Vabama: So am one of those Guys that preach against domestic Violence ....
I Got married of Recent and Guess what , we dated for 3 Years before marriage.
After putting a ring on her finger ... her behavior change ...
From Bad to Worse ...
Like this girl will wake up at Night , and Give me a dirty slap .... If You Ask her what's the problem , she will look at you and work away.
She will wake up by 2am and start playing music , if you ask her wetin .... She will ask me 'CAN'T I PLAY MUSIC BECAUSE I MARRY YOU'
If You mention divorce .... she go vow say if you try am , You Go die !!!
Okay i sat her down and ask her what is the matter.
Below is what she told me !!!
So am asking , is it that she wants me to beat her or what Should i run away from Home Marriage no dey easy at all.
Lol, she wants you to be a real man.
See. Try this and your wife will worship the earth you walk on.
Just chill, wait for her to do any of her nonsense, then when she does, go mad, just display madness, she will calm you then Bleep her. End of story, she wants to know if you can protect her, because there is stuff she wants to tell you but isn't sure you can handle it.
Beloved3: Where are they planning to host the servers?
It would be a joke to host our digital currency on foreign servers.
And just in case they are planning to build data centres here in Nigeria for the project, I hope they know that is a huge electricity demand and it's as if Nigeria does not even produce enough electricity to power the whole of Lagos 24/7.
And hopefully they are not planning to run the data centres on generators because that would be dragging the country eons back. Everyone at this stage is looking towards Sustainability and cutting off green house gases.
Dear Naija, which way?
If only we could fix electricity, many things will start to fall in place gradually.
When we fix electricity, we monitor crime effectively with CCTV and drones.
We experience transformation of our educational sector - digital transformation.
We experience industrialization - companies will troop in, and the ABA boys and indigenous manufacturing gurus will rise
We crack down on corruption - everything becomes transparent and digital - every fraud will be traceable digitally except you go and bomb the data centres to erase data ( equivalent to how they burnt the NFF office and other offices just to destroy files).
Our economy improves, we rely less on petroleum, we see massive advancement etc.
That would be asking the government to think.
Do you know how stressful it is for them, they would think it is punishment.
iamGholdaniel: I never wanted to do masters programme after graduating this year. But After writing AEM 521(Accounting and production Economics). I have changed my mind today, I cannot allow my Efforts in this course to go in vain.
It took me 1hr to start solving.
I used one hr writing my name ...... Ogah Nkem daniel
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There's nothing hard about this. If you read you should have no problem. It easy.
treatise: Good morning Nairalanders, my is son is 12years old and in JSS 3 and has been adjudged to have high grasping ability by teachers and those he's interacted with but we have made several efforts to make him have interest in his academics ; he does not have any interest. We started giving lesson teachers when he turned 3 years but he particularly does not do well in math whereas he does wonders with his laptop.
A corps member who was teaching him math casually introduced Coding to him, copied some introductory steps to his laptop and left town. Since then he's been playing with the ebooks the corps member left for him and that informed my decision to employ the services of a computer engineer who was wowed by my son's level of advancement in coding ; he's built a couple of websites though rudimentary in my consideration.
It's a fact that almost all courses in universities require math as a prerequisite in getting admission; I kindly need your advice on best approach(es) in solving this challenge.
Thanks so much great people.
God bless you for this question, how I wish my father would see my skills and give me this great treatment. You son will always be grateful to be put in the it line, GNT academy in Ibadan will do wonders with him, in one year he will be earning north150k monthly, and still be following his passion. If he wants school after this he can do it with ease. Lemme ask you a question, if your son had skills like Mercy of barcaleno wouldn't you send him to academy? Look at Anthony Joshua., Sir you are blessed. You son is a genuine genius. You can talk a pyschology test to check his personality type and IQ. With this you understand that he would Excell at anything he puts his mind to do and has interest. If he doesn't have interest he will out the same energy which he puts into excelling to Excell at not succeeding. So let him learn coding, ask professionals and send him there, and believe me, a time may come when he wants to get a certain post that he will come and do university by himself, this time he will love it after hearing so much from others he will want to explore it like a meal you family praises or a show that come highly recommended.
kennywagz: Hello nairalanders, I know how you felt looking at my post before opening this, but pls know one thing am not a bad person or a foolish son, I just happen to have a *** mom..
The thing is me and my mum almost got into a fight yesterday. Now pls let me explain something to you... I understand how yall love your mother's and would do anything for her, I wish I could say the same for mine.
Anytime my parents get into a quarell my mother won't want to talk or do anything again. She goes to work and comes back late, lies down and sleeps.
It's over 5 months, she doesn't contribute anything, doesn't say anything, does not concern whether the children eat or not because of their quarrel..
I don't fight anyone but if I have a quarrel with my friends or bro, 2 days or the next sef we are talking. He will stay in the room by herself after work while we'll be in the palour eating, She will be in the room sulking.
I once came home and my junior ones told me they were talking about something and laughing and mom came out and said sheybi they are all laughing and very soon they will start crying. Like what kind of mother says that.
If you are looking for woman that curse and swear no one pass my mom. She has fought every of our neighbors, every last one of them. I can't count how many swear and cursed she has said to my father and even to we the children. My father's brothers and sisters, she has been keeping malice with themsince a month after her wedding. That's over 20 years ago. Something happend and she hates them. If you are seen with your aunt or uncle you'd be in serious trouble.
She has this toxic nature/character always wishing evil for others. If she doesn't like you and she sees you happy it's sadness for her... How can someone be like this.
Today one woman she has quarrelled with had a fight with her brother. My mother was happy, saying e don catch am, laughing and praising God. My father is sick and doesn't even have the strength. They don't talk, she stopped talking to me cause she says me and my dad are always planning what we will eat, that am now the wife abi.
I can't express how hateful I am towards this woman, my heart is full of bitterness towards her.. I can't possibly type everything that I personally go through because it would seem as if I came here just to spite my mother. No matter what, she is still my mother, I am just looking for advice.
I give the children money sometimes when they are angry and I cook the food cause she doesn't do anything. She's sees me as her enemy when you don't want to do it, we should come and be begging you. Everytime we get into a fight for very petty things I always go and beg her, you must beg else you and her are enemies she won't talk to you.. I greet her and she says next time I greet her she will swear for me. This negativity is too much, I am a very Sane person, I won't come and write all this if I ain't pained... I have a father I love and my siblings, but it's this woman now.
Pls what can I do, everyday everytime person go dey beg you for the most unreasonable and petty things, after swear and curses with bad words Don follow steadily.
Would you take advice if I was willing to offer it?
Valenciabaddie: :I created an harmless thread yesterday seeking advice without mentioning names or tagging any moniker, I didnt even think it could make front page .only for @ Lovethaa to drive to my house,harass my sister and forced me to delete the post when I couldn't delete or modify it he took my phone threw it away,i left him to go after my phone, he came after me saying I walked out on him and as we were arguing he gave me a slap , Just because people were commenting that person must be a ritualist for using black soap , I don't know why it would affect you when your name or picture is not attached to the post but I guess Guilty conscience will not let you be Even before you told me our relationship is over I have made up my mind already about you because God knows I tried my best you're a fake and woman beater , coming on Nairaland creating threads to make you look like a responsible person. I regret the day I met you and I won't curse you but you will definitely regret your actions ... And I have already reported you to the police, even though I know u can buy your way through but you won't buy your way through the bad things that will follow cos I have also gone naked and curse you..
Lol, you dey find trouble for your self, better get sense.
Gayatri: I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.
Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..
From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..
What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..
When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..
As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..
You love him. Its pretty much that simple. You'll do anything for him and will rationalize anything to be with him, very soon you won't really kind being a side chick cause he will "soon" see a your sacrifice. I wish you the best, but you are the only one who can free yourself. I can only show you how.
Excesslove222: Get her original aju mbaise, its a herb but is now sold online, it helps...goodluck.
Ps: you are selfish.
How is trying to help her being selfish? Its a thing of concern, did the guy's money go down. Is it the lady he married that is still with him, abi the guy is helping her so that he won't have to add side chicks but the girl no get sense. The thing she don't want to do she will learn by force soon.
She's busy. No time for gym. I want something like drugs
After delivery she was supposed to use hot water. She should know the process its a girl thing. It would have helped the free flow of the blood and allow the stomach to flatten.
She can still work on It. No night food. Early morning exercise like 30mins daily.
If the tommy is still becoming big she should go do a fibroid test. Its more common than you think and its not a disease. Its better to tick all the boxes.
made4naijamusic: A video making the rounds on social media has shown the moment a lady rejected her boyfriend’s public proposal.
In the video, her boyfriend could be seen standing on his feet as he begged her to close her eyes tightly while stretching out the engagement ring towards her.
As she opened her eyes, she saw him standing on his feet to propose and she got offended that he didn’t go on his knees to propose to her.
Her boyfriend on the other hand insisted that kneeling down doesn’t prove anything. He turned down all her efforts to make him kneel down and she walked out immediately.
Tunjingwu: So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki. He is still the elegant young man he has always been.
We spoke at length. Nothing much has changed about him. He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.
We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.
Here is the gist.....
He is contemplating having a girlfriend. His wife hardly have sex with him. Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time. They have two kids(twins).
He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably. I felt for him.
I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.
You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.
Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.
It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.
The same thing your friend wants with his wife is the problem. Sex. Yes.
Let me give you a picture, do you know the feeling you have when u are about to ejaculate? Just when your about to, imagine your woman says she's not having sex anymore. That intense fustration you have is what that girl feels anytime she has bad sex with your friend. She would never tell him cause she wouldn't want to lower his self exteem and besides this is a forbidden topic, i only tell you because this is how i saved my marriage.
I think you are saying the same thing. Going to work and leaving your woman idle will leave her open to temptations like eve. I think the guy was talking about men becoming leaders. It's a deep concept that has bugged my mind since I heard the song.
Wow, so we shouldn't work? Or we talk the woman alone?
Hold up, what do mean by leader, u think every man shouldlead?
But not the same cow, cows brother, all 5billon of them, and the best part...wait for it, you dont have to pay a dime for maintaining the cow, u can let others do that...
you make it seem like women are children, To imply that adam should have stopped eve, remember free will.
Then bro, your God last i checked knows the beginning from the end, soooo, its all his plan or hes an incompetent lout. I leave that chioce to you.
In our society today, women can have anything an be in any position, they only flock to where there is no stress and money.
Like why work when you can get a slave to go out everyday and make money for what ever you desire, while you (the woman) has all day to plan and duck whoever she desires.
Lovelyn451: Men are to be feared more...very dangerous humans with dark minds, most mysterious of Gods creations, possessing the nature of a beast yet so gentle and soft. blessed with so much strength but slow to speech...fear men
Please I am in a dilemma so I don't need a scammer. Thank you anyway
Smh.
I can recover anything above 150k. I asked about the amount cause i can't stress myself in getting back 5k. If its above, we settle on a fee, i get your money back and you pay me for my time and knowledge.
Note: this is what i do. I can get your reversal back by the end of this week.
ANA1: Guys please ,it was a mistake and I don't think anyone is above that. I don't have the person's contact, I would have made the move to call. The person's name is Oyebanjo Bolanle Anita, if anyone knows the person, I will truly appreciate your help. Thank you
pcguru1: Lol that's life, women need closure not men, because some of us are used to things going south without explanation and we just take it as a loss. It's very odd for a man to have issues with closure, unless that said person is a very emotional being.
Exactly. We are so used to trying to make things work that we KNOW somethings just dont work.
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