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Even though I visit front page first,

Romance is still my favourite section.

She made a mistake first and repeated the mistake once. Its not too much yet; I think.

Must everything come on NL?

I kinda like your post but....
okay check my comments in red

1. Tell her she is beautiful or gorgeous(not fine, or sexy)
On point

2 . Hold her hand at any moment . . even if its just for a second.
On point

3 . Kiss her on the forehead/ neck.
On point

4 . Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
Its Okay, but most Nigerians (in 9ja) don't set their VMs.

5 . When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
On point

6 . Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
On point

7 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
On point

8 . Write her notes. (she loves them)
hmmmmmmm, I no know sef

9 . Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend/fiancee.
On point

10 . Play with her hair,
On point

11 . Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
On point

12 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.
don't try this in 9ja parks ooo abeg. Rather take her to quiet joints.

13 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her silly jokes, or just tell her jokes.
On point

14 . Let her fall asleep in your arms.
After wedding: Yes; Before Marriage nko?

15 . If she's mad at you, kiss her.
I like

16 . Give her piggyback rides.
okay

17 . Bring her flowers
Not our style but OK if you're a westerner

18 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
Most times, this won't be completely possible

19 . Look her in the eyes and smile.
On point

20 . Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
On point

21 . Kiss her in the rain.
No Comment

22 . If your in love with her . . . tell her.
On point

23. Play a song for her most likely on a guitar.
How naa? You wan kill us?

24. Cook for her and always take breakfast to her bed in the morning
And if she still lives in her father's house nko?

25. Spoil her with gifts
Agreed, but in line with your earning power


So I'll just say you are about 85% on point.
Nice thread.

Why are you asking a question you know the answer to?

Joblessness?

kitty kat: U always make sense. Rare combination

And that's because I learnt well from the best.

And guess who the best is; kitty kat

You should meet her. She's great.

acidtalk: A friend of mine who works with an Insurance firm which is rated on of the first 3 in the country as been lamenting of the urge to get married urgently.

He stays in a very big 2 bedroom apartment on the mainland and stay all alone.

Every time we get talking via chat, phone call or one on one. Majority of what his bothering him is the need to settle down with his fiancee and start a family.

Bear in mind that he has been dating this lady for 5 solid years and he has made love to her only ONCE.

She avoids coming over to his place for fear of being to ramantic with him and the possibility of having se*x a second time with him.

The issue is this guy have cheated severally on this is girl which I didn't blame him. In my own opinion, she has totally neglected him.

He intends settling down with her before the end of the year but his biggest fear is if "she won't end up starving him with s*ex".

A lady who have only gone intimate once in 5years of their relationship might just starve him for a life time.

@OP,
Are you sure you are speaking for your friend or yourself?

Well, if the relationship is 5 years old, trust me he likes her to have held on this long especially when intimacy isn't involved. But then, why judge her because of her belief. How would you feel if she asks you to quit your job because she can also support the marriage with her finances only? She's insane right; because she asks you to relinquish your job which you believe-in?

Have you tried to ask why she doesn't want it. I know a guy that finally had his way on his girlfriend while passing the night with him, only to find her quietly crying and praying bitterly, for God's forgiveness in another room in the house. She was crying saying she did it because she loved the guy.

Well, you've been cheating on her, this is not the time to judge you on that, but please don't force her or condemn her beliefs. If you'd have it, let it be because she's willing to offer you free-willingly. if you were her elder brother, how would you feel if you get to know that your sister's boyfriend is cheating around just because she's not bleeping him for now.

Check for the qualities you want in a wife in her asides sexx. If she's at least 70% up, pick a date straight cos you are very lucky. Even if you doubt her competence in bed, a good wife (that loves her husband) is willing to learn and satisfy her husband. So, instead of being worried, check for her abilities to learn new things in suiting her husband.

Finally, we guys always know the truth. We just like to deceive ourselves sometimes. Why keep her for 5 years if there isn't something to keep her for? Why not marry all those cheap girls that throw themselves at you for sex. So you are willing to let go of a good wife material because you are not sure of her bed skills after marriage abi? May God help you.

we asked you ladies to teach us how to be romantic now, only two sensible posts were returned. If it were to be topics about "girls liking money", "virginity" or "NL ladies are ugly", we'd have been on page 93. If those are the things that interest you, then why would you expect us to be Jesus Christ to you as husbands.

So much for wanting guys to treat you better in relationships/marriages.

I believe a soundtrack of one's life should be a song that is commensurate with one's life.

As for me, its simple;

"Sweet Jesus Loves Me" - Whitney

Despite my imperfections and shortcomings, He always holds His end of the bargain by being faithful to His love for me.

kitty kat: I wait to see u open a thread. Lying on an armchair and sipping soda.

Really?

I'm not even sure I know how to start one. But really, what would you be expecting on a thread I start? Maybe I can do with some suggestions.

I'm so cracked up right now.

I noticed a trend. The ladies are kinda solemn in their comments while the guys are so weird with theirs.

Lesson 1: ladies are very attached to the kick off while guys only remember such moments as gateways to a life of limitless boundaries.

Lesson 2: A lot of ladies would rather not discuss it here and have the moments exposed or lambasted on NL. Of course, guys wanna show off and get funny.

Still waiting for the first person to be dis-virgined by his wife....

bashr8: former ogun abi osun state governor and yet the man dey nyash all the girls in his state , money talks bro forget all these liars.

Former Oyo state bleaching governor I guess; Alao Akala. And he has over 23 identified girl friends.

@OP, I think I quite understand your plight.
if you say NL men, are you referring to men in sports, entertainment, religion, politics etc also or just Romance section?

I personally don't believe the Romance section is a place for 100% good advices. NL Romance section is a place for fun while we go through the boy-girl feud about life. From any topic, you'll always get a mix of insults, quality posts, bad and good advices, derailers etc. You need to put your filtering skills into use. Just filter out the good advices you need and laugh off every other vulgar comments.

And it is also wrong to generalize, all men can never be the same. How would you feel to be generalized as a ho just because some girl I know displayed some ho-ish attributes.

In this section, pls never take anything serious, just have fun, follow the groove, make jest of people, be wise enough to learn from some funny advices and you'd be just alright.

I'm waiting for the first female to show interest in a bleaching + short(5'-2") + tribal marks + snoring pot-bellied man.

So many revelations.

[quote author=ANY-PEN ]- they say "love" don't lie.

- yes he doesn't

- what if he does?

- then its not "love"
-who will it be then?

-that will be "deceit"
-how come he looks exactly like "love"?
- do they? They don't really look alike. It's just that "deceit" is always very jealous of love so he disguises as "love"to make people have him since no one wants "deceit" & everyone wants "love"
-mmhh! So, next time how am I to know it is "love"?
- next time, look very closely under their hats, deceit has 3 eyes & love has just one
-the hat! That hat is the problem. Why the hat all the time?
-"love is very shy, thus use the hat to hide his shyness while "deceit" use the hat to hide his 3rd eye.
- why is "love" shy?
- because he is having one eye.
- why is "deceit" hiding his 3rd eye?
- because he uses it to secreatly see the other side. the other side is where he goes next.
They say love is blind. He is not really blind, it is just that once his 1 eye is focused on one person, it can't see anywhere else.
- how can I catch "deceit" eyes
- open one eye when you're kissing him, if you see his two eyes open....run cause the 3rd one must be hungrily searching everywhere!


played "innocent"
played "wisdom"[/quote]Absolutely hilarious.

Nice write up and somehow jokingly not far from the truth.

As for me, your virginity is only a secondary attribute. It can never be a part of my selection criteria lailai. Its a decision and not a character. And the decision take only a five minute bedding to break never to be restored again.

So, because your parents were doing virginity tests for you twice every year until you were 26 means you have good self control abi? Or what else is virginity when every hole on you except the hole have been severally rigorously penetrated including mouth, nose, ear etc even lap join sef. You will now come and tell me you be one mumu virgin. TAH!!!!!

What do you mean by Interested in You?

Do you mean if she wants to date you or what? cos interested could just be interested in having you as a friend or mentor or even maga.

But first rule first, she must be willing to see/talk to you again anytime soon. Its a lot easier with our ladies these days. They are very quick to give you signs letting you know if they want to continue the friendship or not, if you can decode on time. But then, if you are very rich, it might be difficult to tell if they are interested or not. Trust me, majority of them would show interest in you quickly, once they sense you have some Naira to spare.

But seriously, you don't need to bother about her for now. Go ahead with getting to know her. Take her down the lane with things you like and do your things naturally around her, if she really likes you, you wont have to start this thread.

In as much as the guy is being insane to slap your bride on the D-day and we have to honestly condemn his act,

really, is walking out of the marriage the next step? What happens to all the years of courtship, marriage and wedding plans etc especially if you are a grown lady that just turned 31.

Something in the past must have made you to decide to do the aisle walk with him in the first place.

As for me, I believe its only weak men that beat their women. It's a big sign of uncontrollable weakness.

If I tell you this is exactly what I'd do, then I'm lying.

After fathering a child for twenty years? I'd probably have to really work hard on how to forgive her because if a woman can stay and endure me for twenty years, it has to count for something. Of course I can't start hating a child I've loved for 20 years.

A tough one though.

^^^^

So, how come there's something called preference?

If you like beef, eat beef. If you like chicken, eat chicken. Don't impose chicken on beef fans.

If great singers like R Kelly, Luther Vandross, Lionel Richie, Whitney and Mariah can make good quality music, why won't I listen?

Love songs all the way JORRRRR

kitty kat: U r succeeding in proving me wrong. I was just discussing with a NLDer offline abt cute smart guys on NLD and u were mentioned. I hv to agree with them

I might start blushing soon.

But, are u serious? I've been kinda absent on NL lately. They turned my favorite fun spot to a place of insults.

But then, what kind of topics interest you?

@OP, I take your post as being hilarious.

Even though, they sound kinda true, I still wont trade my gender for all of these.

I was thinking you'd also add;

menstrual pain every month?
Change surname of 20-something years upon marriage?
Won't even go out without having to make up? (last time I checked, you only make-up for something missing eg make-up exam) Is that supposed to mean your beauties are missing. lol

Don't worry, enjoy your being a woman, we don't envy you AT ALL.

Yeah; How come....How long. Good song from two great living legends.
A good sensitization song for the ladies.

Those were the days when music was good and music was music.
But what do they listen to today? "Knack me Akpako". May God help us.

lollll. Another interesting thread though.

@OP, I put it to you that you are very experienced in dealing with NL posts and responses. You haven't lost it by now and you sure know how to reply them. Nice one

My bits;
I think you are Melancholic by temperament that will require a Sanguine to drive and maintain a steady conversational level. Its a good thing to like good looking guys, but you must be able to contribute some effort and also compromise a little to achieve your desired goal. Good things don't come easy you know. If you think he's boring, help him out by driving him to a comfort zone. Every guy sure has a comfort zone of conversation. If after evaluating what he likes to talk about and you still don't feel him, you guys are most likely not compatible. But at least respect them cos they've got the looks and its not easy to maintain it.

Guys being boring at conversation is not a function of looks, its a function of personality. When you meet them (good looking guys), don't assess them whether they are boring or not, try to know them. Once they are not asking the right questions, help them out by asking. It will make them want to defend their masculinity next time thereby resulting in opening up.

By the way, where do you get to meet your own guys?
The last time I checked, I can still keep a good level of conversation of any sort. (***wink wink***)

Na So E easy abi?

I can understand if I have to forgive her, but a seed as a constant reminder of how I was foolishly played while I trusted her? I, personally don't have a problem forgiving but i have a big problem forgetting.

It must take the grace of God.
I'm sorry, I'm just being human and realistic.

[quote author=Mr..Cork]Real men do NOT listen to love songs!! [/quote]Don't worry Mr Cork; an individual's general personality depicts a lot about the things that define him. Your personality says a lot about your dressing, your choice of words, your choice of friends/hang out joints and of course, it depicts your choice of songs.
It's never a function of Real Men or Fake Men.

Guys that like love songs have great respect for the meaning and usage of words and in turn have great respect for people especially the opposite sex.
You see, that's why guys on this thread are not abusive in nature. In fact we still love you (with the love of God) despite your opinion.

Have a nice day.

Day169: dammytex, "How soon?" ..thot nobody new that song. Great composition, written by Gerald LeVert( Bukizo pls note)! Cheers.

Sure song from that "All That I Am" album. The album's got some other wonderful tracks too like; "Love Scene", "Love Dont Make No Sense" and "All That I Am"

Hmmmm, I love topics like this

Very hard to choose 20 tho, but coming up with something, I'll go with these (in no particular order);

If that's What It Takes - Celine Dion
How Soon - Joe
After All is Said and Done - Beyonce & Marc Nelson
The Day I Fall in Love - James Ingram & Dolly Parton
You Are My Lady - Freddie Jackson
Love Will Find a Way - Kenny Lattimore & Heather Headley
Can't Help Falling in Love - Andrea Bocelli & Katherine McPhee
Whenever You Call - Mariah Carey
My First Night With You - Deborah Cox
Not Ready For Goodbye - All 4 One
2 Become 1 - Spice girls
I'm Ready - Tevin Campbell
When You Say Nothing At All - Ronan Keating
Ife Wa Gbona - Tiwa Savage
Make It Real - The Jets
Always - Atlantic Starr
Footprint In The Sand - Leona Lewis
It's Not Goodbye - Laura Pausini
Always and Forever - Luther Vandross
I Wanna Run To You - Whitney Houston(R.I.P)

Waohhh!!!
43 pages in less than 24 hours? hmmmm

This is a tricky one here.
Just as I wont listen to my wife telling me NOT to pursue my career all because of her insecurity, I shouldn't do the same to her. In fact, when my wife excels, its a plus to me because I also helped actualize her dreams. And since we are one, her success becomes my success too. So, its a good thing if my family is progressing as long as I'm not doing badly myself, thank God.

But then;
what if she married you when she wasn't completely exposed yet to her beauty, quality and worth? What if even as you speak now, she's already thinking she could have had a better bargain (in husband). If she gets offshore, she might find those men she'd always dreamed of as a girl. And trust me, money, intelligence, attention, punctuality and consistent pestering wont be lacking on the facility at all. What else does a woman want?
Come to think of it; she now earns more than you. You might be in trouble bro. Studies have shown that 75% of infidelity in married woman happens with their colleagues or exes. And in your own case, she spends 75% of her time with them while you enjoy only 25% with her. May God help you oooo

Try and picture out what is important to your family the most. Is it more money; then let her have the job. Is it raising family and bonding; then let her continue with her old job while you help her get somewhere new and better. If having kids is important now; carry belle give am sharp sharp. But just know that if she doesn't take up this dream job, you'd be highly indebted to her for the rest of your life and you'd have to keep making up for it.

Trust me, whether she goes or stays doesn't stop her infidelity, but if she stays, the risk is lesser and the temptation is lesser. Don't listen to funny advices about you being insecure or selfish. It is your wife, your family and your life. Your happiness belongs to only you. Do what is right for you and your family. After all, you know your family better than us all.

Even if the op isn't precise about the percentage, one thing is sure; NL men are finer than NL ladies; PERIOD.