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coogar:The west does not actually have 'freedom of speech' or 'freedom' like they actually want to believe. The 'freedom' is only if you conform to a certain agenda. If someone says ' I don't hate gay people but I believe marriage is between a man and a woman' next thing the person get loads and loads of homophobic chants. Like what is the phobia in a person saying what they believe? That's why I was scratching my heads abit after the Charlie Hebdo thing ( that was absolutely horrible act of terror ) when everybody was forming righteous indignation over 'free speech' .No one deserves to die for 'satire' but how many front line media organisations (even far right ones) come out and say they are 'anti gay marriage' or even do a satirical piece mocking gay marriage? The paper would be soo bullied and maligned that within 24 hours they would have to print a retraction. If there is indeed freedom and free speech, I believe people should be allowed to say what they feel marriage is without the fear of being labellled homophobic. |
Chillisauce:Non EU immigrants have really suffered under this govt. Theresa May ain't smiling at all ![]() |
coogar:Polygamy is not looked upon nicely cos the of the competition factor and the No of people involved.Two people and both of you have issues that you sort out but with polygamy you add different dimensions of relations ;wife to husband dimension, wife to co wife dimension, wife to step children dimension,stepchildren to co wife dimension etc .More people and relationships to manage= more drama.Also the cost implications. If you want to be polygamous Abeg please be able to afford it(that part irks me) don't have your wives forming 'single mother' cos you are not married legally. Theee was this documentary I watched not sure if it was on channel 4 or the bbc, the guy had three wives claiming benefits in three households . ![]() However like I said earlier why should I speak for ALL women because I personally dislike the dynamics? Some people practise open marriages, some people want to be married but don't want the other person all up in their personal space all the time(which tends to happen in monogamous marriages) so who I am to CATEGORICALLY state that polyandry is bad for them? If I can say GAY people marrying does not hurt me, why can't I say two grown women deciding to share a man also does not hurt me? ![]() |
naijababe:Sounds like a good one.In |
edwife:I dey run now I need my 8 hours kip work don start tomorrow again. |
Not a fan of polygamy because of some of the rancour it caused in my extended family.Too much drama. However putting my own personal feelings and family issues there aside are loads of women who willingly go into it..Older wives married young girls for their husbands so they could have time to travel for trade. The premise on why most people would say polygamy and gay marriage are not the same is that one is based on love and the other is not. Unfortunately love is subjective and not everyone marries for 'love'.Not saying its ideal but judging (which we are told not to do gay people who want to marry) people who do not marry for love is exactly the same.Judging. I won't go into a polyandry but why should I judge those who want to? |
Chillisauce:At least its a dog not a cat Chillu how are your cats? |
Chillisauce:Thank you chilli Naijababe starting tomorrow? Shaun T really wan kill persin but T25 is really effective to be fair I just cant keep up..me and my friend were supposed to be doing it for 30 days sssh don't tell her I have almost given up. let me watch this jillian Michaels and see.Today I did 4 sets of almost 60 secs planks almost faint . |
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Kimoni:Him and bellong ![]() I am sure Bellong, has not seen this the OP for hear am. But make we no lie sha, Nigerians are 'quick to judge' ducks pickabeau and bellong's missiles ![]() |
Well done akaglue I really love the concept of your blog. So refreshing and different. A welcome break from the usual 'aproko' and 'amebo' things . I like the part where you said ' call me stingy' Nigerians call anyone who sticks to a budget 'stingy or akagum' like your username. ![]() Keep at it, the sky is your limit. I follow a lady on Instagram, she is an American of Nigerian Origin and she started something similar. She has now actually quit her job as a teacher and travels all over the States and internationally giving talks on how people can manage their personal finances. She is called The Budgetnista. She is getting loads and loads of sponsorships from so many Financial organisations Or Like Martin Lewis here in the UK ( the money saving expert). He is the go to person for all money saving tips and is regularly featured on most TV stations. |
NO! 2 months is too young to start weaning. Weaning should start between 4 and 6 months. As an aside though if the mother is brea.stfee.ding,SHE should take the pap. I hear it really helps with lactation. |
Both are as bad as the other BUT the main difference is One causes IMMEDIATE pain that could lead to serious injury while the injury for the other is inflicted over time. When you keep hearing 'you are useless, you are worthless' with time you begin to believe those things about yourself and in some cases leads to depression and associated issues. On the other hand, one upper cut at the wrong angle can lead to serious injury or even death. I cant stand either. Both should be a No- No in a ideal world, But then we don't live in an ideal word. |
zemaye:Its true oo that's another option ![]() But the oil has entered the stew small sha but the idea is not too feel guilty about the extra oil and calories. |
Kimoni:I wonder ooo MSG and all sorts ![]() |
Kimoni: see the power of ayamase. You ppl should join me in eating oil less ayamase ![]() Don't mind me just joking .ayamase without oil is a sacrilege better not to eat it at all.These days I actually think I can live without eating meat.Totally cut off red meat . I eat limited chicken,turkey and more of fish these days. I can't believe it me that I used to go to Ghana High buy 10 naira rice and 90 naira meat plus 40 naira dodo . one spoon of rice two dodo one meat ![]() |
Hello everyone.... The steam has blown off e no dey hungry me to take pictures again I sha took one when meal prepping this evening. I was going to take the meal but was charging my phone at the time. Had it quinoa and smoked mackerel. Efemenanxy my hay fever symptoms have really subsided I guess I needed to get more sleep like you said. been sleeping max 10.30 and I feel so much better for it.
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edwife:That's why I said there might have to be compromises.If one wants 1 and wants 3 there might be a likelihood that they will agree on 2 but if one wants 1 and the other wants 6 or 7 how them for do now? Ultimately though ,I feel that it's the woman who pregnancy wrecks most of the havoc on her body and if she wants no more children then she should discuss her reasons. And if he does not budge like you said I will still go ahead to do the contraception. |
BABE3:I agree with you on this.. this was how my house used to be before I had kids( not kids my son because my daughter inherited my OCD from birth. as a baby if milks spills on her onesie she will cry so you can change it the girl will not play with another toy until she has put away the last set I have been known to go back and lay my bed after I reached downstairs cos that unlaid bed is an 'extra' chore I have to tackle when I get home I sort my clothes into trousers,shirts,skirts,blouses,jumpers,jeans , native even iro and buba separate from dresses and by lace or ankara (I have issues I know )This because I am too lazy to start looking for them when I need to wear them. If they are in order it saves having to expend energy looking a top among jeans or Ankara among lace. cleaning up as you go actually saves time and energy in the long run. Its a bit harder with toddlers though but they get used to if its enforced. Dirty houses gives me nightmares ![]() I have met some dirty women though Father Lord in heaven ![]() |
I believe how many children a couple will like to have to have is a discussion that is needed at courtship. Its not cast in stone as compromises can always be reached but don't go marrying a man who wants 10 children while you want one ( and vice versa). if you want 4 and the other party wants 2/3 that's similar mindset but with a wide gap and varying beliefs in contraception e go hard small. and as for the question cant answer it on a personal level because reverse is the case for me ![]() |
Antoinne:Don't worry we are all ok ![]() |
zeezahbee:I cant stand those too but some people are wombiliki wombia and can chop anything choppable . I think the argument should have been more on the heath issues that could be associated with it rather than the issue of being 'cultured' or not. Our standards on what count as cultured really really varies. We had one long drawn out argument on family section on whether it was bad manners to cook in the kitchen of someone you met the night before and I thought it was rude. Loads of people did not see anything wrong with it. I hold myself to that standard but I learnt that day 'manners' 'etiquette' and 'cultured' are very varied and subjective things that mean different things to different people. I wont take airline food off the plane but I wont call people who might 'uncultured'. |
kobe79:Airlines are businesses bro,it does not have to be included but it is an expense that must not and will not affect the bottom-line. Every 'entertainment' a business gives you is a benefit of the business or profit that they hope to make off you . Why do you think budget airlines don't serve refreshments? Because it would affect their profit margin that is already low from the low prices that they are charging. Most organisations have expense codes for every thing every THING and even if the heating in the office will affect the bottom line they will look into it. |
kobe79:yes naa ![]() |
kobe79: grandma na person too na ![]() OP and you guys should chill joorr. I wont take airline food off the plane cos I don't really dig a lot of the food but to be honest I don't really see anything wrong with it. For short haul flights they might be complimentary, but for long haul it is definitely included in your ticket price. If it was 'free' the quantity and sometimes even quality of food served in First and Business class wont be different from that served in Economy. ![]() |
kobe79:why are you hmmmming now? My mum is old school and believes that you must always have choppables in your bag when you meet little children.;Dso she feels the crackers is the 'prelude' before she opens her luggage and brings out the groundnut,chocomilo and the likes ![]() |
This OP is really vexing o ![]() My mum even uses them as 'greeting snacks' for the kids when we go to pick her up My daughter sef will ask 'grandma is there no chaese and crackers in your bag' ![]() As an aside though some Airline food is really gross e.g Iberia or whatever they are called these days |
I am using a registered child minder who coincidentally is also their god mother. Me and hubby are also taking some days of annual leave over the holidays so we can actually get to spend some time with them. We are going away for a week but we will also be taking days off intermittently so its not like they don't also get to see mum& dad like during the term where mornings are so rushed. I really wish I could take the WHOLE summer holiday off but that's not possible. I also take time off during half term but that sef I have to make up with flexi( and I get 28 days holidays plus bank holidays every year ) I am however still researching age suitable holiday play schemes so they don't get bored. My child minder is very versatile though she takes them out to museums, fun days, the library, day centre even the cinema as she gets discounts due to the nature of her job. She is not cheap but we don't mind cos we cant place a premium on the peace of mind I will have at work when they are with her. When they are a bit older, they will go to this camps where they do outdoorsy stuff and different recreational/educational activities eg baking, cookery classes, just learn something new rather than just be bored out of their minds or just playing for the whole six weeks. You can use a registered child minder or nanny. Since you have someone you use already you can try her as she is already used to them. Settling kids in with people they are not used to is another stress on its own. |
naijababe:Yes it did...You know me naa any shortcut I must to follow am ![]() |
bukatyne:I kinda agree that love will not bear to see the other person suffer however like you rightly added there are different case scenarios that could fall in between. I don't even think a SAHM does not deserve help from her husband.She might not demand for it but depending on the home dynamics she might also need help. I don't think doing chores is a determinant of how good or bad a person.I know women who HATE doing chores and some people dont do chores because they hate doing it not cos they are trying to be wicked . They actually don't mind living in filth .I watch some shows and I cant wrap my head round how dirty some people's houses are ![]() I lived with someone who jumbled dirty and clean clothes together and a smell test was the determinant of how suitable an outfit was She felt i had serious issues with the way i sorted my clothes. She also could not understand why I would lay my bed as soon as I woke up, swept everyday etc.I also thought she was annoying cos her side of the room was disfiguring the tidiness of my own side Now if she marries and her hubby worked long hours and she was a SAHM there is no guarantee that she would still do all the chores as at when neeed. that is not to say she might not love her husband she just can't be bothered. The saviour is if she is able to outsource it but what if she can't afford to? There are different shades of grey with these chores issue and I think the OP needs to speak to hubby about how she feels.For all you know he could actually think she can cope as she had been forming super woman in the past.Some women sef their perfectionist over sabi might discourage their husbands from chiiping.Sebi you can do it ok kuku be doing it. The fetching water angle is more an amenities issue that she must tackle ASAP as adding fetching water to already demanding chores is just killing. |
naijababe: Ewuro4:Dont mind me ojare its either you eat ayamase or you dont like you said. Oilless ayamase mba never again chucked the rest in the bin.thankGod it was not much Naijababe is my cooking tip expert thanks for the coconut milk tip |
Ewuro4:Aberrrrdeeern (with Scottish accent ) Scotland |
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