyalty to your interviewers. The implication of this is that you may say worse things about their company in future when you're leaving.

Also, you would have succeeded in exposing the fact that you're under pressure to leave your current job. Which means your negotiation power is relatively low.

Finally, any of your interviewers may have vested interest in your current organisation. Therefore, you may loose the opportunity for the new job, and set yourself on fire in your current job!

Therefore, its better for you to concentrate more on why you want the new job, than why you want to leave the current one. That way you'll always be on the positive side.

Source May 2000 edition of Success Digest magazine

Mayosky15754:
@ mymadam,
The post is yet to be filled up.
Thanks for your response.

That's because they're yet to find a suitable candidate for that post. If any of the ones they interviewed met their requirements, that post would have been filled long ago.

5 weeks is too long; that's over a month. If they needed someone urgently to fill up that spot, why keep silent for 5 weeks when you can just tell the candidate to resume immediately?

Secondly the HR is a very polite person. Most HR's don't accept calls from prospective employee's unless of course you know them personally. For her to be the one doing the calling after 5 weeks show that the gap which they company were intending to fill has already been filled. If I were her, I would just remove my mind from that place and continue my job hunt elsewhere.

Cost of production in Nigeria is so high bro. Someone was telling me last week that most factories spend up to 30% or more of their monthly income on power. No thanks to PHCN or whatever their name is. That's why most factories find it difficult to increase the salaries of their staffs.

You can always look for a much better job, but I wouldn't suggest that you leave your current job unless you've found somewhere else with a much better pay. Its better to have an assured peanuts at the end of every month, than to sit ideal at home with no hope of income.

Good luck.

Six million is nothing compared to the stress I went through to acquire that certificate and also the fortune it (my certificate) would fetch me.

simple4generall:
Really don't knw what to do, am just confuse, I just finish National diploma elect/elect last year,n am 24 already. Pls advise me should I collect hnd form or go for direct entry in university. Pls don't mind my grammatical errors ur advise is d most important.

If you ask me, I'd say get a job with your ND certificate, then apply for HND part-time.

Reason is that your chances of gaining admission through direct entry is very slim cos the institution would first consider its diploma students before paying attention to you guys who are coming through DE.
But if you decide to run a part-time HND program, you would have enough time to use your ND certificate to look for a job to support yourself.

I wish you the best.

fellis:
The man would never have let me go if I had formally requested for resignation, he was running an upcoming business and needed as many hands on deck as possible.
I got a far better paying and less stressful job elsewhere so I had to leave.
I regret my actions though.

Well we all have to move on some day but how we go about it matters a lot.

I'm glad you found somewhere with a much better pay and also less stressful. But please for the sake of your reputation in future, if you decide to move on for reasons best known to you in this your new job, inform your boss and your colleagues.

The last place I worked after informing my boss and colleagues about my leaving, I bought malt and meat pie shared with my co workers even my boss wasn't left out in the grand sentforth. Some people might say I went too far, but I have my reasons. This world is a very small place, you can never know who you'll meet tomorrow.

fellis:
How he reacted?
I dunno lol, I knew the man would not have taken my unexpected resignation lightly so I just sent him a resignation text the night before and never returned to work after that.
Like a goddam coward.

That's deadly.

Resignation isn't supposed to make you enemies with your former employer, regardless of how uncomfortable you felt when working with them. A good resignation should build your friendship so should in case you happen to meet each other elsewhere, he can always attest to you as a worthy staff.

crespola:
Ma boss was lyk, why do u have 2 do this? Is it because I didn't sack u?

You must have been a very unproductive staff. Looks like your boss was just managing you hence that statement.

njays24:
When I tendered my resignation,my MD was shocked that he refused to accept my letter. He promised to increase my pay by 100%,and said he was not ready to lose me as I was one of his best staff, but I still insisted on leaving. The reason I had the courage to stand my ground was because my siblings and I started a family business.

@bolded
That was a great offer. Why did you leave?

If I were you, I would have accepted the new offer and stayed back. As for the family business, I would contribute my own share to the family business, and leave it in the hands of another sibling to be in charge of while I continue my job.

That would mean two sources of income for me. With that, no doubt I should be able to take care of all my needs.