Hold on please;

Let me check my username again. This name here sounds familiar. Abi na me?

Well, the greater part of the decision depends on you. What exactly can you cope with?

As for me;
You said she's loving and caring but she lacks domestic responsibilities.
If she's not a great cook, I can manage but house chores again; not interested. With the nature of my job, I really need a woman in the house that can administer proper care, cleaning and upbringing for our kids. If she can't clean her own room and house, what will Junior do? Charity begins at home. I want the best for my kids and being independent is inclusive. If my Junior can not learn to take care of the home while growing up, what kind of father and husband will he grow up to be?

So, I'm looking at a bigger picture here.

But Marriage is also about helping your soul mates. If you truly want the marriage to work, you'd have to HELP her too. Let her know being lazy is NOT an option if she wants you too. If she's truly caring, then she'd want your happiness. So, take advantage of times spent with her to clean your house, do the dishes, do some cooking while listening to music and flirting-along during the process. At least she must be willing to spend time with you if she's TRULY caring ooo.

And how come a Nigerian girl cannot cook and take care of the house at the same time? Even if na Dangote be her papa..?

Are you sure you want to do Japanese Car Day in Nigeria?

Seriously?

@Duke,

Please what do you consider as your own temperament?

I know spicy is chol-mel.

Aunty Spicy;
you promised me a Mel-San oo ehn ehn..

we Sanguines don't forget promises like this but if it were to be a task or assignment now, we can be busy talking about MTV Video music awards with the receptionist at 3:52pm while the deadline is 4:00 pm. But trust me na, there will always be a genuine excuse to talk my way out. In other words, the sanguine in you makes you extra smart.

If I come back to this world 10 times, I will choose to be a sanguine 11 times. Can you beat that; you get to achieve a lot while flexing. You have a lot of friends that are always willing to cover up for you even when you are late/absent. Ladies will always be your friend as long as ladies still enjoy those flirty comments about their hair, make-up, dressing and perfumes. Your male friends will always bring party and latest gist to your house because your inputs must always make sense. My parents never flogged me for once, how na? There is always excuse sha ni. Even when they are down-sizing in office, your boss can't even think about you because you will always rescue him with management and customer presentations.

And another thing, we always buy things cheap. No be to negotiate, the seller go tire na. If God blesses you and your seller is a female while you being a guy, trust me, she is already selling at 40% discount while smiling and laughing unless she's a sharp sanguine like you.

So, if you'd like to borrow our sanguine traits (just like Duke pointed out), our forms are available. we'll discuss privately for the fees and special training. All other temperaments can apply except male cholerics.
MALE CHOLERICS, PLEASE DON'T APPLY OO. I no get time for English grammar explanation abeg. Dem wahala too much.

You see, you can even make money being a sanguine while training others, I no fit shout abeg. Come and pay for your forms please

Duke_Nija:

Inasmuchas I'd love to Do this like spicy, I don't have that patience.

You are a Phleg/Chlo. Phlegmatic. And Choleric. Read the first two pages and confirm. Goodluck.

How can someone be a Phleg-Chol, that's very rare.

^
Are you kidding me?
I just clocked a score and a half last April.

Artist+Engineer; what king of combo is that?

Onegai:

You sound like a San-Phleg. Why do you want a Mel-san? Have you lived with one?? One minute they're happy, next they're upset. You won't know because her melancholic will hide her pain till it turns to anger (sanguine) and her sanguine bursts into floods of tears and anguish and the sun will stop shining once that starts (melancholic depression). She'll out-think you and outsmart and out-charm you, it's like living with a tv whose channel is BBC Knowledge and Comedy Central, lol. Never a dull moment. However, combine a passionate nature with a compassionate nature (sanguine) with a introverted nature which always wants to do right and is a perfectionist(melancholic). I hope you're ready for her conscience to be very strong, lol. Get ready for her to be super-organized (you will NEVER lose your underwear) and be messy at the same time (She won't understand why you have to fold clothes, but will organize shirts, trousers, socks and pants, separately). Listen to her, 99 percent of her ideas are seriously good. Also, she'll make an excellent political wife, sh'll earn you votes with how passionately she feels people's pain and her belief in you, plus her rational excellent ideas on how to do right while guaranteeing you don't steal. So don't be a politician in Naija.

signed, San-Mel

OK mami,
Why I want a Mel-San? I'd still prefer her to a Mel-chol. Things will be a lot easy with her and I'm not sure I like female competition, I like to just respect and honour her for whom she is. Being a Mel, the most difficult thing about her would have to be mood swings and that I understand.

Out-think me; maybe. Out-smart me; even maybe but out-charm me; never (trust your guy naa). My Sanguine no be mumu oooo.
BBC Knowledge+Comedy Central=Perfecto. I always love humour while learning things. I remember things learnt while flexing than things learnt being serious. In fact, I hate being serious (weird right? don't worry; I know). Only God knows how I will propose. In school, I used to read my Engineering Maths textbook (Stroud 1 & 2) while strolling up and down the street.

Conscience; I guess that's a plus to my advantage.
Super organized; thank God. At last, I can find my pairs of socks well arranged somewhere.
Are you saying, Mel-sans could also be a Michelle Obama, a good political wife? Yeh pa!!!

Willing to pay any amount for a free MEL-SAN in the house please...

Waiting...

wetin dey always worry all of una for this NL sef? which one be marry mammy water again?

Back to your question;
I'll just ask her; what exactly she wants from me. Was she sent to take my soul or she just loves me naturally. If she loves me, make we carry go na and I'd secretly whisk her to MFM and Deeper Life + CAC join for deliverance. After all, the mammy water in her na spirit.

Why are my eyes almost wet?

Na lie, I no gree. Big boy no dey cry for NL public.

Beautiful story. I like.

Remii: I used pence, shillings and pounds. I remember we used to tie 2 pence to our shorts going to school. I saw the introduction of Naira and Kobo, there was also a 25k coin, that was called Dollar, (USD was apparently equivalent of 25K in 1970s)it was not well accepted though so it faded out very soon.
In my town, a drop of intra-city bus was 10K and that is the name they still call the minibuses till today over there. I also remember that N20 was a bragging note in those days at Old Buka at OAU, Ife. If you brought out the green note of Murtala, everyone who saw it would look at you like a "big boy" lol fyi, monthly school stipend was N30 at the time.

Bros
you don teh true true. You sure say; Awolowo no be your classmate so?

spicy v: @ Duke what can I say? Thanks a lot bro. You sure have been doing a tremendous job here.
@ Dammytex lol. I like you already. As Duke rightly pointed out, you need a lady with the Choleric temperament. I would say that a blend θf Mel/Choleric would be perfect, Mel being the dominant temperament.

Your Sanguine nature seeks to always be the centre θf attention, so you naturally wouldn't appreciate anyone else competing with you for attention. In other words, you will be drawn to a more reserved person who would let you do all the talking. On the other hand, you have the unmotivated, lazy temperament (phleg), you would be doing yourself no good at all if you pair up with someone that shares that sort θf personality. Someone with a blend θf Mel/chlo will be reserved and very organized(a great match for the disorganized sanguine), the choleric in her makes her very focused(great match for the phleg).

I couldn't help but laugh real hard when you pointed that you wanted someone who would find your jokes funny. Why do you think Cholerics are so hard up? Lol. I am 70percent Choleric and my spouse has some phleg in him but I think he is the funniest and most fun to be with person in the WHOLE universe!(Call it exaggeration if you like lol). Dammy, you need a woman with a stronger personality, since you have a weakness with indecisiveness, you need a decisive companion. Just focus on her strengths rather than the weaknesses. I think I have laid so much emphasis on how my boo and I carryon, understanding each other and focusing on complimenting our weaknesses with each other's strengths has been very effective.

I also want you to note that though you can be with whoever you choose and work it out, its just much more easier when you understand temperaments and choose someone with a complimentary temperament whilst both θf you work hard at supporting each other to become better persons.

ooooooooooooooo
This Choleric people, their shakara too much abeg. Maybe because we are both extrovertish in nature, we hardly get along. In office, the cholerics in my team would always want my inputs submitted exactly the way (format) they want it plus the time they want it. Trust me naa, I'd always look for the easiest and the less stressful way of approaching quality solutions and most times, it won't be in their (cholerics) way. (who cares; as long as the solution output is accurate).
Other guys always prefer me around when the tension is high especially when we are working extra hours to meet deadlines. I try to make them relax and create fun out of the job while we execute. The cholerics always find this disgusting as they like to show off their strength (without team-work) the most, in times of pressure.

In life, I take a lot of things calm and easy. Truthfully, I can be lazy about many things too though. I sleep late, always catching one fun or the other on phone, TV or internet. Of course, often lazy to wake up early. I sleep a lot on weekends too if allowed, but my house is always the meeting point of my friends every weekend. so most times, we are either yabbing one another or hanging out in public/event places.

Please, just give me a Mel-san abeg. I don't like wahala at all. In fact, I've completed one and a half score and I've never fought anybody before in my life if you care to believe. She will be receptive to my jokes and she can always kick-start humour on my behalf, should I switch to phleg mode. As for her mood swings, God dey.

So, have I spoken well?

I wanna spend am die.

5K, 10K + 50K and 1 naira notes.

As a pako pikin back in the days, had lots of kulikuli, kokoro, lolly, donkua, gudi-gudi, taba-taba (balewa), elekute, eekana gowon, sweet elepa, sweet alagbon, eyin alangba, monkey cola etc with these.

Duke_Nija:
Lazy Lazy..
You want to relax abi?? I do like cholerics. You'll just chill. They do everything.

Cholerics ke? nooo

I can't stand people who won't accept and appreciate my jokes. I don't like people with tendencies to create fight and arguments around them. I don't like people with bossy nature, they make me feel bad and quiet. In as much as I like results, I don't like being pushed like a slave to achieve the success.

So, how do I cope with a choleric then? I'm a guy remember..

So spicy, who would be the best woman for me now that I'm a San-phleg?

@OP
Good Points, no doubt. If any lady has this kind of man, you must do thanksgiving in church daily till you re 80 years old.

But then, ladies still won't date this kind of men.
Reasons:
they say things like; they are boring, they don't wear designers, they don't drive cute cars, they don't know romantic and exotic places to take girls to,they are not funny and they don't have swags. And I'm not sure they also have the best of looks.

So, girls would still go for guys with other qualities asides the ones mentioned here although they'd wish they can convert them to having these qualities.
I don't know why; you ask them..

This manual here is for the cool okay girls. For the crazy ones, this is just the table of contents.

Should there be debts in the first place?

At least what I know is this; an ugly guy can still get his game and desires right if other factors are in place eg neatness, high dress sense, intelligence, being funny, wealth, being caring etc

but an ugly girl? (you're better the ugly version of Michelle Obama or else...)

@OP

I wonder why you'd ask these kinds of questions. Okay, try to respond to these questions and you have your answer;

Who would you like to raise your daughter if you were not around, KK or MO?
If your son brings his fiancee home, and she happens to be KK of MO; (in fact you know the rest)
Would you prefer to be; the mother of Kim or the mother of Michelle?
In your husband's business , who would you prefer to be his deputy? MO or KK?

Now you have our answer to your question.

Michelle Obama is synonymous with wife, success and intelligence.
Kim Kardashian is synonymous with sex, sex and sex.

I have read some things about temperaments before, but your description here kinda seems to be more precise.
I think I'm about 72% sanguine + 20% phlegmatic + 6% melancholic + 2% choleric.

In conclusion, I think I'm just a San-phleg.

But then, I think one should only have a combination of being extrovert and introvert eg San-pleg, San-mel, Chol-phleg, Chol-mel and viceversa instead of Mel-phleg (two introverts) or Phleg-mel (two intoverts) or Chol-san (two extroverts). These are combinations of two introvert/extrovert features and should not combine for the total description of a person. My thoughts...

- Dip the bread inside the tea
Guilty till date especially when the tea is very hot
- mix the entire white rice and stew before eating
Steady
- pour dry garri on your bean porridge
Of course I've tried it before but I'm of fan of soaking the garri separately.
- share the meat and let the eldest pick
whenever meat was enough, we all had. If not, the elder ones had the few pieces.
- suck out the marrow
not sure
- can't eat the meat until you finish the food
I still haven't dropped the habit sef
- put the morning tea in freezer to block
Never tried this. Never liked iced tea
- bite the crown and put into the bottle of cook
guilty
- Use the meat to finish the remaining eba
Before!!!
- Put the medicine inside the roll of eba
Nope. I was kinda cool with drugs.
- Licking the plate with your tongue after eating
A couple of times; when no one watched sha oo
- after eating biscuit or bread you use your finger to remove the ones on your teeth and then lick it?
I still do it unconsciously sef.

Single and watching.

The topic is a little somehow.

At some points, we've been opportuned to see the pictures of different NLers before removing them. So how come I would still think they're pretty when I know what they look like?

Well for me, I've always had the opinion that active ladies on online social networking forums (like NL), are usually not very pretty with the exception of a few. It is very easy for pretty ladies get tied up a lot with chats, pings, work, dates, phone calls etc and thereby have little or no time for forums like NL.

But if you ask me which female posters I admire their comments, I would say cuddlemii and kitty kat.

But like I said earlier, its just an opinion and I stand to be corrected.

Guys shouldn't respond on this thread.

Is there anything like a male virgin? If have you ever experienced wet dreams at puberty alone, you are no more a virgin.

And I foresee a thread that is bound to derail....(Most ladies would rather read through than comment)

Well, to me the advantages are more when you look good than the disadvantages.

If you are well mannered enough, you'll enjoy a lot of benefits from your good looks. And if you happen to be funny again, may God help you.

But a few disadvantages would be;

People instantly thinking you'd be a player.
They almost won't expect you to be brilliant, intelligent or smart.
A good number of ladies wouldn't like to date you because of avoidance of continual competition.
I wonder why it's very convenient for people to easily liken fine boys to gays.
If you fail at anything, then the say; "his good-looks is getting into his head".

If I have the chance, I'd always come back into this world looking better every time. The smiles you get all the time are just wonderful (**winks***)

It depends on the angle of view;

If I sight her from behind and the figure looks good, I'd always want, hope and wish the face matches the greatness from behind.

If I sight her facing her, then it must be the face first, then the eyes, then the hips and of course bobbynaa.

And even if she doesn't look much pretty, I'd still check if the body can still make up for the lack of beauty.

Even though I visit front page first,

Romance is still my favourite section.