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Politics › Re: Fulani Herdsmen Killings An Invitation For Civil War - Benue APC Chairman by Daboomb: 12:53pm On Jan 03, 2018

temptnow:
oga keep quiet, haven't you received your salary cheque? As a Zombie. We stand for one Nigeria Benue plateau state must suffer it for being stupidd in the last election

gidgiddy:
I have sympathy whatsoever.

These are the people who supported this government with operation python dance and IPOB being declared terrorists while Fulani killers are just criminals

Your statement epitomise what is WRONG WITH MOST NIGERIANS, especially people of Igbo extraction!

For people like you, every problem is an OPPORTUNITY FOR REVENGE, EVEN WHEN THE PROBLEM AFFECTS YOU NEGATIVELY!

Tommorow, if this same Herdsmen come to your village and slaughter everybody, you will be the first to CRY OUT AND EXPECT OTHER NIGERIANS TO RALLY ROUND!
You should stop "cutting-off your Nose, just to spite your face".

Learn to 'rise-above' short-term, paroic personal interest and think more about "the common-good".
The common-good here is that the terrorist Fulani Herdsmen ARE EVERYBODY'S ENEMY, whether you are IPOB, Afonja, Benue, South/South, e.t.c, the Herdsmen will murder you as long as they want your village.

You can, with WISODM, decide to first chase away the Fox ,... then come back to admonish the errant chicken".
What you are doing now, amounts to saying: Let the Fox eat the chickens afterall, it did not listen to instruction not to go out"!
With that, at the end of the day, you wont have any chickens left... and you will be the NEXT MEAL of the Fox~! undecided

Thisis a Proverb so dont interprete it literally.

Reflect on these things for a minute, before you come back with more anger. undecided

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Politics › Re: Fulani Herdsmen Killings An Invitation For Civil War - Benue APC Chairman by Daboomb: 12:43pm On Jan 03, 2018

stephanie11:
@POLITICSNGR

The Benue State chairman of the ruling All Progressive Congress, APC, Comrade Abba Yaro has described the massive killing of over 50 Benue people by the Fulani herdsmen as an invitation for Civil War.

In a Statement issued in Abuja, Yaro decried the recent killings as an attempt to spark second civil war in Nigeria, insisting that, it is clear case of ethnic cleansing around the Benue Valley which must be stopped immediately.

While calling on President Muhammadu Buhari to immediately call the Fulani to order and as well direct security agents to fetch out the killers, he also called on all Benue Sons and daughters, irrespective of Party affiliation to rise in defence of Benue Community.

"This is above Party politics, it is human lives, how can you kill a pregnant woman and removed the unborn child yet slaughtered it? It is barbaric, unspeakable and generally unpalatable".

Yaro says the Anti Open Grazing Law in Benue is not targeted at any section of the people but for the general security of Benue State, a measure against cattle rustling and a solution to herders/farmers clash.

"The implementation is ongoing and we are in support of our governor, we are not deterred, the Anti Open Grazing Law has come to stay.

"Nigerians should not see the killings as a Benue problem but National crisis, the absence of peace in Benue is an absence of peace in Nigeria.

"We must treat it as a national ethnic cleansing by the Fulanis and collectively pressurize Mr President to put an end to it. If Boko Haram can be defeated, IPOB stopped, Fulani killings can be stopped", he observed.

He further call on the Chief of Army Staff, Lt Gen Buratai, the Interior Minister Lt Gen[b] Danbazau[/b], the Director General of the Department of State Services (DSS), Lawal Daura, the Inspector General of Police Ibrahim Idris to protect Benue community or "we rise in self-defense, which will amount to the second civil war."

Yaro emphasized that "if the Fulanis are not called to order by the relevant authorities to stop the ethnic cleansing like the lawless Fulanis are doing, Benue people shall take laws into their hands in self-defense".

https://politicsngr.com/2018/01/03/fulani-herdsmen-killings-invitation-civil-war-benue-apc-chairman/

This is the kind of "leaders" l like, this Yaro of a man!
Indeed, this matter is Ethnic Cleanising and a punishment for the passing of the open-grazing Bill, by the Benue Assembly.

The matter is a BIG PROBLEM that MUSt concern ALL NIGERIANS because these murderous FULANI Herdsmen would not stop in Benue alone, they will 'ethnic cleanse till they reach down to the very Lagoon of lagos".....unless Nigerians act fast, defend and protect themselves

All Nigerians, irrespective of religion, Party of Ethnic bias, MUST RISE UP and CHALLENGE these Terrorist herdsmen.

If you notice, the bolded NAMES OF ALL HEADS OF SECURITY AGENCIES APPOINTED BY BUHARI ....are Potential Fulani herdsmen themselves hence their DO-NOTHING ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE PROBLEM.

As it is, President Buhari and his Security Chiefs, by being COMPLACENT AND CONNIVING WITH THESE TERRORIST, IS ASKING OTHER NIGERIANS TO TAKE LAWS INTO THEIR OWN HANDS AND DEFEND THEMSELVES!
The "Right to Life" is a fundamental human Right that cannot be taken away by any terrorist group like the FULANI Herdsmen and the OPPRESSED People have a FULL RIGHT TO SELF DEFENSE!

People should "organise, mobilise, strategise and arm themselves in SELF DEFENSE.
IF the "Buhari's Herdsmen" Army, Police, DSS cannot and will not protect the people from terrorist herdsmen, the People MUST protect and defend themselves.

And may God punish ANYONE, from any Party, that Votes-in Buhari for a second term, including me that voted him in 2015 is and used to be his ardent supporter.
I am not advocating replacing him with another "Looter" (from PDP or APC or any other party), l am just saying this time, it is NEVER BUHARI AGAIN.

Enough is Enough!

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Properties › Re: Tigerkenn Homes, Our Annual Summary Page by Daboomb: 11:04pm On Jan 02, 2018

Spyder, you have done really well and God will continue to lift your hands up in this 2018, IJN.

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Properties › Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Daboomb: 10:46pm On Jan 02, 2018

gbadexy:
You are correct sir, it can cause tears on the skin of both the occupant and visitors when rubbed against. it doesn't really prevent it from dirt.
Some don't like it because reptiles can easily climb it.
To reduce dirt pickup, the wall could be varnished so that it has a sort of shiny nylon lamination that serves as sacrificial coat. Since dirt and grease can stick well on it, it could easily be washed off by rain or soft sponge and mild soap.

This man again, in this 2018! shocked

You are always full of brilliant ideas when it comes to paints and painting issues.
I salute you

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Properties › Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Daboomb: 7:59pm On Jan 02, 2018

gbadexy:
Textured paint have some level of thickness and could fill hairline cracks but I think it's just another type of paint that was in vogue then.
Textured paint tend to be more durable than regular emulsion due to the film thickness on application and is mostly used for external walls but there are emulsion grades that are equally very durable now and more aesthetically pleasing.
Those that had textured paint in their homes are now screeding over it .
I'm of the opinion it's an old school type of paint. it's hardly used in new buildings now.

In Nigeria, the real reason 'most' owners use it is because they know it can hurt people's skin!
Even abroad, they use it on most external walls and just use paint to touch it up occassionally, but very rarely
Just look around and you will see that it is commonly used in areas where people are known to frequent (high traffic areas like staircase areas, Fence, ground floor walls, e.t.c)
See, children and some mischievious adults have this bad habit of rubbing dirt on the walls, wiping their hands on walls, e.t.c.
Let them just try to rub their hands or even allow their body to rub against this textured paint.... Nobody will advice them against it next time! grin

That paint can tear skin nayhow.

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Politics › Re: Fani-Kayode Asked Nigerians To Chase Jonathan Out Of Aso Rock (Throwback) by Daboomb: 7:35pm On Jan 02, 2018

TheHistorian:
Bigotry must have rendered you visually incapable.

It is boldly written on the top left corner of the attached image == SUNDAY TRUST.MARCH 16,2014.

The same hero that has been deified by IPOB yoot was a shameless critic of GEJ before he got his FG (media) appointment.Always running his mouth on tabloids then,look at how he is presently playing on the emotions of IPOB yoot again.

Some people say like Fayose, that Fani-kayode (FFK) is mentally unhinged!
Some say he is their modern day Hero!
Some say he is an Afonja-b@stard while some disagree and in their view, call him the greatest Yoruba man!
Some say he is a PDP attack Dog while some call him an APC attack Dog, depending on who he is abusing!
Some say he was sent by OBJ to attack GEJ, while some said he was sent by GEJ to attack Buhari!
Some say he passed "left-over" Bianca to Ojukwu, the greatest Igbo man that ever lived whil eothers disagree, claiming Ojukwu met Bianca a Virgin!
Some say the current Ibo woman he is flexing, is responsible for a large part of his madness while others claim she actually is the reason why he has not gone completely UNCLAD! grin

Obviously, Yoots on each side will side with him, as long as he is attacking the other side on their behalf but when he is not, they find him reprehensible!
But happily, it seems eveyone agrees that he has DIARRHEA of the Mouth! undecided

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Politics › Re: Buhari Appoints 3 Dead Men As Board Members: Francis Okpozo, Christopher Utov by Daboomb: 6:42am On Dec 31, 2017

TheFreeOne:
These are the real ghost workers

A brain cripple appointing the dead to head the living whilst BMC zombies only gets 30k despite practically residing on social media to defend sai baba mis-goverrnance 24/7

This APC government is a disgrace to governance.

Zombies in the house, is it PDP that inserted dead people into the list of these appointees

Will you just STFU!
Is everything always about Zombie and SaTANoids?

BTW: They did not insert dead people's name into the list.
The people were alive when their name was submitted... but died before the process could be completed and due to incompetence, those who should know and make corrections, decide to go to sleep.

But that does not mean you should be displaying your ignorance and paty/political nuisance all over the place.

Politics › Re: Buhari Appoints 3 Dead Men As Board Members: Francis Okpozo, Christopher Utov by Daboomb: 10:54am On Dec 30, 2017

Dee60:
There were such in any regime in the past. The people died before their names went through the screening! People should just stop hating. There are no perfect persons anywhere. Even with Trump some names were withdrawn just after they were released!

I agree with you that there are no perfect persons anywhere.
I also think your excuse above, is plausible but...

Is it that Buahri cant, ONE DAY TO PUBLICATION OF THE APPROVED NAMES, give the indivuals a Phone call and Congratulate them?
At least that way, he would know the "dead and the alive" ones.

Maybe, just maybe some people want to be collecting their salaries for the next one year first one year, as GHOST WORKERS, before bringing up the issue.

I like Buhari a lot but his mis-yarns are becoming very fatal.

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Politics › Re: Buhari Appoints 3 Dead Men As Board Members: Francis Okpozo, Christopher Utov by Daboomb: 10:50am On Dec 30, 2017

hatchy:
This is a confirmation that this man is a Dundee.

A man who openly told the whole world that he doesn't know how to make money and doesn't know his age is nothing but a brain dead man who knows nothing than how to count his cows.

Chai! Nigerians are in serious trouble.

2019 should fast forward please so we can do the needful.

I agree with you, as long as you are not even contemplating of replacing Buhari with any of the PDP-Looters that were booted out in 2015.

BTW: Is Jonathan "reading" that book..... or CHEWING it like Goats do? shocked

Celebrities › Re: See Photos From #faceofokija2017,ebuka Uchendu Stole The Spotlight Once Again. by Daboomb: 10:44am On Dec 30, 2017

BlessMySoul:
The Oni was even there? Wow. These man is always in the East. Why?

Very soon, we will dash him a wife like we did to Fani Kayode. Precious Chikwendu is doing a good job with the Ofeakwu her mother taught her because Fani Kayode brain has been encapsulated in Igbo food. Thanks to him for the wonderful work he is doing on Buhari. If you go to Kayode Facebook Page, you go laugh tire. Hausas and Fulanis are running haywire there. He will remain our Mouth piece for the time being till another client offers him food.

HE IS ALWAYS EVERYWHERE!
This Ooni of Ife is a very UNFIT PERSON, for a PARAMOUNT OBA OF YOURBALAND.
That man thinks he is the leader of one 'STREET-LEVEL' Music Fuji group that goes from house-to-house, entertaining people.
it appears to me, that the Ooni did not have any meaningful "Youth days" and as with most people who 'missed-out' on key-parts of their growing up, they tend to do it at the wrong time, do it wrongly and over-do it in most cases.

This "Ooni" does not know that he is beneath or above certain function attendance (he can send a representative, if invited) but he is so "youthfully exuberant" that he wants to even attend a 'naming ceremony or birthday party'..... because he thinks he is just a 9yr old boy out to enjoy himself.

But someone needs to remind him that he is holding the highest traditional office in Yorubaland and his gallivanting about, is a disgrace, odium and reducing the aura of that traditional stool

Has anyone seen the Oba of benin attending every significant and insignificant occassion?
Has anyone seen the Oba of Lagos (Akinolu) flying from one Owambe to another?
Has anyone seen the Olubadan of Ibadan running around Davido shows
Has anyone seen the awujale of Ijebuland hopping from one party to another like a newly "unleashed toddler"?

If he were not to be the "Ooni of Ife", l would have suggested he be properly FLOGGED and GROUNDED in his room for weeks! grin

But l dont blame him that much, he is just not fit for the stool that was forced on him by OBJ and other "kingmakers" who he was formerly their "Boy-Boy" in Lekki/V.I Area.
Somebody should warn him o, before he meets unintended disgrace, in unlikely places.

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Business › Re: . by Daboomb: 3:11pm On Dec 29, 2017

Binaluv:
Good morning sir /boss,words enough can't showcase my gratitude towards ur kind heart to a fellow u have not met face to face,i felt joy and happiness to be helped by u from issue,may u be always be helped in any environment u find ur self, may u never be neglected by the society or environment u find urself,may u succeed in any business u invest on, am really happy and grateful for what u have done for me and I will never forget this till eternity,may God bless u, u are a man of honor and not for plenty talks

Just hear him praying, after promising not to pay the owner of the phone!
You have no shame at all otherwise, you should not "bite more than you can chew". angry

I hope others are reading this and noting the UNTRUSTWORTHY people they should NEVER do any form of busines with

@rmx1:
You did a good and commendable thing.
Left to me, l would rather help have him arrested because l have zero-tolerance for those who trick or cheat others by playing a 'smart one' on them. undecided

Business › Re: . by Daboomb: 3:05pm On Dec 29, 2017

ziziangel:
I even thought he pointed a gun on your head and took your phone, money & Everything. A scammer cannot disclose all the details you put up there, if he wanted to scam you, he wouldn't have met you physically in the first place. He doesn't have the cash, when he has it, he's gonna pay you! Afterall all the money wey ponzi chop from your pocket, who you hold for those ones. Be matured pls. Don't taint people's image unnecessarily.

Most likely you are a scammer too, to have made the above comments!
Go to shoprite, take and item and when you get to the Till, give them part of the money and tell them "When l have the rest", l will pay the balance.... and see what will happen to oyu immediately.

People like you and that @Binaluv, have no conscience and anyone without a conscience, is worse than a murderer!

@Binaluv:
Pay the guy his ballance and stop acting like a thief.
You have collected the phone on the agreement to pay the balance within a specified time and YOU FAILED.
Now you are ranting about "hardship, school and other innanities". (Why not return the phone and when you have the balance, come and collect it back? undecided

)
In law, that is called "A breach of agreement" and you could be sued for damages, for doing so.
It does not matter how small or big the money is.
It is people like you that make others lose TRUST in other Nigerians
Cheap criminals.

Celebrities › Re: 10 Photos From Tope Alabi House Warming And Dedication Party by Daboomb: 2:49pm On Dec 29, 2017

FrenchWay:
...
Tufiakwa!
A gospel artiste that bleaches.

Her mates are getting houses at Banana Island and LekkiI, she is getting a mansion at Iju.

Now compare her achievement with that of small Linda that has a house in Banana island and then come back to argue with me why prostitution should not be legalised in the entire country.

Chai!
In this New year, are you already reminding us that Linda IKeJi is a glorified Prostitute?

Dearis God o, the way you people are sharing blood! cry

Properties › Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Daboomb: 8:33am On Dec 29, 2017

walexyll:
It is in Osun State, just a 3-hour drive from Lagos. I drive rx300, I can collapse the back seat for extra luggage space. Since I stay in Lagos and I plan to visit again in January, I thought I can save some money if I get them in Lagos. Can anyone recommend where I can get good prices for the tiles in Lagos?

Dont spoil that your nice Lexus, just because of saving a few thousand Naira!
Consider your Shock absorbers since Tiles are very dense and heavy articles, especially on this our bad roads.
It is not about space, it is about what it wil do to that nice vehicle.

Go to Orile, you will get good prices and assorted types but please dont transport them in your personal vehicle.

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Travel › Re: The University Graduate Who Got Stranded In Libya While Traveling To Europe by Daboomb: 5:01pm On Dec 28, 2017

tstx:
So e no do you say u survive.. you still wan kill us with lie.. You had to drink somebody’s urine in order to survive.... if urine is that valuable why person go give you him own make you drink.

My own be say l no wan see all these "suicide bomber" babies of unknown father, wey dem dey bring come back for Nigeria. angry

Crime › Re: 9 Animals That Committed Crimes And Were Caught Red-handed by Daboomb: 10:01pm On Dec 27, 2017

RoyalBlak007:
If you think that only people can be criminals, you have another thing coming in this article. Fluffy and lovable, there are pets and animals that can easily break the law if they feel like it.

lalasticlala

https://brightside.me/wonder-animals/9-animals-that-committed-crimes-and-were-caught-red-handed-412760/

Brigit the Burglar
Brigit, a 6-year-old cat from New Zealand, was very interested in men’s underwear. So much so that she broke into people’s houses to steal socks and underpants.

Keeping cats indoors is not a common practice in New Zealand, so Brigit kept coming home with more of her "textile prey."

Eventually, the owners of the furry burglar tried to give the stolen underwear back by handing out flyers

GAY Cat!
he should be castrated ASAP!

Properties › Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Daboomb: 9:43pm On Dec 27, 2017

alstacs:
Oga, iTunes de work for Google accounts?

That was a mixup between Iphone and samsung, it happens when you use both platforms.
Thanks for the observation

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Business › Re: Why I Withdrew My Suit Against EFCC — Innoson CEO Innocent Chukwuma by Daboomb: 3:43am On Dec 26, 2017

backtosender:
The zoo will never use propaganda 2 destroy igboid business gurus again.....they will face the consequence immediately...

You don start again, this Christmas time, abi?

Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 2:52am On Dec 26, 2017

okay, this thread is descending into something else (tribal rubbish). Am out

Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 2:40am On Dec 26, 2017

Macgreat:
Jealousy has no link to love, people made it seem it is but it isn't.

Any level of jealousy is dangerous

There is a right form of jealousy...not really jealousy but it acts like that.
It is not the dnagerous and possesive type, it is the type that "looks out for the good of the other person, wants the best for them, thinks of them before itself and generally shows responsibility towards the other party".

I am speaking from my own esxperience because l see such in my own wife daily.
it makes me feel good because l know l have a wife who "values me".
Compare it to someone whose spouse would not even pick their call or ask after their health or their work or how their day has been?

Me, l am jealous over my wife o but lwont get into a fit just because l saw her talking with a man and laughing or start monitoring her phone like jealous husband.
Fortunately, she also hides nothing from me, not even her most important passwords (bank, phone, emails, etc).
Such is life.

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 2:24am On Dec 26, 2017

Balkan:
my brother thanks for your concern. You have spoken well. I have a forgiven heart but she is not ready change. She is to proud to apologize basically because she can afford whatever she wants without my support. Her perents added to low level of our marriage because she gives them money without my knowlege and they always support her in whatever she is doing. In My life, l dont abuse or hit ladies, not in my character.

I can tell you l have a woman not a wife. But l have moved on. No regard for me and really dont have feelings anymore for her. But we are patching on.

Money should never be a problem in marriage!
I am sure she is not richer than my wife, who is a CEO of a company that has grown to employing 34 adults as of today, 90% of whom are graduates but she never disrespects me nor try to rub it in my face that she can buy whatever she wants...she actually insists l buy her things she needs, as her husband, by her right as my wife.
So, l dont think it is just "the money" that causing the is wahala.
It is just "arrogance of the mind". I hope she will realise her folly and mend her ways, before it is too late
But her Parents, and this is why l always say that one must look properly at the parents of your spouse!
bad parenst cannot ever raise good children because you cant give what you dont have.
Home training is that training we get from our Parents and women will get majority from their own Mums while their Dad will supply the rest. Ditto with Men and their Dads too. If a Dad is too tempramental, it si slikely his son will have anger issues because that is what he lives with and sees everyday.
But a child brought up with love between both parents, who sees smiles, than you, l love you, you are beauitful and laughter all his life, will end up like that as well. Its not about money. it is about love.

Marriage should be blissful, enjoyable and so comforting and you sound like a man with a good heart so, l will encourage you to keep faith, keep couselling her. Just try your best s that "your conscience" can be at rest that you tied everything possible to make it work.
You know that children can feel it, when Daddy and Mummy are at loggerheads and it affects them psychologically even though we adults are too engrossed in our ways to notice?
If theur are children in-between, try to keep things out of view (dont let them know thongs ar enot okay and you can even make excuses for her when they want to catch-on), just to protect their own health.

Pray also. God wont come down to change her but God can remove some of the "issues molding her" this way.
I wish you well. merry Xmas and happy new year.
I feel sad for you right now,

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 2:08am On Dec 26, 2017

Mariangeles:
You're every woman's dream man...

No way!

Only some specific kind of women.
You know for every Right, comes with Responsibility.

Most will claim their RIGHT but shirk their RESPONSIBILITY......something me l would never allow.
I am just my wife's dream man, just as hse is my dream Queen.

From reading som eon this thread, beleive me, if l marry on eor two men on this thread, the marriage wont even last one month because they are just so egoistic and full of agression which l can smell from a mile-off.
A man like me wants a woman he can pamper and treat like a Queen, a woman that says (in body language) carry me, l want to fall, even when she istanding firmly on her feet, a woman that thinks "How do l make you happier than l did yesterday"? (As against one telling me l know myself and l know what l want bla-bla-bla grin

).
I dont want my house to become a house of commotion from an "arrogant and confrontational woman" who thinks she only needs to make enough money to feed me and then that is it. shocked

I want to take very good care of my wife, treat her like a delicate object, fragile and needing utmost care to handle. I odnt see "Queens" going to the farm even though they are women...sol want to treat my own wife, my better half like a Queen! She deserves it though, because she is a real woman, one that knows what it takes to be a real woman and not some feminazzi out to prove a point to her husband or who wants to always be in contention withhim like the home is some "bull-fighting arena".
ofcourse, if she were to be the muscled, hard and hot headed type, she can take care of herself and should not complain if l dont. undecided

Life is reeking with choices and our choices determines our place in life

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 1:47am On Dec 26, 2017

curvilicious:
She can either work or trade lightly not all these hussle hussle men are making women do these days after which they now start to grossly disrespect their men

They know what we are talking about but chose to skirt the issue.
A real man does not depend on his wife to eat, barring unforseen setbacks, which is usually temporary.
Some of them even list qualities of a wife they want to marry: She must work at Shell petroleum, she must earn at least #1M/Month, she must have a car!
But ask them: where dooyu work? - Baba Ijebu and Nairabet.
How mcuh do oyu earn per month? - it depends
Do you have your own rented aprtment? - Still living with Mparents but l want my wife to "join money" so we can rent an apartment when we marry
Where is your own car? - Still working on it grin

Lazy, Useless runts and Gigollos everywhere. angry

Not all of them, l know many, many young guys who are top-notch and high flying, in my place of work, palnning for their marriage with savings of their own. One said he will never use a borrowed car for his own wedding and eventually bought his own car. that is a real man for you.

Back in those days, it was the young ladies who listed those things, (and we even condemn them sef) as a sign that the guy is hardworking and ambitous enough to have a future.
How can a guy who does not have a rented apartment, want to marry a woman?
Will he be doing his wife on Daddy couch? angry

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 1:36am On Dec 26, 2017

Ladyhippolyta88:
That is your problem sir and I am sincerely grateful to God that I don't have problems like this one.So in other words it is only the mother that trains the children no wonder a lot of children are closer to their mothers.Well as for me my parents taught me everything I know and I am very close to my dad it is not blissful ignorance.My mom is a strong confident and determined woman who not only has a job but owns a business as well.Which one is supposed to be in the "first place" man made laws are always subject to change.Which one be vicious cycle you always seem to look at the negative and I do not go with that line of mothers training daughters alone I believe it is parents training children.Me I have a lot of clues,I don't need to agree with you to prove that I have clues.

You are not comprehending!
When we equate "Mothers to training Daughters", "we are referring to specific training that takes those daughters into motherhood".
I bet it was your Dad you went to, when you had your first menstral cycle? When you started having Pubic hair, it was your dad that you went to, for explanations? shocked

Even the Bible admonished Mothers (elderly women, to train the younger ladies), it did not same fathers, for a reason. undecided

There are also specific trainigs that a Son will only get from Dad, that does not mean he wont get some other trainings from Mum.
It is not about being close to Daddy, girls/ladies are usually closer to Dads while the Boys/Sons are usually closer to Mums, that is a natural law of attraction.
But where one of the Parents is absent, that duaghter or son, loses out o such training or does not get the best form of it.

I have given you enough clues now. undecided

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 1:26am On Dec 26, 2017

Macgreat:
My brother , time has not changed. They are making it look like that.

Most grand mother joined their husbands in the farm, harvest and keep the family. How is that different from a woman having a good job?

have you ever witnessed where a young man wants to marry a lady?
Why is it that it is the man that brings all the He-goat, Yam, Oil, e.t.c.... and not the woman?
Where does he get those things, if not from the sweat of his brow?
What is the sinificance of those thing, in the olden days?
Do you no tthink they are requested, and taken from, to show as proof that he is up to and ready to marry a wife? (hard work)

BTW: Women only go to their husband's farm to help in the harvest.
Have you watched a Massai family and see the division of labour in it (Men hunting, women cooking it for everyone to eat). Why do they not insist that the women must go hunting with them before thy can feed them?
Thing is, some of you consider feeding your family as a favour, instead of a duty, blessed by God.
You have to be man-enough, not to depend on income from your wife! grin

If you are still waiting for oyur wife to bring money before you can pay house rent, know that your blessing are yet to arrive and you might be the one delaying it sef, excepting for short periods where sor some unforseen reasons, you have to get a "bail-out" from her.
Mind you, l am not asking "greedy and lazy women" to abuse this responsibility, as some would definitely do.
Each spouse has a definite responsibility they are supposed to carry out in the family, in a manner that assist the other spouse and lighten their burden.

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 1:17am On Dec 26, 2017

Macgreat:
If your grand Parents lived in the Village and never went to the farm then your know something was terribly wrong with her.

Your response isnot conveying any meaningl.
How can you use "her" singular and then concatenate with "parents" (plural, without being specific?)
Even if my parents live in the village, are you saying my wife must go to farm with them?
Are you referring to my Mum as the "her"?
You guys should try and convey meaning in your post, l assume you are schooled. right?

Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 1:12am On Dec 26, 2017

Mariangeles:
Someone is irritated, you're saying "tell your hubby you love him"... What do you people take Women for?

Have you ever heard of the phrase "love conquers all things"?
I am sure we all have heard it but how many of us have really sat-back and owndered what that phrase really means?
What exactly is the import of that statement?

Many hear it and dont really understand it, including me, until later in marriage.

"I love you" is such a powerful expression, especially in marrigae that only a few have mastered and benefitted from its use.
Let us see:
How do oyu feel, if you offend somebody/ You expect them to react "negatively" towards, you, right?
How do oyu feel if such person gives you a warm smile and makes you feel you did not offend them oe they did not feel offended? DISARMED, right?

Look at the meaning of that word: DISARMED.
Its something like "surrender".

The word is even more powerful than "Sorry" because it is an expression not just of forgiveness, but of deep acceptance.

I dont know with other men but if l am annoyed with my wife (I have a short fuse) and l am preparing to lash-out or do something to get back at her and she sees my right eye from afar and ("like the smart woman she is, God bless her) comes near me and before l could start with my vituperation she utters "I Love You", it is so totally unexpected and disarming!
This is not a fake "l love you o, it is genuine and l can see it in her eyes that she meant it.
That is it. My anger will just diffuse by itself that l can even be angry with myself for not getting even more angry! angry

It is like deflating a ballon...it just goes limp. grin

In real life war, it is called "the element of surprise".

Where l am going is that "Yes, you can tell th eman who says you are irritating him, "I love you".
First, it takes nothing away from you.
Second, it diffuses the situation, to some extent
Third, it can actually jolt the man back to "reality" and make him think twice whether this "irritation" is really worth it or whether the situation can still be savaged.
So, its a win-win for you.
The Power of a woman does not lie in her muscles(hard power, the preserve of men) or running mouth , but in what is called "soft-power", the ability to win the "war of the mind", psychological war.
That is why some say even though the man is the head of the family, a "wise wife" is the NECK that controls this head! undecided

If my own wife was to be the wife of the Op's husband, l can wager that she would be surprised that hse would change him into a loving husband within a short time.
What is the goal of a woman in a marriage?
is it to compete with the husband?
is it to win the war of words in an abuse-match?
is it to win a physical, wrestling match when kasali bursts and blows start flying?
is it to ensure that the home is happy and flowing with love?
is it to make sure that the home is Peaceful so the children can grow to their full potential and have good home training, (from bith parents)
Is it to make sure her husband is healthy and mentally balanced?
is it to make sure that her husband finds the home inviting that he never wants to go out or always run back to get home as quickly as possible?
Is it to make sure that her husband sees her as the best thing in his world, somebody he can do without?
Is it to see who will blink first or stand down in a fight?
Is it to cordinate everybody and make sure that we are all reaching our full potential and moving ahead in life?

You can pick what you think but ask yourself: Will Confrontation, Ego (what do oyu think l am), arrogance, tit-for-tat, harsh talk, agression or aggresive words, dishonesty, distrust, hatred, anger, GET YOU THE RESULT YOU PICKED ABOVE?

if it will, please go ahead but if you think it wont, then you should know you are on the wrong path.

How many women here do their husband wake up and lay a hand on their head and say, God bless you my woman, l am blessed for having you for a wife"?
That is exactly what l tell my wife every morning because she deserves it and she did not get there by eshewing all those words in red color. undecided

IF a woman is happy in her marriage, you would easily know because she will just be radiating, her skin will glow (without all those pancake stuff! grin

), her eyes will sparkle, she will smell fresh, her smile will widen and he rlaughter will be from the bossom of her heart. You wont find angery words in her mouth. I lie? huh

In essence, every woman can decide how her home will be, to a large extent (barring marrying a real mad man...but most men are not mad, that l know because God actually deposited the love of a woman in a man's heart, from creation ... they even obeyed the woman, at the detrimen tof their creator! Ediots angry

)

Let every woman chose to be wise.

NB: I have focused mainly on women not because men dont have "responsibilities in marriage", but because the current issue is about a woman and in most cases, the man is easier to convince/manipulate and is very malleable. Small probs, catch you later kind of thing)

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 12:35am On Dec 26, 2017

AgricSalt:
Who gave you the authority to call another person's husband heartless? Do you think that because the op shares her experience, she now wants us to disrespect her husband?

I DETEST women who are uncouth IN PUBLIC, with a passion. Women l think, are graceful beings, elegant with poise so, when l see one acting garrulously or talking like one man has stolen her "happiness and smile", l just shake my head an dpity such.
Life is not a battle or competiton with the Male gender or female gender. We all have our roles to fulfil in this life and the space is big enough for each of us to find fulfillment in life.
If you are bitter in life, towards other humans, you actually don tknow you are destroying your own self and just losing a lot in terms of happiness that you would have nejoyed. angry

When l read the way a lady writes, l can usually judge how she will behave in real life.
At times, some women have a pre-concieved notion that Men are Beast, probaly form their own personal experience in life but such women are very quick to insult men in general and vent their frustration, in what they write!

Respect begets respect.
The way others treat us, might be reflecting how we treat others...we should ponder over this for a minute.

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 12:23am On Dec 26, 2017

coputa:
You've just written a wonderful piece,but laced with bumps with mines.
A man might have a fantastic paying job/business and out of sheer ignorance or inexperience advice the wife to stay at home and take good care of the children,without any plan for support,if something should happens to the man or his business..
This action has brought down and tore most marriages to shreds.
I know big time entrepreneurs who still run totheir wife(hardworking housewife) for financial support.One of them told ne that his wife is his last Banker.

I do agree with you 100%, theyuse to say "Money-go, woman-go"! grin

I wont advice it if your income is not stable enough but in my own home/family, the rule is that you cant even marry if your income is not stable enough to pay your rent, feed you and your wife without help from your parents.
You just have to be financially stable to say you want to marry a wife, maybe that is why we hardly marry before we are 30yrs!

Like l said, she's been running her own business for some time right now.
We also have multiple streams of income, to put it humbly, we cant be broke, even if we both stop working today. we may have to cut down on excesses but we have enough investments in properties, to pay our living expenses.
Your income/business will eventually get to a stage when you just watch it grow vertically, all the horizontal expansion have been done with.
Mind you, we are not spring chickens, even though we parley on nairaland. grin

Even at that, if you have a wife that can manage funds very well and you are not the "beer parlour" type or the Aristo, waste-money type, you can always project for all these change in circumstances and make provision for it.
For example, l use to tell her that if l stopped working and needed say #50M, l will simply sell one of a stroey building of mine and that is it, l have the money but God forbid.
I work with Govt and will retire in not very distant future so we been planning for ages, on what we will do then, once our children have grownup and all gone-off to sort themselves out with thier partners.

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 12:09am On Dec 26, 2017

Balkan:
Let me be honest with you, l am married for ten years now. The atitude your guy is giving you is exertly what l give my wife

In my own case, it started well but there so many things she does that l dislike which l told her that it irritates me but she always nags why l tell her that.

1. She is always unclad in the room. I mean always. She never covers herself.
2, When ever she inters the toilet to poo she never shuts the door of the toilet in our room.
3 She always fart in front of me
4 She always ask for things she knows we cant afford.
5 She does not give me any spacial attention eg. No saperation of things l use from the things everbody use in the house like plates and cups

So many littles things that matter to guys she does not observe them and when l bring them up, she will tell me that l hate her.

The truth is that l dont get errection again when l see her. So to make love to her is difficult because l dont get erection. But when l see ladies she is much more finer than, my dick stands

We hardley sit to talk because she irritates me. But l am just praying for God to help me. I am not ready to marry another woman. But the love is dead. She does not respect me bc l cant perform but l cant take vigra for her because l am BP patient.

She is in her 30s and l am in my 40s

But she is just a pretty lady with good sense of dressing. A dream of every man but worths nothing to me

Jayzus Christ!

How do things get to this stage and nobody can take corrective action?
I can imagine what you are going through...l mean, even l, a ,man, cannot fart in front to my wife or even my children, it will be so embarrassing but we all fart and know to excuse yourself to some place where you can do it discreetly!
Common courtesy demands that you don tleave the En Suit Toilet door open and allow the smell of defecation to return back into the bedroom! Infact, you must open the windows and use deodorant immediately any of use use our common En Suit bath/toilet, so as to keep it clean for your spouse!
And I will find it very disrespectful if even my eldest son uses my Jug to drink!
Everyone in the house will tell you , "That is Dad's Jug, drop it down". No stories
We all have our plates and personal things that we all respect and wont use that of others.... and there are more than enough of such stuffs anyway so, there isno need to use what others are "used to suing". It is an unpsoken rule that we all observe.
I cant imagine my wife using my own plate to serve a visitor. The kind "red eye" l will throw in her direction sef, she will know that a line has been crossed.

As to the walking unclad within the house, if it is just two of you in that house and there is "extreme privacy" ....l wouldn't mind if l were you but then, when you dislike a woman to the point two of youare right now, the things that are supposed to trip you, will be so annoying to you!
She is just not appealing to you anymore.
When we really dont have anything to do on a weekend, me and my wife can be inside our "honeymoon space" (as we call our Master bedroom) from the previous night till 4pm in the evening! naked all through! Sleep, sex, wakeup, drink sole liquids, sleep, sex, talk, e.t.c, just the two of us (children know not to knock more than once, if not opened, then they use the intercom to say whatever they want and then bleep-off).
Husband and Wife must have their private and quiet times always, to BOND further.
But when "love dont live hear-anymore, it is another story!

If your wife asks for what SHE KNOWS both of you cant afford, then tell her to increase her work and income so she can afford it herself.
You should not steal just to satisfy the avarice of your spouse or kill yourself while trying to. That is not love. Love shhould be understanding and protective of the other spouse and not push them too hard.

As itis now, what do oyu think can be done to re-awaken this love that died or did you not love her at some times in the past?
Does she do all these things back then?
marriage is a very serious matter than can make or mar both of you so it has to be handled with some determination and effort.
For eample, when you talk to her about farting in your presence, what is her response?
Is it that she finds nothing wrong in that behaviour (probably due to fualty upbringing, some homes dont see it as anything wrong)
Have you tried to educate her on the need for respecting others, even your spouse, to keep certain things private and not cause odiferous odour to return back into the Master Bedroom? Whats her reaction?

Can she change?
can other women talk to her?
What about her parents, when things are really getting out of hand, can they be of help or is it a case of "bad in-laws worse than a bad wife""?

I dont like couples to break over matters that can be resolved, it really brings me down.
Both of you are at an age when you should begin to really enjoy each others company

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:45pm On Dec 25, 2017

Ladyhippolyta88:
It has not changed for the worst maybe for you but definitely not for me and what is there to be ashamed of if you don't like it you can always use a time machine and transport back to 1412 and leave us that like the 21st century world in peace.

I really dont need to!
Ofcourse, you dont know what you are mssing because you have "No Clue" how it is suppose to be, in the first place!
It is called BLISSFUL IGNORANCE. grin

Please keep enjoying what you have. kiss

BTW: Someone postulated that "What do you expect, Mothers who have no proper home training for the purpose of motherhood, cannot be expected to produce children who become wives that have Home training and can impact such into their own daughters as well".
Its a "vicious cycle" and the result is what we are witnessing in todays marriage.

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Family › Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:41pm On Dec 25, 2017

curvilicious:
Bro, you a real man

My wife, my love is the "real deal".
She treats me well, takes very good care of our homes, respects me like a king (massage my male ego wella-wella grin

) , she very attractive as well.
What more can l ask for, that l wont 'reciprocate the feeling'? huh

If a woman treats you like that, tell me, would you not go to the end of the world for her, even if she did not ask you to?
Do-me, l do-you, God nor vex;
Marriage is all about Respect, Responsibility and Reciprocity.
Love would naturally follow, if you have those 3R's

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