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It's a personality thing though and I have had friends who have rallied together to disgrace the side chice even from university days they never took me along as they think I am just useless when it comes to proper throwing down..

I even have friends who won't mind helping me confront the mistress but I will sincerely not know where to start the confrontation.

There was this voice recording of the mtn chic that went viral "uche face your work " and I was shocked that some of my friends thought uche was really dating the alhaji Like seriously? I said she was just doing her job gosh.One of my friends even said she would have done the exact same thing the alhaja did (but in a posher voice sha ) dami you are too naive is what I keep hearing .Lagos girls are not smiling so you too must be on point you better stop letting your hubby come to naija alone my reply is even the ticket sef na credit card so the girls Don enter one chance with my ijebu hubby.

But I won't lie some of the most paranoid friends were those who had "aristoic" or 'side chic" tendencies ....

People have said all I want to say

Apart from that I am not very good with my fists and mouth ...I can't let one girl come and disgrace me let me deal with the person I know how to deal with in my own way that is my hubby

Happy wedding anniversary and Birthday Bellong many more years of Gods love peace and joy on your life and in your home..

****let me quickly vamoose before Mr Pickabeau comes to chase me as i no be 'boy' na Bellong I come greet o*****

Ok ma @Naijababe

edwife:
lol Damiso,maggi for paella?

Woman stop that,would you?

See all this Spanish British and French people me I be typical naija and yes I think rabbit will be great with suya pepper too but Naijababe I can't tell my daughter we are eating rabbit o that means we killed bugs bunny and Rebecca rabbit in Peppa pig the girl is very sensitive to animal rights I think I need to let her know chickens are animals too so no more KFC chicken or nandos


Just joking was not going to add maggi to the paella as I intend to follow the recipe to the letter as it's my first time(seafood as well) but with time will def add my own naija twist like dry pepper **** ducks for edwife****

That's what Autumn and winter is for naa...The best series even air at that time..

naijababe:
You should change your moniker to naijababe

You don turn British finish joor

Knorr is maggi like PG tips, milo, galaxy hot chocolate is tea and Ariel, Persil etc is Omo

naijababe:
Me, I don't cook jollof with maggi o jare. I only ever use maggi when boiling meat. Paella with maggi?! Dami, na fried rice you wan cook be that

Na u know I use knorr but all seasoninhg cube is maggi in naija I put maggi in the mince I use for shepherds pie

naijababe:
Maybe he was cooking Jambalaya U don't need maggi cube for it

Am sure jambalaya sef will.taste better with maggi cube I put maggi cube in odd stuff want to make paella this weekend and I will put maggi cube (one sha)

Hello everyone

Abeg help me tell Jamie Oliver jollof rice without maggi is not jollof rice saw the pic on instagram really cracked me up

The preschohttp://www.babycenter.com/0_learning-milestones-cognitive-skills-ages-3-and-4_72271.bcl

Preschool years aren't about academic learning, but they do lay the foundation for later schooling. Your child will learn the basics of problem solving, observing, and discovering.

Here are some specific cognitive milestones you can expect your 3- to 4-year-old to reach. Keep in mind that children develop at different rates and that every teacher follows a different curriculum, so your child may not do everything on this list.

In preschool, your child will learn to

Solve problems. For example, she may ask another child to trade toys so they can each have a turn.

Observe objects with curiosity and notice differences, such as how some rocks are smooth and others are bumpy.

Explore cause and effect — shaking a jar of water, for instance, and noticing how it creates bubbles.

Use something she already knows to attack a new problem. For instance, after learning to use a computer mouse to navigate around a site, she may test that skill by trying to play a computer game

.Think logically. She'll be able to classify objects by size or likeness, for instance, and to recognize patterns.

Be aware of her own body in space. You may hear her say things like "I'm up high on the slide."

Understand the concept of sequence. For example, she may sort objects from smallest to largest.Use numbers and count


.Understand basic concepts of time, such as "now," "soon," and "late."

Identify six to eight colors and three or more shapes.

Take on pretend roles. For example, she may hold a doll and say, "I'm the mommy" or look in a doll's ear and say, "I'm the doctor." You may also notice that she has a vivid imagination and perhaps even imaginary playmates.

Understand that pictures and objects can symbolize something else. For example, she may tell you that something she's scribbled is a picture of a dog, or she may show you the "house" she built out of blocks.

Complete a six- to eight-piece puzzle.Notice the features of people and animals that make them different. For instance, she may see that rabbits have big, furry ears while people have rounded, hairless ones.

Understand the difference between herself and younger children

.Identify familiar signs and labels, for instance stop signs and her own name.


OP can your son do some of these things?

Checklists and tickboxes sometimes make you anxious but the emphasis for a 3 year old should be cognitive reasoning.

Nice thread..we Nigerians just like self medicating.I too was told to give my 4 month old baby paracetamol everyday in 'preparation for teething' thank God I was one of those first time mums who listened to my GP and health visitor in totality.


I remember how it was odd to me that my GP never prescribed anti biotics but now I am used to it.

Nikkygold4life:
Thanks to you all for all your contributions. Actually, in Nigeria, kids go to sch much earlier and are grouped in classes by age too so kids of him age knw stuff like that. I'm a knowledgeable mother and I know kids learn at different pace but wen ur child's pace continually fall short of expectation, one tends to be bothered. He has many of these detachable alphabets with board, english learner toy, he listens to phonics cd dt teaches alphabeth yet, he still cannot identify any.

Try to be patient with him dear mummy..I was like you always setting milestones for my daughter based on my friends kids (mostly in Nigeria by the way ) I was so wound up about it and was always on her nursery teachers neck.You know what she started faring better as soon as I calmed down.Believe me your frustration shows and he can read your body language.

Calm down and continue to work/stimulate him with the educational toys (toddlers learn through play like carefreewannabe said) and quit being wound up about it so he can believe in himself.
You want a well rounded confident child not a recluse who can recite 1-200 by heart at 3.

naijababe:
House of Cards! So much promise but the writers effed up big time. I will watch the first 3 episodes of S3 , if no there's no improvement, I will bail. There's too much good TV out there to be canoodling with some nonsense series
I watched about 30 mins of E1 of the new season of Homeland, wasn't feeling it. Carrie still has the angry melodramatic ish going on, so I bailed. I'd much rather watch the L word all over again

Thats what happens with some good shows, the writers just decide to start messing about with characters and storylines and you the viewer will be wondering WTH E.g Ray Donovan I liked series 1 but series 2 was kinda bleh for me I just lost interest.


I agree Carrie's Melodrama can be annoying
That character like aluta said might be the reason I stop watching the show.

alutacontinua:
@damiso, please, tell me Carrie isn't doing what she is doing
Is it like a pattern for her now? This was how she started with Brody too
Takes time for TV characters to get to me but I really hate her after sleeping with this guy, for God's sake-it's pedophillia


What is wrong with her for Pete's sake? I might still have to stop watching the show
Before we say Jack now, she'll get emotionally attached to the poor boy
she's really crazy, mehn

Not watched ep 3 still catching up on scandal but pls don't tell me it's the boy whose family got killed in the drone strike

rebella:
Cococandy,sambarry is right, it means they say I am a prostitute.
Jennykadry, damiso and other series lovers in the house, does anyone here watch house of cards with Kevin Spacey ?

I like Kevin spacey but I have never gotten round to watching it...these days I am even overwhelmed with my favourites sef.i no get time is it good.looks like it would be Kevin spacey is a good actor.

18 months is still a bit young I would have suggested you try telling that bottles/ dummies have to go to dummy/bottle land where only babies can access them.you would have been giving hints and each day one bottle after the other disappears until one day he wakes up and all the bottles are gone.But he is still a bit young so he might not understand might work for slightly older toddlers eg 2 upwards.


Have you tried feeding nutriends(that's baby cereal like cerelac right?) in a bowl and giving him his milk in a beaker? My son too preferred the bottle to the beaker but I persisted and by a few months before 2 he was off the bottle unlike his sister who still had a bottle till 2.

Dentists advise that milk in a bottle is not really good for their dentition.

All parents rich or poor have to strike a balance between care,affection and laying boundaries or in your words enforcing discpline.

LewsTherin:
My take on this.
There seems to be a lot of anger in your wife. Anger at you, maybe. Anger at herself, very likely. Worse, that anger is coalescing into hate ergo her comments to you and people around you.
Your personal behaviour aside, you also seem to take your God seriously. Know your God well, not your religion. If you know your God well, you will know His major ish is Love.
So you're in a bad marriage, so what? You're not the first and sadly won't be the last. So,
Your wife needs love, she needs Jesus. You have to give her both. It seems you have talked to her about her behaviour and she still refuses to change so be the best husband possible. Treat her right, like she was a great wife. Ignore her tantrums. Pray for her. Always. Try the 40-days plan ie do one nice thing for her everyday for 40 days. Trust me, there will be a difference.
If there isn't, hey, that's your cross brother.
By the way, a curse without cause cannot stand especially where Jesus has taken our curses upon Himself. So ignore all'a that.

chaircover:
Many marriages are going through these situations, whereby they no longer understand each others language. She is speaking German and He hears French and vice versa.
On a good day, apart from the curses, if you both were in harmony and on good terms, I dont see what all the "wahala" is all about. You farted and she sparayed perfume. Had you been on good terms, you would have both laughed over it.
When she was trying to explain to the men at the checkout, you would have put your arm round her waist and joking said "oya madam lets go" and that would have been the end of it.
and when she didnt run your errands you would have jokinly told her that you will look for an assistant for her and she would have said "Oh I am so sorry, I forgot to do it"
. . .but becasue there is so much underlying issues and unresolved arguments, and deep seated anger, you guys are unable to move forward and keep on unconciously going back.
You are also not resolving one issue before moving onto another so its all piling up
Some basic fundamentals and foundations are also wrong and dont support a peaceful and loving relationship
For example you are supposed to be a team, so why is she keeping all her money and you dont know what she does with it? yet you are undergoing financial hardship
How come you are both on different Spiritual wavelengths? A family that prays together stays together. What is she doing when you are praying and as the head of the house, you need to mandate a time and place of prayer becasue when the kids start coming, this is something that is very important. There must be a routine until it becomes a habit.
My advise is that you find a good time and sit her down. Ask her to open up to you and you genuingly listen to what she has to say. She may have some issues that you may up until now just swept under the carpet. You need to have a listening ear this time
You also need to talk to her about her curses and her words and let her know what they mean to you.
Agree to respect each other and agree to love each other and agree to speak positive words to each other at all times.
You both need to learn to manage conflict. She sounds like one who just talks bla bla when she is angry and that is very wrong. it only breeds hatred in the end. Words are like eggs and once dropped there is no going back
You too also need to understand when to back off when she is in a mood. You may not know but you may be inciting her too. she was angry after the checkout issue, you farted and she sprayed your perfume. You should have just left her rather than going on about her using your perfume. If you had left her, her own guilty conscience would have made her come back to you to apologise.
You can report each other to a hundred peoople but if you both dont make a commitment to change things for the better, nothing will change and people are just wasting their time.
In short, its your own personal marriage and only the 2 of you can make it work or break it.

OP try this two approaches.It is well with your home. I would also add if these two don't work maybe seeking a neutral unbiased third party who can speak to you both.That person will also hear her own views and grievances and probably point out what both of you need to work on.

naijababe:
Meredith Grey equals b1tch, Derek Shepard equals jackass! I hate them both

Wetin MCdreamy do you naa

5minsmadness:
Nope. More like this but shorter i.e above knee.

Ok I get the kind if gym wear you mean now.i would not wear that travelling long distance as well. I don't even really like wearing track suits long distance maybe the occasional school run or dash to the supermarket at the most. But that is me so I can't project my fashion issues on others.I have seen mums drop off their kids at school in pyjamas (under a winter jacket )something I would NEVER do but then again I can kinda understand the mad rush in the mornings which might have prompted that,

Funny enough like has been noted by someone else even in the west people would look at you funny if you wear what you described on a long distance journey but hey not everyone wears occasion appropriate clothes. I think it was More a fashion faux pas.People even look down or are snobbish to people who wear hoodies or track suits all the time they are called chavs here.

I think the issue people had (myself included) was not the appropriateness or lack of it of the outfit but the fact they you likened her poor dress sense to western morals.

Crackhaus the point most people were trying to draw on was the OP blaming the west for our morals based on the fact that this lady was wearing a gymsuit. If he had just probably spoken about the gym suit on its own the analogy of how we used to dress or how totally covering up is not necessarily our culture might have never ensued.

And right now I have a say in what my daughter wears as she is still a minor but by the time she is an adult I have little control over it.My mum thinks my not tying gele sometimes on iro and buba is not befitting for a married woman *rolls eyes* but she can only state her opinion I am now my own woman.So I can only hope my daughter mantains a sense of decorum in future based on values I might have inculcated into her but style is an individual thing.

SAMBARRY:
You ladies should watch Internet hustlers. It's a nollyood 2013 movie. Predictable but funny and interesting

Na yahoo things am sure will check it out after I finish Scandal.

Hello Aunty Taryour how family
Are you based in Lagos. And do you do delivery?

jennykadry:
Watch arrow...I tell you you wont sleep for days....

Definitely added to the favourites. To find time to watch them na the problem . Can't wait for christmas.

Its seems like ages since our last bank holiday on the UK and none again till christmas

LyndaRoyce:
Yello taryour! We're doing great by His grace.
Greetings to you too.
Yea its weekend... I'd looked forward to this weekend; now its here, I wish I could abscond to a place with less chores but more silence... Lately, my ears ve received more noise from kids to the extent that my ear now itches whenever I find myself in a quiet environment
Maybe I should auction them(kids) out for sale....so I could get all the silence I crave...(Lol).
My regards to all yours..
Happy weekend to everyone...
I dey greet oo

Hi lynda

don't auction our cuties o.I can soo feel you on wanting silence though.Bedtime is my favourite time of the day. People say I am.fanatical about it but even weekends or holidays they must be in Bed by 8pm.

OP Gym suit like this ? Me I even think except the park was air conditioned she must have been hot believe me gym suits are not the go to outfits to exude se.xiness.more like comfort wear on the days you just can't be bothered.

Chic probably wanted to be comfortable on her journey.

r231:
Na 4 i get sef, from Kent to Essex and back to my local. Parole starts from 5pm.

Baba owambe make una rora o See miles you dey clock up ontop party I go WhatsApp you now sef.i need someone's no

Me sef get parties nov 1, nov 9, nov 15 I thought people don't do parries in winter werrin be all this I would rather stay home and watch TV jare

alutacontinua:
she shouldn't have kept her child
she wanted to drown HER own child for God's sake
No maternal instinct whatsoever Her sister should just take the child as hers and forget about Carrie

I think so too . Lets see how it will pan out with no Brody.Me too I was a bit put off after episode 1 I sha found myself watching episode 2.

alutacontinua:
Criminal minds (tops the list anytime anyday)- the kinda crimes on that show are top-notch
Revenge
Scandal (gotta update myself with thursday's episode)
Bones (sometimes)
The Mentalist
Homeland (I still found my way back to season 4 after I dismissed it as bullshyte earlier on )
Pretty little liars (the crappiest of all, but they have a way of keeping you in suspense, thereby drawing my innocent person back)
Major crimes (spin-off from the closer)
Grey's anatomy (I seriously dunno where these people get cases from again, S11 for crying out loud)
Lost Girl (I miss my Kenzi)
Etc etc etc
I've tried breaking the addiction but I can't

Criminal Minds is also the one me and Hubby totally agree on. (he likes some shows that I don't and likewise me too) I like the way the psyche of the perp is analysed as the case progresses by the BAU.For a show to get to Season 10 no be beans

Do you kinda feel sorry for Carrie (Homeland)? I was a bit on her sisters side about her dumping her child on her but e get as e be jare.She kept the baby to keep brody's memory alive but now can't even connect with the child. She be real adrenaline junkie and even though its fiction it kinda shows that some women are not maternal.I think she should spare the poor child and give her up for adoption.

cococandy:
Some parts of Africa have nuude breats exhibitions as part of their culture.
Nigerian culture for most parts include half dressing,skimpy wraps et al as the core of our dressing.
The West brought cloths to us because they saw us as naked African gorrillas.

Now you're saying they are the ones who introduced us to nudity?
Be serious pls.

If you're talking about. Our identity as Africans,half nude is one part of it.what you're actually doing is asking us to throw away our culture as Africans and embrace prim and proper dressing which used to be Western culture.

Was going to say this(not condoning being immodest or dressing provocatively) but our weather means we actually need less clothes.OP based on your description I think she was even more covered than someone probably wearing a short ankara wrapper cos track(or gym) top/bottoms actually cover you up problem was probably more with sizing which was why her full body form was in display.


I got out my jumpers and winter coats today with much sorrow You don't even want to know how people in the west look forward to summer so they can wear less clothes.One tiny bit of sun like this they go just dey remove cloth anyhow.

I think back and wonder how I used to wear trouser suit and shirt back in the days of non airconditoned car

Jenny and Naijababe I started Scandal S3 last night na so I watch 5 episodes at a go Walahi Eli Pope is Evils.i still dey sleepy

R231 you and all this your funny memes.Any party today abeg collect my own share of spaghetti o.

Happy Weekend Everyone

jennykadry:
I enjoy Hawaii five o. I watch NCIS(s) sometimes but I don't really follow. Your hubby dey dear cos if he mistakenly shits on the wrong side of the toilet....his wife could be a suspect. I am sure you know how to set all the best crime scenes ever.

Even I am scared of you now

why una dey fear now.Na entertainment naa

Chaircover don't mind Naijababe joor do you watch Murder She wrote too? my husband is always hissing when I watch those two he says Jessica Fletcher and Columbo too like ITK I like Law and Ordertoo(all 3) but NCIS can be boring sometimes I like NCIS LA sometimes too.

There was this Series I loved The Newsroom I wonder if season 3 has been aired.Also Touch funny enough I kinda preferred Kiefer Sutheland as Martin Baume than as Jack Bauer.