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Hawaii 50 looks like Baywatch Crime Drama is it any good JennyKadry

I watch Person Of interest, Criminal Minds, Elementary, The Blacklist, Homeland,Castle, The Mentalist, Blue Bloods etc etc my hubby says my obsession with crime both fiction and reality (I love CI too) is troubling I joke and say you dey fear

jennykadry:
I edited my list to add the flash. Yea I watch the flash...fantastic. Love the flash
Arrow was recommended to me by a friend some time ago and in a day hubby and I watched first season with 20 something episodes. It was crazy. Damnnn I love arrow.
I am waiting for the flash to collaborate with arrow....it's going to be like Batman and superman collaborating. I know I'm too old to watch batman movies but heck Christian bale Played his part well and go me hooked line and sinker .

You are not too old joor I love batman and superman too .there is this Series called Gotham was going to check it out.I am a tv series junkie and I get withdrawal symptoms waiting for the next season of my favourites to start Me and hubby watch them together but hin sef don bow for me these days I tend to record or watch box sets on sky store when I have the time. Don't have time to be waiting week in week out. Not even started Scandal Season 3 At all.

jennykadry:
Ehn...you are asking if I watch scandal? I watch almost all TV shows: arrow(this show is killing me) scandal, Hawaii five 0, Chicago Fire, Chicago PD, revenge(OMG), castle, Gotham......Infact name them.

The last two minutes of the last episode of scandal was the best part...I just added jake to me harem after watching the last episode.

Jake taunting fitz was the best part of the show...and when he said she called him names during action...I died and went to heaven but my creator sent me back.he said it wasn't my time.

Hubby said his colleague told him Arrow is good now you have confirmed it . adding to my favourites. Saw a Preview yesterday from the Creators of Arrow The Flash seems will be good too.

naijababe:
Maka gini?! Make I run go home go watch am. I am going on strike this evening, make pikins and hubby find their levels

Me sef don strike tonight. Na me and my ears this evening . I strike most fridays anyways thank God for Mr Damiso wey understand hin wife.One day I fit be original stepford wife another day I fit be original miss lazy

You and Jenny are pushing me to make a start on Scandal . Maybe tonight.

SAMBARRY:
DONT MIND THAT YA DAUGHTERS CLASSMATES O JARE,THEY ARE JUST DOING INITIAL GRA GRA.YOU KNOW SMALL SMALL GIRLS LIKE DRAMA.THEY ARE KIDS JOOR,ITS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE THEY BLEND.THEY JUST WAN SHOW THEMSELVES SMALL
BUT ITS NATURAL FOR HER TO FEEL BAD THOUGH BUT WITH TIME,SHE WILL ADJUST

Thanks aunty kuly

Thanks my peeps :'
Girls and drama

Ok eyin aunties with older girls naijababe, chaircover, edwife efe etc I need una help/ideas.

First of all I must be old but how can 4/5 yr olds be doing or having cliques?

So like some of you know my daughter had to change school from where she did nursery and as such is a newbie in her new school.She has been settling in quite well academically but socially I have noticed that she has been a bit withdrawn and less chatty.She tells me mummy 'so and so said she won't be my friend and they won't play with me' typical naija now I would tell you can't force people to play with you if they won't play with you play with someone else . She is a late born (september baby) so is actually one of the older ones in class.She is normally confident but even I noticed that in the mornings when I drop her off she is acting all warm and friendly wanting to give cuddles to some girls amd they kinda give her the cold shoulder. I can see how dejected she is sometimes and I try to give her a cuddle or something to cheer her up.I did not want to be oversensitive so I just put it down to kids being kids.Me and her dad try tolet her know that she is ok not playing with everyone and friends are there to make all the time.

Today was parent evening and even her teacher had noticed . She said my daughter is such a confident friendly child (she wanted to use the word over friendly) and she was trying to break into an 'established' friendship that they had to have circle time about friendship when issues arose.Sho issues for 4/5 yr olds .I told the teacher I told her you too don't play with them if they don't want to play with you.The teacher said she has tried to find a way to play with the girls individually but it seems harder for them to play with her as a group. She said girls can be quite cliquey and that she hopes with time my daughter would realise on her own that it's ok not to be everybody's friend.She said she is making some other friends and is quite a lovely child to have in class as she can be quite outspoken but seems to still want to be friends with the "group".

How can I build her confidence without necessarily making her lose that friendly edge? I do agree that she is over friendly and I have to even caution her with strangers when we are out.When she is not in church everyone is asking after her in childrens church and everyone says she is a people person.Even me sef she can smother me with care.'mummy are you ok daddy i love you' .But I won't lie I feel a bit hurt on her behalf when some kids feels she is coming on too strong (some children are reserved).My mum says if I say stop her trying to play with everyone I might kill that free spirit as that was me as a child.

But I don't want her to go through some let downs and put down that I had to battle as a peaceloving friendly calm person.Thank God for my Dad but really children can be cruel and I know I had to grow a tougher edge as I grew older.

Suggestions welcome.

Stillfire:
Omggggg!!!!!!! What did she do to her face? She looks like a totally different person.

Right looks another person.Maybe that was the idea sha

BananaBender:
There is hardly ever a situation where both parties are on NL. I doubt they'll tell their spouse, "I am going to NL to report this issue, let's see who wins?"
I will be watching though. We have many creative fiction writers on NL, I'm sure they can cook up stories to match the needs of this thread.

A bit of my point actually. if we can agree to come to nairaland to air the issue I think we can actually work towards a mutual agreement on whatever the issue is.In more serious cases I don't even think the consensus will be reached to both come to nairaland as lines of communication might be strained at that point.

If it is possible though I think It should be responses from a wide range of people because having contributors streamlined to a few people defeats the purpose of coming to an online forum.If it were to be a few contributors It might actually be better to see marriage counsellors(if they are looking for non bias) or people (mentors so to speak)that they both respect.

Sounds like a good idea but I am kinda lost on how the couple will tell each other if they are having a misunderstanding' oya let's go to nairaland ' seems feyikogbonish(cant translate in English but was my grandma's best TV programme) anyone who had older Yoruba relatives living with them in the 80's will know the program.

chaircover:
. . . and women running successful charities and volunteer all over the place
Some women are out there in Syria and Liberia just handing out food and medical supplies. They dont even get paid for it
Pastors wives nko?
Are they career women?

True like that lady that runs The Kids Company I can't pronounce her name let me go and google it.

@OP question yes you can depending on a lot of factors.Career woman like CC pointed out is relative.A community nurse who closes at 5 is a nurse and can also climb up the career ladder of her profession but works less hours than the nursing sister or matron at a big hospital.

I also believe though that happy families takes the efforts of all concerned(yup at a certain age even children have a say in how happy a family can be).It cant be all up to the woman.One can chase a thousand two ten thousand like the scripture says.

jaybee3:
One who has been in structured employment for any given period just like a career civil servant is one that has worked all their life in civil service

What about successful entrepreneurs who have never actually worked in structured employment e.g Tara Fela durotoye,banke Meshida Funke bucknor obruthe etc etc

Na wa o Renee I actually think I prefer the before look .it's weird she looks like an entirely different person.

Funny enough the older generation women in my neck of the woods.were the direct opposite of what 'submission' is perceived to be.All my grandaunts and grandma still had a room in their father's houses after marriage the man messes up they go back to the father's house straight up dem no dey fear any stigma nothing.I have older women in my family that had x kids for x men.

There was(is) even a stereotype that eko women don't last in their husband's houses.Dem no send you try to interfere with them chopping the life of their heads you are gone. Made for some kain dysfunctional home settings though so not too sure if it was necessarily a good thing.

I think the younger generation starting from my mums generation from that particular part of Nigeria are now actually more 'submissive'.And I don't necessarily think it has to do with earning because most of these women (again from that part of Nigeria) were all financially independent. I don't get all this talk of women in this generation (generation may be loosely termed though so lets say 20's to say late 40's) being more financially independent than our mothers (60's to 80's) maybe more educated but not necessarily more financially independent.

My great grandmother built houses from selling pepper so how can you say that kind of person was not financially empowered?Most Yoruba women (not being tribalistic here or anything) are trained not to rely on a man totally financially and stay at home mums are largely looked down on.

Ahem

naijababe:
Papa Pope is the devil himself and I reckon is going to throw him under the bus........I hope sha

Damiso, that pic na die

made me remember my wedding ni aunties that saw me last when I was 2 sef sold gele (not bought o actually sold gele ).Na so so I need 1 IV and 10 geles I dey hear

bebe2:
okk.......

no wahala.
glad she is well

tnk u

You are welcome..

I loved sparklie's post so funny and heartwarming sometimes walking a day in other's shoes opens up our hearts to be a bit more compassionate.

Me I was buttypako I experienced driver ,school bus, walking,molue, (ok not really only took molue once or twice)okada, danfo, cab, etc etc.

moca:

Hi moca hows your Lil prince

She is ok.. she replied a PM I sent sometime in sept.just decided not to post on NL for a while.

CC and R231 you people will not kee me

Meanwhile I saw this picture and sent it to my mum saying for you and your crew my sister said she said I am not serious

Gele is not IV

salsera:
thanks esere, damiso and chaircover

I mentioned running away because i think the husband can kidnap the kids on a custodial visit and take them to Nigeria.

You are welcome.like CC advised The CAB have various units including a legal team that can give pointers on what she needs to do.

She can also visit shelter.org.uk they are a housing charity and as such if her local housing office is unable to offer immediate housing (social housing is veryyyyy overstretched these days and as such housing officers tend to be dilly dally a bit. People telling all sorts of porkies doesn't't help either) she can call them and they will fight her corner. Done some work with them in the past.

Has there been police/social services interventionsin the past? Its not compulsory but it helps her case a bit if there are signs that the environment is harmful for her and the kids esp.

And yes she can be relocated.I know someone who was relocated up north.if they are based in London its even a cheaper option for whoever takes up her case.

@salsera

naijababe:
I am being mesmerised by Grey's Anatomy atm babe. Xmas is so gonna be great! I want to check it out o once I have caught up with POI and The Blacklist and now GA And there's Downton Abbey too

Me sef I need to catch up with The Blacklist and Person of Interest I just dey record record no time to watch them

Dem no go kill us with all these series we television junkies

naijababe:
Jennykadry!!!! Walahi, Shonda Rhimes wan give me hypertension, what is she doing with Scandal now?

Speaking of Shonda do you think How to Get away with murder will be any good? Homeland without Brody just seems odd.I watched episode 1 of season 4 yesterday and the only thing I am getting is that carrie is now madam heartless send drones to a wedding

bukatyne:
I am

He said if I do not, he will not continue the classes. After much cajoling, I did so that the classes would continue. we had gone too far and sacrificed a lot at that stage.

You need to attend marriage seminar, you will laugh

Na wa o. I trust my husband sha.Your husband sounds like the cool let peace reign type like me He will say I am the one marrying her I don't need her to kneel down oga counsellor which own be your own.

r231:
I wonder o....dey give me spaghetti and dey no even give me Ragu sauce for it

; you are something else

R231 don is right you be proper isale Eko person my cousins(I am posher than them ) raised on the island no dey get pot for house.

bukatyne:
Maám,
I do not quote names in what I am not sure of.
I have been attending RCCG for about 9 years and wedded in RCCG.
Infact, our counselor had to force to kneel for my hubby during our classes else he will not continue as it means I could not be 'submissive'
I have attended a lot of seminars and sermons where such was said.
Maybe your parish is Modernized so they do not hammer on such things

Seriously as in seriously the counsellor said you have to kneel down? (Note I am not saying you can't kneel for your husband if it rocks your boat) but to be 'forced' when it's not that important to your or hubby is just mind boggling.I attend RCCG as well and I do know they carry the mummy daddy thing far but THAT is a whole new level.I just think 'forcing' people to do stuff is odd.Even the Holy Spirit does not force Himself on people.

OP, bellong has spoken well.

chaircover:
LOL

What I find really annoying is all these plastic bowls and IKEA coloured serving spoons and plain white mugs that everyone gives out.
How many people use single mug or single plates?
Most people use matching dinner sets
So what will I do with this one green mug and fridge magnet?
How many graters does a household need?
What does one do with a white thin towel with someones name embroidered or screen printed on?

I just wish that people wont waste their money on these soveniors that will eventually end up in the bin or in a cupboard. I am having a clear out at home and cant beleive the amount of unused soveniors I have

Food is much better. At least people can eat that and it wont be wasted, so long as you give out non perishable common foods such as baked beans and spagetti.

CC don't you even find it more baffling that people get offended if they are not given.i went for a party with one of my Inlaws and you know those people that give souvenirs to only people they know that's how this woman thought she was snubbing me by bypassing me (I no wear aso ebi as well sha) when she was sharing mug my inlaw was upset on my behalf I just dey laugh I said aunty why are you vexing naa she said she hates when people overlook people I said aunty she did me a favour at least I won't carry more kpanti home.me that I can do clear out it might be out of my house in a few weeks.sometimes I leave souvenirs on the table it give to those people who are so attached to it or pained if they are not given

I remember how me and my mum used to clash cos I was always clearing out the store.she too used to get upset when I was not fussed if they did not give me souvenir my answer was always 'all the ones you have at home how many do you use? 'Me and dad used to leave souvenirs under the table when she was not looking

r231:
A whole me pastor Shegs and my wife the chickeness (Deaconess)

Na front seat we dey sef....

Oh damiso I forgot to tell you.......come see this party I go last wknd, na only microwave remain make dem give me since I don collect plate rack, table cloths, spoons spaghetti, Maggi, they even give me shoehorn sef but I make sure say I collect enough spaghetti to last me a whole year........

Picture coming soon

Why u no con invite me naa? the celebrant dey manufacture spaghetti and kitchen towel ni.

RoyalRoy:


Not at all Sisi Dami.

She dey under probation. That's why.

Lollz.

Ok

naijababe:
I don hear,no be like that day e dey start ni. The last time I attended on was maybe in 2002 or so, abeg na massive suffer-head as far as I am concerned

Lol besides OHTV now screens the service LIVE(make I no lie I slept off on the sofa around 3.00 am during the last one )