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FamilyRe: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by damiso(f): 10:45pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:
since when?
was this before or after the white men came to screw with our minds?



all i know is - with too much freedom comes all kinda bullshyte. it's gay marriage today, very soon.....these people would push for something even more ridiculous.




he's better off in france!
call him and tell him to stay put. cheesy
The west does not actually have 'freedom of speech' or 'freedom' like they actually want to believe. The 'freedom' is only if you conform to a certain agenda.

If someone says ' I don't hate gay people but I believe marriage is between a man and a woman' next thing the person get loads and loads of homophobic chants. Like what is the phobia in a person saying what they believe?

That's why I was scratching my heads abit after the Charlie Hebdo thing ( that was absolutely horrible act of terror ) when everybody was forming righteous indignation over 'free speech' .No one deserves to die for 'satire' but how many front line media organisations (even far right ones) come out and say they are 'anti gay marriage' or even do a satirical piece mocking gay marriage? The paper would be soo bullied and maligned that within 24 hours they would have to print a retraction.

If there is indeed freedom and free speech, I believe people should be allowed to say what they feel marriage is without the fear of being labellled homophobic.
FamilyRe: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by damiso(f): 10:27pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:
See the ones in the football team we are trying to help. They are in the team eating all the food and can't even score one goal. We give up.
The UK needs them.
Na so I see your Brother when I went for my baby passport. He came all the way from Austria. shocked . Say him Don get wife. He needs to marry. He spent 6yrs in Austria.
we started talking.. he couldn't even speak Dutch or whatever they speak there.

The guy was just lamenting how they were turning him around for one document to another. By the time he gets one, the other is expired. I pity am sha.
I told him to go straight to UK and get married to his sweet heart.
Non EU immigrants have really suffered under this govt.

Theresa May ain't smiling at all cheesy
FamilyRe: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by damiso(f):
coogar:
i don't even believe polygamy is more problematic than monogamy in this century. there are millions of monogamous marriages that are worse than any polygamous marriage you have seen. husbands hacking wives to death, wives chopping the dïcks of their husbands with knives & all sorts of clusterfück.

i am willing to bet there is a higher rate of domestic violence in monogamy than in polygamy. so what exactly is the problem? people who are troublesome would be troublesome regardless of which kind of marriage they find themselves.
Polygamy is not looked upon nicely cos the of the competition factor and the No of people involved.Two people and both of you have issues that you sort out but with polygamy you add different dimensions of relations ;wife to husband dimension, wife to co wife dimension, wife to step children dimension,stepchildren to co wife dimension etc .More people and relationships to manage= more drama.Also the cost implications. If you want to be polygamous Abeg please be able to afford it(that part irks me) don't have your wives forming 'single mother' cos you are not married legally. Theee was this documentary I watched not sure if it was on channel 4 or the bbc, the guy had three wives claiming benefits in three households . angry



However like I said earlier why should I speak for ALL women because I personally dislike the dynamics? Some people practise open marriages, some people want to be married but don't want the other person all up in their personal space all the time(which tends to happen in monogamous marriages) so who I am to CATEGORICALLY state that polyandry is bad for them? If I can say GAY people marrying does not hurt me, why can't I say two grown women deciding to share a man also does not hurt me? undecided
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 10:10pm On Jun 28, 2015
naijababe:
I did Insanity for 30days and boi, the results were amazing, I lost around 7 inches around my tummy which thankfully I have not gained back but I could not do the the remaining 30 days, I was sure I would die if I continued my knees would give out, I have decided I will do it like once a year. I mentioned it to a colleague who suggested Jillian Michaels and after the first day of Shred I was hooked. Just as effective as Insanity but less impact on my knees and less jumps too. (No plyometrics stuff like in Shaun T).



If you don't have weights/dumbells, use a can of baked beans, would work just as well. So ladies, take some measurements, weigh yourselves and let's give this a go. We'll take stock in 30 days wink

cc: Damiso, Kimoni, Herzumpther, zemaye,Kilode100
Sounds like a good one.In
FamilyRe: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by damiso(f): 10:05pm On Jun 28, 2015
edwife:
Damiso why you run? grin come and drop some some....
I dey run now I need my 8 hours kip grin work don start tomorrow again.
FamilyRe: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by damiso(f): 9:56pm On Jun 28, 2015
Not a fan of polygamy because of some of the rancour it caused in my extended family.Too much drama.

However putting my own personal feelings and family issues there aside are loads of women who willingly go into it..Older wives married young girls for their husbands so they could have time to travel for trade.

The premise on why most people would say polygamy and gay marriage are not the same is that one is based on love and the other is not. Unfortunately love is subjective and not everyone marries for 'love'.Not saying its ideal but judging (which we are told not to do gay people who want to marry) people who do not marry for love is exactly the same.Judging. I won't go into a polyandry but why should I judge those who want to?
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 9:40pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:
Yah. cheesy
https://i531.photobucket.com/albums/dd360/routejim/Dancing%20Cats/cat-dance.gif
At least its a dog not a cat grin grin

Chillu how are your cats?
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 9:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:
Yah, that's the spirit.

Oya babyosisi, I know you are offline..but join them.

Cc Herzumpther.
Bukatyne
zemaye
damiso
Kilode100

Work done set o
Thank you chilli kiss

Naijababe starting tomorrow?

Shaun T really wan kill persin grin but T25 is really effective to be fair I just cant keep up..me and my friend were supposed to be doing it for 30 days sssh don't tell her embarassed cheesy I have almost given up. lipsrsealed let me watch this jillian Michaels and see.


Today I did 4 sets of almost 60 secs planks shocked my stamina is def improving. Before my work out programme will say 5x 30 secs after 10 secs I go
almost faint .
FamilyRe: Did I Make A Mistake by damiso(f): 3:21pm On Jun 26, 2015
Kimoni:
What has changed from the bolded above? Do you or your husband now have other sources of income?
It's okay to desire 4 kids but reality should supercede wishful thinking. Why do you want to bring more kids to the world when you are still struggling to maintain the ones you already have undecided undecided
Pls focus on how to get a job or start a business albeit small to support your husband so you guys can have better lives.
FamilyRe: Why Are Nigerians So Judgemental by damiso(f): 3:20pm On Jun 26, 2015
Kimoni:
grin grin grin

Pickabeau the "nationalist" tongue
Him and bellong grin grin grin grin

I am sure Bellong, has not seen this the OP for hear am.

But make we no lie sha, Nigerians are 'quick to judge' ducks pickabeau and bellong's missiles grin
FamilyRe: I Am Here To Answer All Your Personal Finance Questions. by damiso(f): 3:16pm On Jun 26, 2015
Well done akaglue I really love the concept of your blog. So refreshing and different. A welcome break from the usual 'aproko' and 'amebo' things grin grin . I like the part where you said ' call me stingy' cheesy Nigerians call anyone who sticks to a budget 'stingy or akagum' like your username. cheesy

Keep at it, the sky is your limit.

I follow a lady on Instagram, she is an American of Nigerian Origin and she started something similar. She has now actually quit her job as a teacher and travels all over the States and internationally giving talks on how people can manage their personal finances. She is called The Budgetnista. She is getting loads and loads of sponsorships from so many Financial organisations


Or Like Martin Lewis here in the UK ( the money saving expert). He is the go to person for all money saving tips and is regularly featured on most TV stations.
FamilyRe: Can A Baby Of 2 Months old Take Pap by damiso(f): 1:30pm On Jun 26, 2015
NO!

2 months is too young to start weaning. Weaning should start between 4 and 6 months.

As an aside though if the mother is brea.stfee.ding,SHE should take the pap. I hear it really helps with lactation.
FamilyRe: Is Verbal Abuse As Bad As Physical Abuse? by damiso(f): 1:26pm On Jun 26, 2015
Both are as bad as the other BUT the main difference is One causes IMMEDIATE pain that could lead to serious injury while the injury for the other is inflicted over time.

When you keep hearing 'you are useless, you are worthless' with time you begin to believe those things about yourself and in some cases leads to depression and associated issues.

On the other hand, one upper cut at the wrong angle can lead to serious injury or even death.

I cant stand either. Both should be a No- No in a ideal world, But then we don't live in an ideal word.
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 1:18pm On Jun 26, 2015
zemaye:
I make it with plenty oil as usual it won't fry without it now, after cooking I sieve the oil out and enjoy tongue
No b only me Waka com
Its true oo that's another option cheesy

But the oil has entered the stew small sha but the idea is not too feel guilty about the extra oil and calories.
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 10:00pm On Jun 25, 2015
Kimoni:
grin grin grin..we all used to do that naa

Ghana High and their fried stew...there is also one amala joint at the end of that street, can't remember the name

We'll all leave VI at lunch time, drive through that crazy traffic just to come and eat in these places

Wonder what they put in their food sef grin
I wonder ooo MSG and all sorts grin
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 9:11pm On Jun 25, 2015
Kimoni:
shocked shocked grin grin ; Chilli, you are a case

the problem I have with that is the bones occupy too much space in the pot for so i prefer to debone before cooking but it is so manual, difficult and tiring cry cry cry I wish I had tool or method to make it easy



Never! A man who puts his hand to the plough and looks back is not fit for the kingdom of God(complete it with the Bible chapter and verse Chilii)

But I must confess I have been falling and rising. It's not an easy race at all. Yesterday's stew was me falling, I will rise again
grin grin see the power of ayamase. You ppl should join me in eating oil less ayamase grin grin

Don't mind me just joking .ayamase without oil is a sacrilege cheesy better not to eat it at all.

These days I actually think I can live without eating meat.Totally cut off red meat . I eat limited chicken,turkey and more of fish these days.

I can't believe it me that I used to go to Ghana High buy 10 naira rice and 90 naira meat plus 40 naira dodo . grin one spoon of rice two dodo one meat grin
FoodRe: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f):
Hello everyone.... The steam has blown off e no dey hungry me to take pictures again I sha took one when meal prepping this evening. I was going to take the meal but was charging my phone at the time. Had it quinoa and smoked mackerel.

Efemenanxy my hay fever symptoms have really subsided I guess I needed to get more sleep like you said. been sleeping max 10.30 and I feel so much better for it.

FamilyRe: Wives, What If Hubby Wouldn't Cooperate With You With Family Planning? by damiso(f): 8:55pm On Jun 25, 2015
edwife:
You are right,they need to discuss before marriage but there are situation where the wife can not have any more kids due to Cs or very difficult and uncomfortable pregnancy.

My only recommendation will be to discuss it and if he does not budge,you will let him know that you have done what is necessary for you or your health.Don't do it behind his back.
That's why I said there might have to be compromises.If one wants 1 and wants 3 there might be a likelihood that they will agree on 2 but if one wants 1 and the other wants 6 or 7 how them for do now?

Ultimately though ,I feel that it's the woman who pregnancy wrecks most of the havoc on her body and if she wants no more children then she should discuss her reasons. And if he does not budge like you said I will still go ahead to do the contraception.
FamilyRe: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by damiso(f): 3:48pm On Jun 25, 2015
BABE3:
who are the pigs? Men who think they shouldn't do chores coz they have a pènis. cheesy

abi o. Clean up after yourself (man, wife and kids).

- whoever wakes up last lays the bed.

-when you brush your teeth, wipe the sink. When you shave or comb your hair, wipe the sink clean.

-when you poop, flush and check the toilet bowl for any poop marks. If you find a poop mark, wipe it off.

-when you take a shower, rinse tiles/walls afterwards. Remove your hair strands from drainage thing before stepping out.

-if you see dirt on the floor pick it.

-if something isn't in its place, fix it.

-wash your clothes regularly so it doesn't pile up.

-wash your dishes as you drop them in the sink; no pilling up.

-whoever cooks, should wash the pots and utensils as they're cooking.

-if you see a dusty surface, grab a napkin to clean it.

......this way, there are no actual "chores", coz everyone uses their commonsense and no one waits on anyone to do what's right.


I get time sha. grin
I agree with you on this.. this was how my house used to be before I had kids( not kids my son angry because my daughter inherited my OCD from birth. as a baby if milks spills on her onesie she will cry so you can change it grin the girl will not play with another toy until she has put away the last set kiss) This way is even the best cos it does not pile up and turn into big work. My son sef I give him one year. Now sef I am coming down hard on him, no tidying up of his lego and train tracks no treats. embarassed

I have been known to go back and lay my bed after I reached downstairs cos that unlaid bed is an 'extra' chore I have to tackle when I get home embarassed I sort my clothes into trousers,shirts,skirts,blouses,jumpers,jeans , native even iro and buba separate from dresses and by lace or ankara embarassed(I have issues I know embarassed)This because I am too lazy to start looking for them when I need to wear them. If they are in order it saves having to expend energy looking a top among jeans or Ankara among lace. cleaning up as you go actually saves time and energy in the long run. Its a bit harder with toddlers though but they get used to if its enforced. Dirty houses gives me nightmares embarassed


I have met some dirty women though lipsrsealed lipsrsealed Father Lord in heaven lipsrsealed
FamilyRe: Wives, What If Hubby Wouldn't Cooperate With You With Family Planning? by damiso(f): 3:28pm On Jun 25, 2015
I believe how many children a couple will like to have to have is a discussion that is needed at courtship.

Its not cast in stone as compromises can always be reached but don't go marrying a man who wants 10 children while you want one ( and vice versa). if you want 4 and the other party wants 2/3 that's similar mindset but with a wide gap and varying beliefs in contraception e go hard small.

and as for the question cant answer it on a personal level because reverse is the case for me embarassed
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 1:18pm On Jun 25, 2015
Antoinne:
Your mum is doing her kids a great disfavour by handing them shitty airplane food. She needs to watch it.
Don't worry we are all ok grin
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 1:16pm On Jun 25, 2015
zeezahbee:
Damiso sEbi cracker is better and can be kept for long, I mean those smelly food on plane. Those sealed veggies and ketchup inside collapsible plates.
I cant stand those too but some people are wombiliki wombia grin grin and can chop anything choppable . I think the argument should have been more on the heath issues that could be associated with it rather than the issue of being 'cultured' or not.

Our standards on what count as cultured really really varies. We had one long drawn out argument on family section on whether it was bad manners to cook in the kitchen of someone you met the night before and I thought it was rude. Loads of people did not see anything wrong with it. I hold myself to that standard but I learnt that day 'manners' 'etiquette' and 'cultured' are very varied and subjective things that mean different things to different people.

I wont take airline food off the plane but I wont call people who might 'uncultured'.
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 1:10pm On Jun 25, 2015
kobe79:
if it is "included" in price can i ask for it to be taken offhuh me i be ijebu oooooo
i ve never seen it in price break down though.
its just natural that u get "entertained" on these journeys.
if i come ur house u no go gimme/offer me water ni?
Airlines are businesses bro,it does not have to be included but it is an expense that must not and will not affect the bottom-line.

Every 'entertainment' a business gives you is a benefit of the business or profit that they hope to make off you .

Why do you think budget airlines don't serve refreshments? Because it would affect their profit margin that is already low from the low prices that they are charging.

Most organisations have expense codes for every thing every THING and even if the heating in the office will affect the bottom line they will look into it.
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 1:01pm On Jun 25, 2015
kobe79:
i get that feeling Ore!!!!

do they still do chocomilo in naija grin
yes naa grin
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 1:00pm On Jun 25, 2015
kobe79:
iyawo oremi as na grandma dey involved the matter pass me grin
grin grin grin grandma na person too na grin

OP and you guys should chill joorr. I wont take airline food off the plane cos I don't really dig a lot of the food but to be honest I don't really see anything wrong with it.

For short haul flights they might be complimentary, but for long haul it is definitely included in your ticket price.

If it was 'free' the quantity and sometimes even quality of food served in First and Business class wont be different from that served in Economy. undecided
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 12:54pm On Jun 25, 2015
kobe79:
hmmmmmmm
why are you hmmmming now? grin grin My mum is old school and believes that you must always have choppables in your bag when you meet little children.
;Dso she feels the crackers is the 'prelude' before she opens her luggage and brings out the groundnut,chocomilo and the likes grin
TravelRe: Taking Food Out Of Airplanes by damiso(f): 12:48pm On Jun 25, 2015
This OP is really vexing o grin grin grin grin grin

My mum even uses them as 'greeting snacks' for the kids when we go to pick her up tongue My daughter sef will ask 'grandma is there no chaese and crackers in your bag' grin

As an aside though some Airline food is really gross embarassed e.g Iberia or whatever they are called these days
FamilyRe: What Do Working Parents Do With Thier Kids During Summer Hols by damiso(f): 12:22pm On Jun 25, 2015
I am using a registered child minder who coincidentally is also their god mother. Me and hubby are also taking some days of annual leave over the holidays so we can actually get to spend some time with them. We are going away for a week but we will also be taking days off intermittently so its not like they don't also get to see mum& dad like during the term where mornings are so rushed. I really wish I could take the WHOLE summer holiday off but that's not possible. I also take time off during half term but that sef I have to make up with flexi( and I get 28 days holidays plus bank holidays every year embarassed)

I am however still researching age suitable holiday play schemes so they don't get bored. My child minder is very versatile though she takes them out to museums, fun days, the library, day centre even the cinema as she gets discounts due to the nature of her job. She is not cheap but we don't mind cos we cant place a premium on the peace of mind I will have at work when they are with her.

When they are a bit older, they will go to this camps where they do outdoorsy stuff and different recreational/educational activities eg baking, cookery classes, just learn something new rather than just be bored out of their minds or just playing for the whole six weeks.

You can use a registered child minder or nanny.

Since you have someone you use already you can try her as she is already used to them. Settling kids in with people they are not used to is another stress on its own.
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by damiso(f): 11:59am On Jun 25, 2015
naijababe:
grin grin grin grin grin grin this woman will not kee me

Damiso, did the jollof rice tip work well?
Yes it did...You know me naa any shortcut I must to follow am cheesy
FamilyRe: My Whole Body Aches After............... by damiso(f): 9:28pm On Jun 24, 2015
bukatyne:
@bold:

A husband that doesn't help when required (depending how the home is run) is a bad husband.

(In some homes, hubby solely provides while wifey solely mans the home front so husband washing plates is helping. In some, there are really no 'duties' and both parties pitch in as required.)

I do not expect Buhari to do chores neither would Aisha do much too... Maybe cooking if Buhari is like hubby cheesy because they have thongs of people doing it.

A husband who cannot help around the home/ pay for some chores to be done is a bad one and doesn't love his wife except if she is a SMH or as explicitly said she can handle it.
I kinda agree that love will not bear to see the other person suffer however like you rightly added there are different case scenarios that could fall in between.

I don't even think a SAHM does not deserve help from her husband.She might not demand for it but depending on the home dynamics she might also need help.


I don't think doing chores is a determinant of how good or bad a person.I know women who HATE doing chores and some people dont do chores because they hate doing it not cos they are trying to be wicked . They actually don't mind living in filth .I watch some shows and I cant wrap my head round how dirty some people's houses are lipsrsealed


I lived with someone who jumbled dirty and clean clothes together and a smell test was the determinant of how suitable an outfit was embarassed She felt i had serious issues with the way i sorted my clothes. She also could not understand why I would lay my bed as soon as I woke up, swept everyday etc.I also thought she was annoying cos her side of the room was disfiguring the tidiness of my own side cheesy

Now if she marries and her hubby worked long hours and she was a SAHM there is no guarantee that she would still do all the chores as at when neeed. that is not to say she might not love her husband she just can't be bothered. The saviour is if she is able to outsource it but what if she can't afford to?

There are different shades of grey with these chores issue and I think the OP needs to speak to hubby about how she feels.For all you know he could actually think she can cope as she had been forming super woman in the past.Some women sef their perfectionist over sabi might discourage their husbands from chiiping.Sebi you can do it ok kuku be doing it.

The fetching water angle is more an amenities issue that she must tackle ASAP as adding fetching water to already demanding chores is just killing.
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by damiso(f): 9:04pm On Jun 24, 2015
naijababe:
Oil less ayamase kwa?! You are on your own, make oyel police come and catch me na! Aye lamase ka to se orun o, shebi nor be everyday we dey chop am grin
Boil your quinoa with coconut milk, it is to die for.
@ Ewuro4, damiso don tell you, ibi ti a ti nje aye onigbin ni yen
We go know who tire first na grin
Ewuro4:
Ehnnn epele ohhh ... Aye onigbin.

Leave Damiso alone jare, she's doing oyinbo , who cooks ofada stew without excess oyel grin ... aye ti o pe meji.. Ma je nijekuje grin

I will eat a whole year's worth, You'll throw me out of your crib eventually cheesy
Dont mind me ojare grin its either you eat ayamase or you dont like you said. Oilless ayamase mba never again chucked the rest in the bin.thank
God it was not much
Naijababe is my cooking tip expert grin thanks for the coconut milk tip
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by damiso(f): 8:33pm On Jun 24, 2015
Ewuro4:
And where's this place?
Aberrrrdeeern (with Scottish accent cheesy) Scotland

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