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dabossman:
I'm a happily married man and I must say that I've never really visited the family section until a couple of topics made front page in the last two days. Somehow, my first impression was that the family segment seems to be a place where all men are put into a box and classified as bad. I kept seeing ladies saying "most men", "most African men", "most Nigerian men" are this or that, believe this or that, and I wondered why the generalization.
I love my wife to bits and do everything I can within my power and resources to make life good for her and my kid. I also know several couples who are happy (at least as far as the naked eye can see) and I know many men and women who give their all for their family. Marriage is no picnic, so there will be ups and downs and sometimes husband and wife will annoy each other extremely. That's normal and shouldn't now result in labeling one gender bad.
As I said in one of the threads that was on FP two days ago, any single guy or lady can come here on a faceless forum and blow hot and cold, bragging about what they can or can't accept from any man or woman in marriage. Those of us in it know it is a union of many compromises. You give some, you take some, most times you try to find a middle ground on most issues. There is no one size fits all format in marriage. Whatever works for you I say. Of course there are areas of no compromise, like physical, emotional and verbal abuse. That should never be allowed in marriage.
I'll try and visit some more anyway. Hopefully, issues on the thread won't always degenerate into a men vs. women battle. Marriage is not a competition.

Very Nice and realistic post... One persons nice husband might be Mr Wimp to another woman and annoy her to death.

EfemenaXY:
Call me "crazy" if thou wilst...but I've already started on my xmas shopping...bought two 5.40kg sized frozen turkeys from the supermarket.

I think I've learnt my lesson from last year - i.e: not going for the largest on display so I don't end up fighting to push the bird into the oven! Also got my Christmas cake, Pudding, Ribbons and Cards. More to come though.

Oya ladies in the house, who else has started? Chaircover? (I remember you said you get yours straight from the turkey farm?), Moca? Damiso? Edwife? Naijababe? Jennykadry? Any other takers, girls?

I try not to think about Christmas till December but this one they they have switched on the lights at Oxford circus today (why the rush naa ) I guess I can't escape it.Not started shopping yet but should start soon.Thankfully my kids are still little so they still believe they have to be good for Santa. we are even the ones hosting this year (grrr lazy wife talking ) so I better get on with it.i dont know why I can't have the holidays to just eat and watch series like naijababe

naijababe:
Telemundo sha, I am still on Grey's anatomy. Heading for S5 soon enough

I dey joke I know you are not a telemundo person

But all I hear on NL is women love telemundo
Grrr

naijababe:
yes oh! No slacking on this side rara

More time to watch telemundo (btw not a fan of telemundo last one I watched was Isaura the slave girl)

Idowuogbo abeg how I do what you want me to do?
Pls go and mention me on the thread

naijababe:
Chillisauce


One more thing to do lazily

Sharp sharp my fellow lazy sister

2CatWoman:
Have you tried using a balloon whisk or hand blender to whisk some air into the bean flour paste when you prepare akara?

No I have not.does it make a difference? It just tasted horrible the first time I tried it.

naijababe:
If you are going to cook in the oven, use those disposable foil containers. If you use a large oven pan, the moin moin does not cook properly in the middle

Ok that's what I use in the pot as well anyway. Just means no pot to wash

edwife:
Damiso and naijababe are the queens of lazyness,in fact they have been longing for a moment like this .

I can't argue with you.guilty as charged. As I said its in my DNA heck am even a stepford wife compared to my isale eko cousins wey no dey get pot for house.

Funny enough I actually like cooking and cleaning.

.I just try to find ways around food prep. besides how will I have time to watch my various television series.

naijababe:
There are many brands, I can only swear by the Tropicana brand. I tend to eat moin moin in the morning so I soak overnight with boiling water. But I have tried using beans after soaking for like 30mins and it works just as well.

You are a lucky girl, I recently sent a recipe via email so here is the copy paste.

1 scotch bonnet pepper, 2 red bell peppers 1 medium red onion, 1 clove of garlic and 1 egg for every one and a half cup.
Smoked mackerel fillets ( Asda or Sainburys)
Beef kidneys.
Boil the beef kidney as you would boil your meat normally and put aside.
Blend the beans together with peppers, garlic and onion and pour in a bowl.
Cut the kidneys into small pieces and blend with a bit of water, you need just enough water to blend the meat. Pour into the blended beans, mash the mackerel fillets with your fingers and add to the beans mixtures. Crack the egg into the mixture and beat the mixture together. You want make sure it mixes well. Add oil, maggi and salt to your preference.
Pour into tin foils and either steam in a big pot, cover the pot with either a nylon bag before covering with the pot cover and allow to steam for 35 minutes. The second method for cooking which I prefer is to put in the oven at 160 deg for 35 to 40 minutes.....I hope you will like your results..

Thanks and will also try with the oven. .there is this food blog I follow 9jafoodie he even uses oven pans for moi moi will def try it.

naijababe:
Dami, leave story, the peeled and dried beans tastes just fab. The powder, I never near and I don't plan to.


Who else cooks their moi moi in the oven here?

Really!!!! oya method.?

I think it tasted off. I still have it in the kitchen sef(the peeled one) was going to chuck it in the bin.

naijababe:
Get a steamer darling, does wonders for pleats

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Morphy-Richards-42615-Clothes-Travel/dp/B004N6229O/ref=sr_1_12?ie=UTF8&qid=1415196658&sr=8-12&keywords=hand+garment+steamer

Thanks babe

cococandy:
dont mind Crackhaus. That's how he will go and quarrel with his lady if she doesn't finish making the moi moi in an hour. Because he thinks washing beans takes 15 mins. Lol

They even sell already peeled beans here and bean cake flour.

As the lazy woman that i am I have tried both and to be honest the beans you peel yourself tastes better. The bean flour is horrible the moi moi came out as hard as olumo rock with the already peeled beans it tasted funny.so it was back to peeling for me *sighs*

I am looking for the gadget that will make ironing the pleats in my daughters school skirt 2 mins max.that darn thing takes forever to iron my OCD also comes into play here as the pleats must stand individually for me to be satisfied) my husband who is normally the better ironer even makes it worse as he just irons it straight thereby making the pleats more rumpled.

And pls don't say hand wash and then hang(my mums solution)

naijababe:
Wot you talking about Willis?

You make am fear naa she had to ask 3-4 hrs naija time

coogar:
me ke?
i am only an apprentice....i have masters, jenny & phema.

Apprentice ko trainee ni

FINA4804:
@naijababe, my sister is it 3-4hours nigeria time, for me that's wasting my time, I think its pressure cooker I really need and when I need plenty property I will get a slow cooker.
@hispinkolo, thanks dear

My sister fear

Naijababe is too British don't mind her. Put food in slow cooker and go to work in naija.PHCN takes off power and it comes back with high voltage na kasala be that o

I think pressure cooker is a better option for you based on what you said earlier

freshdude2:
E maa so bee maa. Na food o.

Ok o

coogar:
you are right on the money!

You too like that thing joor

Na food

FINA4804:
Good morning all, I am part of this, please from experience what product of pressure cooker's are best we can find in nigeria, I don't like buying electrical things online. Can I use one pressure pot for both beans and meet (say cow leg, tail etc). Whatvdevice can help me slice and cut my salad and fried rice things ling carrot and the others. Sipping tea while waiting for your Life saving reply....

Yes you can use the same pressure pot for cow leg and tail wash it throughly and use for beans as well.But if you don't have one yet just buy a slow cooker.

As for vegetable slicers there are loads of gadgets for that..will be back with pictures.

naijababe:
You and me both for short cut. I prefer a slow cooker to a pressure cooker. Slow cookers do a much better job and are much more versatile. I can cook whole chicken, meat joints and whatnot in them.

That okra thing eh! Sometimes when I am even feeling super lazy, I let my kids do it. The pulling is fun for them

Still just have the pressure pot but will be buying a slow cooker.I keep procrastonating that il buy it on our next excursion to Costco (like they sell it in costco only)

Yes them sef go chop too naw. my daughter can load washing machine now she can even rinse plates. my son (2) I don dey give am brush to sweep food he spills off the table.Na pesin born me too abeg

I knew coogar will be on the side of we lazy women am sure coogar will hire a cook for his wife sef..the only lazy in coogar's dictionary is slacking in the bedroom department

https://www.nairaland.com/1128688/cheeky-shortcuts-take-parents-make

I am the queen of short cuts so I guess I am chief lazy woman

chillisauce oya click on that thread you will see more lazy tips

Naijababe that okra one is the bomb I can make okra now in 10-15 mins

Another free one for beans..just put all your ingredients oil seasoning pepper in a pressure pot (will look for rhe picture)
whatever close it and stretch your feet while your beans comes out ready in the next 45 mins.

I hear you can use for stews and soups but I no lazy reach that one

alutacontinua:
Link please

Amebo aproko I thought men dont do aproko eh aluta

moca:
Eewh, im talking of something important and u r talking about lace!
Women and clothes!
Lawd hv mercy!

Yes i lv d place. Wish i can go there.

No oo I am not even much of a lace fan

I thought you were contemplating going to Austria for business.

R231 you be real Ajala travel am sure you have contacts in Kabul, ,Afghanistan

moca:
Jonathan is also a child of God

Austria now.
Capital vienna abi vienna capital austria.
I dont know which one be which again

Never been....heard its a lovely place and they sell nice lace one of my friends goes there to buy lace to sell..you thinking of going there?

moca:
Its a lie!
All na bribe
Corrupt me not damiso
Heheheheheee!

Sis, pls im serious now.
Do u like austria?

I am a child of God..corrupt ke

What is Austria? Do you mean the country

moca:
Hahahahahaaa!!
Damiso isnt fit to be in govt o!
She loves bribing!
See as she wan bribe me
But i need that tutorial again for RR's wedding(omoge of d day:dinner gown and gele perfect combo )

Ok let me rephrase it....let me give you an incentive abi that's the other big oyinbo for bribe

Donxavier:
Hmmm, maybe I should come up with a credible alternative to nairaland

I like you sharp business man

moca:
Abi o.
The thing tire me too.
I usually come here to laugh mostly but d venom and bile is too much.

They dont hide posts anymore.
The owner of nairaland dont even care about what happens in family section.
Honestly im looking for a good discussion forum. Once i get one, im off. I dont like blogs.

Chillisause and edwife,pls come and recommend a good forum for me.
Im tired of this nairaland. No longer fun.
I still hang around cos of old habit.

Nne don't go na we will miss you

Make I hire gele artist to bribe you

naijababe:
You have to wonder if some folks are taking lessons

My sister I read some and am thinking na wa o folks need to chill men..

naijababe:
Shuo!!! You be IB chick too?! Kini so re ?

Too many cusin sair peeps men

Hello everyone...

Na wa for the way ppl have perfected the art of dissing on this NL..shuo (make I borrow your slang naijababe) no be small thing..